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I seem to have a way with words that often comfort my friends. I am often asked advice and I have not heard a complaint from anyone who has taken it and as for the ones who didn't i usually hear a "I should have listened to you" sooner or later. If you have any questions I will be glad to hear them but remember my advice is only an opinion from the knowledge that I have and you take my advice at your own risk. I plan to make this my career by majoring in journalism and minoring in psychology and am using this for experience so feel free to give me your feed back. I'm very good at giving advice on family affairs and relationships. I have had my own personal experience and have had friends with very different situations that i was able to help them through. I will always answer your question if you send it to me, so feel free to ask anytime.
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right so i havnt got a boyfriend at the moment but when i do im scared that i wont know what to do when i comes to kissing him, everyone says it comes natuarly wich im sure it does but im still woried an to make it worse i have brace :( any advice
i had the exact same concern but the truth is it does come naturally, as long as you dont press your face really hard against his you should not have a problem with the braces just take It slow and let the guy start the kiss and the rest will come into play.
I just broke up with my Ex... 3 days ago...
This other guy, whom I've REALLY, REALLY liked for
AGEESSS!!!! asked me out today, I told him I'd let
him know.
Do you think it's too soon to be with somebody else?
Because I really care about this new dude... And
have very few feelings for my ex.
What's your view on the situation?
xx
If your ready to move on than do it. It's only too soon when you uncomfortable getting back into a relationship. Since you don't really care about your ex and you want to be with this new guy than you don't really need to wait. Its only too soon if you say it is.
19 female. i like and HAVE liked this guy joe who is 18, for awhile now. we're pretty good friends too, so you wouldnt think it would be hard for me to ask him to hang out right? WRONG.
i'm always so nervous of getting rejected, who isnt? so i never ask him to hangout, i rarely text him first, it's how i am. lately i've been getting better. my friend gave me 4 free tickets to a major league baseball game sunday, so of course i think about asking joe to come. this was our conversation:
me: hey my friend is giving me four tickets for the baseball game friday. i'm going to find two other people to come, but do you want to come?
him: i have a football game.
me: on a sunday? werid. just thought id ask.
him: you said friday!
me: oh sorry i meant sunday.
him: what time?
me: 1:10
him: i have a hockey game.
...REJECTED:( i mean i know he's not lying, i know he does play hockey and football, he wouldnt lie to me but i just feel dumb. and i have these handcuffs and he stole the keys from me so then i was like:
me: will you like leave my keys at your neighbors tomorrow since me and my friend will be over there (i didnt want it to be a hassle and bug him so i said that..)
him: just come get them
me: will you be home?
him: sometime yea
me: ok i'll just text you and see if your home
him: alright
is it me or does he always seem short with me? or is that how boys just are? and now i have to see him tomorrow, i will be embarassed because i asked him to go to the game and he couldnt. maybe its just me overanalyzing but i dont know. what do you guys think?
In this situation you are over analyzing it, he wasn't rejecting you otherwise he wouldn't have tried to correct you. Honestly guys aren't the best talkers and most of the time they don't know what to say. Also he told you to come over to his house instead of dropping them off at the neighbors, if he was purposely blowing you off than he would have just agreed to drop them off instead of asking you to come over. Tomorrow is the perfect time to try to get him to agree to another time to hang out with you. Just say since you can't make it on Sunday do you want to hang out some other time, and ask him when he is free so you don't have to worry about him having a game.
15/f.
I have been talking to this boy M since August of last yr. We have never been together. When I first met him I wasn't so interested, and now I'm in love with him. Don't tell me I dont know what love is. I've never in my life felt the way I feel about him about any other boy. As of now he has a girlfriend A. We can't stand eachother at all. M knows how I feel, but the confusion is on how he feels. I know he cares somewhat, I dont know how much, or how little. I feel like he wants me to compete with her or something, and I just wont do that. Um on Monday we had sex for the first time. Right now I'm feeling like I should just give up, he makes no effort to talk to me, or to come see me. And Monday night I feel the only reason he came was to get some. When I tell him that I dont understand why he act's like he cares when he knows he doesn't, he tells me he does care and all this bullshit. I'm just so depressed cause I want to be with him, and I dont want him to be with her, or any other girl. But he seems to not care at all. And it doesn't make it any better that I have to see them all the time at school together. I'm thinking about changing schools or something, Idk how to deal with this, What should I do?
