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can kissing and fingering causes late periods
Don't think so. It might be just in your head. (not saying you aren't late but now it's a big deal because you have been doing something.)
Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed)
Yes and No. In some people's eyes when you have any type of sex you are no longer a virgin. In medical terms yes you are still a virgin.
So my bf & I met when we were both 18 & got together a couple months later. I had cheated on my previous bf with him, but I felt so bad about that I told the very next day (we just kissed,& it turns out to be my current bf's first kiss), & when I told him he asked why. After my first boyfriend & I broke up after 3 months on & off. Less than a month after we'd been broken up, I started dating the guy I cheated with-who turns out to be my steady bf since late 2010. I took his virginity in January 2011, & all was well for a while. Then he started lying over stupid things (where he was, that he had to go home, who he was with-said he was with his friend Kyle, but he was with a girl he "used" to like,& talk shit on me)..or "forgetting" to tell me things, & making the same promises over and over. It doesn't help that he never seems sincere & using uses a sarcastic or mocking tone, & usually extremely critical of me. I do love him so much,& he's my first,& we have had a lot of good times, but I don't know what to do anymore. Help please??
Oh God. This one is hard. I don't want to tell you guys to brake up to soon. I think you guys might need some serious talks with each other and after you guys talk I would get some space. For the sake of both of you get some space.(like if you were living together I'd suggest moving out for a little while or even if you are not living together, it sound like both parties need some space.) After saying everything that needs to be said (like you telling him he is sarcastic/critical. Also mention with him lying about stupid stuff how should you trust him with big stuff?)Make him think about everything that has gone down.
He might be feeling some kind of way towards you and instead of just telling you how he is feeling he is "acting out" for the lack of the right word. Some people instead of telling you they got a problem with you(or a bone to pick) they just start acting really nasty. Don't ask me why. After 3 years of being together you should mean something to him. Meaning after you guys have talked and had some time apart from each other he might be ready to work at what ever is wrong in your relationship . Or maybe after having some time apart you guys might agree it is time to walk(away from each other.) I don't know. I wish you the best. I hope it works out. June
If a guy asks his friends to see if I like him, and his friend tells me that the guy has feelings for me but does'nt want to be in a relationship.. What does this mean? I like realy like him. :/
Probably means he like you enough to get into bed with you but does not want to commit to you. I wouldn't even bother with him
OK i'm a 13 year old girl who lives in Georgia and i just broke up with my boyfriend who is 16 and lives in Illinois.
He was willing to cheat on me with my best friend. My best friend and I, were asking him questions to see if he wanted to be with me or my best friend. He wants to be with both of us, but my best friend doesn't really like him anymore, but its just the fact that he would be willing to cheat on me with her, which makes me so angry.
I was already really pissed at my best friend's little brother the other day. So my boyfriend was basically adding fuel to the fire, which was making me really mad and i didn't second guess myself. I cussed him out and I was so pissed I didn't have time to calm myself and think straight. I cried my eyes out last night when i broke up with him, and now I AM second guessing myself... I want to get back with him, but i'm so worried he will cheat on me... I've already sent an apology text, and he hasn't answered yet... I'm going to try to get back with him, so my question is:
How can i make sure he won't cheat on me, and how can I make sure we can be together for as long as possible?
Because i really do love him... please help! :'(
You are dating a boy THREE years older then you who does not even live in the same city as you??!!!
Okay I over that now let's get back down to it. Does he know that you are so much younger then he is? If so he might try to take advantage of you. It normal to see red and not think very clearly if you are that mad(and you have the right to be.) I think it best to stay broken up. He's willing to cheat on you!! It not like he cheated and now is sorry and wants to get back together. Then is that was the case I would say proceed with caution. But he still willing to cheat on you. With you best friend no less!He need to mature and see he can't have too girl at the same time He is a teenaged playa or (how ever you say it.) I hope you can see that see my point. Just like a woman can come between two best male friend and make them best enemies the same goes for two girls. I sure you don't want a boy (who a little more then obviously no good) too come between you and your bff.All I trying to say is that I see red flags all over this thing.I would stay broken up.
Might not be what you wanted to hear but hope I helped anyways.June
About 4 years ago I cheated on a guy I know, it was wrong of me but ever since then I've been labled as a 'playa', and I have a boyfriend now for 2 years and people keep telling him I'm gonna cheat on him and just wait and see he'll get his heart broken, but that's the furthest thing from the truth I love him and would never want to hurt him, but what hurts me is that he never defends me, when people say these things he just laughs and takes it and when we fight he says 'yeah I should have listened to those people' is it wrong that he never defends me?
I'm 19 and he's 21
Hi,
I''m 15 and NOT a child but here's my two cents.
