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Okay, so my friend just hooked up me and this guy. & I like him, and I'm pretty excited.
But the chances are my parents arn't going to let me date. He want me to go to the movies with him, and personally I don't like going to the movies of first dates. Excpecially when you just turned 13 and have overprotective parents.
I offerered to go to the pool club with him, I don't think he's too crazy about that idea. And he really does like me, alot. I made up the excuse not to go to the movies. I feel bad. What should I do? (link)
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Just tell him your parents are overprotective, which is the truth.
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Me and Ryan broke up so I went to call up anthony cause he knows ryan better than anyone and I was gonna ask him if he thought me and ryan would go back out and he was like no and all that stuff.. so we started joking around about doing stuff with each other and then he got serious and asked me if i wanted to come over the next day after me and ryan had been broken up for like an hour. So i kept saying no.. he kept asking me the next couple of days and i said no so I decided to tell Ryan... Anthony totally denied the whole thing said he was joking... so then ryan called me up told me in these exact words:
"Michelle, I fucking hate you. Get out of my fucking life. I can't believe it, you out of all people lied to me.. you are one dumb, dumb bitch."
so then I told him that I never lied and he said:
"How can I fucking believe you michelle? You are fucking psycho and I am suprised it lasted this long. Just get the fuck out of my life. I don't want to talk to you ever again and don't come up to me at school. Just stay the fuck out of my life."
So then I cried to everyone and he called me back and I guess that he's going to talk to me like sometime this week about the whole thing. I've been crying every night since monday, the day we broke up. I hate it so bad.. I just want to be back happy with him again. Me and Ryan have been dating for 13 months and this is our first break up.. (link)
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Well,I won't lie to you,this is a tough one.
First off, it seems that Anthony has liked you for a while since he immediatly started hitting on you.
And Ryan seems to be overreacting to this whole thing,especially since he didn't trust you over his friend. I mean,you went out for 13 months and he trusted his best friend over you....
Maybe he'll trgain his senses and calm down after a while and ask you back out.I think he will.
But in the mean-time, go out with your friends more,watch a funny movie or Comedy Central before you go to sleep,read a good book,draw,listen to music to make you less depressed and try to focus on something else besides him.
Don't completly avoid Ryan at school,but I would avoid Anthony a bit. Just keep going on with your life.
Now,if you ever feel really depressed I want you to IM me:
AFI Demon Angel
You don't have to tell me specifics but I'll do my best to make you feel better.I'm always on at night and sometimes during the day.
Hope you feel better!
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I'm 15/M/TX & shes 13/F/FL
well... it starts out that I'm talking to my friend's cosin on AIM, & we where up talking all night... & so she fell in love with me, & I just liked her... but I knew it would never work... & so now, afew months later, where just friends, & she has a boyfriend now... but now, I'm acctuly in love with her... & I don't know what to do... & I was invited by my friend to come up there & stay a while (& I would meet his cosin), & I think I'm going to go... but I don't know what I would do, I would go out of state & put myself on the line for this girl I love, who has a boyfriend, & I have never met her, & I don't know what would happen... & her cosin seems to get really protective of her...
so, what I'm asking is... is it worth it? to go up there & risk so much? for a girl who is with someone else? but I love her?
just, what do you think?
thank you, & sorry its so confusing, theres more, but thats all you really need to know, its a very complicated situation
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I think you should go.
If you really want to know if you love her,you have to meet her in person to know for sure.
And if he is protective of her, just assure him you just want to get to know her.
Good luck!
~Long Lost Love
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Well how can I put this..
First of all I'm 14/F. I've never had a boyfriend. Maybe you could tell me if this is why..
Well I've like MANY guys. And some have seemed like they've like me too. For example, there's this kid that I "like" (you'll understand the quotes in a minute), and it kind of seems like he likes me too now. But now that he is kind of flirting with me, I'm starting to not like him now. What is this?!? It REALLY confuses me. I don't know why I am like this, can anyone explain?? Before the guy started flirting a little bit with me, I definately wanted him to like me, no doubt about that. Of course I did, cause I liked him. But now that it seems he likes me..I'm kind of avoiding him. Am I afraid of a relationship? I feel as if I will never have a boyfriend because of this reason, and it makes me sad & confused. Please help? (link)
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This has actually happened to me once before.
Maybe its because you just wanted the satisfaction of know they liked you and that you could get them to like you...subconciously,of course.
Or maybe its because that when you realize they like you, you get shy because your not sure if your ready for a commitment or boyfriend yet...