Well it sounds to me like he just wanted sex and honestly do you really want to be with someone that has a history of cheating? If you have told him how you feel and he still doesn't leave his girlfriend than he has no interest in you like you do in him. If you want my advice I would just move on and don't let him take advantage of you. It's either her or you and you need to let him know that. If he does decide to stay with her than you just need to stay away from them all together and don't change schools over some guy. First loves come and go, don't let it get you too down.
This requires some background knowledge:
I live with a guy, Tim, who up until a little while ago believed he was gay. My other roommate, Susan, is best friends with me as well as Tim. This other guy, Jeremy, has liked me for 3 months now and it wasn't until about 3 weeks ago that I started returning the feelings. This guy is perfect on paper, but I wasn't attracted to him that way until I basically told myself to be and have come to actually like him.
Now for the actual dilhema that needs solving:
I was drinking socially with Tim and a friend, Nick, one night and he was joking around about the fact that Tim needed to test out his "am i gay" theory and I needed to get laid, so he suggested with get them both out of the way by having sex with eachother. Had we been completely sober I don't think I would have gone along with him, but in the past I had liked him before I found out he was gay, so I agreed to it. We are now in a very complicated situation; I am in a unofficial relationshipwith Jeremy and I had sex with Tim, who I found out the next day, that he's had feelings for me the whole time and that's why he was questioning his sexual preference. I am so lost as to what I should do! I know that I have to tell Jeremy no matter what, I'm just not sure what. Do I tell him, sorry it's not going to work, or do I just tell him I had sex with another guy and let him do what he wants about it? Do I tell him who, because he knows my roommate, or do I just say "some guy" which can sound that much worse. I know if I told him I had sex with Tim when I was drunk to test the theory, yeah it's still stupid but it's better, and he might forgive me. The thing is, I don't know if I want him to.. and that tells me that I'm not sure what I want and that I should end it now rather than later so I don't hurt him more than I already am going to. To make all this worse, my best friend Susan was dissapointed when we told her we had sex, but she was more pissed off about the prospect of us dating. She immediately said she would move out the moment we decided to date. Yet, she says she will be in an awkward position whether we date, or whether we want to but don't for her sake. I have so many important and vital decisions to make, that will change everything, I just don't know what to do.
The first thing you should do is figure out who you want to be with more. Once you do that you need to tell Jeremy what happened. Either you tell him you made a big mistake or you tell him your into another guy. As for you Room Mate yea it would be awkward for her to live there but a lot of people do it. I would just keep the PDA down to a minimum around her so she doesn't feel that way. The only thing you have control over in this situation is which guy you want to be with the other decisions are up to everyone else. If you choose to be with Jeremy it is going to be his decision whether he stays with you. If you want to be with Tim than its up to Susan whether or not she is still going to be your room mate. So make the best choice for you and hope for the best.
I was with my ex for 11 months and we split up in march this year. We had our ups and downs to the relationship and decided to split up as we felt it just wasn't working and the romance was gone n we would be better off just friends before it ended badly. My friends and family were supportive of this as they felt that he didn't treat me right anyway. But at the time ididn't notice it and when we split up i was so happy like i felt like myself again.
It's been about 6 months since we split up and we've now started getting really close again and spending alot of time together and we've both admitted we miss each other and want to give it another shot but take it really slow. Only thing is is that my dads opinion means everything to me i'm such a daddy's girl but my dad doesn't like my ex and i'm scared to dissappoint him by telling him we're getting back together, same goes for my friends as they dn't think it's a good idea, and thats fair enough but i still really love him.
Honestly you need to do what feels right to you. I know their opinion matters to you but if they love you than they will stand behind you no matter what decision you make. Trust me I went through the same thing. My dad hated my boyfriend and I was a daddy's girl but I loved my boyfriend. My dad wasn't happy about it but he eventually got over it and were still as close as ever. Your dad just wants the best for you, he may be upset with you but only because he is worried and once he realizes your happy he will be fine with it. As for your friends, if they are true they will always have your back.
