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heart broken
17/f
youve probably never heard of something like this but neither have i thats why its so hard for me to deal with. me and my bf have been dating for 2 years, and hes schitzophrenic. its not that bad yet because its inthe early stages. but you can still tell because we have ALOT of ups and downs in our relationship mostly caused by his mood swings and paranoia. but lately it has gotten so bad and he is so paranoid about everything. he doesnt believe that i love him and he trusts no1. he says that he just has this feeling that i dont love him and why eould anyone? i was fine with that because we were still close but now he wants to cut me out of his life completely. he says that he needs to stop talking to me because he is too dependant on me and that dependance is weakness. he is trying to make himself stronger or something but all he's doing his making himself completely alone. he has stopped talking to all his friends because he says they only want somthing from him. but he still helps them all when they need something and he still comforts me when im upset but not in a loveing way. he says he has cut out all the lovey dovey stuff because its just making him more dependent on me and hes ready to move on. im not though because im in love with him and hes says he loves me too, which i believe, but the whole him wanting to spend the rest of his life being alone and going into the marines is breaking my heart. i want to be with him so badly and if i thought it was beter to let him go then i would because i want whats best for him but i know he loves me but hes pushing every1 away and i know its not good for him or me. please help
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Your boyfriend needs help.
Your boyfriends NEEDS medication.
He is not in his right mind. People that suffer from schizophrenia are not who they were truly meant to be. Medication can help bring them back to reality.
He isn't living, mentally, where we are. He is in his own world, where everyone is out to get him and are deceptive, apparently. Help him get better by encouraging him to continue seeking psychiatric help and taking his medication on time.
He isn't going to understand what you do until he gets better. He isn't going to even grasp the true concept of love if he continues to be in this state. He will become increasingly worse. His life will take a dramatic drop. He will not be able to lead a happy, fulfilling life without medication and continuous therapy.
Encourage him to stick with the help he can receive and work through him coming back to reality. The medications available can really help him very much but it may be hard for him to deal with what is real and what he THOUGHT was real. He needs a lot of support and a lot of love throughout these times.
He just isn't himself right now.
Help him by getting him professional help. THAT is what is best for him.
He isn't going to get any better without those things. This is a mental illness, not a feeling. He cannot just "get over" this. He isn't going to just "wake up" one day. He is a sick guy and needs help to get better.
Stay with him throughout his sessions with the psychiatrist and remind him when he should be taking his medications. Make sure he follows through with these and he will have the chance to return back to who he was meant to be. You two can lead a very nice life together as long as he is consistent with those things. Don't just turn your back on him now. He is going to need support as the medication shows him the things he's not seen for years. Schizophrenia is a life-long illness and he has probably suffered from it his entire life and it has gone unnoticed. He will always need therapy and medications or he will fall back into this scary routine and blurred mental vision.
This is a serious illness not to be taken lightly.
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What he really needs is to be in counseling. Schizophrenia is manageable with the right combination of medication. I understand that you love him and want to be with him, but in this condition, he isn't in any shape to be in a relationship. It has nothing to do with you, but if his mental illness is as of yet untouched by doctors, he's gonna have some serious trouble connecting with anyone. He has some serious misconceptions about what makes a person strong and what makes a person weak, yes, but that's what he believes. Without counseling, he'll never come out of it.
I suggest you tell him what you just told us, and let him know that you're worried about him, and you think he should seek help. Alienating the people around him will only make his paranoia worse. You don't have to let him walk away from you. Follow him (in an emotional sense, anyway). Talk to him about how counseling could help him. Let him know that addressing his problems is a sign of strength - only really strong people can admit they have a problem, and get the help they need to fix it. Weak people are the ones who hide from everyone and everything.
If you think he'd respond to that, of course. But do try to convince him. I convinced my guy to go into counseling, and he's still thanking me.
If you have faith in this guy, don't give up on him. Stay strong, convince him to be strong, too.
Keep smiling. Things will work out.
Siren
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Well I hate to break it to him but you cant go into the marines with that condition they won't even let you in with ADD or ADHD. As for him pushing you away thats not good for him he needs something positive in his life. He doesn't need to be pushing his friends away thats only going to make him depressed. Your just going to have to try harder to show him how much you care for him and try to get him to realize that he means a lot to you. Right now he is in a vulnerable state and you need to be the one that gets him out of it. Take him out, do fun activities with him and try to distract him from himself. If you stay with him your going to have a tough road ahead of you, its going to be hard but if you love him you will make it work. He may be saying he wants to be alone but if that the case he would have already broken up with you. Just stay strong and stay positive cause thats what he needs right now.
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