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Q: Alright, well, I've never been kissed ( and I'm 15 ).

So I mean, I've been asked by guys ( which I find funny in some weird way and then just put it off ) because I guess I don't want my first kiss to be that way, and tonight I was asked again, and of course, me being me, I said no. And I'm just afraid that's giving guys vibes that I like, hate them or something which isn't true. I just want my first kiss to be special, but lately I'm just like,"God, do it, get it over with, whatever." But I don't know, I don't even really know what my real question is.

I guess I'm just asking for your opinion on things. Like; what would you do if you were me?

I was in the same situation. I was also 15. But I had a boyfriend that I cared about deeply. He and I had been dating over a year before we had our first kiss, because I, like you wanted it to be special. And it was. So don't give up your first kiss just to get it over with. Keep your standards high and your first kiss will be more special than you can imagine.

Q: 19/F

This weekend I'm going to be meeting my boyfriend's parents. We've been dating for a month, and I'm going to be staying there for the entire weekend!

Does anyone have any tips? I really want to make a good impression.

It sounds cliche and corny, and it probably isn't what you want to hear. But BE YOURSELF. First off, no one likes a person that is fake and tries to please everyone. Second, if his parents did like you for something that isn't really who you are, you have to pretend to be that thing for the extent of your relationship. Thirdly, it makes it so much easier to not worry about putting on a show for anyone. So be yourself, be respectful, and be interested in them. Do what they ask and don't get distracted when they are talking to you. I hope your weekend and your relationships turn out great!

Q: soo i told my gf that i love her, and she really did not say it back, she is really shy and all plus i'm her firt boyfrined, so what should i do?

Give her time. She may not be ready to say that yet. She also may not know that she means it yet. It's hard to know what love really is, and it takes a long time to be sure. She probably just isn't sure yet. Be patient with her.

Q: okay so me and this guy met over the net and Ireally really really like him and he really really really likes me too but the problem is tht we live in two wayyy different places and we both want to meet up somewere when were older but the problem is how do I know its really that guy talking to me and not a poser or something?

please reply.

You really can't know if he is real or a fake. There are so many scandals out there, that you can never know for sure. Be careful. I wouldn't suggest dating him or anything, because it would stink to have a boyfriend that you never got to see or hug or kiss. I'm not saying don't talk to him, but I am saying be careful.

Q: okk...so i'm a Christian and i know the Bible says not to like go out with the same sex..and stuff but i like another girl and i don't know how this happened!!!! Soo..I'm not a lesbian i only like one girl am I gonna go to hell or anything??

The fact that homosexuality is a sin was written in the Old Testament, which most people know is overruled by the New. But, it says in the NEW Testament that homosexuality is a sin, so it must be so. It says to stay away from certain things, and that is one of them. If you date someone of the same sex, you are sinning against God. We all sin, but if you live a life of sin, then God will judge you accordingly. It's either God or homosexuality. Not both.

Q: Right, I am not going to give their names for obvious reasons :)
so let's Call Them A B C D E
A is the girl i love, she doesn't want a relationship though i think she's likes me.
B is the girl who is one of my best mates, who really really loves me.
C is a girl who i liked, but then eventually got over, and it turn out now she likes me.
D is first proper girlfriend, who liked me but is now checking someone else, howver, she still says she's in love.
E is a girl I met when out, she likes me, but i don't feel anything for her.

What should I do, because this is messed up ?
Help!

C- Don't put yourself through that again, because it's hard to get over someone the first time, but the second time is even harder.

D- It sounds like that one is over.

E- Be friends with her, but if you're not interested in her, you definitely shouldn't date her.

As for A and B..

A- If you really love her, she is worth the wait.

B- You can't make yourself like someone. Don't hurt her. Just stay good friends.

In the long run, it's up to you. Listen to your heart, and don't just date someone because they like/love you.

Q: I'm going to be 17 in a couple of months.-yet, I've never had a boyfriend, kiss, etc. this is DEPRESSING. and i don't mean to sound conceited..but why are there ..*not as pretty* girls that get alllll the guys?! whhy? i mean, this totally hurts my self esteem-I have like NONE. and i keep it all boiled up inside of me because i don't know who to tell it to because it's embaressing..:(

my other question--well, i like this guy..and it's weird because even when i'm not looking, i can sense when he's near me..and so i turn around. isn't that SO weird? and it's soo weird how like he stands out of everyone..like i can spot him in a crowd? why is that? sorry if my questions are retarded. :\

First of all, looks do not matter when it comes to dating. At least, it shouldn't. You shouldn't let yourself feel low, because you haven't dated anyone. The right guy will come along, if you wait patiently. I personally don't date because I don't want to. Trust me, it's so much easier to not deal with the stresses of having relationships. Also, you definitely shouldn't date just to get kissed. Imagine how amazing your first kiss will be. Embrace it. I wish I hadn't given mine up, and I wish I had never dated before. Think positive. Wait for the right guy.