Okay. So pretty much, here's the story... I'm fifteen and I'm a girl. So last year I fell hard for a boy (J) that I knew I would never be able to get close to... He moved away. So that kind of sucked for me. He was nice, and sweet, and he liked me too, but we had agreed to not go out because well... he was leaving. And he did, and I cried, but I got over it. Kind of. I was an idiot you know? I was upset about him leaving and threw my self and a complete jerk (M) and I don't even know why. Of course, at the time, he seemed so perfect. He was kind of the complete opposite of J. He snuck out, he did bad things, and always wanted to be making out. I regret ever getting involved with him, because honestly (and I hate admiting this) I liked him. M was so different, the perfect distraction, and he gave me so much attention (not always very positive attention) and I loved it. We weren't dating, but we definitely had a thing, and I thought I was happy. Until he asked me to have sex with him... I told him no (I'm fifteen!) and that I wasn't ready... then he just left. I called him, and he never called back, I texted him and he ignored me... He just didn't care. He only wanted sex, and when I told him no, he didn't care about me anymore. I couldn't give him what he wanted, so he just forgot about me. And it sucks. It hurts so bad. Because it makes you feel like shit. It makes you think "wow, I'm apparently not a cool enough person to even want to try and have a relationship with. The only thing I seem to be good for is sex, and I'm not even worth the time to try to get know me." It just makes you feel horrible about yourself, and girls who have gone through this you know what its like. You know that when you like someone, genuinely like them, and they only want to use you, it sucks. It took awhile for me to get over that. For about two months I just forgot about guys. Decided I didn't need them, and it was good. Annnnd then I met G. And I don't even know what to do now. I met G one day, and gave him my number (he goes to my school, a grade above) and I think I really like him. Ive heard rumors though. That hes a player, that he talks to a lot of girls at once (Ive been talking to him, but I don't know of any other girls that have) and that he's only interested in guess what, ha, sex. Just what I need. Of course, these are just rumors. I don't know. We've been talking for awhile, hanging out quite a bit, but we've done nothing physical, and he doesn't seem like the kind of guys the rumors say he is. Ive just kind of, gotten to know him. And I like what Ive seen. But I'm scared. I don't want to get hurt like that agian, and if these rumors are true, then thats whats going to happen. And I just don't know what to do. J still likes me (we still keep in touch, he's moving back next year... but I don't like him anymore) I totally want to forget about M, and I really like G... I'm so confused... Please someone, give me some help?
Sounds to me like you just need to focus on G. If you don't like J anymore and M just tried to use you your choice is pretty simple. Don't believe rumors but if he asks you to do anything give him the same answer you gave M. Don't get to attached at first and if you don't see anything wrong with him after awhile you can start to get closer to him. For now just enjoy spending time with G and that way if he is a player you wont be as hurt as you would if you got attached right away.
sorry im never done this before and i dont have an account but well i have a message already sent to him talking about this football he wants to play and he cant afford it so i came up with an idea for him but he hasnt read it yet. and when i see him in the hall this morning i faked a yawn and i saw him again but he turn to his locker before i even came close enough to see him plus me and him are the same when we want to get to class we ignore alot of ppl and just go to class we dont stop to say hi. but on friday he said hey to me but i freaked (of course) and walked off without saying anything but i messaged him saying sorry i wasnt paying attention and he said that it was ok. you think i can have your email or something
I'm sorry I don't give out any personal information but I will gladly help you on here.
Sounds to me that your fine I don't think any damage was done by your mom. If he didn't like you he wouldn't talk to you. Next time he says hi to you though make sure you say hi back. It sounds like he is making an effort you just need to give him something to work with.
