Hmm.. I decided to give a bit more detail. I live in the usa, and enjoy having fun. Swimming, dancing, shopping, working.. It's all good fun.. My mother says I have probablems, because I want to save the world.. Now I know, I can't.. But I do know us people who at least put some effort into help someone, makes some what a difference. It may not seem like it, but if you've seen Police Academy, with the apple that was thrown out the window, and started the riot!! Well then, no one knows how these things get started!
WE ARE ALL SUPER HEROS IN OUR OWN WAY.
Don't forget that! It's what we all are, and can be!
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thing is that i like this guy who recently told me he still has feelings for his ex. yet he always seems to act like he likes me? i mean he told me that yesterday he looked for me during the whole break (which is 30 minutes long), he always aks me where i am and talks to me whenever he sees me. he often asks me where i am in the break and looks for me. and when we walk together he always touches my arm etc. and when he sits next to me he always sits as close to me as he can. i mean i was convinced that he likes me until he told me he likes is ex. i dont want to be his second choice but i reeaally like him sooo much (link)
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Maybe he is scared to get into a relationship with you. Or perhaps he does have feelings for his ex but, as the feelings for his ex grow weaker the feelings he has for you grow stronger. So, if you give it sometime and hang out with him and do what you're already doing maybe he'll realize your a munch better choice!
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Okay. 21/f, he's 24/m, we've been together for, like, 4 years.
What's changed recently is that I'm in the throes of a massive pain problem. No doctor has found a correct diagnosis, and the painkillers I've been taking for it have recently stopped keeping the pain at bay.
A little background on me: I'm an extremely independent person, unused to leaning on anyone, let alone having anyone to lean on. This guy used to be like, the epitome of a bad boyfriend, and now all of a sudden, he's kinda perfect. I know I haven't adjusted to the change in him yet.
Problem: Every time I see him, having opened up to him more at this point, I feel the desire to just hug him and cry because I hurt so much. It happened ONCE that I actually did that, and I don't remember any of it. I kinda broke down, and I think it scared me a lot. I'm aware of this, and I'm aware that it won't happen every time I see him, but it's making me reluctant to hang out with him. Every time we're supposed to see each other, I cancel, and I hate myself for it. What's worse is that I'll cancel with him and go hang out with someone else. I know I can't isolate myself, so I try to surround myself with people. But I can keep up my front around people I'm not close with. I can't around him.
Logically, I know I should just suck it up and talk to him about this, but I don't feel like I can, and if I do, I don't know what'll happen to us. I feel like if I'm that open with him, he'll just run away. 'Cause really...would you want a depressed girl around after you just came out of depression yourself?
I've been his rock for, like, a year. I don't know how to switch roles like that.
Any advice? All suggestions are welcome here. (link)
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He's went from bad boyfriend to perfect boyfriend for you, you were his rock. If this is the relationship you will end up with in the end, it's his turn to be your rock. You can't just be his rock and not have a rock. It doesn't work that way, this man sounds like he loves you.. I'd talk to him about it, don't worry about him running away from you.. He loves you and you know this deep down, and know he won't leave you. Just try to explain to him how you feel, maybe you two can discuss how to handle all of this together.
And for gods sakes stop blowing him off, thats what will push him away the most, cause he doesn't realize why you're doing it.. He has no idea why you would throw away time you could be spending with him to go spend with someone else.
You're probable scarying him with the way you're acting, he probable feels like he's losing you..
Give him a chance to try and help you, don't just assum he's going to disappear on you. He's been around this long, he's going to stay.
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so there is this guy josh c that i met at my overnight camp and i really liked him and i just recently saw him when i was visiting in oakville and now he knows my feelings about him but i dont think he feels the same way .. and he lives 45 minutes away so it would be hard to see him . what do i do ? (link)
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You don't fully know he doesn't like you. You should try and date him, hang out even... Got to give love a chance... You should always give it a chance, it may bloom into somthing amazing.
I'd really suggest trying to get to know him, and hang out and stuff.
