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so first off im 15/f
my boyfriend asked if it would be ok if he fingered me and i really dont know im a virgin and my friends all tease me about it but ive always been kinda proud of it but i am completly in love with him we have been together 5 months please help asap (link)
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There's a motto that goes around on Advicenators that goes something like this: "If you have to ask, don't do it." If you're ever unsure about anything in a relationship, don't do it.
Tell your friends to buzz off, that you have enough pride and security about yourself that you're in no rush for anything. Let your relationship take its own course between you and your boyfriend; it has nothing to do with your friends so they should mind their own business.
I was just like you when I was 15. A virgin in every way and VERY proud of it. It's not even a big deal so I don't know why kids these days make it such an atrocity if you haven't gone to "second base".
IT'S YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Do what you want. Don't ever feel pressured by your friends or boyfriend or anyone else for that matter. If your boyfriend is pressuring you (in the future), you need to break it off with him because all he wants is sex and not a relationship.
So, my advice to you is don't do anything yet. Just wait, you have plenty of time.
I hope I helped!
Jackieee
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I don't know if I like this guy or not, hes one of my close friends. we were playing around and I ended up on top of him and grinding. I'm haven't had sex and neither has he, but He wants too. I'm not ready yet but I don't want to stop what we are doing. I don't want a relationship, just the action. This sounds slutty, but he is okay with it that way too. Should we keep fooling around or not? (link)
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If you don't know if you really like him or not, then I say maybe it's something you might not want to get into further.
Before you think you want to have sex with him, I want to warn you (unless you're absulutely sure you'll have no emotional attachment to him afterwards) that there's a solid chance you'll get attached. If he's your first, it may be bound to happen. If I were you, I'd wait until the perfect guy for you came around so you won't regret anything. But that's just me. However, if you do decide to have sex with him, remember to be safe and use a condom...don't want any pregnancy scares.
Buuut on the other hand, if you're having a fun time with him and want to keep things how they are...then I say keep fooling around, but maybe just stick to 1st, 2nd, and 3rd base--forget the homerun.
To sum up my advice to you: have fun with him, but only to an extent.
Good luck!
Jackieee
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Firstly. We're both 17.
So my boyfriend had a party last night, and a couple of hours before he went he decided to call me. The call consisted of me asking him if he would please please skip any flirty, snuggly, huggly, kissy dares, because he had been very liberated about that, even when we're together.
His response was basically that there was something wrong with me, that I wasn't all right with that. That "no-one else seems to have that problem but you". Followed by "Why can't I be with you, AND have fun?"
I then asked him how he would feel if I had my lips pressed up against someone elses', and he said he wouldn't mind, which tore my heart out.
He kept repeating "I don't want to ruin everyone's night by chickening out of a dare just because I have a girlfriend", and "why does it have to be either A or B with you..hy does it matter if it wouldn't mean anything anyway."
I'm just very hurt right now, that he doesn't see kissing as a special thing that I only want to share with him, and he replies with "you've been with plenty of people and kissed them too." which is true but only before we got together.
I'm just extremely upset and hurt. Is this normal? Am I over-reacting?
I appreciate any advice/help.
Thank you
Kkytha
17/f/Aus (link)
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Surely, I don't think you're overreacting at all. I would be very hurt, as well.
First off, truth or dare is ALL about those kinds of things...so you should avoid the game in general, unless you want it to end on a bad note with your boyfriend.
The fact that he nonchalantly said he wouldn't care if you kissed another guy in front of him (whether or not if it meant anything), signals to me that he might not value your relationship. And if he is telling you he doesn't care if you kiss someone else, he could be doing the same thing to you, and you might not even know.
His reaction is very suspect and I, for one, absolutely would not trust him. Who knows what he could be doing to you? You need to have a serious sit-down talk with him about valueing your relationship as a couple (and no third parties, whether or not it's just truth or dare) OR maybe you need to walk away from him until he can mature and fully take on the responsibility of a relationship instead of being concerned solely on "truth or dare" which is very childish of him.
Don't let him turn this around on you. So you've dated other guys before and obviously you've kissed but not in a cheating fashion, so what? Your boyfriend is incompetent and he needs to change or you need to get our of your relationship, because it seems to me that he WILL cheat on you (in front of you or not) or HAS already.
