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My boyfriend and I will both be starting college in mid August and are determined to stay together. We have a strong relationsip and breaking up at the end of the summer has never been an option. I'm starting to get really sad and depressed knowing we only have a month left together though. We're used to seeing each other 5 or 6 days a week and now going to colleges 5 hours apart we will obviously not see each other that much. I'll be in college for six years and he only has to go for two at the most so the plan was for him to move near my school and then we'll live together. So I'm looking at two years of only seeing him once or twice a month during the school year and possibly the summer. He's going to a technical school that might not get summer's off.
Basically I need some tips on how to go day to day without driving myself crazy from missing him. I know you'll say 'keep busy' and I know I'll have tons of work with my major but he's still always going to be on my mind. He's not my first love but he's the one I've loved the most and I don't know how I'm going to do this. (link)
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Love can be so wonderful! And it will be hard you probably will feel like you are going crazy. So switch to the same phone company so you get unlimited calls between eachother and text. You can email as well. Then there's web cams too!
Now that I've answered your question, Can I be real for a second? Thank you :) You are going to college! That's great! I'm not even talking about that I'm talking about in life you learn and grow. There is no stepping around it, You will change and so will he. Don't hold yourself back because of a relationship of any sort! and I would tell him the same thing. I'm not sayin to go to school and perform in girls gone wild and never talk to him again.I'm saying know its ok to allow yourself to experience life and college. Now I know a lot of people have told you both that. Know this! Real love WILL NOT falter, waiver or fade! If it is meant to be it will be! However! I believe college may show you some new new! (Ebonics for new stuff!) You will see! ;)
Much Love!
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15/f sorry for the longness its just so urgent i dont reallly know what the category of this is, but i need help asap...my boyfreind and i broke up 3 weeks ago after going out for more than 6 monthes. we're very close, like best freinds, i still love him, he still loves me, but he doesnt show any signes he wants me back, he says we broke up for a reaon bla bla bla, but i dont care i know it will work this time around..its my birthday in 3 days and he told me that he's getting me something, i dont want him too get me a gift, its going too make it so hard for me...i'm so not over him yet and it hurts too know me and him wont be together in the summer, i miss him so much and just want him back, all my freinds tell me i'm crazy, but i'm not...i'm just crazy in love with him. and a week after he broke up with me my best guy freind in the world! tells me he loves me. lets call my best freind jeremy. so jeremy and i have a history: i loved him for three years strait not on and off, i loved him for three years, my best girl freind knowing that i loved him goes out with him for a year or two on and off. in the summer we where so close, physically and mentally...his ex girl -my best freind- went crazy on us, we denied everything, but the thing is that i have loved him for three years before my boyfreind asked me out and now he finally loves me but 1. i'm not ready, 2. i still love my ex boyfreind. p.s sorry so many questions in one but i seriously need major help, everytime i see my ex i just want to cry.
-confused and lost in love. (link)
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Well firstly, breathe and relax believe it or not this will all work out. Now in my honest opinion reading what you wrote, your ex boyfriend is trying to keep his options open, playing with your emotions in the meantime. Guys do this when they don't know what they want and mainly because they juss can! Don't make him a priority when he only makes you an option! Now you're friend Jeremy, I would just make sure that he really means what he says before you jump in that! He could be rebounding! And since its not a best friend quality to steal your love intrest, I believe she can be added into the possible hater category and watch her close if you do decide to go with Jeremy. If I were you I would drop both of them and find a new boy that doesn't make me cry or feel bad but makes me feel good and I have fun with! Hope that helps a bit but really the decision is yours! Juss protect your heart! Much Love!
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Like Taylor Swift says "I got tired of waiting, wondering if you were ever coming along...my faith in you was fading"
well anyway my question i guess is how many of you out there still have faith in love... and i guess what are some of your theories on finding it, keeping it, and losing it. feel free to rant and leave long philosophical answers... i wanna hear it (link)
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For myself No! For other people most certainly! Me personally I don't trust the opposite sex at all! But I've been pregnant twice both times the men left. I've been cheated on more times than I can count. My fiancee for one, I been abused physically and verbally. And as much as I don't trust men I don't pick myself to choose the right one. But that's my crap life based on decisions I made. I believe it can be better for you!
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this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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Well every1 else pretty much hit it dead on! But firstly you're only 15, slow down shorty! I don't think you love him as much as you hate losing! If u don't relax a bit ure going to give ureself a heart attack! Every one loses at some point every1 that's how you grow and learn. What trips me out is that after he told you every female he's messed with has done him dirty, you went and did the same thing! Remember karma, cause now ure feeling some of that pain! Which will happen to you again probably a couple more times in you're life. So give him some space, if you really care about him!