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hi, i am a girl and i was with my friend / gf today. we are lesbians i guess. her parents know but mine didnt. and then my idiot asshole friend, who is a boy, sent me a txt msg talkin about me and my gf. my dad decided to read my txts. he saw it. now im flippin out and so r my parents!!!! my gf and i fear we will never be able to see each other again. MY FUCKING FRIENDS SUCK!!!! what do i do? my gf and i are hysterical and idk wat to do. plz help me :(!!!! (link)
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fuck your parents. If they can't except you for who you are... Do it behind there backs. I don't understand why parents can't except there children for whom they are.. You should tell your parents straight up if they can't except you for who you are, they don't really love you. Because I believe they wouldn't...
It's just a theory.. I'm bisexual, my mother could careless. We're all human, and there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian, especially in this day and age!
Just sit and explain to them, this is who you are.. If they think it's a phase, tell them good let me live this phase if I come out of it so be it, and if I don't you'll just have to live with it..
Parents don't understand us till we can really become an adult, talk like an adult, and go through everything they've been through..
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His name is jason and he's like my drug. Sometimes he makes me happy but in the long run he is hurting me. When Im with him I want to be by him forever. And when we're apart I cant stop thinking about him. The absolute best night of my life! When he told everyone that he liked me so much he thought he was in love. But he's naturally a player and I know he cares about me but Its like he is trying so hard to be "unattatched" but he is slowly showin me and everyone else how important I really am to him. My problem though is that I feel like it could take litterally years before he will completely commit to me. I dont know if I can wait that long. He is hurting me so much with his games. but like I said he is like a drug that I am sompletely addicted to. (link)
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ugh! I hate men that are like drugs to us females.. It will literally tear us apart and kill us from outside in! I went through the same thing sorta kinda.. except mine is still my drug, I just don't have him.. Techniqually I don't want him. We're always important to them, but when they finally realize we're the one.. that she is the one.. we're already married and on our way to having a life.. We can't backtrack boys.. I mean come on.. But if you want him, and you really think he's going to be the answer to all your prays, the one to father your children, the one to support you when you're old and on your way to death.. so be it, if you think he's not going to play his part well enough you need to find another someone.. another man to play the role of your drug, one who thinks your as much his drug as he is yours.. This may never happen, but if you are waiting what does it hurt to look? Especially if you're not dating your drug, if you are.. you'll have to really consider if you want to wait around forever, or go out and explore what the rest of the world has to offer!
Good Luck
-Ash♥
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SO im basically with this girl. We kiss and shit and I just want to hang out with her more. Shes extremely busy everyday but she loves hangin with me. I just want some ideas of what we would do when we hang out besides watching a movie and walks. Something fun and something cool. Any ideas? (link)
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You wish to hang out more with this girl... Someone you feel you want a relationship with or someone you want to sleep with? If you want to spend more time to work into a relationship to sleep with her.. So be it, try a romantic evening, plan around her schedual, and make it a beautiful night. Make her dinner maybe, and set up some candle light.
If you can flowers for her... You know, make it something special...
Or maybe a picnic, it's decent weather.. Take her to maybe an out doors place, maybe you like.. Somewhere you think is beautiful. Show her what you find interesting... : )
I hope you come up with something.. Or maybe this will help, but good luck on persuing her!
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me and my boyfriend (well ex) we've known each other since we were 12 and started goin out when we were 13, (were now 18) but we broke up because we were little and stuff but after 2 years not seeing each other he moved to Pennsylvania, and we contacted each other again because we went there to see them (my parents and his parents are best friends) ok well we started talking again, he has a daughter.. which is no problem for me she's so cute her name is jazmyn she's one and javier is sucha an amazing dad, but the baby mom is crazy and stuff, my boyfriends name is javier.. and javiers parents don't like her because she treated him bad but he stayed with her for 2 years just for the baby, and they broke up because he wasn't happy, and we started going out because we were our first love, and who would of thought we would go out again, we were so happy!!. He's such a good person, the problem is that saturday we were suppose to go to a party and he was coming home to pick me up (oh yeah me and my family moved to PA) and he didn't come home he went straight to the party I was like what the hell, then his mom tells me because his dad got mad cause it was 10pm and still wasn't home so he told javier not to come home, and he gets mad very easily so he went straight there and of course the baby mom was there and he had no place to go and went with her... after that day he contacted me saying babe I'm so sorry is that a situation happened with my dad and stuff but please don't think anything is happening with her, I love u so much and remember that, but how am I not suppose to think anything you know, and he doesn't tell me what happened with his dad, I'm a very understanding person.. anyways its been a week and he's telling me that he's saving money to go get an apartment. but if you were me in this situation, like he's telling me nothings happening and believe me he's a brutally honest person so he wouldn't lie to me.. should I believe him? should I wait for him? i don't know what to do or think, because there's so many reasons why he's staying there (well for now he says) because of his daughter, his dad kicked him out but his mom is so nice and was like come home don't listen to your dad, but his dad is so strict... I just don't know what to do in a situaton like this, I love him so much and I know he loves me too...