You don't deserve this.
Best of luck and I hope I helped.
Jackieee
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Sorry this is long...hope you like novels :P
I was going out with her for 9 months but it was the slowest relationship ever! We enjoyed each other’s company but we were so shy. We hardly ever went on dates and never got very far, it was a bit pathetic really. By the time we got to the point where we could have had a normal, awesome relationship she’d lost interest and we broke up a couple of months ago. Of course we said “we’ll still be friends” but that’s always just the nicest way of saying “I want to break up with you”. Stupidly I took this to mean that we both just wanted a break (that’s how I felt anyway) so it was pretty heart wrenching when she got a new boyfriend about a month ago. I’ve spent the last 2 months trying to get over her, forget her etc but I can’t seem to do it. I spend every moment at home trying to convince myself that it’s over, it’s for the best and I don’t love her anymore etc but as soon as I see her again at school that all goes out the window. I’m always daydreaming about her coming back to me or about how I could have done things better and stuff and then I realize how pathetic it is that I’m still doing this after 2 months, snap out of it and get really angry with myself. Then 10 minutes later I’m doing it again, it’s tearing me apart and becomes a huge distraction (I’m meant to be doing an art assignment right now :P) I love her but I guess I have 2 options:
a) use advice from you guys to move on (realistic)or
b) use advice from you guys to get her back (desired)
Thanks soo much :)
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I know how this feels. As much as I wanted him back the first few months after my break up after dating over a year, there was a point where I realized getting him back was just not going to happened. I had hoped with everything in me that we'd get back together, but I knew it was wishful thinking.
With that, it's a blessing we never got back together because I met a guy (my current boyfriend) who was everything I wanted and more.
I know it feels like you can't imagine yourself without her in your life, but, for the time being, you guys might not be "meant to be". If you were meant to be together, you will be.
Look forward. You might just find someone bigger and better than her, just as I did.
The very best of luck to you and
I hope I helped!
Jackieee
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first off I'm 20/F and he's 19/M
Background information:
we dated in high school (my senior year, his junior year). He broke up with me. Not sure of the reason why. I know, how can you not know? Well believe me, I don't know.
Current situation:
We are both now in college. Me- Junior in college. Him- Sophomore in college.
In October we started talking again. We started talking about our past relationship and why we broke up. We both said that we still had feelings for each other and we'd like a second chance. He had a girlfriend at that time and I said that I couldn't continue talking to him how we were talking since he had a girlfriend, it was not fair to me or his girlfriend. He said he understood that and it wasn't fair but he wanted to still talk to me as friends. So we tried that and it didn't work. We couldn't talk as friends. So I said I couldn't talk to him anymore. So I stopped talking to him which was the hardest thing to do. A week later he messaged me and said he missed me, missed talking to me, and wanted to talk to me. A couple days later he broke up with his girlfriend.
We started talking a lot more after that and things were absolutely PERFECT. He came and visited me at my school and I went to his school a couple times. He's in a frat and he asked me to go to his frat's semi-formal and so I did. Everything was perfect. Things were better than before. We talked all day everyday non stop. He kept saying he didn't know why he broke up with me and he know realizes it was a mistake and he never should have. We hung out over our thanksgiving break then we went back to school and still everything was perfect. We talked all day everyday still and things kept going good. Then we hung out over our christmas break, we got each other christmas presents and we spent new years eve together. I've never been happier. When we are with each other we always have fun, we are always laughing and things are great.
Well, he went back to school 5 days before me and ever since he got back to school he's been short with me, giving me one-word answers. Not really talking as much, not messaging me first like he used to, not calling me babe or baby or anything. Not really saying much to me. I asked him if everything was okay and he said yes. I asked if something was on his mind and he said no, nothing is wrong. I don't want to keep asking that because eventually it's going to make him mad. I'm not sure what happened or if something happened or what I should do. I known you can not force someone to talk to you or force someone to do anything. It has to happen on it's own.