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I'm running into some hard times in my life. I fell in love with my wife pretty much at first sight. The problem was that I didn't have a lot of experience with relationships. I didn't do things properly and I let my family get to much of a say in our relationship. They didn't like her from the very beginning and didn't even try to be nice to her. My mistake was that I didn't stand up for her like I should have. which led to a lot of problems between us. we started fighting and have split up multiple times. we now have 2 children but we recently split up again. when we split up I was devastated but instead of just being hurt I took out that hurt on her. I called all sorts of names and refused to talk to her for a while. but we recently started talking again and when we were talking on the phone everything seemed like it would be ok. but then we met up again and she said that seeing me changed things. that she didn't feel the same for me. I love her with everything in me and can't stand to let her go. but she isn't sure if we can be together again. I need help with what I should do. I'm lost here. I can't breath I've been having panic attacks I'm losing everything with her gone (link)
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Dear Heart, coming from a woman, get your knee pads out because you have some groveling to do. I'm talkin flowers and consistant apologizing. That is if you really want her back and if you're ready to let your relationship with your wife be just that between you and your wife. U have to let ure balls drop and be a man and don't let your family run your relationship. If a woman feels like you don't love her, you can't protect her and if you don't put your kids and her first then she will leave you period. Stop crying! Man up and get your wife back! Much Love!
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hello, im 15 f, and im cuban.
my boyfriend is 18 black and mexican.
heres the thing, my parents just recently found out that me and him are dating, and they fliped out. they say im nasty for liking a black guy, and that im only putting myself down and that im too pretty and light skined for him and etc.. i really dont know what to do cause i like him alot and i dont want to loose him over something so dumb like his skin color. and he isnt even that dark! hes like chris brown dark. and he dresses very nice, and is a good kid. i have to talk to my parents today. how can i convince them to let me be with him? oh and my dad was saying things like what would people think? and how it looks bad for someone whos white to be with someone whos black. (link)
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Now I'm coming from a black womans perspective. Your parents are coming from a place of ignorance. They don't understand black people and rather watch cops and MTV to get their info. Now for you, if he treats you right and makes you happy then go for it. Its not in my DNA to be a hater. However, I am a black woman and it can be hurtful to other black women to consistanly see every single black man go for anything that isn't black. Now since that has nothing to do with your happiness in your relationship as well as your poarents thoughts do u boo boo. You're only 15, who knows what kind of men will be there in your future. Your main goal should be to find someone who loves and respects you. Seeing as that is soo hard to find, keep ahold of your relationship and keep it strong because there are folk in this world who will not understand it and because they can't find love they will try and make things hard for you two. Also keep in mind that your parents want the best for you, but they are missing knowledge to properly judge the guy u r with. Just don't get in trouble and good luck! Much Love!
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Alright here's the deal.
My boyfriend (16) and I (15) recently took a break from each other because I found him too clingy. It has been nearly a week, and.. let's call him chuckNow chuck thinks were dating again. But we are not. I've tried talking to him but it doesn't work. He has my name in his MSN name again, and is telling everyone were back on, I usually have no problem with confrontation, but in this case, I simply cannot tell him were not dating. Now I've sent him a e-mail telling him were not dating,
but I don't know if he'll get the message in time and i don't want him to be to hurt..
Any advice you can provide will help a lot, i am sure..
Thank you so much in advancw (:
Sincerly
CueTheLights. (link)
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You have two choices. Don't tell him and let him keep thinkin everything is good when its not. Or, just tell him and get it over with then you don't have it on your shoulders any more. You gotta tell him! So you guys can both move on.
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Hey everyone, i am 15/f and i had a boyfriend that wasn't talking to me for about a week and a half, i didnt know why, then today at school he texted me and said he got a new girlfriend on saturday and that he just didnt know how to tell me. Yet he says he still loves me and that im his best friend in the world... I dont know what to do he is the only thing that has kept my living the past 9 months... Im a very depressed person, and he was the only one that was there for me, and i knoe he will still be there for me, but i also know he wont be there as much as before, and to top that off his new girlfriend hates me with a burning passion, and doesnt want hiom talking to me. Im scared i might lose my best friend because of his "girlfriend". ):
Any advice? Please help...
thanks inn advance (link)
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I'm sorry that happened to you. It sucks but you gotta let him go. Take time to figure out why you're depressed and change that. If you want help with that ill help you personally. As far as the guy goes, you don't have to cut him off entirely but gaurd your heart with him. If he is truly your friend he will always b there 4 you. Remember some people are not meant to stay in your life but just to help you get to a certain place. And youre young babe, you have so much life ahead of you! Seriously the bigger issue is your depression tell me why you feel that way! I want to help you. Nickslick1@msn.com email me and we will work it out! Much love!
