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he never defends me
About 4 years ago I cheated on a guy I know, it was wrong of me but ever since then I've been labled as a 'playa', and I have a boyfriend now for 2 years and people keep telling him I'm gonna cheat on him and just wait and see he'll get his heart broken, but that's the furthest thing from the truth I love him and would never want to hurt him, but what hurts me is that he never defends me, when people say these things he just laughs and takes it and when we fight he says 'yeah I should have listened to those people' is it wrong that he never defends me?
I'm 19 and he's 21
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I'm not sure if your married or not...but what I do know is FORGIVE AND FORGET. If he has really forgotten about what you did...then he shouldn't be bringing it up so much. This shows that he doesn't trust you yet. Try not to give him reasons for getting mad at you. And if your not, then maybe he's the one that needs to change things don't you think?
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what you should do is ask him is he going to believe other people or his girlfriend for 2 years.. tell him if you was going to cheated on him you would have been done it because it's been 2 years tell him that your dedicated to him and that you love him and tell him that the past is the past that was 4 years ago and now your looking at your future.... and if he still doesn't believe you .. Then it's NOT ment to be......
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I think that if u would really loved him you would not cheat on him the second think is that you have To be
strong and try to defend your own. Self he's not gonna be there for you forever one day in life you have to learn to be strong and don't let people to get to your head if he laughs with theme he's no different than they are but abviesly you are cause you get hurt so I suggest show them that you're strong and free and you don't need no one to protect you cause you can take care of your self good luck all the best
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Hi,
I''m 15 and NOT a child but here's my two cents.
Everybody has already said what needs to be said but they seem to have forgot this: you stay with him And then he breaks up with you? that might look really bad.
you might put those people in there place. Don't worry so what you did it once? But you know you were wrong. The only way you can become a true player(or playa)is if you do it over and over...
But what you do is what you do.
What I mean is they should not be able to just go and put there little two cents in. I now see why My mom hates Facebook.
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Yes, it's wrong. If he agrees with what these people are saying, then he shouldn't be dating you. Why is he with you if he thinks you can't be trusted?
You cheated on someone If the guy you cheated on doesn't want to forgive you by now, that's his privilege, but it shouldn't be anyone else's business.
I'd give your boyfriend an ultimatum. Tell him that if he doesn't start standing up for you, or if he continues to bring up this event in your past and use it as a weapon against you, then you will leave him. Then, if necessary, do it.
You made a mistake. But it happened when you were FIFTEEN. You were still practically a child. It's not like you were married to the guy you cheated on, and it's a mistake that lots of people make. You shouldn't be forced to suffer for it years later at the hands of people who weren't even hurt by it, and that includes your current boyfriend. "Caring about your feelings" doesn't seem to be a big priority for him. You should seriously reconsider whether you want to be dating this guy; you can almost certainly do better.
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Trust your heart . To me , past is past and the people around who don't have any right to tell your man that you're gonna cheat on him and I don't know why , it's kind of unfair for your man also to bring that up . He should've given you comforting words that he trusts you or whatsoever but sometimes , we just don't know how a guy thinks . On the outside , they may not even utter a word but deep inside only God knows . However , if you're in a trouble and your guy still won't defend you , then you need to tell him how you feel honestly . For how long will the question disturb you ? So at certain times , be brave and stand up for yourself as long as you're sincere and truly loving :))
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