Hiya! I am Dr.D, and I am here to give you the help you need! Got a question about relationships? Well your talking to Dr.Love here! Questions about your body? Got the title Doctor for a reason! I can answer any of your questions. I live to serve and help people. Because your lives matter the most. You all have questions about life, and I've been through some of the worst things life can throw. But I know how to pitch back. SO WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR!?!?!?! Go ahead, and message me, I'm here to help. The Doctors in, and ready to solve your questions. :-D
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OK, been friends for half a year. Really cool lad. Helps me with a projects time to time. However, he has a gf and I have a bf. Recently, he went away for a few weeks and hadn't seen me for a while but when he saw me after few weeks, he asks did you miss me? I said, everyday, he laughed and called me liar. Also, asked me if I wanted to go for a drink afterwards I said yeah ok. We've been out for a drink twice only for few hours as he says you're my friend. We hugged and kissed on the cheek after the drinks and said goodnight. To me, I'm just thinking he might fancy me slightly bit even though he keeps says we're best of friends. When I jokingly tell him you do like me don't you, he replies yes with a flirty smile. So guys, why would he ask if i want to go for a drink and did you miss me stuff?? Nothing's happened but he does say he likes a space sometimes away from her gf and all but not in a nasty way but in a normal way, I told him, I'm exactly like you. So, Please help! Are we in the wrong and not allowed to feel like this or what?? Thankyou for the answers. (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Lucky you, I am a guy! And to me it sounds like he likes you. But you should ask him, not like you do. but more like:"do you like me more as your girlfriend?"
try that. to me it sounds like he likes you. but you'd only be asking this question if you like him. So i say, go ahead. ask him. whats the worse that could happen? (hopefully I didnt jinx you)
good luck!
-Dr.D
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We broke up around 3 years ago after being together for 3 years. A year after we broke up I found out that she had moved on, it broke my heart but I accepted it and I was happy for her. 3 years later, we finally spoke on Valentine's Day this year and in that message she sent me a pic of a valentines present I gave her many years ago and she said that she never knew how weird it could be to stop talking and seeing someone who you used to be close to, she said she wondered how things would be if things didn't go the way they did. She asked if I had met anyone I said no then After that she said that she hoped I can find someone that makes me happy because I deserve it.I was shocked but I just said the same back. It felt as tho we were close again, befote ending the conversation she told me to 'stay in touch'.After a few days I sent her a pic of a place where I used to take her and asked if she remembers she jokingly said'more importantly,who are you with?lol'.She remembers everything including my birthday in a few weeks and jokingly said that I should start thinking about 'settling down' bcos I'm getting old. We've only talked on and off since Valentine's Day, however 2 days ago on social media she put up a picture of the place I used to take her to (the place I described earlier) and she put a heart💕 On the caption.What could this all mean? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Alright, lets talk, man to man. See, women to me are confusing people. And if you make them mad they will throw holy hell on you. talking from experience. They do these weird riddles and confuse you. Its kind of like looking at one of those pictures where you see one thing, but when you look at it from another angle, you see something else. Its sort of like that. Except its much more difficult. its like trying to find that in a jackson pollock painting. you know what I'm saying? If you like her, then ask her. Tell her you are interested, and you want to give it another try. Dont be afraid of what she will say. Fear stops us from what we want. And if you want her, ask.
I hope I helped. Have a nice night
-Dr.D
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I started a new job. I really like someone there. I want to know if the signs show he also likes me. He most always says hi or good morning with a smile. I notice him looking at me. I feel I always catch his eye. If he knows where I am he seems to hang around. He talks loudly to others when im in ear shot. But seems quieter when I talk to him. I feel chemistry. When he is walking down the hall we make,eye contact and say hi when passing. Sometimes seems nervous around me. Last time I saw him I smiled really big and said hi he did the same with a huge smile.when I first started working there he had someone introduce us. (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Its hard for us to know if others like us or not. But we know for sure when we like someone. We have strange feelings, and we act differently. I know from experience. But how do you know if he likes you? well the best way is, to ask. Its not the advice you were looking for. But its sure as heck the best answer. If you want to know if he likes you, then the best way to know is ask him. And he will tell you. It could blossom into something beautiful. And if he says no to you. He is one fish within an entire ocean. But don't be afraid to ask. Fear can turn into courage.