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I dated a boy for about 9 months three years ago. We were 'in love', even though we were very young. about 7 months after we broke up we dated again for about 3 but we were always fighting so it didnt last long... now two years after we finally broke up and i've had only 2 kind of serious relationships since, he has had one; he told her he loved her. We never had sex because we were really young but he had sex with his last girlfriend (the one he loved).
Now i am talking to him a lot lately and i hate that i'm falling back in love with him but its nothing that i can help. the only friend that knows about it hates that i am falling for him again but i can't help it.
should i tell him that i like him again and potentially be heart broken or should i keep it to myself and try and move on?
advice please... =] (link)
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You really do have to gauge out if he's worth potential heartache. I want you to think about what you want in a relationship and his ability to give that to you. If you think he can, then think if you yourself can forgive and forget whatever situations that caused fighting. And lastly make sure that you are in love with him and not just missing the love feeling. If you can say you're ok with all the above then tell him how you feel. Much Love!
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so i guess the title for this question wasnt a very nice one haha but it got you reading it. well i do love my boyfriend to death we have been dating for 6 months. im 16 hes 15. theres just a few small problems. everything will be going fine, then sudenly a few weeks ago he wanted to take a break. all the lovey dovey stuff stopped n he really didnt seem to care about me anymore. well now we are back together and all the lovey dovey stuff has started again. he says he loves me more than anything. thats what he said before the breakup too. most days he is great and i love him so much. i couldnt imagine being with another guy. but some days he is in the worst mood and he will practically ignore me. i really try to help him out and i put up with so much stuff just for him. he is very outgoing so its not like him to be quiet and i always think its something i did. but he gets in different moods all the time. is he bipolar? he acts completely normal other than the mood swings and is captain of the football and lax team. hes popular and a really funny guy. but he also has told me that he hears voices in his head. he doesnt act like its a big deal and yesterday a voice told him to jump off a building. he obviously didnt listen haha but he doesnt act like his mental problems effect him much but the break and his mood swings make me think maybe they do. i dont want him to start listening to these voices in his head or go crazy one day. and i dont want his bipolar watever you want to call it mood swings, to effect are relationship either. i know he has suffered from depression and possibly still is. but he acts like hes the happiest guy in the world. you would never guess. does he have schizophrenia or bipolar or something else? any advice? (link)
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Maybe he is a tad off...hopefully he's not goin to that extent just 2 get u 2 leave him alone. At least tell him 1rst that you are worried about him so when u do go tell someone a counselor or cool school teacher he won't get super defensive. But don't be afraid 2 say something to him about how he is acting and let him know you are there to help.
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Theres dis guy he said he loved me we was hangin out everyday for like a month then he stoped talkin to me he called me like 3 days ago which was the first time in like 3 months he did dis stuff b4 we would get close then he would stop talkin to me then he would get a gf then when he broke up wit her he would call me im in love wit him should i keep talkin to him it hurts every time he does it makes me cry wat should i do Thanks 4 any advice (link)
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Sorry my dear but no he doesn't. He didn't love the other girls either. He's just having fun! Guys will say they love you just to keep you chasing after them and keep you from messing with someone else because then you might actually have a man treat you right and then you will have no time for him. Honestly he's got you locked up 2 where he knows he can say he loves you w/out any regard to your feelings and still go out basically slutting around.Why would he change his game plan? Guys like that don't have any idea of what they want out of their own life let alone a relationship. When a man loves you not only will he profess it to you and any1 that will listen but also try and protect you, make sure no1 hurts you and provide for you even if its just a trip to the store. Or him giving you the last of the fries because your still hungry. But really is this the way you want to be loved? I don't think so and I'm betting that you deserve better. He will not treat you the way you want unless you teach him! Next couple times he calls you don't answer him! Then see how he starts acting! Try it! Much Love!
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So theres this guy I recently met from my biblestudy group.
When I first met him he was really cute and was always looking at me,
But whenever I catch him he looks away.
When the group was over, He started talking to me, and asked me for my number, so I gave it to him and he texted me that very night.
I texted him back and we talked for a bit, he asked me if I was going to group next week and I told him I was, and he said great.
So I saw him yesterday at the group, and again he was always smiling at me, and when we went around to pray (pray circle)he stod right behind me, tapped my shoulder and kept trying to make me laugh. which he did. He gave me playful pushes and when we were outside, talked to me quiet a bit. after it ended he texted me somtime after, then told me he had to tell me somthing, and I asked what, he said He thought I was 'really' cute. (whats up with the lines? 'really'?)
and that he really wanted to tell me that. he gets irritated if I dont text him back right away and is like, fine iggnore me :(
and I'm like.. I just texted you back.
and he's like no i was just kidding..