Everybody has already said what needs to be said but they seem to have forgot this: you stay with him And then he breaks up with you? that might look really bad.
you might put those people in there place. Don't worry so what you did it once? But you know you were wrong. The only way you can become a true player(or playa)is if you do it over and over...
But what you do is what you do.
What I mean is they should not be able to just go and put there little two cents in. I now see why My mom hates Facebook.
Me and my boyfriend has been dating for about 3 years. His behavior has changed alot and lm confused because I don't kno whether to stay or leave. He used to be open to me and communicate with as well as always be there for me. But now its like he doesnt even care at all about this relationship. We haven't seen each other in almost 3 months as well as have sex with each other in 3 months and we live about 15 minutes away from eachother. Everytime I ask him questions about the relationship he always says "idk" or gets mad I even try to tell him how I feel but I don't think he care about that either. I know he loves me and but his actions shows something else. What should I do? Should I move on or try to work something out?
Time to move on bab. the other guy said it all.
im 17/f. i meet this guy a few days ago, he is amazing. seriously everything ive been waiting for and more, the best thing is he feels the same way. He is very religious but, not that ,that's a bad thing so am i. but last night he told me it would be unwise to date me cause im not catholic. he isnt a virgin and either am i, yet he wants to wait till marriage for sex. im not against that, i actually like it. but he thinks because i dont have the same religious views as him that he couldnt date me, cause i dont have the same views on marriage ( he dates people he intends to marry ) i really like him, and i dont want to be discharged because of my beliefs... what do i do?
Um HELLO??! This guy wants to dump because your not a catholic??! And you want to hold on to him? My Mom is a christian and I think I might be one my self. But I would still date a catholic. But don't feel bad I have meet a few catholic. I'm not saying ALL are like that but some think that it's there way or no way. And that if your not a catholic they think that they should not even talk to you. I should know.... I know a very bitchy catholic family that lives down the street from me.To bad that there big jerks because one of there son it really cute :)
Any way if he does not want you don't feel bad. You can do better. But if he says sorry and want to give it a other shot that fine if you want to. Good Luck
P.S.
I'm going to give you a red warning sign. Talking about sex and marriage only a few days after meeting needs a red warning sign.
is it necessary to have sex before wedding??? does it help in maintaining strong bond between two???
No! If you want to wait till after the wedding to have sex that's fine. If you want to do it before that fine also. Just make sure that he\she is not pushing you into it. When it happen it should be enjoy able to both of you. Not one doing because the other says so or they think it will help maintain a strong bone. If you feel that your not ready and the other person it so unhappy it to the place where he\she is ready to leave you there not right for you.
i went on a date with a really cute and older guy.
we got drinks- the first one he paid for and the second he culdnt afford and had to awkwardly ask me to pay for it myself.
he didnt mean anything by it it was a honest he couldnt afford to buy mea drink! hes a waiter and doesnt have a lot of money at moment, so its understandable- however i am still turned off.
OTHER than that we had an AWSOME time but i cant get over how he couldnt afford to pay for my 8$ drink.
i told him it was werid and he owes me.
am i weird for thinking this is such a red flag? i really like him but im insulted by how he asked me to pay!
I don't mean to be rude but you both are over doing it. Okay he could not buy you a 8$ drink. Is this the first time? If so you should leave it be. Now if he does this again THEN that when you should start talking. And a 3 time. Stated looking for some one else. But for a first time he did that I think you are over doing it. Only because he's a waiter I'm a saying that. If he had a better paying job then I would be saying you tell him off girl!And if you most say something let it be something like: I like men who plain there money. I did not like what you did with your money the last time. I hope you plain better this time because I did not come with plains to pay. For ANYTHING!
Waiter do not get much. Most of then only get payed what there tip. Some might get 10$ a week or something like that. So when you said you under stand I don't think you did. I'm not saying you don't have the right to be turn off(a little)I'm just saying..if this is the first time this is not a "red flag" .
Okay, well I am a 13 year old who is really developed. So I went to a water park and me this guy named Jordan. Well, I didn't even know him before today. So a couple hours after I met him, we started to hold hands. But, Jordan wanted more than holding hands. He wanted to kiss me. Well, he kept trying to talk me into it. He tried touching my boobs to get me to do it. Well, I ended up doing it. He was a good kisser....................... But I want to know if it sounds like he just likes me for my boobs and butt. Or if he really likes me. Please help me figure it out! Thanks a lot! (:
he is more in to your boobs/butt then you. If you see him again I would not talk to him.I think that every one who answer this question think that he was moving WAY to fast for the first day.Boobs touching should not start till the 6th to 8th mouth. You need to get to know whoever your with at the time a little better. This boy was to get to know your body not you a little better. And always remember: No mean's no. Not a boy you want to be with if he try's to go on after you have said NO.