I don't know what to do please help!!!
and I apologize that its so long. (link)
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If you believe in true love, and you want to wait for him.. Wait for him. If you don't want to wait, maybe see what else the world has to offer you, go out and see what else there is. You're so young, and there is no reason to want to be tied down. If he loves you and is an honest person, he's probable not sleeping with the babys mama, he's probable just staying there,because it's a place to stay with out listening to his dad yell, and that way he's there for his little girl. Children are very important to a good man. So just give it time, and maybe it'll all work out for the best... But if you two arn't together, why not see what else is out there?
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Hello! I am Lidia Cadison, and I recently moved to California, (I used to live in Mexico) ,I have 15 years old and my problem is the next:
The thing is that I really like a guy that lives in Mexico, he is my friend and we sometimes talk via MSN, although we are far away my feelings towards him had not changed at all but today I started thinking in telling him how I felt I know he only likes me as a friend and nothing more, cause the way he behaves around me is the way he behaves with his male friends. But I want to do it cause I think I need to move on with my life and stop daudreaming in him and stuffs that may never going to happen...do you think I should tell him? or just continue the way we are now...I dont want to lost his friendship in the process. Thanks you =)
and see ya latera. (link)
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It's true, it's hard to hold onto a crush for so long. You should tell him, but you don't techniqually know he doesn't like you more then a friend. Maybe he treats you like one of his male friends, because he feels close to you. Friendships can normally start out as friendships, and lead into soooo much more. You should tell him how you feel and explain to him that no matter how he feels towards you, that you want and need to still have his friendship!
Shouldnt hide so much from people, it's better to speak your mind, and throw everything you have out on the table. A good quote. "You make choices, and never look back!"
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So there is this guy right and well we have been go out for 7 months now and well I fell in love with him and I don't know if he loves me back...and I like him and all I just don't know if I want to love him because I really don't want to get hurt...so what do I do? (link)
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Alright, you're inlove with a guy who you're not sure is in love with you, and you want to not love him, so you don't get hurt. Well emotions have alot to do with this, you have to control them, and if you're scared of getting hurt, stop spending alot of time with him, brake it down. Keep more time to yourself and friends, find other things to do other then to think about him, talk to him, or hang out with him.
It's hard to not love the people we fall inlove with, and trust me I know how hard it is. You just have to try and get over him before he does something that could penetrate your heart.
If he loves you back though, perhaps the time apart and away from him.. He'll realiz he loves you and he'll maybe come out and tell you, and you can just return to that emotional state called "Like/Love/Lust"
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I'm 19 & I've been talking to a guy I like who is 22 since September of 2008. In November of 2008 I slept with him once, which was very stupid of me. I really like this guy but all we do is text & he ALWAYS initiates the texting. We've hung out that one time in November & again in May of this year. He never brought up spending time with me so I finally mentioned it in March of this year & again in April & responded with “Ya for sure sometime when I’m not busy w/work.” (he works a lot) Finally last month he asked me out to dinner & a movie. We had a good time, laughed, & he flirted a bit so it was really nice & we didn't do anything except hug when he dropped me off. I felt like this would be starting fresh so he can see that I'm not a sluty girl who sleeps around. It's been almost a month since we spent time & he hasn't brought up doing something like that again. The thing is that he texts me daily & will do so for hours. I do wonder if he felt obligated to spend time with me & got it over with so that I wouldn't ask him again. It seemed like he enjoyed his time with me though. If I take a while to respond when he texts he will text something like "Fine don't text back! lol" like he's being playful. I'm confused because I don’t know if he likes me or just enjoys the attention that I give him. This has stressed me out so much & I overanalyze it every day. I have no idea why I feel the need to hang on instead of dropping him. I did tell him that I like him in December 2008 & he said he wasn't interested in a relationship because he got out of a 2 year relationship a few months before & his ex treated him badly. I don’t ask him if he likes me or why we don’t spend more time together because I don’t want to scare him off or pressure him. I’m exhausted with this situation now & I just would like some help =( (link)
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This guy actually sounds really sweet and all, but yeah it's a bit odd you 2 don't spend alot of time together. You shouldn't be scared to pressure him or scare him. Sounds like you two have none each other long enough to be a bit more open. Should text him sometime soon, and ask if he wants to hang out after work or something. Tell him you haven't seen him in awhile and miss him, and would like to go get some coffee or something. Just make it small, like a friendly meeting. Don't make it a huge super date thing. Maybe if you spend more friendly meetings with him, it'll all fall together and you'll go on another great date. : )
I hope it'll help in some way.