17/f
youve probably never heard of something like this but neither have i thats why its so hard for me to deal with. me and my bf have been dating for 2 years, and hes schitzophrenic. its not that bad yet because its inthe early stages. but you can still tell because we have ALOT of ups and downs in our relationship mostly caused by his mood swings and paranoia. but lately it has gotten so bad and he is so paranoid about everything. he doesnt believe that i love him and he trusts no1. he says that he just has this feeling that i dont love him and why eould anyone? i was fine with that because we were still close but now he wants to cut me out of his life completely. he says that he needs to stop talking to me because he is too dependant on me and that dependance is weakness. he is trying to make himself stronger or something but all he's doing his making himself completely alone. he has stopped talking to all his friends because he says they only want somthing from him. but he still helps them all when they need something and he still comforts me when im upset but not in a loveing way. he says he has cut out all the lovey dovey stuff because its just making him more dependent on me and hes ready to move on. im not though because im in love with him and hes says he loves me too, which i believe, but the whole him wanting to spend the rest of his life being alone and going into the marines is breaking my heart. i want to be with him so badly and if i thought it was beter to let him go then i would because i want whats best for him but i know he loves me but hes pushing every1 away and i know its not good for him or me. please help
Well I hate to break it to him but you cant go into the marines with that condition they won't even let you in with ADD or ADHD. As for him pushing you away thats not good for him he needs something positive in his life. He doesn't need to be pushing his friends away thats only going to make him depressed. Your just going to have to try harder to show him how much you care for him and try to get him to realize that he means a lot to you. Right now he is in a vulnerable state and you need to be the one that gets him out of it. Take him out, do fun activities with him and try to distract him from himself. If you stay with him your going to have a tough road ahead of you, its going to be hard but if you love him you will make it work. He may be saying he wants to be alone but if that the case he would have already broken up with you. Just stay strong and stay positive cause thats what he needs right now.
well ive liked this guy for 5 years (ive dated others but they were really bad to me and i know this guy wouldnt do anything to hurt me) well earler this week my mom and her friend were at the store and the guys brother works there. they were putting there stuff in their cars next to each other but my moms friends car was flipped so they werent whispering this. my mom was saying "you see that guy that was bagging our groceries thats eugenes brother the guy megan has a huge crush on for years" they didnt notice the truck next to them with the windows rolled down..his brother comes out and gets in the truck and leaves. mom knew she did something bad. now his brother stairs at me when i walk by and eugene kinda just avoids me i think but when me and a friend were walking she said he was smiling and looked at me and kept on smiling i just dont know what that means and i like him so much i dont know what to do i cant talk to him i freak out i can message him on myspace i dont have his phone number and i when i see him in the hall i just walk passed to get to class just like he does we both just want to get to class and everything. what should i do?
Start by sending him a message on Myspace that is the easiest way to tell whats going on. If he replies to the message than what his brother told him doesn't affect him and he may even like what he heard. Make sure you ask a question in the message. Ask if he likes his classes or something easy like that. If he doesn't reply try one more time and if there is no response than you have a problem. That way you can know if you can continue trying with this guy. Now even though your shy there are very easy ways to let him know you like him. Instead of looking at the ground when you pass him look him in the eye and smile, you don't even have to say anything. If he smiles back than your in the clear if he stops and talks to you thats a very good sign. Once you get that down you can just keep taking bigger steps like saying hey and asking him how he is doing to lightly touching his arm. Those simple things will let him know you like him, just start off slow.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 3 yrs now. And im a girl too btw. We have been living together for about 2 first at her parents but the past year we've had your own place. We've been having problems for the past I couldnt even tell you how long. i know that both of us dont feel the same about each other. We agreed a week ago that we would try to be "just friends" for a while to see if anything improved. So we havent been kissing or anything intimate like that or even seeing each other naked because friends dont do that. Well last night we were sleeping and she pulled me to her and we started having sex. I was skeptical bc I didnt want it to just be sex but I went thru with it anyway. Now I asked her about it today and shes basically saying what I didnt want to hear. That is was just sex to her and nothign more. Which hurts ya know..
A big part of me feels liek we shouldnt be together anymore. And Im pretty sure she feels the same way. But its hard tho to end something after 3 years. And its even more complicated for me because like i said we live together and I cant afford it on my own. Plus all the furniture we have we got from her family so that would go with her so i would have nothing. I just dont know what to do. Im not happy at all in my current situation but I dont feel like I have a choice. Has anyone ever been thru anything like this or give some opinions or advice please?? Thank you in advance.
It's going to be very hard to live with your ex as just friends and like the other night there are going to be some slip ups. Your just going to have to stay strong and not give into her when she tries to be intimate with you, it will only make things harder for you. You need to tell her that you don't want to be friends with benefits. Also start looking for other room mates so you can get out of there as soon as possible. Until than I would start buying little stuff for when you move out so it's easier. Just look at it as a good chance to save money.
