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Alright well me and this kid have gone out twice fer about 2 months each tyme and we kinda broke up fer a month and we both went out with different people! so then he asked me to hang out with him and we hung out all this week and it kinda leaded to us having sex.. but i didnt think it was a big deal becasue he always tells me he loves me and stuff but everytime were together his ex-girlfriend calls him and it really makes me mad and then he kinda tells everyone were just friends but then he tells me were in love but i dunno what to do?
It sounds like he's using you. Why else would he tell everyone you're "just friends"? If you think he just doesn't want to be open about it, ask him about it, or just go out with him in public so people realize ur together. But if he cant tell everyone your his gf, then something is up.
well im 15 and i dated this guy about a year ago and we broke up cuz he cheated on me. well not physically but he talked to sum girl over the phone told her he loved her and mad panns to hook up with her..while we were going out.(which never actually happened)..well its been about a year...we stayed friends but not very close..and he wants to go bac out...should i try again or let him go?..he broke my heart once do u think he wll do it again? is he telling th truth that he really care...or does he just want sex? why did he wit so long?...theres so much that i dont understand..help plez
It seems to me that he doesn't seem very trustworthy. If he was gonna cheat on you before, there's no gaurantee he wont do it again. An he can say he didn't mean wat he said to the other girl before, but then what he's saying now he might not mean. If that makes any sense. If you think you can trust him, and want to try it, it's your choice, because you know him better than i do. But to me it sounds like he's using you. I hope everything works out.
ok, i have a really good friend of another race that i had no doubt at all was gay. he was always checking out other guys and stuff so of course..duh, i thot he way gay. so we were really good friends and then all of a sudden he told me the DAY BEFORE april fools that he had had a really bad crush on me since the beguinning of last year. k, it TOTALLY threw me by suprise b/c i thot he was GAY!! so ne ways i though he was joking cos the next day was april fools but he wasn't kidding at all!!! so he kept stalking me and wouldn't leave me alone. he would always be like "have you though about it yet, you're taking FOREVER!!" but my mom just got home from the hospital from a really stressful and long-recovery surgery and she JUST now started walking. so i've been distracted obviously with my mom. so ne ways i was doing this filming project for school and he was stalking me the entire time. we were filming and he'd just be standing there looking around doing nothing, watching what we were doing when we all asked him to leave like 30 minutes ago, but he wouldn't leave. so finally we finished the project and i needed to change out of this crazy costume i was in so i told him "hey, i need to change into my regular clothes." an he just tood there starring at me, then he goes "well then?" like i was ACCTUALLY going to do it in front of him! so i told him he needed to go outside and he was all pissy about it. so then while i was changing i saw him STARRING AT ME THROUGH THE WINDOW WHILE I WAS CHANGING MY TOP!! oh my gosh it was so horrible! i felt so violated! and he's still been stalking me and saying "hey, how's your day?" to me in the hallway like we're going out even though it should be pretty clear to him that we're NOT!! so how do i tell this guy to get lost and leave me alone? i don't want to hurt his feelings, but then again he was starring at me while i was changing so i kind of do. ne suggestions? what should i say? i rate high
What you could do is, the next time he asks you about it just be like, yeah, i dont think we should go out. If he asks why, just say he's been invading your privavcy, and you need some space, and that you dont like him like that. I'm soo sorry for what happened, it sounds terrible! I hope you can work it out!
okay. me and one of my Ex's broke up 7 months ago! And now,, one of my friends asked him if he still likes me, and he said "well....it was b'cuz of baseball...." (that he broke up w/ me)And never really answered her question.
Since then, hes been staring at me in the halls. And flirting w/ me. Just not talking to me.
Do he still have feeling for me or what?
it really confused!!!HELP
It sounds like he does. But do you still like him? If baseball is over, or w/e it was you guys broke up over, you might get back together if you wanted.
Ok well I was the one who asked the question about my boyfriend got shot and is now in a coma and might die! Well he did die! I slit my wrist one night I cry my self to sleep every night And I hate my life I used to be a prep but now I have gone goth I guess skipping classes and crying! I went to his funerl and saw him in his casket I just broke down right then and there I fell down on the ground and cried I refused to get up for about an hour and I went bye him like you all said and spent his last hours alive with him but it wasnt good enough he still died. I left the funeral and just went to his house (his parents were at the funeral) and went in his room and cried I swear I smelled him and saw him for 2sec then I just cried! What will I do?
