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I'm interested in a guy with a girlfriend
ok so, last night i went to a party and met this really cool guy. he's a friend of one of my ex's. he said it was a birthday party when he invited me so one of my friends wouldnt feel lonely. well i found out later that the party is for his girlfriend. but he really wants to end the relationship. she controls him all the time. and so idk i just kinda like him. and he called me up last night and we talked for a couple of hours and he asked me out on a date tonight so we can get better aquainted. it seems fine to me but im just not sure, hes 18 and im 16, which isnt bad because ive dated 18 yr olds before, like all last year. i just dont really kno what to do. is being interested in him wrong?
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Well, you can't help who you like. But you CAN help getting yourself into a potentially bad situation.
What defines bad? Well, the fact that he is still with his girlfriend and is calling you and asking you out, anyway. He's willing to cheat on her. Whatever reasons he may give to explain his actions, that's the fact of the matter - he's keeping his options open.
If he is truly unhappy in his current relationship, he needs to be strong and END it. He is not doing his girlfriend favours by staying with her out of pity. Nor is it normal for him to be trying to fix her up with someone else.
He needs to take responsibility for himself and his own happiness, and you need to do the same for yours. Best case scenario, you should NOT go out with him until he is well and truly single.
That's having respect for his girlfriend, for him, and for yourself.
(I'll also point out what I'm sure you already know - in many areas, being 18 makes him an adult while you are still considered a child in the eyes of the law.)
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Its not wrong to like him at all.
You two seem to have a mutual attraction from what I've heard and I think you would make a nice couple.
His ex/future ex dosn't sound right for him...give him confidence to help him break up with her and tell him you'll be there for him.
~Long Lost <3
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i think it is only wrong if he dosnt plain on dumpin his girlfriend.i really dont think its wrong but i wouldnt get to close to him untill you know he dumped his girlfriend
i hope it helped
♥ria
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Having feelings for someone is beyond your control, but actually dating him is all in your power. And 18 is a little too old for you. You're a minor and hes an adult. Its wrong, its not love, and it will never work out unless you're willing to be his, "sex machine" and whether you've dated an 18 year old that you never had sex with or not, he needs to find someone his own age. If an 18 year old has nothing better to do then hang around a 16 year old girl, then hes worthless. Sorry.
-TheTeenGirl
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Its not wrong that you like him or that you want to go on the date with him but i wouldn't go out with him untill he afically ends it with hid girlfreand because some things can turn into others esspecial if you really like some one.
Blue Eyes
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ok well honestly, just stick with being friends until he ACTUALLY ENDS It. You can tell him you like him but try not to get too involved because you wouldnt want people saying stuff about you getting between him and his girlfriend. If he really wants to break it off then he would end it even if she begs him. Hes gotta still have feelings for her because hes not ending it. Just play it safe and be careful what you tell to other people, but at the same time let him know you like him. boys are silly sometimes and we all hate to hear it but, he could be telling you he wants it to end.. but then everything with his girlfriend is going fine. hope it helps dear<3
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IF YOU LIKE THIS GUY AND WANNA GET 2KNOW HIM ...GO 4 THE DATE! IT'S NOT WRONG 2 BE INTRESTED~ good luck~
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definately not! if you like him thats awesome and if hes going to dump his girlfriend its all the better. just do what feels right
<3<3 anne givings
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No, I dont think it is wrong at all! Just Follow your heart and have a great time on the date! Since he said he was dumping his girlfriend b/c shes a control freak, i wouldnt worry about anything!
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Hunny your heart cannot be wrong.If you dig this guy you should totally take the chance and see if you guys have a Spark between u 2.Try some dates out and if things go good you're gonna score with a bf. lol . Hope i helped yea. <3
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I would be concerned about him, actually. If he's sneaking around behind his girlfriend's back, trying to hook up with someone else, that doesn't say much for him.
If I were you, I'd tell him that you aren't interested in going out until he has broken up with his girlfriend... Then don't have anything to do with him until he does. (and confirm it from other sources, don't just take his word for it.)
#1 It's crappy of him not to be honest with his GF. If he doesn't like her anymore, he should tell her and call it off with her, period. His not being honest with her is a bad sign that he wouldn't be honest with you if he was your BF.
(I can't tell you how many stories I've heard of mistresses going out with married men for years and years because "he hates his wife and they are going to get a divorce and he's going to marry me." but years pass and it never happens. DON'T fall for that! If you still want to have anything to do with a wanker like that, make him leave FIRST!)
#2 It's also possible he may want to have something "lined up" before he breaks up with his GF, which means he plans on staying with her until "something better" comes along. So he's basically using her at this point, like a crutch, while he waits to have another girlfriend lined up that he can jump over to. If this is something he would do to her, it's something he might do to you.
Bottom line, always look at the way they treat their previous/current girlfriends/wives. The way he treats them, is most likely the way he will end up treating you. If he's not being honest with them, he won't be honest with you, and you deserve better than that.
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