My boyfriend of over 4yrz cheated on me, he was drunk and kissed another girl...Do you think I should forgive him??? He been crying and is truly sorry he said, and he said he was drunk and it didnt mean anything at all..I found out becoz the girl told me..this was over 1 month ago...Now he is not friends with her and wants nothing to do with her at all.( they used to be really good friends) thats all that had happen a kiss.
I think you have already forgiven him by the sound of it. Being drunk is not an excuse for being stupid but if he has cut off talking to his friend so you will forgive him than thats a good start. I don't think you should break up with him but you should let him know that its going to be hard for you to trust him again and that he is going to have to work for it. No it wasn't good that he cheated on you but it sounds like he knows he made a mistake. I think you should let this one slide but keep and eye on his drinking habits.
i've been with my current boyfriend for 8 months. i love him, there's no doubt in that.
my ex boyfriend, i was with him for a short while, but he was my first serious boyfriend. i got over him last year. but recently, we've become better friends. and because of that, i've been having dreams about him and i, alone, kissing, etc.
and i think that's because last year when we broke up, he never gave me complete reason why. he just shut the door on me. we didn't talk for 8 months last year.
in my dreams, i'm just kissing him, showing him who i am, i'm the same girl he fell for. but i'm never in a relationship with him in my dreams or when i think about it.
could this be because i needed closure?
This could be anything from you needing closure to a simple fantasy. There is nothing wrong with you dreaming about him as long as you don't make that dream a reality. It seems like you want closure whether its a dream or not and since you are friends I think you should ask him the reason. You can be light about the situation that way he doesn't feel he is being put on the spot. As long as you aren't thinking about cheating on your boyfriend and the only time you think about him is when your dreaming than it's not a serious issue. Just try to think good thoughts about your boy before you sleep and hopefully your boyfriend will be the one you kiss in your dreams.
Alright, so I'm in this "summer fling" i guess you could say. I started talking to this guy weeks ago, and Wednesday he asked me out and I said yes. So we've been dating for like three days. Now, before this happened his bestfriend (who also liked me) said he's such a player. Anyways, so I've hungout with my boyfriend now a few times since Wednesday, and we've made out and got real into it if you know what i mean haha. Last night, on my way home from his house, he told me he wanted to have sex with me. I can't help but really think all he wants is sex, and he's compleeeetely using me. But he says no, that he likes and cares about me a lot.
Should I just let this go before i get hurt? Move on into school without this guy, or should I stay with it a while and see if it works out? I like him a lot, but I'm just tired of being used,cause it's already happened this summer a few times.
advice would be appreciated :D thanks guys.
You need to let him know that your not comfortable with a physical relationship. If he is okay with that than i say stick with it...If he isn't than there is only one thing on his mind and thats when you need to move on.
oh shoot =|
So my bf and I have been happily dating fir 5 months now. He is 19 and I am 18. The thing is, is that I feel that I forced him to say he loves me.
...the reason I feel this??
Well he told me like a month into our relationship that he has never told a girl that he loved them. He says that he takes those words very seriously and he only wants to say "I love you" to one girl the rest of his life. I respected that and thought it was sweet. So then we kept dating and a couple more months go by and I seriously started falling in love with him. I felt that he felt the same way. We would, instead of saying "I love you", say "I like you". It was used as if the word like was taking the place if the word love. Eventually this became frustrating for me and I would tell him "I don't like you baby...I more than like you" but I wouldn't actually say I love him because he had told me before not to say it because he wouldn't say it back. And I obviously didn't want to get hurt.
...fast forward to like month 3 or so. So there we are...lying in one of our friends houses hanging out upstairs while our friends are downstairs hanging out. So it's just me and him and we are all cuddly and kissing and stuff and I told him that I was sick of saying I "like" him blah blah blah cuz I didn't feel I "like" him, but a stronger feeling. He totally agreed with me and said he felt the same way. This just bothered me. So I told him that if we both feel this way then why aren't we saying it. So we ended up talking and finally he told me he loved me. It was awesome the way he said it too...he was all detailed and sweet. It was perfect how he said it.
But I totally nagged him about saying it for the longest time and he finally did, but I forced him.
So we have been saying "I love you" ever since. I really do love him. I am in love with him. But I'm scared...
Tonight I sent him a text saying "do u feel that I forced you to say you love me?" and his respons...