I told him he must attract all the other girls and he said no he doesnt,
(but he could be lying.) but he said I must, and That I would have got his attention.. I dont know, Maybe hes just a player.
I dont know if he just started talking to me beacuse I was paying attention to this other guy whenever we go and he's always trying to get my attention.. is it beacuse he likes me, or do players do this all the time? PLEAASEE HELP ! (link)
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I can tell by your question you've been hurt by some1 b4 and also that he's diggin you. Now how to find out if he's a player, watch his interactions with other girls in the group and watch how they react 2 him. If he seems a little 2 close to one of them, he could be. But honestly you won't find out if he's a player until you hang out with him outside church group and spend more time talking 2 him. If he is he's gonna try and hide it. So its all about if you're willig to spend the time trying to find out.
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Hey!
So yesterday i randomly friend requested this guy who is friends with my guy friend because i thought he was really cute lol and he seemed familiar. turns out we know eachother through some people and I have met him like once (but i dont really remember haha)
anyways we talked over messaging for like 2 hours and he seems really cool. I know this is a stretch but i maybe want to possibly go to prom with him or see if something happens (i know this probablly wont happen im not getting my hopes up) but i dont know if i should message him again tonight or wait? or how i should approach this? (link)
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Well if he talked to you for 2 hours, more than likely he's feelin you. So my advice is don't msg him back 2nite, wait a couple days and see uf he hits you up. Now if not in 3 days send him a msg and say what's up. If the second round of conversation goes well mention something about your prom and see how he responds. Something like "yea I was online today looking at prom dresses" if he asks you how your day was! Much Love!
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So ive been liking this guy for 2 years now.But recently Ive decided not to waste anymore of my time on him.So my question is...how can i forget about him fast?? I like another guy and i wanna give it a shot. (link)
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I've been there and it stinks! But you are on a good path. Take it slow with the new guy give yourself a chance to heal. But start going out with friends family and people that care about you and take sometime for yourself. I say that because new guy isn't garunteed either. So taking time to pamper yourself will make it so you will approach any new situation with confidence! Guys like confident women!
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Okay before I start this I'd just like to say that I know this is bad, but I'm looking for advice, not for people to criticize me and tell me what a horrible person I am.
So about a month ago, this guy that I was pretty friendly with told me he liked me. I'd already known this for several months, but I guess I was hoping he'd get over it so when he told me, I panicked and rejected him. After I rejected him, things got weird between us and we basically stopped talking. I hated that because I really liked talking to him since he was nice and understanding and he never judged me, and I missed it. So two days ago I decided enough was enough and I told him that. And then we started talking about when he told me he liked me, and I don't know why I did it but I convinced myself that I liked him, and I told him that. Now I realize that I JUST liked talking to him, not him. But he still likes me, and now he thinks I like him back. And I don't know what to do, because I've already hurt him and I'd really hate to have to do it again, especially since this time he got his hopes up. He's really sweet, and I guess it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world to go out with him, but I don't know. Should I tell him what I did (and break his heart), or should I just try to live with what I did and give us a chance?
By the way, 16/f. (link)
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Hey it happens! You gotta be honest! Otherwise he could end up poppin out from behind your car naked on rollerblades chasin you down the street screamin "It aint over" He will be upset but give him time and he'll get over it. But you don't do it to yourself! Its a waste of your time and his. There is no point in you being with someone that your not feeling like that. A relationship should be two people growing together and fulfilling eachother. If you continue you nor him will feel fulfilled and you won't move forward because you will continue to be focused on the fact you don't like him. As my homeboy would say walk away and charge it to the game. Much Love!