I hope that helped!
~Long Lost Heart
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ok,my best friend has a boyfriend and i'm kind of jealous (they're perfect and i'm single). Him and i are friends but i like him a little bit more than that. they just started going out this week. she knows him better then i do and she's liked him longer too. i told her that i like him. now do i tell him that i like him or would that ruin the realtionship between the 3 of us? what should i do???
any help is great.
~~~Chelsey~~~ (link)
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I'm sorry,but it sounds like the best thing to do is to not tell him,even though I can tell you want to.
You don't want to cause any unecessary drama,just be there for him when he needs you.
Who knows,maybe it won't work out for them and you'll have a chance to get to know him much better.
~Long Lost Heart
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I told my friend how I serious loved this guy and the guy told me that he liekd me but he keeps playing mind games with me. So I told my friend I NEED to get over him somehow and he said "just get rid of everything that reminds you of him and just don't think about him." So I did that and I seriously didn't think about him at all and I got rid of everything that reminded me of him. Then that night, I had a freakin dream about him..just when I was startin to stop thinking about him.It seems like everytime I try to forget about him and I'm doin good I have a dream about him that night. What's going on and how can I stop this???? ILL RATE 5'S!! (link)
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Well,dreams just piece together small bits of what you were thinking over the past few days,usually...
Its possible that when you were cleaning out all the stuff that reminded you of him,and trying so hard not to think about him made your subconcious think about him...in either a good or bad way.
So this is pretty normal,just keep up what you're doing,and you should be fine
Hope that helped,
~Long Lost Heart
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Hey, major question i have. Ok, i went to a softball game and i was sitting on the bleachers...and on the other side of the field i saw 2 people...the one of them looked like a guy from were i was sitting and the other one...was a girl, and i thought they were friends or somthing...so, then i started thinking, wow that guy is pretty cute...so then, i realized i looked at him a bit longer...and realized it was a girl...a very tomboyish girl,so...does that mean i'm like...lesbian or just made a common mistake?
~Brina (link)
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Its a common mistake,dear...I've done it quite a few times,actually.
You are not a lesbian...that means you are attracted to other girls when you know they're actually girls.
Don't worry about it
~Long Lost Heart
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if you talk to a boy online and you never saw him and you love eachother and have soo much in common and stuff, is that considered have a boyfriend even though you have never saw him and stuff?? bc i really love this guy and he feels the sam way but he lives real far away. is this like a boyfriend? and if it is say i went out with him and then i have a boyfriend here, would that be cheating on my online boyfriend?
I RATE SOOOO HIGH!!!
please help me quick!!
signed,
young, curious and in love (link)
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Online romances never work out,sorry to disappoint you.
And,to answer your questions..I suppose he has to ask you out or you ask him out to be boyfriend and girlfriend.And you should atleast see a picture of him.Yes,it is like a boyfriend and I suppose it would be cheating if you had two boyfriends...
Good luck,
~Long Lost
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there's a guy I like a lot. I met him online. we are good friends and have a lot in common. I sorta have a crush on him. should I tell him? I'm afraid it will ruin things between us. I don't think he's into online dating and I don't know if he likes me in that way. I don't feel like I'm good enough for him. what should I do? I don't want to screw everything up but I'd luv to be his girlfriend. he's awesome. (link)
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Let me tell you something,and you may not believe it at first:
Online dating never works out.
I have never heard of a case that it has worked out with...
Anyways,go ahead and tell him,or he will never know.
Or,ask simple questions like if he has a girlfriend,if he says no,then ask if he has anyone in mind or if you can help him out.
Ask him about his hobbies,see if you two have alot of things in common,if you do then you can talk about that and he may build up feelings for you.