I have to say i don't know how you must feel. I know you're feeling terrible, but even the other people who have gome through it with you haven't been hurt as much, becasue they weren't his gf. But I can imagine. A guy at my school, Bryson, just died a week ago. He ran into a fence in a motocross race and was killed instantly. I know you feel terrible, and don't think that you can move on. You have to. Do you think this is what he would've wanted? I know, I know, it's what they always say, like in those cheesey tv shows, but it's true. If he was watching you right now, he wouldn't want you living like that. He wouldn't want you cutting yourself and skipping classes. I mean, your shouldn't act like his death never happened, but maybe it happened for a reason. Maybe it was to show you how, no matter what life throws at you, you have to get back up and fight. Live life the way you want to, do everything you've ever wanted to do in life, becasue you don't know how much time you have left. Talk to a therapist, or your friends, or some one who went throught the tradgedy too. It's good to remember him. Think of all the time you DID get to spend with him, and dont think about all the time you have to spend without him. Life is going to go on, whether or not you are ready for it. You have to get back in the game, as they say, and keep on living, becasue your bf would not have wanted you to turn into this. He of all people would know how short life can be, and would want to make sure that for however much time you have left, you make it good. I'm terribly sorry about your loss, words cannot express how tragic that is, but you can't bring him back. I'm sorry. If you need more help, im me (for aim) at inflamedllama.
Tonight I'm going with a few friends to see a scary movie. My boyfriend is going to try to come behind his parents back to go with me. This one guy that I know who really really likes me is also going, and I kinda like him. What should I do because I'd rather cuddle with my guy friend than my boyfriend. Help!!
If you'd rather be cuddling your guy friend, then you should dump you bf, because your guy friend already really really likes you, and apparently you like him back.
ok, so this is the deal..i met this wonderful guy this summer, but he has a GF. Anyway, we spent 6 weeks together and we made out, held hand and all that (IT WAS WONDERFUL!) please dont tell me what i did was wrong, i know it was but i dont care cuz i love him, i really do. And he's told me that he loves me too. We made a deal yesterday (he's been with his GF for about 2 years, and he says he loves her too) he said, he doesnt want to cheat on her anymore cuz he loves her but if the feeling is right-something could happen between us this summer. And i was like: what do you mean? and he asnwered: well, im gonna have my place all to my self this summer soo..who knows what could happen between us!? ;) anyway, i live in japan and he lives in america so we only see eachother during the summer. Hmm, id ont really know what my question is..im just so cofused..i love him so much, and i miss him..i really dont give a damn about his GF (i know i sound like an evil person, but i really really really love him, i cant help i.)Is there anything i can do to get over him? should i even try to get over him? should i sleep with him? (he's 18 and im 14) what's gonna happen between us? ( sorry, i know you cant answer that question) he's just so amazing i dont know what to do. Alot of guys like me here in japan, but i dont like anyone of them im just soo stuck on joshua.
Help! please?- mariana
First off, you should not sleep with him, because he wont break up with his gf for you, so he'd only be using you. Secondly, there is a four year age difference. Do you really think you can keep your realtiopnship together when he's going to be four years ahead of you? Thirdly, it's not like you see him all that much. He lives on a whole different continent. Not to sound mean, but for all you know, if he does ever break up with his gf for you, he could still be seeing someone behind your back, and you wouldn't know it. No offense, because i would hope that doesn't happen to you, but he sounds kinda like thats what he would do, because he wants to sleep with you, but wont break up with his gf. It just takes time to get over some one. I don't know what you do in Japan, but just keep yourself busy, dont give yourself time to think about him.
I hope I helped and that you meet somebody better in Japan! :)
okay, i had this ex named bradin about a yr ago and we both liked each other but i dumped him for another guy that i went out with. now im startin to like bradin again because we've been talking again. he says he likes me too but has a girlfriend or "has a girl in mind".. he always flirts with me, saying he wishes it was me and everything just doing normal flirting stuff but wont break up with her because he says hes been waiting for her for a long time. whenever i ask him if i have a chance or whatever he says maybe and then when i ask him if theres any point to liking him he says yes but he doesnt know what. i know he has been waiting for this girl but she says that they arent going out but they both like each other. i really want to go out with him but i dont know what i should do or say to him or act around him or even if i should stop liking him. i dont want to stop liking him. he really does act like he likes me and everything but doesnt want to cheat on his "girlfriend"
what should i do!
If he really liked you, he would go out with u, cuz you said they weren't actually going out. Find some one else, and if that doesn't work, maybe by then he'll get the picture. Maybe the emotions youre feeling is just becoming friends with him again, you might not actually be liking him.
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 9 months now and as we all know Valentines Day is really soon but i cant seem to figure out what to get him, i dont want to get hime like cologne or jewlery or clothes, i want to get him something diffrent but i can't figure it out and i really need to figure out soon, can someone please help me out PLEASE.....and please noone say anything sexual.. that isnt a gift.. and its bound to happen anyways..
