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my bf cheated
My boyfriend of over 4yrz cheated on me, he was drunk and kissed another girl...Do you think I should forgive him??? He been crying and is truly sorry he said, and he said he was drunk and it didnt mean anything at all..I found out becoz the girl told me..this was over 1 month ago...Now he is not friends with her and wants nothing to do with her at all.( they used to be really good friends) thats all that had happen a kiss.
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so if it was a one day thing, then i say forgive the guy. Everybody makes mistakes, and thats okay...but if he's under 21 he shouldn't be drinking in the first place. Stuff like that really messes you up.Anyways, I'm glad to know that he hasn't cheated on you....cause then that shows a great commitment. Anways if you ever need to talk, i'm here.
your friend, Lulabell aka lulu
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honestly you sound pretty made up your mind that you do not want to break up with him although in my opinion a cheater is a cheater.
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This really isn't our decision. The only thing we can do is give you some insight. In my opinion, I wouldn't take him back.
Your boyfriend obviously cannot be trusted. He cheats on you, and uses alcohol as an excuse. Who's to say he hasn't done this before? I'm not saying that he has, but it could be a possibility.
I think if you really love your boyfriend & can honestly forgive him, then go for it. But if it were me, I wouldn't do it. Drunken thoughts speak a sober heart.
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I think you have already forgiven him by the sound of it. Being drunk is not an excuse for being stupid but if he has cut off talking to his friend so you will forgive him than thats a good start. I don't think you should break up with him but you should let him know that its going to be hard for you to trust him again and that he is going to have to work for it. No it wasn't good that he cheated on you but it sounds like he knows he made a mistake. I think you should let this one slide but keep and eye on his drinking habits.
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If you are absolutely POSITIVE nothing more than a kiss occurred, then I would forgive him. However, I question the fact that a) it was the girl that told you and NOT your boyfriend and b) why are they no longer friends? Your boyfriend should have manned up and told you himself about the incident. Could it be the reason he is no longer friends with the other female is because she spilled the beans? This may be a good time to take a hard, honest look at your relationship in general. People in a committed relationship do not kiss other "friends" -- drunk or not.
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It is up too you on whether you should forgive him or not but if it were me, No I would not forgive him.
Why..?
1. Obviously he drank so much that he wasn't being responsible, He should of been more responsible by telling himself that he isn't going to get smashed. Instead he drank so much that he kissed another girl and god knows what really happened...
2. In my eyes once a cheater always a cheater, If you forgive him he will know he got away with it and IT IS POSSIBLE next time you will forgive him again.
3. I believe forgiving him will only tell him it is okay when it is not.
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