Hope I've helped,
Long Lost
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okay this is really hard to explain but i'll try...my best friend ryan (shes a girl) moved and she went out with this guy hunter...hunter imed me one day (after him and my friend broke up) and we talked and stuff and he was so sweet and i thought i liked him but i had a boyfriend and i told him i did so ya...my boyfriend was like a really good friend 2 but i didnt think it was fair to date him when i really liked hunter you know so i broke up with him and on aim i was talking to hunter that same day.and i said guess what and he goes what and i was like i broke up with andrew and he goes you kno whats coming next...will you go out with me! i really wanted to say yes but i wanted to ask my friend first to make sure she was like over him and i said hunter asked me out...do you care if i say yes and she ignored me and started cussing hunter out and then so hunter imed me and said...maybe we should wait,i still like you,and im not taking it back i love you,you just broke up with your boyfriend though,so lets wait. and all that was fine with me....well two days later my friend ryan came and stayed at my house for like a week and then 1st night she was there,hunter and me were texting and he called me and we talked for lk 4 hours (it was the first time we has talked on the phone) anyways and then the next day me and ryan went with my uncle to look at his new house and hunter texted me and i said im out of texts so i cant talk now and so i said he could text ryans phone...so he did and he was like can you hand tayler the phone for a sec...so she did and i gave it back to her (i was like in the car talking to my uncle and i didnt want to like be texting him) and then she handed it to me again and it said "will you go out with me" and again i handed her the phone and just thought i will talk to him about it later...then he texted ryans phone again and said " i really like you...but i guess you dont like me" so then i felt horrible so i texted him back and said "no no i do like you its just i dont want you to hurt me" and he said "i would never hurt you,i love you too much" so then i said "are you sure this is what you want" and he said "i wouldnt want it anyother way" so i said yes...and he was a good boyfriend for like a week and then we would be like talking online and he would say i gtg baby i will call you tonight...then he wouldnt call and then we would fight and all this stuff...and it happened like 3 times...then he texted me and was like "baby im sorry i've been a bitch and im such a dumass for treating you like this and im lucky that you stuck around this long please forgive me...things will change i will be the boyfriend you deserve which is better that what i have been" and then he was better (we still hadnt met in person.but we did see lots of pictures) then he broke up with me said he wanted to be friends and then we would talk ever day texting...but he wouldnt talk to me on the phone and he would always ask me for pictures then the fourth of july he texted me and said "we dont need to be friends" i was like okay whatever..after this im not giving you anymore chances and he goes i dont care your ugly and and i go your not excactly the hottest guy i have dated eitehr and he goes oh ya thats why u wanted me soo bad and i was like it wasnt you i wanted hun it was a boyfriend but its fine cause im over it and he didnt text me back for like three days and when he did he re-wrote what i had written him the "it wasnt you i wanted hun it was a boyfriend but thats okay im over it" and then he wrote oh thats nice you played me..and he was like look im sorry ok can we jsut start over i understand if you dont want to be friends i jsut feel guitly sayin all that shit to you and im sorry and then we talked and i was like well i dont know if i can be friends with you...you hurt me and he said and you hurt me and im sorry and i was like well i only said it cause you were being rude and acted like you hated me and even though i liked you i wasnt gonna be like oh baby im sorry i love you...and he was like i jsut said it cause i had nothing to say and said he had to go and asked me to get on aim the next morning so i did and we worked everything out and then we talked on the phone every so often and then this whole thing happened where he said sorry i cant call you and i sent a message to christina (a girl thats friends with me and hunter) and it said if he calls you three way me and i accidently sent it to hunter and he was like yeah he got really mad at was like you thought i would to you blah blah blah and said i hate you get out of my life then the next morning he texted me and said sorry i was jsut upset cause i thought you lied to me and i for some reason forgave him and we talked and we "friends" and then he said i like you and i was like ok..and he would say i love you and i want to meet in person and all this"well he said that one night and the next morning he said i dont like you anymore theres no other girl theres jsut no girl at all...and then we just talked as "friends" and then he was on the phone with christina and asked her to three way me so she did but i didnt really talk directly to him cause he was only on the phone for like 5 minutes cause then he had to go and i stayed on the phone and chrisitna said hunter told me to tell you he likes someone..but he wont say who and i was like okay so later that night hunter texted me and i asked him who he liked and he was like i dont want to tell anyone and i was like okay well if you get ready to tell someone you can trust me and he was like ok and he said i like justins girlfriend,ariel (justins his best friend)and then he said i gotta go i will be back on later (he has been texting me from his sn) then his friend justin was like hey and i go hi and he was like whats wrong and i said stuff with hunter and he goes like what? and i said its jsut hard liking someone that doesnt like you back and justin said do you know who he likes and i said no and he goes if you do please tell me i wont tell him i sware and i said im sorry but im not gonna do that to him and he said this is hunter on justins sn i jsut wanted to see if i could trust you and i can so thanks and i dont like ariel i like you and it turns out him and justin were together the whole time and i was like ok no big deal i couldnt be mad cause he liked me again and then i didnt talk to him for 3 days and he texted me and said i dont like you i like someone else sorry and i got on aim and i was like who do you like and he said well i like you but u live really far away but if you move here i would love to go out with you (we live like 20 minutes away,and my parents are looking at houses out there) and so i was like so theres no other girl and he goes no there is her names courtnei and i like her alot and i was like oh and then i found out he has asked her out and she liked him and he liked her the only thing keeping them from going out was that she had a boyfriend when i started typing this i just wanted to see what you thought but unfortunately since its so long since the beginning of this i jsut found out in his friends away message that him and courtnei are going out and i dont know what to do i mean i want to just tell him off and be like im sicking of you treating me liked this and i could careless if we ever speak again and stand up to him but that would screw everything up with us for good and a big part of me still wants him..i dont know why cause i have had guys that treat me 10x better and since we broke up two guys have asked me out but i have said no for him...i was waiting for him and then he jsut moves on like im nothing and i feel like just...i dont know im just really upset and dont know what to do everyone tells me oh my gosh taylor just move on but i cant its i dont know theres something about him that i cant let go of...what that is i dont know cause i mean hes hott but not that hott hes nice sometimes and i just i dont know should i tell him that i like him that i love him that i want him that i hate him or as hard as it may be jsut not talk to him and see if he comes back to me or even notices im not there for him...or if he cares anyways please please help me... *** broken hearted
laycee (link)
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wow....