Hey everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and 3 months and I know you hear people say this all the time, but I really do love him. A while ago we got into a political discussion about electric fences around the perimeter of countries to keep out immigrants. I disagree with this idea and made this known to him. He however, said he thought it was a good idea. When I asked him if it was right for a child to innocently attempt to get into the country, get shocked and die, he responded 'you have to crack some shells to make an omelette'. This really shocked and upset me.
He has quite a dominating father and two brothers which he's always had to compete with. He is also a little insecure from some childhood difficulties. These reasons are why I think he might be saying things like this as part of his tough guy act.
However, I have an obsessive personality and I just want to feel better about this because the topic is very central to my personal beliefs, and although I love him unconditionally, it would tear me up to think he believed in such atrocities.
He's a loving boyfriend and wonderful person and has always been there for me. What are your thoughts on the situation and what should I do?
Like she said you might just want to let this be. If I was in your shoes I'd be upset to. But this is just what he thinks right? He not in over seeing this(meaning he can't really do what he think)right?As long as he can't do any of this or hurt any one just leave him be. However if this is his "tough guy act" you need to make him drop it. He should not have to act tough guy around you..let him know that. I believe in being real with one an other. I'd like to know what he really thinks when he not putting on an act. You know him better then I do so you should try to see if it an act or not.If it is you know what I think. If not leave it be.If I have something to say I'm going to say it, I don't know about you but I some time like to go out of my way so we don't fight.
Hope I help,
June
my cousin is 10/f
she has 2 flippin' bfs!!!
i told her that she is to young to date and that she should break up with at least ONE bf. but she said she and her friend are sharing both of them and that she loves them both!
i dont know what to even say to her now,she young and she thinks that if i have a bf,am 14 btw, than it is ok to for her to have one.but she is very competitive! so now she has two!!!
any advise will be very greatful as soon as you can!
thanks!!
Like the other guy said..if she learns now and get hurt now when she your age and face with bigger things(like sex) she think back now and will be more likely to wait in till she ready.(and at 10 she not ready)However you don't want to get her too hurt because what we are when were kids help makes as up as we get older. So there for maybe just one boy friend for her to learn?(make sure that is the boy friend not just friend) Tell one of the boys about the other boy. Boy's like to be the one and the ONLY one. No matter if he;s 10 11 12 or so on.So with out saying one of the boys will make her take her pick. Try to set with the boy that you think would be more likely to fall.(try so it does not come out that you did this..I think you know why) This my sound mean but would you have her hurt by two boys or one? If this does not work that mean the boys are fine with thing now and you can not do anything(I don't thing that you she tell her Mom or Dad. This can be a learning thing)You most likely want to slap me. Put when you cool of I hope I help.
am 12 he 13. he wants sex, but i told him i was scared, he respects my response,but he keeps saying that he 'wants to fuck me bad.' the more he says it i want to, but am 12 dont know what to do.some advise???
If you said no then that what you mean.Tell him that if he doe not stop you will break up with him. If you were really ready for sex you would not be asking us. Wait instill you 18. maybe you be ready then. But only you know when you really ready. That's not now.
ok so.. im 14 , girl with light brown hair, light blue eyes, average weight, i wear glasses, people say i have a beautiful smile....i smile alot... i like this guy (14) .we have been friends for 2 years or so now we just see eachother in school. nothing has happened between us. i have started to like him A LOT but the problem is he is a total man whore and loves sluts,he also smokes. i dont really know if he likes me, but i always see him looking at me while we are in class and he is always teasing me in a fun way, my friends say he likes me but i dont know. i dont think he would ever like a girl with glasses..... does he like me too, and if so should i go out with him even though he likes sluts and smokes?
Here a nice little warning:DON'T DATE HIM!!!!!!!
Like the other person said you heading down the wrong path. I have seen first place the same thing happens and both bad and good relationships. You will start picking things up from him with out thinking. That's why you can't be friends with the wrong people.He has bad thing that would not be good to stat doing. Stop talking to him. stop joking with him just stop! I don't mean be rude to him. But he the wrong gut to date. Start looking at other guys.
P.S.
It sad to think that for a sec you would even think about dating a guy like him. You should go for more then him.
Ok so from November-March I dated this guy named Brendan, he was my first boyfriend ever and he is really sweet and funny and a gentleman and so nice and cute and he is practically like the total package. I broke up with him in March and decided I just wanted to be friends. A week later, this guy named Ryan asked me out and I said yes because Im nice and I dont want to reject people because I know what it feels like to be rejected so I didnt wanna make him feel bad. He was kind of the player-ish type and all my friends hate him, and told me that he would only hurt me. I didnt believe my friends when I should've. I broke up with him after he started flirting and cheating on me with other girls. He thinks we're still friends like me and Brendan though =/ Brendan and I reccently started talking more and I think I might like him again, I broke his heart though and I dont want to fall for him and have him break mine. Im scared to talk to him now... =/ I already created a bad reputation by dating Ryan... Help? I want to be his friend but I think Im falling for him again.