Hm... you could give him like a stuffed animal with one of those cute sayings or sumthin... or, one girl was making her bf a shirt, like with iron ons or sumthin. You know him better than me, so give him something that goes with his interests. Like, if he likes to sk8board, you could get him a sk8board. Hope I helped!
Ok, So last night (Saturday night) I met this girl (17 bout 4 months younger than me) and we talked, kissed, etc, Then she left and I got her phone number. Well, It's Valentines Day Tonight at midnight, and I was wondering if it would be too soon to ring her at midnight to wish her a happy Valentine? Or should I wait until morning? Any advice within the next 2 hours would be much appreciated! Btw I am 17/m
~Evilenterprisesinc
I think that's really sweet! She'll probably love that, cuz it shows you care! But if it's not her cell, you might wanna wait, like other ppl said. If it isn't, you should still call her later and ask her out. Hope I Helped!
i feel so bad because i never had a boyfriend before. im 15 and ive never had my first kiss, my first time or a boyfriend. nothings wrong with me, some guys have asked me out but i think im just scared of them. i like to flirt a lot, but just flirting is cool with me. there was this one guy that liked me and i liked him and he asked me out and i turned him down but i feel like a jerk for doing that. and everytime i like somebody theyll start to like somebody else and i would try to be friends with there girlfriend so i could feel closer to them. and i just feel like crying on every valentines day because i have no one specail to share it with. and i never told anyone, not even my friends. they don't know. and i never tell my mom anything like this. im afraid theyll laugh at me. and i dont know what to do.
Maybe you just aren't ready for a relationship. It's okay if you haven't had a bf yet! If you really wanted one, do you think you would've turned down thoe other guys?
so okay valentines is coming up i know well there is this guy named skylar and i really like him, well im not sure if he likes me, i mean i dont get to talk to him that much ,and i am afraid to talk to him, but i dont want to say somthing stupid. i am 13/f 7th grade i know younge oh well so if you are gonna say somthing about my age please dont bother posting please, well anyway i want to talk to him so, but what do we talk about..... and how do i find out if he likes me..... and if i find out he doesnt like anyone should i ask him out?! please please help me!!!!! i will rate hi!
If he doesn't like anyone, but considers you his good friend, then he probably doesn't like you, but that might not be true. Have a friend ask him if he likes you, or anyone. If he doesn't like anyone, and you aren't that good friends w/ him, you should definitly go for it! Hope I could help!!
Ok I've liked this guy Steve for two years.. I think about him nonstop, I swear I haven't gone a day without thinking about him, and when I'm not around him, I find myself anxious and thinking about when I will see him next. Steve used to like me, and I thought he still did like me, but now I'm not so sure cuz now I see him flirting with all these other girls and it makes me soo jealous. I feel like I can't be happy with anyone but him. I've been asked out by other guys, but I said no because I only like Steve. And I even had a boyfriend, but I broke up with him cuz I couldn't be happy and I couldn't stop thinking about steve. How do I let Steve know I like him, in a suttle (sp?) way? How do I get him to be mine without scaring him off?
you can do one of a few things. 1. go up and ask him out. 2. have a friend ask him if he likes you. 3. talk to him and see if he flirts w/ you. 4. become friends with him, or 5. go home and cry cuz u dont think he likes you. i would reccomend any but #5. lol. hope i helped. o, btw, it's spelt subtle!
Can long distance relationships really work? i went up 2 CT to visit some family up there, and i met this really cute guy, my aunt's neighbor, and he's my age, and he's really funny and great, but he lives sooo far away. i only go up there like 3 times a year, and ti's not close enough to drive, but i reall y like him. Can this work out?
Talk to him. If you both like each other, it can work. Maybe he can come down and see you sometime. and if it doesn't work, you guys can still be friends
My boyfriend just broke up with me, and i'm really heart broken. what can i do to get over it? we were 2gether for 5 months, if that helps.
Just stay away from him, or u'll want to get back 2gether, and that wont help you at all. hang with ur friends, and become closer with them. try to find the silver lining!
I have been friends with this guy since the end of October.. We talk a lot, and at first I didn't like him "that way" but every day I begin to like him more and more. He has told people that he doesn't know who he likes, or he likes 3 people and I'm at the top of the list. My friend told him that I like him (with my permission) and he sort of just blushed and wouldn't answer any of her questions. If I am at the top of his list, and he knows I like him, why doesn't he just ask me out? What should I say to him? Or should I just wait patiently for him to make a move? Thanks
He's probably just embarassed, because he found out that you like him, and he likes you back. Give him some time. If he doesn''t say anything, have a friend ask him if he still likes u, or ask him out urself, unless hes avoiding u. if he is, then dont, cuz sumthins up. Hope this helped!
i wrote a while ago i need to know how to get his atention even though i only met him once and havnt talked to him since. without all my friends trying to hook me up with him. should i talk to him on aim or when i see him. if i do go up to him what do i say to him. cause i get really nervous around guys that i dont know that good especially if i have a crysh on them. help!