I read through that whole thing,my eyes are burning,but thats ok.
I say forget him,for a while!He treats you so badly and keeps hooking up and breaking up with you and testing you then going out with other people.
Also the fact that you haven't seen eachother much,if at all,in real life.
Its very true,long distant relationships never last...though 20 mins isn't far...
Hn...wait a while...see what happens.See if he matures any,and if he does,he may come back to you and treat you much better.
Hope I've helped in some way
~Long Lost
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Ok well ive been dating this guy for almost 2 years. We really love each other and we live with each other. Hes been telling me latley that i dont act like i care about him. I really do and i tried telling him this and he says i dont act it and i dont show him that i care and love him..What do i do to show him that i really do wanna be in a relationship an i do love and care about him..ive tried talkin to him..an it doesnt seem to work..is there certain stuff that needs to be said? what i dont wanna loose him an i wanna be with him..but i need to know he knows i love him
i rate 5's (link)
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Have you tried showing more physical attention?A simple holding of hands,hugging randomly or light kisses can make somone feel better.
Maybe one day you should make him his favorite dinner,for no special reason.Or buy him something thats semi-nice,but useful ((ex: a CD of his favorite band,a DVD etc...))
Tell him WHY you love him,and why you two are so great together.
Hope I've Helped,
~Long Lost
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im 21,but when comes to talking to boys im always blur.how can i attarct their attention?what kind of topics i can talk to them?
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Favorite movies is always good...or sports...if your interested in that.
Music is also a very good topic as well as where they go to college/school.
Hope I've helped in some way
~Long Lost
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I'm 13/f. I just discovered that the person I have had a huge crush on for two years (he's really cool; the smartest kid in the grade and he's really nice and he's my only guy friend) doesn't like me back. I feel awful. He doesn't know. Is there anything I can do? How can I deal with this? Should I try to stop liking him and move on? Please I know that a 13-year-old's problems aren't as important to you as an older person, but still it would be really really nice if someone could help me.
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Hn...
Try to make some more guy friends,but keep close to this guy...just not as close.
'Men want what they can't have'?
Hope I've helped in some way
~Long Lost
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Im a female, and im about 5"10 and my boyfriend is only 5"7...this makes me feel uncomfortable all the time. is this weird? (link)
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Its a bit odd...but height shouldn't matter in a relationship.
If your so worried about it,try not to wear heels or platform shoes around him.
Hope I've helped in some way
~Long Lost
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Me and my friend have been like sisters ever since we were 11 years old...we are 18 years old now. We have been through alot together and are closer than we've ever been to anyone else in our entire lives. But none of my friends really like her and i think its because they see something that i dont. they see that shes not really a real friend as they like to say. she is constantly disappearing for days at a time and getting me worried and then calling up and saying she went down to her old neighborhood, where she is up to no good down there. anyways, she was with one of my other close friends for about a month...but the entire relationship was crap. she was never there for him, never really called him, was ditching him all the time, and so on. she finally got the courage to tell him she'd rather just be friends, but all the times she ditched him, me and him would chill. me and him have been friends for about 4 years. now, we confessed feelings for eachother. she was fine with it and didn't care at all since she says she "never really like him" in the first place...she just felt bad breaking up with him. but just last night, she flipped out on me and him saying were "low" and dirty for doing this to her because her and him "just broke up". she said she thinks im just trying to get back at her for things she did to me in the past. it has nothing to do with that! we just want to be happy...and we've always had feelings for eachother but just never said it until recently...but now, i dont know what to do.
ps. i just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years ago last month because he didn't treat me right and we've been through so much pain and i couldnt take it anymore.(me and my friends ex said that we are taking it VERY slow and being friends for now until were both ready to start a relationship...and this guy is amazing ..everything i want..if that helps at all) (link)
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It sounds like your friend could be going through some dilemna...or it could be that time of the month for her...