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So I started hanging out with this chick becuse she seemed to always have ciggs. We became great freinds fast! I then started to hang with her family and freinds and we all became REALLY close I consider them my second fammily. I was hanging with just her friend and she told me that my smoke buddy really likes me. I really like her too I kno that she wont admit to it so I dedcided to get me and her drunk so that we could talk freely and if something goes wrong we could blame it on the booze. we got drunk and she said that she really likes me and me made out. So the nxt day she tells me that she dosent want to jeperdise our freind ship. I had a drug test the nxt day so I began to drink to get it out of my system and she drank too along with her freind. she started flirting with and I made out with her then i fingered her. Her freind then got on top of me and my smoke buddy said it was chill and that she thought it was hot. So I went with it and eat both them out. I went on vacation the nxt day and tonight when I texted her to ask her if we were chilin tommorrow she said not till later thz guy that she has bin hangin out with will be comming over (he only wants her for sex and she really isnt that kink of gurl) when she is home alone. She says that she really wants him. I dont kno if she dosnt want me anymore and if I should give up. I really like her but is she only doing shit becouse were drunk??
Or is she mad becouse I got down with her friend, she said it was cool (she is bi) I dont kno WTF to do can any one help (link)
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Well I'm guessing you're a guy, and considering you like this girl, but she likes this other guy.. and you got her drunk to get answers... It could just be that she did like you, but thinks you're using her for sex, like you think the other guy is. I'd suggest talking to her, if you like her enough to sit down and explain how you feel maybe you can start going somewhere with a real relationship. Don't worrie about being a guy, if you two are close enough.. she'll take it as it is and understand. If it has anything to deal with when you had the three sum, just explain to her, you don't see her friend like that, and you wouldn't have done it she'd said not too... Do you understand? .. You just have to be a bit more open with the girl you've got feelings for.
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This is going to sound a little stupid probably, but my boyfriend has lied to me about something small and now it's totally made me wonder if I can really trust him.
Basically, he told me that he couldn't really afford to go crazy and all-out on our one year anniversary day, which I was completely fine with, but then he kept going on about wanting to buy this Playstation 3 game that was something like $70. Anyway, I found out that he bought it a couple of days ago, but he told me it was only $10 because he had traded in some games at the same time; however, he accidentally left the receipt for it in the living room, which showed that this was not the actual case--that he had actually paid full price for the Playstation 3 game.
Now, before you think I'm crazy or something, my boyfriend and I have had problems in the past and have been working on getting our trust back for each other. (He had a wild night out with the boys once that totally crushed our relationship for awhile) It bothers me that he couldn't just be honest with me about this, I guess. I mean, it wouldn't have been a big deal at all...why lie?
Do you think I'm overreacting? (link)
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Overreacting? Most videogamers would probable say yes.(lol) I'd say no, if you're suppose to be so important to him, why would he go buy a 70 dollar game instead of an anniversery gift?
He could always get the game some other time, couldn't he?
I'd confront him, if you want a fight. If not, and you didnt care about a gift, then just let it go.. I don't think you're very happy in the relationship you're in though.. (just an opinion.)
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this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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-Stares- So many words.
This kid (ur bf/ex/love of ur life) seems like the perfect guy, but you said he'd been trashed by other girls before. Thats not good, you used his own past against him, by doing it to him.
You Also said you got bored with the relationship cause he would never fight, but also that he was up your ass twenty four seven. In a relationship like that, it's hard to keep it standing especially if you're one that likes to be alone, occasionaly.
I don't like to say this, because it hurts.. But you may not get him back, you might have to wait it out, till destiny finds itself back to you.