I hope I helped. Good luck. And don't be afraid!
-Dr.D
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We were dating for about three months when my boyfriend said "i love you" during sex. I ignored it because, frankly, I didnt want to ruin the moment and I wasn't ready for that. I know this happens sometimes just because it's a passionate situation. But, a moment later he asked if I heard him. Again, I ignored it. Again, he asked if I heard him. I say yes and left it at that. A few days later I asked him why he said it. He said he was just expressing how he felt. I let him know that I cared about him, but I didn't feel like we knew each other well enough to go there yet and that isn't something I just throw out there or offer lightly. We haven't spoken about it again. Now it's been six months and I'm wanting to express to him that i love him. Was the last time just a slip in the heat of passion?....even if he asked if I heard him twice? Should I wait until he says it again?...or is he probably waiting for me since I reacted the way that I did? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Just going to say, he probably just got really caught in the moment. You and him were having sex, his receptor down there(if ya know what i mean) was on. He was just in the moment.
But you love him. And we already know he loves you. Dont be shy. Last time was to early in the relationship. But now is different, you've been together for so long now. He has probably been waiting for the day when you'll say: "I love you too." Don't let one incident hold ya back. Because when you love someone, you can never say I love you enough.
-Good luck and I hoped I help!
-Dr.D
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I started dating this guy that I met at a bar around November 2016 and I really liked him. During the first couple of months though we fought a lot. We fought mostly because the majority of my friends are male, which I understand. He didn't really know me and he didn't know that they were platonic friends of mine. I realized very quickly that he was a jealous kind of guy. We got together as a couple, we broke up, we got back together, etc.
Then in February 2017, he cheated on me with a girl at a bar. We broke up and eventually got back together.
Fast forward to now, May 2017. I moved into his house and as far as I know, he hasn't talked to any girls that he shouldn't be. We still fight about the dumbest stuff though almost everyday. Every time we get into a huge screaming match I sit there and I think, "how is this my life? Is this really the kind of person I want to be with?" because I don't fight with people. Fighting is my least favorite thing to do, especially with someone that I love. He still gets mad at me when I make a decision to hang out with someone, even girl friends. He doesn't trust me and we always get into the fight that if I wanted to go out and do something that that's not the kind of girlfriend that he wants and "we want different things out of life". I love the kid and I love the security that we have financially (which I wouldn't have if it weren't for him).
Onto the real part of my question:
I had a job at a video store a couple of years ago and I worked with this guy that I became friends with. We had hooked up a couple of times the summer before I met my boyfriend and I really, really liked him. I figured our "relationship" was just a series of booty calls and thought this guy was way out of my league and would never pursue a real relationship with me. It kind of hurt so I broke off the physical relationship we had and I got over it when I met my boyfriend. Well, this guy just got ahold of me a few days ago and confessed that he actually likes me and doesn't want to cause problems in my relationship but really just wanted me to know that he had feelings for me. I always thought that he was the kind of person I wanted to be with and that could provide me with a fun, loyal relationship.
So now I'm at a crossroads because I finally realize that I don't have to settle for someone who treats me like garbage because someone good CAN actually like me, even if nothing came out of this guy that I used to like. What do I do? I'm so very much in love with my boyfriend and sometimes I think that I'm happy with him but when we fight it seriously hurts and depresses me. I don't have any freedom to be friends with anyone I used to be close to or do any of the things I used to love doing. I miss having a fun relationship and doing things together instead of just staying home all of the time. I guess I'm scared of losing him but I'm not 100% happy. Is that how relationships are supposed to be? You just work through it? I'm scared of breaking it off, moving out and then regretting it. I'm just so lost I guess.