Either start smiling at him, then say hey alot, and then move up to complete sentences, or, what i'd do is talk to him on aim. Be like hey, my friend gave me ur screen name, and then chat with him, it takes off a lot of pressure if u dont have 2 see his face. once you get to know him, it'll be easy. Hope i helped!
okay so im a 16 year old girl who likes a 14 year old boy, I honestly dont care what people think about it, but thats not myproblem. my problem is, i like him a lot, and hes a really friendly guy and i met him not too long ago so yeah but i cant tell if theres anything there yet, like, im friends with his sister, and ill call for his sister to talk to her, and the guy i like will pick up and talk to me too...and i asked his sister if he always does that, as in pick up the phone and talk to her friends at the same time she is, and she said, hes NEVER done that before, so i thought that was really cool, and so yeah, i went to a party at his house yesterday a christmas party and everyyyyone was there, which was a lot of fun, so we were hanging out, and i told his sister that i was gonna put my jacket in her room, so i ran upstairs and 10 girls followed me, and it was really crowded up stairs like REALLY crowded, and then adults came up too so i was like stuck, and my someone opens the guy that i likes door, and he kinda looks out and sees me and then the door closed, you hear him run and open the door and he goes "JENN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and i was like HEYYY! and then we chilled for the ENTIRE night, we were up in his room just laughing at everything possible he was shooting his air soft gun at kids that botherd him we were just being dumb lol, then we went up to his attic thing where he has this HUGE car racing thing set up and everyone was up there, and me and him were talking and he kept on looking at me, a lot, he was just looking at me and stuff, and yeah, so thats how it was the whole night, and then at the very end we were on his trampoline and i had to go so i jumped off cuz he was talking to everyone, and he goes "JENN!" and jumps off and hugs me and then he was like "ill probably see you in a year" and im like " DUDE...SLEEPOVER REMEMBER?!" and he was like OH YEAH! and so yeah, cuz were ALL having a sleep over like 30538304 of us together so itll be a lot of fun but what my question is, is do you think there is ANYTHING there?? because i mean i know you guys dont know him or me, but hes 14 and im 16. I really like him and all and hes just a REALLY nice guy, so i dontknow if hes just REALLY nice and always happy to see me and talk to me on the phone or if he has a lil sumthin for me....oh, and he broke up with his gf 2 weeks ago and he said that he found out that 20 girls like him at his school and i was like "well are you gonna ask one of em out" and he was like " I dont kno, theres this one that i might but i dont know what the concept of it is, like i dont get it* and im like * well...if you want her to be your GF then you ask her to be your gf...if you want her to just go out on a date with you, then you just go out on a date* and he was like * I dont know, they all want me to be their bf* and i was like * well do what you wanna do :) its up to you* and he was liek * yeahh* and so yeah, he still hasnt asked her out or anything so HELP ME PLEASEEE I dont know what i should do, i really like him
Well, do you really like him like him, or his he really more to you like a good guy friends/ little bro? My friend is in a situation like that. She found out that one of her best guy buds is crushing on her, but she doesn't feel the same way, and she didn't know what to do. It sound like he likes you, but do you like him back? The way you keep bringing up the age diff. and stuff makes it sound like you aren't sure. You should think about that.
okay so every time i like a guy, i like him until he starts to pay any sort of attention to me. Like if he starts to act maybe a little interested, I freak out and like stop liking him! I don't know why! Like ever since my last major bf (we were together for 4 months) I've been like afraid or something to like a guy when he likes me back or like have a boyfriend its so weird does anyone have any ideas on how i can like stop whatever it is and why im doing ? ty so much
Ok,you should either a) just remind yourself that you're gonna be friends 1st, and that it might not even get to the pnt where u ask him out, or b) if he starts showing intrest, get up the nerve to ask him out! Hope i helped!
hey... i broke up with my boyfriend but only because he lived so far away and i never got to see him. i still love him and i always tell him that and he says the same thing. but lately when i talk to him it feels like he's trying to make me jelous by saying like "Gwen Stefani looks so beautiful in her new music video." or "Jessica Simpson is so hott." i try not to let it bother me but hes been doing it so much lately i don't know what to say. he probebly knows that it bothers me beacuse he used to say those things to me. i don't really want to let him know that it bothers me beacuse thats proebly what he wants... what should i do?
Next time he says something like that be like: i dont care, or thats annoying, or sumthin, and maybe he'll get the point. Whats the worst that could happen if you tell him that? It might be his own way of finding out if you still like him