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waiting till mariage
im 17/f. i meet this guy a few days ago, he is amazing. seriously everything ive been waiting for and more, the best thing is he feels the same way. He is very religious but, not that ,that's a bad thing so am i. but last night he told me it would be unwise to date me cause im not catholic. he isnt a virgin and either am i, yet he wants to wait till marriage for sex. im not against that, i actually like it. but he thinks because i dont have the same religious views as him that he couldnt date me, cause i dont have the same views on marriage ( he dates people he intends to marry ) i really like him, and i dont want to be discharged because of my beliefs... what do i do?
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Um HELLO??! This guy wants to dump because your not a catholic??! And you want to hold on to him? My Mom is a christian and I think I might be one my self. But I would still date a catholic. But don't feel bad I have meet a few catholic. I'm not saying ALL are like that but some think that it's there way or no way. And that if your not a catholic they think that they should not even talk to you. I should know.... I know a very bitchy catholic family that lives down the street from me.To bad that there big jerks because one of there son it really cute :)
Any way if he does not want you don't feel bad. You can do better. But if he says sorry and want to give it a other shot that fine if you want to. Good Luck
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I'm going to give you a red warning sign. Talking about sex and marriage only a few days after meeting needs a red warning sign.
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I'm afraid I have to agree with what flare has already said.
He has already given you his views on who he feels he should be dating and looking to have as a wife and mother of his children. These thoughts are not something he suddenly came upon of his own thinking. These are ingrained almost from birth as they reflect not only his religious view but that of his family. Being of different religious views he will never bring you home to his parents and without their blessing he will never marry someone of different religious views.
My advice is that since you only met a few days ago that you let him go his own way and you yours. Before you fall further for him and be hurt by any break up that will eventually come for the two of you.
I think it is horrible that bigotry still plays such a role in peoples lives today. It is a shame that you have to suffer a hurt because of it. But it is also a learning experience that bigotry is not reserved for just people of color or immigrants. Religious bigotry has been around since almost the dawn of religion.
I'm truly sorry if you have suffered a hurt from his bigoted thinking.
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Hello,
You met this guy a few days ago, and you're already speaking about sex and marriage?
I think you may be getting ahead of yourself slightly.
You say that you really like him, but I think you should move on already.
This guy is clearly bigoted. Religion, race, creed etc shouldn't make a difference. If he feels that he can't date someone who is not the same religion as him, then that says more about him than you.
My advice? Move on. Meet someone else. Be friends with this fellow if you must, but it won't work as a romantic relationship.
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