So I guess what I'm wondering is what you guys think is going on? What you think happened, or what you think is happening. And what I should do or what I shouldn't do.
ps: our schools are about 2 hours and 45 minutes away from each other and it wasn't a big deal before. (link)
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I can't exactly tell you what is going on in his head, but I'll try to give you what could be going on.
Firstly, you guys are in college, and 2 separate colleges at that. You have no idea what he's up to and he could be interested in someone else for all we know.
However, he could be in a funk. Like maybe he did poorly on an exam or something along those lines. If he's giving you one word answers or not communicating with you, maybe you should give him a little breathing space. Something could've happened, but he feels embarrassed or ashamed to tell you so he just needs some time for it to roll off his shoulders.
If I were you, I wouldn't really talk to him until he talks to you, that way you know he's out of his little phase and he's feeling better. If he doesn't really heal from this dilemma here, I think he might be interested in moving on.
I can't tell you what's going on; that's his place, but since guys generally don't express their feelings, you may never know. Unfortunately this may not be something you can fix. It's really up to him at this point.
Good luck, I hope things end up how you want them to!
Jackieee
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I'm 16 i have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now, and its gotten to the point where we fight a lot but any time i try to leave him, he talks me out of it, i kinda wanna be with other guys but im not sure, i love him. But i've been talking to this other guy (just friends) and i fell for him, and i just dont know what to do about it because i love my boyfriend, but there;s always that temptation to be with someone else.. HELP! (link)
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You're young and you should experience other guys if you feel the one you have isn't working for you. Of course, if you love him, then maybe you shouldn't leave your situation. We, as advice givers, can't make decisions for you, you have to go with your gut and heart.
Personally, if you were really dedicated to only be with your current boyfriend, you wouldn't be tempted to be with anyone else; and that's because you'd know you have the best. Does that make sense? Like I never and would never picture myself with any other guys because I'm so head over heels with my boyfriend and he's someone who complements me so well.
Think thoroughly about your decision. I have faith you'll make the best of your situation.
I hope I helped!
Jackieee
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im 18..me n my bf we r planning to have sex and i really want to do it2 bt i am afraid wat if i get pregnant? sometimes condoms are not fully the protection and i waz just thinking whats the good thing to do? (link)
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Condoms aren't the only way of contraception here, which is generally what most people think.
Before you engage in sexual activity, I highly suggest you and your boyfriend go through which ways of contraception you should/want to use. With that, no matter how many methods you choose, always use a condom.
If you go onto a local drugstore's website, like CVS.com or walgreens.com, which ever is closest and most convenient for you, you can see what kinds of contraceptions (and condoms too) you can use.
They have many films, gels and foams that females can use. For instance, they have vaginal contraceptive foams which can be used like this: "Insert one applicator full of foam in the vagina no more than one hour before each act of intercourse".
They also have a dissolving contraceptive film, which works like this: "Lasts up to 3 hours! The dissolving contraceptive you both can't feel! Laboratory tested. For prevention of pregnancy. Begins to dissolve instantly. No hormonal side effects. Kills sperm on contact. Sexually enhancing. Contains the spermicide doctors recommend most. What is VCF? VCF is a translucent square of material containing the active ingredient Nonoxynol-9, a widely used highly efficient spermicide. Placed high in the vagina as close as possible to the neck of the womb (cervix), it dissolves into a gel which exerts a powerful contraceptive effect against sperm. It is a potent spermicidal agent used successfully by million of women".
And they also have gels and jellies that work just the same: "For maximum protection against unwanted pregnancy, follow the enclosed directions exactly. Put an applicatorful (about a teaspoon) into the cup of the diaphragm and spread a small amount around the edge prior to inserting diaphragm (see complete, illustrated directions on package insert). Diaphragm with gel is affective immediately and up to six hours after application. An additional applicatorful is required prior to each act of intercourse, regardless of time since last application".
Also, you might not want to have sex while you're ovulating. I've been tracking my period on an online calendar for two years and it has an accurate ovulation calendar which tells me approximately when I'm ovulating. If that might be something you want to try, use www.mymonthlycycles.com.
Last but not least, use the pull-out method. Before he ejaculates, make sure he pulls out of you, just in case. By the way, for whomever may be reading this, this is absolutely NOT a reliable method of not getting pregnant. Girls can most certainly get pregnant from pre-ejaculation, which a guy generally can't feel or notice.
