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I'm running into some hard times in my life. I fell in love with my wife pretty much at first sight. The problem was that I didn't have a lot of experience with relationships. I didn't do things properly and I let my family get to much of a say in our relationship. They didn't like her from the very beginning and didn't even try to be nice to her. My mistake was that I didn't stand up for her like I should have. which led to a lot of problems between us. we started fighting and have split up multiple times. we now have 2 children but we recently split up again. when we split up I was devastated but instead of just being hurt I took out that hurt on her. I called all sorts of names and refused to talk to her for a while. but we recently started talking again and when we were talking on the phone everything seemed like it would be ok. but then we met up again and she said that seeing me changed things. that she didn't feel the same for me. I love her with everything in me and can't stand to let her go. but she isn't sure if we can be together again. I need help with what I should do. I'm lost here. I can't breath I've been having panic attacks I'm losing everything with her gone
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Dear Heart, coming from a woman, get your knee pads out because you have some groveling to do. I'm talkin flowers and consistant apologizing. That is if you really want her back and if you're ready to let your relationship with your wife be just that between you and your wife. U have to let ure balls drop and be a man and don't let your family run your relationship. If a woman feels like you don't love her, you can't protect her and if you don't put your kids and her first then she will leave you period. Stop crying! Man up and get your wife back! Much Love!
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You need to set up a surprise date for you wife. Set it up like your first real date. If you went to a specific restaurant or place, bring her there again. As much as you feel you may do for her and your kids, you have to literally say things to make them be known. Swallow your pride and tell her how you really feel. Talk from your heart, not from your mind.
Tell her that you are in love with her and that you need your family back. Let her know that you understand that by not standing up for her against your family, you have allowed problems into your relationship. Tell her that you don't want to let these issues tear you apart. Tell her that you're willing to do couple's therapy or any other thing she might have in mind. Let her know that because your love for her is so strong, you're willing to work as hard as you can to make a real change.
It may be hard to say things. Nowadays, people have a lot of trouble expressing how they feel. Whether it's that they think they will appear weak or they just have too much pride, you need to show her a vulnerable side of you that NEEDS her and is willing to change.
Darby
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well mabee because its a turst issue and you need to tell her how you feel and tell what you just wrote for you question telling her that you loved her even though your family didnt care you tried but you might have not have sen it till now you just hav to ask her forgiveness that all you can do
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