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got screwed over twice, thrid times the charm? ugh boys.
Okay. So pretty much, here's the story... I'm fifteen and I'm a girl. So last year I fell hard for a boy (J) that I knew I would never be able to get close to... He moved away. So that kind of sucked for me. He was nice, and sweet, and he liked me too, but we had agreed to not go out because well... he was leaving. And he did, and I cried, but I got over it. Kind of. I was an idiot you know? I was upset about him leaving and threw my self and a complete jerk (M) and I don't even know why. Of course, at the time, he seemed so perfect. He was kind of the complete opposite of J. He snuck out, he did bad things, and always wanted to be making out. I regret ever getting involved with him, because honestly (and I hate admiting this) I liked him. M was so different, the perfect distraction, and he gave me so much attention (not always very positive attention) and I loved it. We weren't dating, but we definitely had a thing, and I thought I was happy. Until he asked me to have sex with him... I told him no (I'm fifteen!) and that I wasn't ready... then he just left. I called him, and he never called back, I texted him and he ignored me... He just didn't care. He only wanted sex, and when I told him no, he didn't care about me anymore. I couldn't give him what he wanted, so he just forgot about me. And it sucks. It hurts so bad. Because it makes you feel like shit. It makes you think "wow, I'm apparently not a cool enough person to even want to try and have a relationship with. The only thing I seem to be good for is sex, and I'm not even worth the time to try to get know me." It just makes you feel horrible about yourself, and girls who have gone through this you know what its like. You know that when you like someone, genuinely like them, and they only want to use you, it sucks. It took awhile for me to get over that. For about two months I just forgot about guys. Decided I didn't need them, and it was good. Annnnd then I met G. And I don't even know what to do now. I met G one day, and gave him my number (he goes to my school, a grade above) and I think I really like him. Ive heard rumors though. That hes a player, that he talks to a lot of girls at once (Ive been talking to him, but I don't know of any other girls that have) and that he's only interested in guess what, ha, sex. Just what I need. Of course, these are just rumors. I don't know. We've been talking for awhile, hanging out quite a bit, but we've done nothing physical, and he doesn't seem like the kind of guys the rumors say he is. Ive just kind of, gotten to know him. And I like what Ive seen. But I'm scared. I don't want to get hurt like that agian, and if these rumors are true, then thats whats going to happen. And I just don't know what to do. J still likes me (we still keep in touch, he's moving back next year... but I don't like him anymore) I totally want to forget about M, and I really like G... I'm so confused... Please someone, give me some help?
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Okay lets start with J, if you don't like him like that anymore talk to him like a friend let him know that.
I can speak for a lot of girls out here that I am proud of you for stinking to it and not being pressured into having sex. Don't do it. and if you want to make sure are ready and you se protection. You sound like a good girl. Dont date G yet. tell him you have beem hurt a lot in the past and you would really like to get to know him before even dating him.. If he turns out to be the same. remember you are very young. one day all the heart breaks will be fixed by the man who sweeps you off your feet the man of your dreams.
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Sounds to me like you just need to focus on G. If you don't like J anymore and M just tried to use you your choice is pretty simple. Don't believe rumors but if he asks you to do anything give him the same answer you gave M. Don't get to attached at first and if you don't see anything wrong with him after awhile you can start to get closer to him. For now just enjoy spending time with G and that way if he is a player you wont be as hurt as you would if you got attached right away.
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