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All he does is text me
I'm 19 & I've been talking to a guy I like who is 22 since September of 2008. In November of 2008 I slept with him once, which was very stupid of me. I really like this guy but all we do is text & he ALWAYS initiates the texting. We've hung out that one time in November & again in May of this year. He never brought up spending time with me so I finally mentioned it in March of this year & again in April & responded with “Ya for sure sometime when I’m not busy w/work.” (he works a lot) Finally last month he asked me out to dinner & a movie. We had a good time, laughed, & he flirted a bit so it was really nice & we didn't do anything except hug when he dropped me off. I felt like this would be starting fresh so he can see that I'm not a sluty girl who sleeps around. It's been almost a month since we spent time & he hasn't brought up doing something like that again. The thing is that he texts me daily & will do so for hours. I do wonder if he felt obligated to spend time with me & got it over with so that I wouldn't ask him again. It seemed like he enjoyed his time with me though. If I take a while to respond when he texts he will text something like "Fine don't text back! lol" like he's being playful. I'm confused because I don’t know if he likes me or just enjoys the attention that I give him. This has stressed me out so much & I overanalyze it every day. I have no idea why I feel the need to hang on instead of dropping him. I did tell him that I like him in December 2008 & he said he wasn't interested in a relationship because he got out of a 2 year relationship a few months before & his ex treated him badly. I don’t ask him if he likes me or why we don’t spend more time together because I don’t want to scare him off or pressure him. I’m exhausted with this situation now & I just would like some help =(
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It looks like you already have your answer. You told him that you like him and he responded that he wasn't interested in a relationship. He told you straight out. End of story. I suspect that after your date ended in a hug he realized he wasn't going to "score" again and that's why he hasn't asked you out since. As for the constant texting, maybe he's into head games, or maybe he just wants to stay on your radar in case you change your mind about the "slutty girl" thing. In any case, drop this guy. Stop responding to his texts. He'll get the message eventually. And let this be a lesson learned. A one night stand is no way to attract a man you like. Mostly, it achieves just the opposite. You should be in a loving, committed relationship before you give the greatest gift a woman can offer a man, herself. That way you can be sure the man is attracted to YOU, and not just interested in sex, and you can pursue a healthy, exciting and fulfilling relationship.
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This guy actually sounds really sweet and all, but yeah it's a bit odd you 2 don't spend alot of time together. You shouldn't be scared to pressure him or scare him. Sounds like you two have none each other long enough to be a bit more open. Should text him sometime soon, and ask if he wants to hang out after work or something. Tell him you haven't seen him in awhile and miss him, and would like to go get some coffee or something. Just make it small, like a friendly meeting. Don't make it a huge super date thing. Maybe if you spend more friendly meetings with him, it'll all fall together and you'll go on another great date. : )
I hope it'll help in some way.
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