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My only bestfriend has been talking to this guy that I like alot lately. I really do like him, he's such a great guy. Well my friend and I were talking last night about her talking to him a little bit. Now talks to all the guys in our group A LOT. The problem isnt exactly that she talks to them alot. It's that they tell her so many things. Like when my friend,we'll call her A, and my other friend, we'll call him K, were going out K would tell my best friend things that he didnt even tell A. I dont know I just don't think that's right. It really bugs me that all the guys in our group talk to her and tell her things that they don't even tell their own girlfirends. I mean i'm glad that they can open up to her about things, but well I don't know it just really bugs me. My friend always does this, I say I like a guy and then she wants to talk to him all of a sudden. Not to mention the fact that she flirts with them. The guy that I really like, well she flirts with him constantly, she even told me she does, she also has a boyfriend so that definitely doesnt make sense to me. I just don't know what to do about it. She said she just gets along better with the guys, and I could have understood that, but the fact that she flirts with them, even though she knows that I really like them, I don't understand that. I don't know what to do. What do you think of this, what should I do. I'm just really scared of losing him to her. I really don't want that to happen. Plus I don't like her flirting with so many people even though she has a boyfriend. She even flirts with other guys in front of her boyfriend, and then if he gets the least bit upset about it she just tells him to stop being so jealous and that it's nothing. I don't know, help please. Any advice would be greatly appeciated. (link)
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You're not gonna like this but. Firstly this is why men cheat, because they can! Secondly, she can't steal nothing from you that you don't allow her to and really if he don't want you he will leave anyways. Question, are you a shy person? More reserved than you feel she is? Other guy hit it on the head! Granted she likes the attention, all women do! If the homeless man on the street says we look good we r smilin all day! Now what I know is your best friend is different different from you, maybe more outgoing than you but that's why you are friends because the traits she has, are traits you are attracted to because you don't have them or but you wish you did. And she could get along better with guys because she has experienced 5 other females that week that have said the same thing you are sayin now. But hopefully they are doing it to her face! So instead of callin friend A and K and Z. Realize while you are worried about who is talking to who, everyone else is getting their needs met having fun etc. And you're suffering when you could be out with your man having fun and being there for him to talk to or hanging with your BFF! Let it go!
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okay so all my boyfriend talks about is having sex with me and doing things with me. and i'm sooo not that type of girl...like ill do some things with him but not to the point of having sex with him... like thats just not who i am. but stupid stupid me went and said to him okay ill have sex with you!! i feel sooo stupid and i feel like im setting him up and getting him all excitted for it and im not even going to have sex with him... like this is allll he talks about and i guess im asking....how do i break it to him that im not who he thinks i am and i dont want to have sex with him?????
any questions about my question just ask.
any advicee is so GREATLY appreciatedd!!!!
please and thanks
-cuttechick26
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If he can't talk about anything other than sex then that's all he wants you for. I'm worried about his level of maturity (not sure on ages)since he can't formulate a thought that extends beyond sex. Just tell him no! You don't have to do anything you don't want to do with your body period!
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Well me and this guy really like eachother
but we are not going out (John). He lives about 3hrs away. and theres this other guy who really wants to have sex, but me and that guy have no feelings for eachother what so ever(Alex).I wasnt going to tell John about Alex,but John was telling me about how his brother was blocking him from going up2 a girl.Obviously I got jealous and told him about Alex. Soo then John told me he didnt want me2have sex so I decided not to have sex with alex, but people are telling me i shouldnt care about what john wants because we are not dating.
What do you think i should do?
P.S.
I know its not the best to have sex with sumone that i have no feelings for but i just wanna know if i should care about what John wants?..and should i base my decision on someone who im not with?
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Sounds like you might be scared of being close to John maybe something you're not sure of. Maybe the distance between you two. Now I understand people have needs. But as a woman I know we are very loyal and we only do things like this when there is a certain aspect of the relationship we currently have that we are not happy with. So you have 2 choices 1. Cowgirl up tell that man how you really feel about him, tell him what you need and be consistant and make it happen or be honest about your feelings tell him what's bothering you, give him an opportunity to change it if he doesn't walk away. Always respect others and yourself. Karma is alive and kickin! Just don't play youreself for 20% if you found a good solid 80%!
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do you believe in soul mates? why or why not? (link)
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Heck Yes I believe there are multiple soul mates for people mainly because as you cahnge throughout your life, your requests from a relationship will also change. But keep in mind a soul mate relationship any relationship requires devotion and committment! The why is simply because those people that are lucky enough to find their soulmate were meant to have that partner and their destinies are combined together! People need people type deal
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Well me and my ex recently just got back together. he just doesnt want to let anybody know that we're even "talking" like about to date. so i have to act like im his friend and i cant even kiss him or hold hands. but then again, me and him talk hour after hour on the phone we're even planning on moving in together in a year or two.. but i dont want to keep our relationship a secret anymore... it just hurts because i really love him alot. even though i was the one who left him. what do i do? (link)
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He's playin a game! Mostly because he doesn't know what he wants and I wonder if he did, would he have the courage to do something about it. You know a man loves you when he professes it. To let all the other guys that were gonna try to get with you to back up. But here's what it is. Is this the kind of person/relationship you deserve? If not why waste your time? Take a look at yourself find out what's good about you that's all that matters. Funny how guys change their mind when all of a sudden your not chasing them! *hint*
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