If this doesn't make any sense, just let me know haha. I know I'm all over the place and it's a pretty long question. Thanks for reading! (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
oh that was to long for me! couldn't make it past the half point!
Just kidding! The more information you give, the more we can work with. Thank you :-)
but any who. your dating this man now. Want you all to himself. Doesn't leave much. Hangs around the house. But you aren't happy are you? Only you can say if your happy or not.
This other man sounds charming. Happy, and you know him, you didn't meet him in a bar. Its best you talk to him. See how this other guy feels about you before you do anything drastic. And then if it blossoms leave your current boyfriend. Because he inst the man you want to have kids with in the far future. You want happiness, kindness, respect.
We all make mistakes Mrs. But it doesn't help if you stay with it.
Talk this other guy. And if he loves you, and gives you the happiness and respect you deserve. Leave your boy.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope I helped!
-Dr.D
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Hi,
He says, I like treating you and I don't mind. Except he's a long time friend. His joke seems like flirt to me but to him it's only kidding. How to recognise purely if they are into you? How do you see the difference if your friend really likes you? I've asked him, he says yes I like you, Actually he says few times when we see each other but hard to tell if it's as friend or God knows. (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
interesting. To me it sounds like he does like you. But you want to be positive before anything happens. Well the answer is simple. be straight up with him. And ask if you want to get into a real honest relationship. The only way to know, is to ask. There is no better way. But I bet if you ask, you'll get the results your looking for. And maybe it will blossom into a beautiful relationship :-)
good luck! And dont be afraid! :-)
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I had a dream I came in my room and my boyfriend was going through my phone crying. What could this me ? It was weird my manager was in it as well. (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Dreams are often the brain sending us hidden messages about how we feel and problems in everyday life that our brain thinks we should fix. Now if your boyfriend is crying while looking at your phone. I'm guessing that your brain is saying your hiding something in your phone that could potentially hurt your boyfriend. This could be a secret, or anything that would make your boyfriend upset.
Thats what I think it is, guessing from the information given. But if your hiding a secret, your brain wants you to confess and tell the truth to end this.
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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Hi,
Do boys try to find a way to touch a girl or look for an excuse to touch when they fancy her? Like per say, slight poke on shoulder, touching knee, rubbing or patting on shoulder but not in a pervert way however always finding a way to touch I've noticed even though we've been friends for ages therefore it's hard to recognise either he's into me or just an another innocent boy mate?? I fancy him and wondering if he does because we joke a lot so it's painfully hard to tell. When I say to him you're flirting again eh, he replies with a pure smile no, we're just messing around and joking. I'm like. 'really'? He does say he likes me. So what is this? He gives me all sorts of hints that he likes me. Making an eye and laughing hard. Any thoughts guys? Thanks (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here.
And lucky you! I am a guy! Also, I know what he is up to. ;)
Get ready, as a scientist myself. I'm about to blow you away with some science!
When trying to get someone to like you, it takes time, attention and affections. Now we do these things unintentionally but it hints to when we like someone. And why we like certain people to!Now it is within our ancient code and our animal/wild part of our brain to reproduce, but not just with anyone. The person we are attracted to. So when we bond with people(intimacy), our body will release hormones, different levels cause different reactions. Now when it comes to love, I can easily think of three of the hormones that make us love. Which are Dopamine(liking(sometimes addiction)), norepinephrine(excitement(adrenaline)), and serotonin(makes you feel like your going insane!). All those will go into the blood stream and this makes love
I am so sorry, I just saw the chance of a science question... And I never get those so I couldn't help it! This boy clearly sounds like he likes you. And you like him. Your already showing the signs of norepinephrine..... Sorry, sorry. He likes you. scientifically, and in a relationship.
