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friend vs. guy
Me and my friend have been like sisters ever since we were 11 years old...we are 18 years old now. We have been through alot together and are closer than we've ever been to anyone else in our entire lives. But none of my friends really like her and i think its because they see something that i dont. they see that shes not really a real friend as they like to say. she is constantly disappearing for days at a time and getting me worried and then calling up and saying she went down to her old neighborhood, where she is up to no good down there. anyways, she was with one of my other close friends for about a month...but the entire relationship was crap. she was never there for him, never really called him, was ditching him all the time, and so on. she finally got the courage to tell him she'd rather just be friends, but all the times she ditched him, me and him would chill. me and him have been friends for about 4 years. now, we confessed feelings for eachother. she was fine with it and didn't care at all since she says she "never really like him" in the first place...she just felt bad breaking up with him. but just last night, she flipped out on me and him saying were "low" and dirty for doing this to her because her and him "just broke up". she said she thinks im just trying to get back at her for things she did to me in the past. it has nothing to do with that! we just want to be happy...and we've always had feelings for eachother but just never said it until recently...but now, i dont know what to do.
ps. i just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years ago last month because he didn't treat me right and we've been through so much pain and i couldnt take it anymore.(me and my friends ex said that we are taking it VERY slow and being friends for now until were both ready to start a relationship...and this guy is amazing ..everything i want..if that helps at all)
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It sounds like your friend could be going through some dilemna...or it could be that time of the month for her...
Wait a few days,and talk to her about it...tell her what you told us here on advicenators...about how much you care for her like a sister etc...
Hope I've helped in some way
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if your friendreally cared she wouldnt lie saying that its kool and that she never liked him and it not being kool and she did if she said that it wasnt kool it would be your fault of hurting your friends ship but tahts not the thing she lied tell her im not trying to sound rude but you told me that you never liked him you said that it was ok if i went out with him but now that i actualy am going out with him its a big thing .[your friends name]if you were really my friend you would of lied to me saying what you said and if you were realy my friend you would tell me where you were going i still want to be your friend i still want to be your best not just friend but this is something you just have to deal with i love him and you but if you cant understand that i dont know .
hopefully ive helped you
good luck
god bless you
from,
katie,tootsierollsweet999
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ok sweetie, I know this make seem like a difficult time for you and your circle of friends, but remember this....you have to go through some bad times in order to enjoy the good times. This friend of yours that the two of you are like sisters... you should be the bigger person and talk to her. I don't mean shout it out with her, be the voice of reason and talk to her. Tell her that if she values you alls friendship just as you do, that she needs to be mature enough to listen to you. and you too be mature enough to be a ear for her as well. It sounds like she did have feels for this guy still and it sadden her to see the two of you together. Maybe she felt that you two betraded her behind her back.. be firm and let her know that that wasn't the case...RIGHT?. Anyhoot, this guy and you are doing the right thing by taking it slow. Good, just think, in a year or two, everybody will look back on this and laugh...well lets hope for the best in this situation. If the friendship betwwen the two of you lasted this long, it can stand another few years if not more, like you said, you two have been through alot, anf this is only a test of sisterhood. Hope things work out for eeverybody.
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Since your friend already said she didn't mind, I don't understand why she's bashing you now for it. If her friendship is that much to you, I would talk to her or leave the guy alone. If the friendship isn't that much to you anymore, go for what makes you happy.
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thats sad....well tell her that shes the one that said she was ok with it! and tell her your sry but its love your talkin about
hope i helped bii!
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Well I hate to say this, but you really need to sit down and talk to your friends, and if this helps remember this : Bro's before ho's and sisters before misters
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