If I were you, I wouldn't use just one of these methods. I'd generally use 3 of the 4 I told you. But most importantly, and I can't stress it enough, ALWAYS wear a condom! No matter what method of contraception you're using.
I hope I helped you!
Be safe!
Jackieee
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im 14 yrs old and i have never had a girlfriend out even got my first kiss. I was wondering what is rong with me?? al my friends have and i havent i feel like such a geek (link)
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Nahh, you're completely normal (: I'm a girl, but first had my first boyfriend and kiss at 16 and I'm your typical normal teenager. You don't have anything to worry about. Just because your friends had girlfriends and first kisses and didn't wait for someone right doesn't mean YOU shouldn't wait for the right girl to come along :)
Hope I helped!
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what should i get my boyfriend for his birthday? we've only been dating 2 months so i don't want to do something too big but he's a really sweet guy and i like him alot. he's into skateboarding and sports and stuff and he's 17. thankss! (link)
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My suggestion would be maybe a DVD or a sweatshirt to a store he likes...gift certificates work also, like the person below me said. But I got my ex-boyfriend a DVD and a sweatshirt for his birthday after going out for 2 months.
Hope I helped (:
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My boyfriend broke up with me ..2 and a half days ago.The only communication we had was a text he sent me the next morning and i responded and he responded one more time and I didn't write back.He's away on a mini vacation right now but I'm playing my cards right and not texting him and giving him space because that's his reason for breaking up with me.I miss him like crazy and I've never been so depressed ever.He told two of my friends(separately) that he's sad and misses me too.I wrote him a two page letter but I don't know when the right time to give it to him is. I don't know if he plans on talking to me when he gets back and I won't see him until school starts again (in like a week) unless we hangout ..which is doubtful.The letter isn't begging him to take me back..it's actually a letter thanking him for all the fun times we had and saying that I miss him and stuff like that.He has some of his stuff at my house and in my locker at school,so should I slip it in there? or wait for him to talk to me first? How should I do the letter? (link)
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When my (now ex) boyfriend and I broke up, I was miserable, to say the least. Throughout our relationship, I would always write him little notes because he liked them and I loved writing them. So once we broke up, I wrote him a 4 page letter that was really very nice. I wasn't begging for him to take me back, but more so of how I appreciated him and loved him. It wasn't cheesy or lame at all.
However, (yes, there is a downside, sadly) the letter did me no justice. I had hoped maybe after he read my hard work of a letter, he would see what he really meant to me and our relationship would come together, and I was wrong. He appreciated my note, but it didn't help me at all like I thought it would.
You mentioned that he's said he misses you to your friends and that is perfectly fine. I don't want you to get your hopes up and think that once he reads the letter, he will come running back, because there are no guarantees. But you should do what you think is right for you. If that means giving him the letter, than so be it. But I just want to assure you that it's not set in stone that he will be adored immediately by the note.
I would either write in the note that he has some belongings at your house or I would tell him in person.
I really hope I helped, good luck :)
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I keep having dreams of me cheating on my boyfriend, a guy that I love with my whole heart and would never cheat on for anything. I think its the lowest thing you could do to someone.
My first dream is of my ex showing up at my door and begging me to take him back and then he kisses me and starts taking off my shirt and I slapped him and started yelling at him. I woke up and thought it was real and I almost started crying but then I realized it was a dream.
The second one was with my friend from college who reminds me of my best friend from home (a girl), personality wise. We were in a conference room meeting with one of our professors with a few other students, then everyone leaves except for me and my friend and he closes the door and we're making small talk and he keeps getting closer. Then he smiles and puts a hand on my cheek and kisses me and I start crying because I feel awful its even happening and I try to pull away but he's holding my head and then he finally stops for a minute but then he tries to push me on the table and have sex with me. I woke up and cried. This time I knew it was a dream but I felt soo bad because these dreams keep happening and I don't know why. I love this man more than anyone before and I don't know what I would do if I lost him. This has to stop. (link)
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Lucky for you, you are not the only one. A dream is just a dream no matter how you look at it.
