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What to do?! I really don't know!
Firstly thanks for taking the time to read my question :-) Sorry if this is too long! There's quite a few people involved in this so i'll explain now ha ha:
Jordan - One of my friends (he used to have a crush on me for a long time but we're just friends now)
Joe - A guy I met through Jordan who I now like.
Nate - One of my guy friends who has a crush on me.
Rachael - Me, ha ha
To start with, I have had feelings for Joe since around May. We've been friends for a few months before then, we met through one of our close friends, Jordan.
I've always had troubles believing that someone actually likes me, I'm not the most confident person ever, and although people tell me a lot that i'm beautiful, I don't really believe them. Once I started to have feelings for Joe, I told him that I liked him. He admitted that he liked me too. A couple of weeks later, our friend Jordan told me that Joe said to him "Would you mind if I asked Rachael out? I know you had feelings for her and I want to check that this won't hurt you" Jordan explained that he didn't have a crush on me any more and we're just friends.
Any way, it was my friend Nate's party one Saturday night and I went and Joe was there. He didn't really know Nate, but his friends did. So Joe took me outside and said he wanted to speak to me (so I thought he was going to ask me out like Jordan had told me) and just as we went outside, my friend Nate came over to us and said he had feelings for me and asked me out - right infront of Joe (he knew I liked Joe - his friends told him days before) I was so angry that he did this. I told Nate I didn't want to go out with him. Joe looked quite annoyed but he told me to go out with Nate if I wanted to. This has been an on-going thing now. It's kinda like they're fighting for me, only Nate is fighting more. I don't like Nate in that way and I have told him so many times. I have also told Joe that I like him and not Nate. But Joe doesn't seem to believe me. His friends say it's because he's insecure.
A few weeks later Nate had another party, I was there with my friends and so was Joe. I was speaking to Nate (just like I speak to all of my friends) and Joe wouldn't speak to me because of it. When I tried to talk to him he said "it's obvious you like him and not me, please don't talk to me" I gave him some space and hung out with my friends. Joe got really drunk and said to me "I really wanted to be with you, but it p*ssed me off when I saw you with Nate" And he said he didn't want to speak to me again (Even though he called me the next day) Nate told me that Joe said to him that night "If you even try and get with Rachael i'm seriously gonna punch you"
Does Joe even like me? I can't tell! His friends say he really likes me. I'm so useless at times :-( I saw him again at my other friend's party and he came over to me and apoligised to me, kissed me and started saying he was really sorry that he really likes me and that he hates Nate...BUT he isn't ready for a relationship.
What do I do?! I really like this guy, I know it isn't love - i'm not so naive. But I know that I have feelings for him, do you think he likes me too? What should I say? What should I do? I need help guys!
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Hey does like you, he's just very jealous. A lot of people are like that about people they like. If you saw a girl ask him out in front of you wouldn't you be too? Make him believe you. Prove it to him somehow. Maybe blow off Nate just once for Joe.. just to prove it to him. And make sure not to flirt with Nate too. I hope this helps you.
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YES he likes you. If I were you I would ask to talk to him. You need to tell him that you like him and that you have been waiting for him to ask you out since the party because you thought he liked you. Than you need to tell him that you are still hoping he will ask you out and there is no way Nate compares to him. There is nothing wrong with boosting his ego. All he wants to know is that you like him and not Nate and you need to make it as clear as possible that you do. If his guy friends are telling you he likes you than he does, he just isn't very confident right now thanks to Nate.
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