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Am I pushing them away?
Well how can I put this..
First of all I'm 14/F. I've never had a boyfriend. Maybe you could tell me if this is why..
Well I've like MANY guys. And some have seemed like they've like me too. For example, there's this kid that I "like" (you'll understand the quotes in a minute), and it kind of seems like he likes me too now. But now that he is kind of flirting with me, I'm starting to not like him now. What is this?!? It REALLY confuses me. I don't know why I am like this, can anyone explain?? Before the guy started flirting a little bit with me, I definately wanted him to like me, no doubt about that. Of course I did, cause I liked him. But now that it seems he likes me..I'm kind of avoiding him. Am I afraid of a relationship? I feel as if I will never have a boyfriend because of this reason, and it makes me sad & confused. Please help?
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This has actually happened to me once before.
Maybe its because you just wanted the satisfaction of know they liked you and that you could get them to like you...subconciously,of course.
Or maybe its because that when you realize they like you, you get shy because your not sure if your ready for a commitment or boyfriend yet...
I hope that helped!
~Long Lost Heart
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hun you have got to get your priorities straight ! so the questions is - do you want to have a boyfriend or not ? you are probably scared of him flirting back with you because maybe your worried that something will go wrong. my question is - why are you scared of this ?! why dont you like flirting or being with him ? but if you ever end up in a relationship with him and things move too fast, be like "yo . take a chill pill." - it always works with my science teacher !!
haha well xoo i hope this helpss !! ♥
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im 14/f too and i am tha same way w/ guys. I will like them soo much but then when they talk to me and flirt w/ me i dont like them anymore and they seem almost annoying. Its normal and its probably bcuz you want what you can't have thats why i feel that way anyway so maybe its the same reason for u. jus dont worry youll find a guy someday that youll feel differently about and youlll like him even when he IS payin attention to u. good luck hun
<3 Rachel<3
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well, yeah. I've been in this position before. You think that you really like this guy, and then the feeling totally disappears. Completley. And you feel disgusted to be around him. You're not afraid of a relationsip, but I can definetley tell that you just haven't met the right guy yet. When you do, you won't feel the way you do. I didn't figure that out and just ignored the feelings, which led into bad relationships. You'll meet a guy who you don't feel that way with.
Nothing's wrong with you.
And not having a boyfriend isn't the world's biggest disaster either.
You wait until you find the right one.
Good luck sweetie.
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Hmm...maybe the better question would be if you are pushing yourself away. No offence, but it seems like you probably wouldn't be willing to give yourself a chance with a guy, whether you had feelings for him or not. You should devote time to yourself to sort your feelings out. Ask yourself questions and any you can think of: write them down.
What kind of questions? Questions that will help you see things like why you like him, what you do like him for, what you don't like him for, how your feelings have changed for him, etc. So keep a list of the questions you ask yourself so if you need to you can add more and go back to the questions if you are in a similar situation again. I think that might help you see more clearly how it is you feel about him, and not how you want to feel about you and the guy [sorry if that doesn't make sence].
Don't be so hard on yourself, because if it is because you are afraid of a relationship - thats only natural. Wouldn't you consider it foolish not to be and just jump into anything and everything without thinking about it? People sometimes get hurt when they don't think things through. Don't feel as if you will never have a boyfriend - you are only 14 and still have too much of your life ahead of you. Well hope that helped and good luck. Drop 1 in my inbox if you want more help or anything else explained.
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Well, I think that since you've never had a boyfriend you don't really know how to act whenever a guy likes you. Maybe you are afraid of a relationship, but probably because you don't know what to do or how to act or what to say or when to do certain things, but don't know when to do them. The only way to learn is for you to get out there and learn. That's how I did it. My first couple boyfriend's to learn the in's out's do's and dont's! Don't worry about it.
♥Paige
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Yeah maybe you're afraid. I think you want a guy that plays hard to get. But don't avoid him though, if you like a guy and he likes you, go for it. Just try going out with someone and if you aren't ready just break up with them and tell them that. I think they would understand...
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