"sorry but ya kinda."
WHAT!?!
Then before I could find out any information more he ended up falling asleep before texting me back! Ahh!
So tell me...how am I supposed to know he actually does love me if he said I forced him??? Totally sucks. =\
But anyway...thanks for your help in advance. It is MUCH appreciated. :)
It sounds to me that he really wasn't ready especially if he told you he thought you forced him. I know this isn't what you want to hear but I think what you need to do is talk to him about it and tell him you don't want him to say he loves you until he is ready and that you were sorry that you made him feel he had to say it. If he really does love you than he will tell you and don't let it get you down if he doesn't its better that he tells you when he really means it than just says it to make you happy. It sounds like love is a very serious matter to him and you should admire that cause its very rare. Just give him some time and if you are the one he will let you know.
Firstly thanks for taking the time to read my question :-) Sorry if this is too long! There's quite a few people involved in this so i'll explain now ha ha:
Jordan - One of my friends (he used to have a crush on me for a long time but we're just friends now)
Joe - A guy I met through Jordan who I now like.
Nate - One of my guy friends who has a crush on me.
Rachael - Me, ha ha
To start with, I have had feelings for Joe since around May. We've been friends for a few months before then, we met through one of our close friends, Jordan.
I've always had troubles believing that someone actually likes me, I'm not the most confident person ever, and although people tell me a lot that i'm beautiful, I don't really believe them. Once I started to have feelings for Joe, I told him that I liked him. He admitted that he liked me too. A couple of weeks later, our friend Jordan told me that Joe said to him "Would you mind if I asked Rachael out? I know you had feelings for her and I want to check that this won't hurt you" Jordan explained that he didn't have a crush on me any more and we're just friends.
Any way, it was my friend Nate's party one Saturday night and I went and Joe was there. He didn't really know Nate, but his friends did. So Joe took me outside and said he wanted to speak to me (so I thought he was going to ask me out like Jordan had told me) and just as we went outside, my friend Nate came over to us and said he had feelings for me and asked me out - right infront of Joe (he knew I liked Joe - his friends told him days before) I was so angry that he did this. I told Nate I didn't want to go out with him. Joe looked quite annoyed but he told me to go out with Nate if I wanted to. This has been an on-going thing now. It's kinda like they're fighting for me, only Nate is fighting more. I don't like Nate in that way and I have told him so many times. I have also told Joe that I like him and not Nate. But Joe doesn't seem to believe me. His friends say it's because he's insecure.
A few weeks later Nate had another party, I was there with my friends and so was Joe. I was speaking to Nate (just like I speak to all of my friends) and Joe wouldn't speak to me because of it. When I tried to talk to him he said "it's obvious you like him and not me, please don't talk to me" I gave him some space and hung out with my friends. Joe got really drunk and said to me "I really wanted to be with you, but it p*ssed me off when I saw you with Nate" And he said he didn't want to speak to me again (Even though he called me the next day) Nate told me that Joe said to him that night "If you even try and get with Rachael i'm seriously gonna punch you"
Does Joe even like me? I can't tell! His friends say he really likes me. I'm so useless at times :-( I saw him again at my other friend's party and he came over to me and apoligised to me, kissed me and started saying he was really sorry that he really likes me and that he hates Nate...BUT he isn't ready for a relationship.
What do I do?! I really like this guy, I know it isn't love - i'm not so naive. But I know that I have feelings for him, do you think he likes me too? What should I say? What should I do? I need help guys!
YES he likes you. If I were you I would ask to talk to him. You need to tell him that you like him and that you have been waiting for him to ask you out since the party because you thought he liked you. Than you need to tell him that you are still hoping he will ask you out and there is no way Nate compares to him. There is nothing wrong with boosting his ego. All he wants to know is that you like him and not Nate and you need to make it as clear as possible that you do. If his guy friends are telling you he likes you than he does, he just isn't very confident right now thanks to Nate.
Alright, my boyfriend and I love each other a lot and then a few days ago his ex calls him. He doesn't know why she wants to talk to him because he hasn't seen her in ten years. She won't tell him over the phone, so yesterday he went to go meet her for coffee.
He has a daughter. She's almost ten and all she wants for her birthday is to meet her father.