I browsed wikipedia for you and got some rather interesting information that may be to your use:
There are many common themes in dreams that many people (like you) have, for instance falling in love with random people, situations relating to school (adolescents), being chased or attacked, running slowly in place, falling, arriving too late, and many many more.
It is said that a dream is an interaction between the unconscious and the conscious.
Dreams allow the repressed parts of the mind to be satisfied through fantasy while keeping the conscious mind from thoughts that would suddenly cause one to awaken from shock.
Ferenczi proposed that the dream, when told, may communicate something that is not being said outright.
I personally don't believe dreams mean anything. It's just your brain being imaginative and unconcious. However, many people believe that dreams try and send a message to the dreamer. It may be true, maybe not.
I highly doubt you're going to dream these dreams much longer.
You should definitely try to educate yourself on dreams, it's very interesting and it may help you understand what going in your brain at night. I tried to help as best I could, but I'm not too sure what you were asking, so I took my best shot. I hope I helped!
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Alright, so I've been dating this guy for almost a month now. By the way..i'm fifteen. But yeah I go over to his house and like I'm really starting to like him because he's hilarious and fun to talk to and stuff. So anyways, whenever I go over to his house he always starts taking off my pants and I have to go "I don't want to have sex yet.." and he like groans and says okay...thats okay. But then the next time we hang he does the same exact thing! And it's like this EVERY FREAKING TIME. And it's just like cool your jets, man. I'll let you know when I'm ready. But I still tell him this and he's still trying all the time. That little horndog him. But I keeping thinking...does this give off that he's only trying to get sex? Like common, honestly if I were a guy and I was dating a girl, I wouldn't try having sex with her all the time, every single time, when we're fifteen? Like I know people want to get out of that "virgin" category but commmmon. Most guys atleast ASK! But this just gives off that he only wants sex, should I break up with him?
thanksss guyss. (link)
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Considering it's been 1 month and you're young AND you've even said to him multiple times you're not ready, it seems to me he's just using you. And I'm glad that you're not just giving in and letting him get what he wants...it's girls like you who make me proud to say I'm a girl, you know what I mean? There are way too many girls who give in because they're tired of being a virgin and just do it to "get it over with" AND because they're pressured. I'm glad you aren't one of those girls.
Break up with this guy. I don't know who he thinks he is continuously trying to get in your pants after you've made it clear you're not ready. Dump him. He's definitely not worthy of you.
I hope I helped :]
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15/f
There is this guy I started talking to like a couple weeks ago. I knew who he was before but then out of no where he started talking to me. He is one of my friends but I don't like him like that. He's cool to talk to but when he starts flirting with me or something its really awkward. The most he does is just turn around and talk to me during class and will want to arm wrestle or something that has to do with our hands. So he asked me to put my number in my phone but I never did. I didn't like totally reject it in front of his face but my friend took it and was looking at it. So I felt better about that.
I just don't like him like that and even if he was trying to get to me I wouldn't want him to do it so fast. My friend told me she thinks he likes me and it does seem like he's moving fast. I thought he was too. What am I supposed to do about it? Just let it pass by and ignore it? Or talk to him? I wouldn't really want to do that since it's hard enough for me to talk to him in the first place and that I don't want me telling him something when he really doesn't like me. Or should I just wait around and see if I ever end up having feelings for him? Ehh...I don't know... (link)
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It's a touchy subject. I don't think you should completely ignore him, just continue to be nice. I don't think you should be mean, because he may end up resenting you, and other people could hear about it and think you're mean because you completely let him down, ignoring him and such.
Don't feel pressured to like him and don't feel guilty about not liking him either. You shouldn't force yourself to like him, because then you will think you like him but it's not genuine at all. And if you end up in a relationshop of some sort, it will not last long at all.
Like I said, just be nice. If he ever says anything to you about liking you or anything, just say something like "I'm really sorry, but I think we're better just as friends". You know how that speech goes, I'm sure lol.
I really hope I helped! If you have any questions, just drop one in my inbox.
Good luck!