It isn't weird that you can feel the boy's presence. Everyone has a dinstinct feeling. Also, when you like someone, you can pick them out of a crowd easily. Trust me, it isn't that rare.

Q: First question is: Aren't oppinions the same as advice? Is an opinion just an indirect way of giving advice?

Second question:
I am considering a career in law as a defense attorney. My Xgirlfriend (XGF) said that defense attorneys cannot ethically do their job in the event that their client is in fact guilty if they know that their client is guilty.

She then said that it is incorrect for me, as a personal trainer, to give unsolicited advice to someone who is performing an exercise improperly(assuming that I know the correct exercise).

My XGF says that advice should only be given when asked for.

But she seems to think that a proactive approach is the only ethical solution to an obvious injustice.

My XGF thinks that the attorney example is somehow different from the exercise example. Is she right?

I feel like she has to be wrong since it is not possible to be proactive and wait for a solicitation for advice.

an opinion is what you would do if you were in that position.

advice is an opinion given when asked for.

Q: Do guys like it better if you wear lipgloss when you kiss/makeout with them? I"ll rate i promise!!

lip gloss is sticky and makes a big mess when you make out. but it does attract boys to your lips. i usually wear lip gloss until i know the boy is about to kiss me and then i wipe it/lick it off.

Q: I have a band and my friend just invited the boy i have a major crush in the band and we aren't doing so well is it me or what

makk

so are you saying that you think maybe your band isn't doing so well because you are distracted with your crush there? if so, i completely understand. but you need to realize that you should just be yourself. don't let some boy take your focus off of your passion for music. just make a decision. and if it gets too bad, you may just have to talk to him and tell him how you feel. that you like him so much that you can't focus because he is in the band.

Q: ok. i dont know how to make out. and i need help. dont try to pull off that, use your hand/or go with the flow crap. becuase i need to know what the flow is first. give me the full out instruction of this. i rate HIGH.

--lover939

seriously ALL i know to tell you is to go with flow. follow the guy's lead. let him start off and just go along with what he does.

Q: What should I get my bf for Christmas? There is a Christmas Dance today and I am going with him. I am not sure what to get him. Does anybody have any cute ideas? I was going to give him a kiss (it would have been our first kiss) but he suprised me yesterday before school and kissed me. I want to get him something cute, that he could keep forever. Mabye something that I can make at home. Not a CD because that wouldn't be very special. Thanks =]

if you write, write a poem for him. print it out on pretty paper and frame it. you can add a picture if you'd like. and i gave my boyfriend a mixed cd of songs that remind me of him and he loved him. he got a little emotional too. ;]

Q: okay, so i took your advice and here's what happened... his girlfriend got mad at him, told him that she wanted to break up...he got mad at me and said i needed to stay away from her. then i tried to make them understand by talking to them but they just got annoyed...hum, so now i'm really mad but i don't know why. it might have something to do with knowing that my best friend is desperate for love and she's manipulative...am i wrong? i don't know what to do anymore...everything i do just makes more people mad. like, i told you about me quitting my job and everything...but what really sucks is my managers wouldn't let me quit...they told me they'd keep scheduling me to work and we could figure out what was going on...so yesterday i ended up working until 7. my best friend's girlfriend worked until 8. my best friend wanted my girlfriend to go to one of our school dances but it started at 7:30. so he asked me to switch shifts with her but i wouldn't because i had to go out and get some stuff for my chemistry project. (are you still with me? don't wanna confuse you too much...) she ended up telling the managers a big lie about how her parents are away and the only way she was getting home was if she left at 7. so the managers took my shift and switched it with her. as angry as i am, i can't really do anything. doesn't my life just suck? i figure if i could just get away from the two of them, i'd be okay. the bad part is all my friends are friends with my best friend and work with his girlfriend...what do i do now?

geez. that really is a big problem. you have to ask yourself if it's all worth it. could you manage without your best friend? i'm sure you'd still be able to hang out with your friends because your current best friend is apparently always with his girlfriend. try to find new friends in the process. i'm not saying dump your old friends, i'm saying find someone else to lean on. also, go out and look for another job. it isn't fair that you have to be put in that sort of position. keep your job in the meantime, because you don't want to go broke, but start applying for other jobs.