I'm not calling my boyfriend a lier because he never knew about his ex girlfriend being pregnant, and I don't think he's lying to me about that because we've always had a very open and honest relationship. He already told me he wants to stay with me, and that his having a daughter changes nothing between us.
My worry is, what if his daughter wants him and her mom to get back together? I'm freaking out about that. I know he loves me, but I know (even if he never knew about her) that his prioreties put his daughter before me. I'm okay with that, but I don't want to lose him.
I'm afraid to bring it up with him because it's still a sore subject. He went to go meet her today, and honestly I'm just freaked out. Could someone give any advice on how to calm down and maybe stop worrying over this?
You have nothing to worry about. This happens all the time and it doesn't mean he is going to leave you. She just wants to meet her dad, thats all. Even if she wants her mom and her dad to get back together I think she's old enough to realize that can't happen and most likely thats not even on her mind. If he loves you he isn't going to leave you just cause his daughter wants him to. Just be supportive and be there for him, and if you guys are really serious offer to meet her.
so, i've noticed that i have never been completely satisfied with any relationship i have ever been in. i always some how end up liking someone else, all the while knowing that the person i am with is great. there perfect, there what i've been waiting for.
so, currently, i am in a relationship.
we've been going out for about five months now.
i know that this person is someone that i could picture myself with for a long while, and this person is really, perfect for me.
but i can't help but like this other person.
we just talk, i've never cheated on my significant other, but i am crazy about this other person. and its all i can do not to just start something with this other person.
all the while, i do know that if i were to break up with my significant other now, to be with this other person, im almost positive that i would find that i want someone else.
this has happend before.
i just cant figure out why im never satisfied with any relationship im in. no matter how perfect the person is for me, and how great they treat me, i always find myself wanting someone else.
Maybe what you find to be perfect behavior isn't the behavior you want. If your happy with someone you have no doubts. I think you have very high standards and no one has been able to full fill them yet. If you are not completely satisfied with someone than you need to keep looking otherwise you find yourself wasting your time with someone you really don't want to be with. Just keep looking.
I tried hanging out with him tonight. I wanted to talk to him about all of it. Of course, it didn't work out.
Maybe I've overanalyzing, or being over dramatic. But honestly, this week he has been back has been so different. I haven't talked to him in four days. Everytime I DO see if he wants to hang out with me, he either already has plans or can't go out.
I really don't think he could have changed his mind about me in less than a week, but who knows? I care about him so much. And I know you said that since he's texting my sister, he MUST like me...but my sister has told me she hasn't talked to him since last week...since he started acting weird.
Ahhh any idea as to what is going on?
well if your sister isn't talking to him either maybe he is just very busy. If i were you I would just give him a week to get everything in order and give him his space. Don't text or call him. If he likes you he will wonder why your not texting him and will text or call you instead. Let him chase you not the other way around.
18/F
I've liked this guy for almost 5 months, and have been waiting for something to happen. He really is one of the sweetest, nicest guys I've ever come to know. He's also a bit shy, and his last few girlfriends were quite aggressive, which I kind of am not Finally, after 5 months of me liking him and flirting he kissed me (just a couple of pecks on the lips). Apparently, he had been texting my sister for advice about me and has been telling her how much he likes me, and he likes how different I am. This was two and half weeks ago.
However, lately I feel like I'm back to square one. While he was away for the first week (he had a family reunion about an hour away) we would text and he would tell me missed me and stuff. But now that he is back, I still have not seen him, and I hardly get any calls. I understand that he is super busy with football (he has practice from 2-8) but I feel like every attempt I try to make with him gets shot down. I know for a fact that some of his friends go out after practice, too.
Some of my guy friends tell me I should give up, while my other guy friends tell me to keep trying. I don't know what I should do. I'm sick of being the person to make all the effort. I WOULD talk to him about this, but since we never actually have had a conversation about "us", I feel like I would come off as the crazy stalker girl.
It seems like he does like you especially if he asked your sister for advice. From what i hear he backed off cause he wasn't sure you were that into him maybe you need to give him more signs. Show him that you want to be with him. Ask him questions that would make him give away that he likes you such as questions about your appearance or you can just straight out tell him your into him. If he has a lot going on than he might be unintentionaly ignoring you so give him some slack. Talk to him sometime during the weekend when he doesn't have a lot going on.