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Hey,I think i have a real problem with dudes..or do I? It never fails,I just cant never seem to keep a dude.Either they cheat,about to cheat,or lie.Is it me?Do i have a problem?Boys really know how to hurt a girl.There was this boy that "so-called" had a crush on me.I was a junior back then and he was a star player on the basketball team so i was soooo happy because he was an athelete.But his friend and my friend hooked us up.We exchanged numbers and all was good until....the ex girlfriend came back around.Ugh!! I was so mad.Everytime i turned around it seemed like she was always following him.She was also a cheerleader so they always saw each other at the games.I guess she decided she wanted him back because sooner or later i found out through the school gossip that they were a couple again.I was crushed.He never really broke-up with me or anything..just left me hanging.I will never forgive him for that.And there were also many realation-ships just like that one in my life.I'm always gettin left for someone of a more,lets just say,"higher standard".Now iam single and i refuse to ever date again..I just cant do it.Do you guys ever think I will find true love because i dont.I just cant trust dudes and I dont wanna take my chances.Somebody please give me advice because i'am so lonely but i just dont wanna be held by the wrong hands...Thanks for listening. (link)
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I agree with Matt. You can't date somebody because of where they stand socially. Would you like someone doing that to you? That's hurtful and offensive. You need to be accepting, not particular. I mean, the way you make him sound seems like the typical jock who's popular and rude. Why would you like him anyway? Because he's athletic? And that's it?
He didn't stay with you long until his ex came back into his life. And you've said all the guys you've dated have cheated or were about to cheat. Well, if they're anything like the guy we're talking about now, why does this surprise you!?
You're a huuuuge part of the problem! You make it seem like you only date SOME guys; only the guys who LOOK GOOD NEXT TO YOU! You can't do that, because I can guarentee that you will never find the perfect guy, someone who won't cheat, be disrespectful in any way, and so on.
You can fix this problem by yourself, you need to be genuine and accepting of people. If you're going to be one of those girls who thinks their boyfriend has to be some perfect, athetic, handsome and popular guy, you will never find someone.
I'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted, but I'd want the honest truth if this was my problem.
Good luck, and I hope I helped.
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i love it when boys compliment my boobs, i enjoy boys playing with my boobs and i always get my tits out for the boys. does this make me slutty ? (link)
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Even the way you tell us about this sounds slutty. Like one of the Advicenators said, you will get a bad reputation. And chances are, you will be used if you become a slut. When girls do things slutty and say things like you, it's the reason girls have a bad reputation. I don't want that to sound mean, just honest.
Hope I helped.
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Okay, so, my friend really likes this boy. He's really sweet to her and she just felt really happy because she got over her ex and found this new guy. Well, she finds out that he has a girlfriend..
"He has a girlfriend, but he tells me I changed his feelings. If I did that then why is he still with here?! I like him a lot, but I think I should stop talking to him because it doesn't seem like he's gonna break up with her anytime soon, so it seems like the best thing, but idk HELP!"
Any takers?
--Gabs. (link)
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She really can't do anything. He has a girlfriend, and unless he decides to break up with her (or vice versa), your friend is helpless. She probably needs to be single for a while so she has time for herself. And besides, I believe that when you least expect it, that's when someone perfect comes along. So maybe she should enjoy her life, friends and family, instead of boy hunting...because that's when she'll find someone who really likes her and she can return those feelings.
Would you break up with your boyfriend for some other guy? If so, that's not right IMO. Think of it that way.
Hope I helped.
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14/f
hey, so my boyfriend and i just started making out. It's a first for the both of us and surprisingly, I ended up giving him a SUPER bad hickey when, honestly i wasn't even trying. Our first time was two days ago and i accidentally gave him four that look absolutely HORRIBLE. he didn't seem to upset and laughed it off saying it was ok cause it was, after all, my first time. So today we met up again for a second round in order to, you know, learn together since we're both noobs. BUT this time he told me to try avoiding giving him any hickies, so i did. :( unfortunately, i ended up giving him two more. I swear i didn't do it on purpose, i didn't even suck very hard, just mostly licking and pecking. But even so, SOMEHOW i still ended up giving him even more! I need some advice on how to kiss. I know i must be doing something terribly wrong because everytime i end up giving him a hickey. PLEASE i would greatly appreciate some advice. i just find it strange that he's tried to give me one a bunch of times and it never seems to work. We're both noobs. so yea. like i said, some advice here would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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This has never happened to me, but I would suggest maybe not sucking on his skin. Like one of the Advicenators below said, he probably has sensitive skin and bruises easily. However, I know that a little sucking his skin is sometimes just unavoidable, so try being very gentle.