You never should have broke in the first place with Brendan(I hope that's not his real name and if it is never put a real name online.)I think that you need to talk. Tell this Ryan were you feel you friendships is. And from how your talking I take it that you don't want to have a friendship at all so tell him that. And don't tell him in around about way.... you want to make this clear so he can let you be. Tell it nice but truthfully. If he still does not stop tell your Mom Dad or whoever you have in your life that can put him in his place. As for Brendan ask if you two can go back to girl friend boy friend.And if he ask about Ryan tell him you just did not want to make him fell rejected(by the way never go out on a date just so you well not make a guy fell rejected.You can't worry so much about other people. Just don't be rude about it.)He might want to stay just friends. A break up hurts and well take time to make it better. Just like Ryan and you if Brendan does not want to be gf bf again back off. When he want to he well make the moves... he might still be hurt by you. Hope I helped.
Hey! I'm 13/female.
Last fall I dated this boy who we'll call J.(male/15), I knew him for four years before we dated,we broke up in December and got back together in January,broke up a week later. Last friday he asked me if I still liked him,I said I did,he told me he still likes me also but the next day he was talking to my bestfriend and said he thinks i'm too inmature and I saw him that night and it did NOT look like he was interested in me,(i'm just about in love with him btw) i've been talking to his bestfriend who we'll call O.(male/15 also),and it turns out his bestfriend likes me,O. asked me out and bad thing is that I've always been attracted to O.,I said yes and I think I messed up, O. say's J. still likes me. Here's the bad part, O. and J. are bestfriends,they both like me,I both like them, I dated J. and am now dating O.(not even 24 hours since he asked me out), O. is afraid of J. getting mad and thing is I like J. more, if I break up with O. though he could have hard feelings towards me and persuade J. to get over me, if I don't J. may never talk to me again though :P do you have any advice?! ALL IS APPRECIATED! Thanks for reading! -T.
For one thing stop use things like O,T and J. It makes it herd to understand. Just make up fake name like billy or something. I really think that you should try and go for J.Two reasons. One you like him more. Two you don't want a guy who would try to make j break up with you over his own jealous. So yes I would go for j. No one like a green guy. Good luck.
My boyfriend is flirting with this girl that i really hate .. What do i do? he's doing it infront of me and crap and im pissed but not showing it.. Its awkward and weird and ugh! What shoudl i do?!?!?!?? Grrrr...
I think you should dump him because flirting to the beginning of cheating.No girl(or guy) should put up with that. And if you talk to him about it and he stop's then that might just been a way to get you mad. Maybe ( I would not but it up to you) give him an other time. That's IF he stop's. Just adding my two cent's. The other are right so you don't really need me.
Hey, I'm 20, my boyfriend is 19. We've been dating for a year. When I first met him I knew he was no good. I knew he was doing a lot of drugs but he told me that was his "past" and that he was ready to stop and move on. Our relationship was OK, I hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years since my last boyfriend had been emotionally & physically abusive. My current boyfriend had a friend named Maria. I never liked her. She was always about the drugs, sex, and raves. I knew they were best friends but she was always trying to convince him to do drugs and I really needed him to stop. So I told him to choose. Either he picked a future with me or drugs with her. He said he picked me. Throughout the 2011 year I learned he was occasionally still doing drugs and talking to her. I flipped out & we'd break up. But only for a few days. The 2012 year had been going amazing for us though. He seemed as though he had changed and he was treating me so kindly. Then Maria contacts me and tells me she had sex with my boyfriend in 2011, we had broken up for 3 days, and he had sex with her. This tore my world up. I knew something was up and every time I asked him he would deny it. A few days ago he finally admitted to it. He told me he had been on drugs and wasn't thinking straight and he was "heartbroken" so he went looking for her and it happened. Then he said after wards he was so disgusted with himself that he didn't want to see her ever again. But he did. Like 3 more times. These 3 months have been great. But last year tore me apart. So now, I don't know what to do. Do I stay because I love him or do I leave because he never respected me to begin with. Oh yeah, he got syphilis from her & gave it to me.
He's hook on drug's and her. You made him pick. He pick you but has not been true to you. So why stay(other then the fact that you love him) if you stay I'm 99.9 sure that he's going to hurt you again. How muck can your heart take? Leave now so you will not have to know how far you can go.
Let's say you are in long distance relationship with your gf/bf for a year and one day that person you love cheated on you because he or she got drunk at the party and made out with someone. Would you forgive them and give them second chance or move on?
I really do agree with Zane. If the someone really cared about you he/she would have made sure to do whats right. I don't really take "oh bab I was drunk" and "I did not mean to" for a good reason.