Wait a few days,and talk to her about it...tell her what you told us here on advicenators...about how much you care for her like a sister etc...
Hope I've helped in some way
~Long Lost
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I have liked this guy for four years and in the beginning we were friends but one thing led to another and he found out i liked him and stopped talking to me. Two years passed and we didnt talk we couldnt even look at eachother in the face and i felt miserable because i didnt understand why he stopped talking to me. This past year i turned sixteen and invited him to my sweet 16 party . I told myself that if he came i should still wait for him but if he didnt forget him but he came to the party and we had a pretty good time together. Ever since the party i can't stop thinking about him and no matter what i feel like theres not going to be any other guy for me. To me he's not like any other guy he is so sweet and nice.... please help me with this problem... should i give up or talk to him or what?? please answer (link)
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Talk to him..please.
For your sake,unless you want to end up like me ((read the name))
It sounds like hes turned around and started liking you back.
Talk more and get to know him...you'll feel a hole lot better.
Hope I've helped in some way
~Long Lost
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so i wanna know if i like this boy for real, or if its just a crush! SO HELP!!!, ohk well i odnt really talk to the guy i mean i've danced more then i've talked with him, we were at a party and he told me to dance so i told him he looked very cute & he said that i did to, the whole time we were dancing i got the vibe that he liked me & then we were holding hands cause that's how you danced the kind of music & i felt so comfortable... and we kept laughing cause there was this funny dude ... but anyways and when we did laugh we looked into each others eyes ... it was awsome & when he danced with someone else, i got so mad! so what i want to know is if i like this boy or if i think i do. remember i dance with him more then i talk to him! (link)
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Hm...sorry to say but this sounds more like lust than love to me...a crush...
I suggest you try to talk to him more...get to know him and see if you truley like him or not.
Hope I've helped in some way,
~Long Lost
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my boyfriend goes to a vocation school or whatever and he is going to be a junior, which means all the freshman girls are going to be in his shop classes. it makes me so nervous and he says nothing will happen but i know how girls can be liek and how guys can be like. i am stressing alot badly and i dont know what to do=( help please (link)
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Hn...
Tell him about your feelings,hopefully he should assure you that nothing will happen.
Another way to kind of 'claim' him is to give him something that he will wear often,or take to school often.A necklace,shirt...something of that nature.
If you go to his school,meet up with him after class,give him hugs and kisses...even when the other girls are watching.They should back off.
Hope I've helped in some way,
~Long Lost
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ok so, last night i went to a party and met this really cool guy. he's a friend of one of my ex's. he said it was a birthday party when he invited me so one of my friends wouldnt feel lonely. well i found out later that the party is for his girlfriend. but he really wants to end the relationship. she controls him all the time. and so idk i just kinda like him. and he called me up last night and we talked for a couple of hours and he asked me out on a date tonight so we can get better aquainted. it seems fine to me but im just not sure, hes 18 and im 16, which isnt bad because ive dated 18 yr olds before, like all last year. i just dont really kno what to do. is being interested in him wrong?
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Its not wrong to like him at all.
You two seem to have a mutual attraction from what I've heard and I think you would make a nice couple.
His ex/future ex dosn't sound right for him...give him confidence to help him break up with her and tell him you'll be there for him.
~Long Lost
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I am 12 and a half and 4 weeks ago I hooked up with a boy named Luke and I really like him. Although I am supposed to go out with him I am really scared because when my mum will pick me up if she sees him, that she will abandon me from seeing him. I am scared to tell her that I have a boyfriend because I am scared that she wont allow me to see him. Please help! (link)
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Casually ask your mom if she thinks girls at your age should have boyfriends.
Slip in the benefits of having a boyfriend while your talking to her.
Then say something about liking this guy,Luke ((ONLY IF HER RESPONSE TORWARDS YOU HAVING A BOYFRIEND IS POSITIVE!!!))
If thats the case,tell her he asked you out.
Drop me a letter in my inbox if you need any more help.
~Long Lost
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