Maybe he's suppose to be with you, but it's not yet.
Give it time, more time.
You can't apperently talk to him, see him.. Can't just sit back and watch the world go around...
You want it to happen faster, you think its what you need, go to his house. Knock on his door, try to talk to him. If he won't why not pull that old routine? Sit out side his house? Until he'll talk to you.. Do you two have a song? Play it nonstop. Worst thing, you could have the cops called on you.. but when love is that special, that deep.. You need it like a drug? You'll do anything for it.. You have to get him back? Do it, you're not naiiev?! SO... put some brains into it, you want him back.. Okay, but you better make sure you want him, don't want him cause you don't have him, and once you have him again you don't want him. Don't hurt him, if you think it'll fall back into the same steps.
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So earlier this year, I met this guy. We became good friends because we had so much in common and enjoyed spending time together. We started hanging out more and more, and we've become really attached, I guess you could say. He recently told me that he really likes me more than a friend, and I told him I feel the same. But, I'm going away to college in 3 months. I'm going to a college that's only about an hour away, but I see college as a totally new experience, somewhere where I'll meet a lot of new people and have a ton of schoolwork that will keep me really busy. Plus, I won't be home that often. But, this guy really wants to date me, and honestly, I want to date him because he's amazing. In my heart, though, I feel like dating right now isn't such a good idea, considering the fact that I'll be leaving this fall; I know it would hurt so bad to go from dating him and seeing him every day to only seeing him once a month. I don't want to hurt him, either; I know i'm gonna meet alot of people, including other guys, and that might definitely change our relationship, you know? But I also feel like I'd be missing out on a great relationship if we don't date and just stayed friends. I'm really torn up about this. Please help? (link)
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Hmm.. Well, I'd deffently explain to him how you feel. It's probable best not to date him, sence you're going to college. You love/like him don't hurt him. You probable know what it's like to be dumped right? Most men like to have there girls around alot.. And a girl whom is not around enough for a man is like when a man dumps a woman... It's painful. I'd just wait it out, if you're ever suppose to date or be with this guy, you'll find each other at some point when available. Believe in faith m'love... It's a key to the world.
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this guy and I went out for a really long time/10 months. he told me that one of his friends was into me and he was gonna try to steal me away. When one of my friends thought he was cute..i told him....we ended up braking up three or four months later.....he ended up going to her the same day that we broke up...and it was like..wow..he got over me that fast...the part that irritates me is how he talks to her and tries to talk shit about me....always saying mean things about me.....i don't know...i just want to ask him why he is talking shit... (link)
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Thats right, you want to confront him privately. Ask him why he says so much shit. Tell him you two are broken up, and it's done and over with.
They say men talk shit about there ex to there new girlfriends because techniqaully there not over there ex yet. It's just what I've heard. I believe it may be true. So he's probable not over you, and covers his real feelings for "Asshole" feelings. If you understand what i mean.
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ok well im 15 and a girl. and over the years that i have been growing up i have been at my grandparents house in indiana. and i live in illinois. i love it there. and my grandma one day told me about this kid who was moving in next door to her. he was the same age as me. he is a nice guy and he introduced me to his friend casey. hes a guy. and this was like 2 years ago. and i really thought he was cute and stuff. but my friend who was out there with me at the time liked him and they ended up like dating for like a day. ha which it didn\'t work out considering the different states we live in. but we left and every once in a while i would talk to casey on myspace and i always had this crush. but just about a month ago he ended up giving me his number and ever since we just hit it off. and we talked on the phone every night for a month. and we were just so into each other. but then like 2 weeks ago i went down to my grandpas house in indiana and we hung out. and he was just so amazing. and we ended up just cuddling on the ground and we ended up kissing. and it was my firstt kiss and he knew it too. but it was just a perfect moment. and then the next day, sunday, we had to go and he couldn\'t come and say bye because he had to help with his dad. and the whole day he just seemed weird. and that night he ended up telling me that we just weren't going to workout because of distance. and i just completely broke down. he was my first kiss and it ment so much too me. and he new that we lived in different states going into this. and he kissed me anyways. and i just haven\'t talked to him for awhile. and all i can do is think about him. but its getting better. but he was my first kiss and i know i will never forget him. which sucks. because he was so perfect.... what should i do?! heart breaks are so difficult. (link)