Kissing anywhere else other than the lips is pretty much just like kissing the lips. But considering he's sensitive, try giving even more tender kisses. You may think you're being gentle, but his skin is saying otherwise. You know what I mean? Or you could try asking your boyfriend...just be like "is this gentle enough [for you]?" A lot of the time being serene and gentle is very nice. I prefer tenderness over wild make-out sessions and he may too.
I hope I helped :]
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13/m
so as i said in the title what are some creative and fun things to do on dates with my girlfriend, and sometimes a few other people that come with us?
btw i only get about 15 dollars a week(aus)
also what are the like... dos and donts of dating? like what i should and shouldn't do
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I like the movies, bowling (even if you're terrible, it's always fun to laugh at yourself a little), ice skating, my house, his house, a group get-together at a friend's house, mini-golfing...the list can go on and on! Even a walk around the neighborhood or local park is nice. Really, you can do anything. If you're trying to keep things cheap, ask her to come over your house, watch a movie, maybe have her over for dinner and relax.
Based on what I like, this is what I know is comforting:
1. When you see her, just give her a compliment like "Well you look nice" with a warm smile. Don't over-compliment; that's kind of overwhelming
2. Don't ignore her if you're with your friends. Pay equal attention to your friends and your date.
3. Don't feel nervous. That will only make her feel nervous.
4. Just be yourself!
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Ok,so, I have this boyfriend I've bin seeing for a while and he goes to my school. I'm 17 and
female. Ok so anyway he teases me about him going
out with a prettier girl constently.
And he says oh I love her not you anymore consistently and then says I'm going out with her now. And then says I'm kidding. I CAN"T TAKE
IT ANYMORE!!!!!!
and I can never tell if he is serious about letting me go for another girl or not.
But I can't push myself to breakup with him.
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You need to confront him of your feelings. If you're feeling upset about the things he says, it's as simple as telling him. Don't be aggressive, say that it truly offends you and you don't appreciate being teased. Honestly, I would be extremely offended if my boyfriend ever did that. If your boyfriend is saying mean things like that on a regualr basis and doesn't even think that it's hurtful, then he really doesn't understand girls, does he?
And if he says something like "oh, you're overreacting" (because that's generally the response I get), just say "no, I am not overreacting. Our relationship is about honesty and respect, and I am telling you how I feel." If he's still a jerk after that, then I think you need to break it off, as much as it may hurt.
A lot of guys aren't aware of the things that make girls upset. So, that's when you need to open your mouth like girls were meant to do lol. He needs to respect you and if he doesn't, it wasn't meant to be.
I hope I helped!
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Ok so.. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months. We're in love and stuff, so far everything is going good.. sometimes we fight because i get jealous or mad. because of girls.. (im kinda insecure) and have little trust, even though he tells me that he only wants me etc.
But yeaaa i love him to death, i would do anything for him. I literally wanna be with him forver :]
I need to know how to trust him & not be jealous.. And how to make this last forver!
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I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend of almost 8 months is a really great kid. He's in all honors classes, while I'm not in all honors. Now, in his classes, the majority are girls and it makes me nervous just to know that he's surrounded by girls. And last week, he was talking and playing like tic-tac-toe and hangman with one of his very good girl-friends. I know they're only friends, but I just so jealous. But then up until recently, I noticed that I have a very close guy-friend as well (a few actually) and we're very close and playful. So I just thought to myself, he has his girl-friends and I have my guy-friends. I know I'll never be together with my guy-friend and the same goes with him.
I know how hard it is not to be jealous. It's extremely aggravating and agitating. Almost like an itch that won't go away. But it's one of the things you have to deal with.
I can't tell you how to make your relationship last forever, but I can tell you, if you try hard, and he tries hard as well, you guys can last awhile or forever. Jealousy is only one of the many emotions in a relationship, so when you feel jealous, maybe you should try walking in his shoes and see how it feels when you talk with your close guy-friends.
Hope I helped!
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