Q: okay, you probably don't remember me...i have the friend who used me to get his girlfriend and all that other stuff....well, now i've got a bigger problem. his girlfriend keeps saying stuff about me to others. like, my sister told me that she told some people i was trying to hook up with my best friend which is so not true. then she said something about me always hanging out with him. okay, before we had this whole situation, yes, i did hang out with him. we went to see a movie every once in a while and we talked on the phone for hours. but why does that matter? he loves her, not me. i'm not bothered that they're together. i'm annoyed that she makes stuff up about me. and now my best friend won't even tell her to stop. he defends her and says i'm lying about everything. how can i be lying if she posts the crap she says about me online and everything? what do i do? he's always been a good friend, but lately it's just not worth it....

you have to figure out if this is all worth going through. boys tend to change when they get girlfriends.. it's life. and girlfriends get jealous. it probably means that she's worried you might steal him away. and to tell you the truth he probably talks about you a lot. as hard as this sounds, i think you should confront her and tell her CALMLY that you don't like him that way, etc. don't get upset about this, try to resolve it.

Q: i want to get my boyfriend(17 years old) something cute/do something cute for him for christmas but i cant think of anything good. advice would be greatly appreciated.. thanks!

if you write, write him a poem and print it out on pretty paper and frame it.

Q: ok there was this guy i met shopping.
and then i found him like 3 monthes later on myspace.
and now i like him and i dont no if he likes me.
but he has me on 2 on his top 8.
and he said
do you still like me?
and i was like
YES.
and he goes.
do you wanna hang out sometime.
then i said.
definently.
and yeah
he never replied.
i need help!!
please!
i rate 5s for trying!

well, it all depends on how long it has been since you sent him a message. check your sent messages and see if he has read it or not. if he has, and it's been a while since you sent the message to him, send him another message asking for his screenname. so you can talk more.

Q: whats a a way i can surprise my boyfriend. i need something like romantic and sexy a day that us to can just be lost in love. help please!
thank you
always and forever
Daniella

make him dinner. and light the room with candles. when he arrives give him a single red rose. guys like that. just spend time together. any time together will be special. :]

Q: hi, im 18 and my boyfriend/fiance is 22 (we are going to get married, we have discussed it an everything, but he hasnt properly asked me yet...lol) and he lives in New York and i live in Ohio. (i just moved here 2 weeks ago) and we have been together for a while but then i had to move here for a while (family thing long story) and we have been apart for 2 weeks and i miss him like crazy. i used all my prepaid minutes on my cell phone on the phone with him in one week. and we miss each other a lot. he is going to come get me as soon as he can get the money (he is kinda unemployed until he gets a job. another long story) but until then we only have email and phone to communicate. and it is tearing myself and him apart. he mopes around the house and things (his mommy told me) and its all because he misses me. thats why i am going to move in with him, but until then we are 5 hours apart and so deeply in love and everything. but im getting to my big problem here. my freind im living with, her fiance just returned from mexico after a month being gone. so of course they are all over each other, and it gets me depressed, realizing how much i miss my man. how i cant hold him or kiss him right now. and it has me to the point where i cant even look at the two of them when they are together. i have spent all morning crying b/c i miss him and things, is there anythign i can do to ease my pain (other than smoke a lot of ciggys like i have been?)? please help me.

rob a bank. and use the money for gas to go see him. i hope that made you smile. because i don't know what to say except talk to him as much as you can and remember how amazing it will be when you can be together again.

Q: i gave a guy head about a month ago, but now i havn't had my perioid in over 2 months. im 18, just wondering what i should do.. i have never had sex. so help!

well if you're concerned about being pregnant, that just isn't possible. you should know that. if you go any longer without having your period, go talk to a doctor [not specifically a gynocologist]. but don't worry, it happens to the best of us.

Q: Im not allowed to have a boy friend and im going to be 13 they treat me like im two. well i have a bf named chris and i been sneaking him for a LONG time now since i was a little kid we keep fighting and getting back together and fighting and well ne wayz i am sick of sneaking but i love him soo much and i dont want ne thing to happen between us but i am sick of my parents...what should i do.
LoVe,
puppyluv

been there, done that. dating behind your parents' backs just causes a big mess. it's horrible. try sitting down and calmly talking with your parents about the situation. if they still don't want you to date, you shouldn't. trust me, it ends badly.

bio

I'm Katelyn. Not Katie Lynn.

PERSONALITY:
-God comes first.
-I am Pro-Life.
-I put others before myself.
-I'm usually nice.
-I don't cuss and I don't gossip.
-I'm not perfect, but I know God is.

APPEARANCE:
-I'm short.
-I have a mullet.
-I have freckles.
-I change my hair often.
-I have green eyes, not blue.
-I'm usually considered cute.