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Okaie... He was your first kiss, and you believe he was oh so perfect. You'll probable never forget him, cause you'll stay in contact one way or the other. Don't worrie though, you're only fifteen.. You'll have many first kisses! Trust me. You just have to learn how to handle heart ache.. DOn't let it tear you completly down, got to keep that fire burning! There is always going to be another guy.. So many fish in the sea. : )
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OK so i know this guy and he's older than me, not by much like a year. So you see both him and i are taken but we can almost never see our partners. Like his girlfriend is younger than me so her parents dont let her date him and my boyfriends parents wont let him date me for religious reasons. So this guy and i have been txting all the time and we do stuff like 'i gotta go do this or that i'll txt you back when i'm done' and we hang out a lot since we live real close to eachother. You see once he was like 'lets hang friday' and i was like 'sure' but then he got invited to go BK with some friends and he wanted me to come with him but i said no, i dont know his friends. so he was like 'i'll come over when i finish here then.' and i was like 'no its ok you dont have to' and his answer was 'No i'm coming and your not stopping me' so i was like 0.0 oh. and sometimes he'll make jokes and i'll be like 'oh no you didn't' and he'll hug me and be like 'oh come on i'm just playin.' and i mean he txts me a lot and sometimes we're not even saying anything just like being stupid. sometimes we talk about eachothers relationships too. and i dunno if he likes me or not but he's left a group of his friends like twice already to hang out with me. He even came with me on a friend of mines date to the movies and when her date was like a real bad guy he wouldnt let me go get her away from him alone, he's also stood up for me when someone teased me but like he then teased my friend. so i dunno, do you think he likes me? if you wanna ask me any questions about it i'll add additional information after being asked (link)
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He likes you. Thats easy to see, but sence you two are both in relationships just stay friends. If it's ment to be it'll work out in the end. Things could happen though, what you should be more worried about is being careful not to hurt the boyfriend you do have. So, if you like him stay friends and it'll work it's self out.
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I like this guy I have been really good friends with..and we text and chat ALL the time...he has told me many times that I am hot and pretty and he likes talking to me...just recently he told me and ONLY me that he was moving and he wanted to be in a relationship before he moved..but he likes another girl. Should I give up on him? (link)
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You should never give up, you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel, and that you want to be that relationship. Unless he means a sexual one, you don't want that probable, cause that can hurt and cause alot of damage. So find out what he wants in his last relationship, and then if it sounds like a good idea jump on it. He probable does like you like that, but doesn't speak up cause he isn't sure how you feel.
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I have this friend and she was best friends with my ex and well things started to get bad in our relationship and when we broke up, I told her "Oh, I like..(lets say)..Bob". She told my ex I liked Bob, and I was upset because thanks to her it seemed like I cheated on him when really he cheated on me. I started liking Bob, and I realized to not trust this "friend" anymore. I started going out with Bob and I told my friend not to talk to Bob because I didnt trust her with my relationships, thinking she will ruin this one too. Hopefully not yet, but I dont want her to. How can I save my relationship? What if she tries to ruin it again? Bob is my friend's ex though but she doesnt care about him and I believe he doesnt care about her either. I really dont want her to tell him lies about me, or try to steal him from me even though she has another boyfriend. (link)
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Oh, so you have a friend that wants what you have, even if she's not interested? Well, thats easy, just watch what you say around her. Don't let things that she could use against you be throw out there in mid-air, she will grab them most likely. Also, if she does tell him lies about you, you and I both know he'd be a fool to believe her. I mean she is his ex.. and they must have broken up mutual, or for some reason dealing with her. Just an opinion. But yeah just hold your tounge infront of her. You'll be fine. :)
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there is this guy and me and him have been okay friends for about 2 years. him and my best friend have dated before and she still is so in love with him. but if she found out i liked him she wouldnt talk to me anymore but, she dated him when i liked him. so doesnt that it ok? i dont know if its ok to like him like that. **also my other best friend likes him too** i dont know what to do!!? (link)
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This guy has three girls, and who knows how many more crushing on him.. Do you really like him? I mean is he someone you'd want more then your friends? This is a discion you'll make on your own. I'd say keep this guy and these friends friends, if anything is suppose to come of this guy and you.. It'll come in good sweet time. :)
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