I wish you good luck with this boy! :-)
-Dr.D
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Ok, long story short, what's the meaning of this when the boy tells that, i like you, in fact very much when we're out with our uni friends but when he said that we're alone meanwhile when we went to buy drinks and snacks he insisted to pay like he always does. i tried to pay him back the next day but he goes on and says, no it's alright, i'd like to spoil you, buying things for you. he's going away for a few weeks. he says he will miss me very much. we're friends but also i can feel that he likes me a little, least a little? no idea though. we tease each other loads. is he hinting anything at all? i felt like saying stop saying you like me and miss me otherwise you're going to fall in love with me but i just couldn't didn't have a courage to say that. So, what do i expect here?
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Hiya!
Sounds to me like this man has it hot for you. reasons could be that:
1. pays for all your stuff
2. says he will miss you
3. teases you in a playful manner
4. says that he likes you
He may be sending mixed signals. But I can tell you, one of those signals is pretty clear. I suggest try getting closer. Do you like this guy? If so get closer. Who knows, maybe its meant to be. I been single since my girlfriend died a few years ago. And how we got together, was by talking. We talked and talked and learned a lot about each other. Talking turned into conversations on our interests. And that into what we had in common. And that into a friendship. We got so close, and it was so beautiful.
So what ever happens. If you like him. Dont be afraid to nod yourself into his direction. Life is to short for you not to risk the chance of something amazing.
I wish you the best of luck.
-Dr.D
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Here's how it is, you're my darling, aren't you, he says. Go to different uni but we're friends. Laughing, joking and talking is always there between us. He normally uses my name to call me but lately he's been calling darling a lot or either dear. He says he's joking, at least that's what he says but I told him he's flirting. We just backfired at other. Now, calling friend a dear and darling and you're my darling meaning something at all?? (link)
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Hiya!
Adorable! It doesn't take much to understand whats going on. He is flirting with you. We men can not resist the urge to give a little hint to our crushes that we like them. Because we want them to like them back.
Actually, quick story, to get my crush to notice me I had my friend make a mess of these heavy logs on her lawn when we had a bond fire. So I picked up one of these heavy logs at a time, and carried her on my back to get her to have fun, and to notice me.
I think thats what your friend is doing. He likes you, and is trying to hint at it in a funny way. How do you feel about this man? Do you like him back? because it never hurts to give a hint back.
Good luck deary!
-Dr.D
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This guy that I have been friends with for 5 years broke up with his gf a few months back. During that time, he always texted me, always talked to me, etc. He was going through emotional trauma.
Everything was fine up until I started liking him. I didn't tell him though because I knew it wasn't the right time. Conveniently, I started liking him the day him and his gf got back together -_-
He found out that I liked him, and immediately told his gf. This was bad because she's the possessive type. After that, there was a shit load of drama between me and him, me and his gf, and all 3 of us in general.
3 weeks ago, I started ignoring the guy. I did this because my feelings for him grew and I didn't know how to get rid of them, so I avoided him in attempt to avoid it all.
I felt bad a week later, so I texted him because sincerely honest about everything. I told him that my feelings for him grew and that I want to rebuild our friendship to make it stronger (because we were having slight friendship problems.)
He texted back the next day, "Hey look, my gf is getting mad you're saying this all to me." I replied with "I'm sorry?" because I really did not think he'd respond that way.
He then said, "You need to stop saying that you like me because I'm dating another girl and it's sorta inappropriate. I don't like you like that."
I was really triggered. I said he misinterpreted my text, and I told him that I just want to be better friends with him. He said, "Well I'm sorry, but I don't think we can be as good of friends as we were before." I asked, "Why not?" and he never responded.
He's friends with one of my close friends, and he told her he will not be my friend anymore and just avoid me.
It has been 2 weeks. I'm very sad. I miss him, but at the same time, I don't want to resolve things with someone who doesn't want to resolve them with me.
What should I do? :( (link)
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Hiya! awww. you poor thing. People can be so rude! How you can talk to him again, off the bat? Thats something I don't know. I'm sorry. But I know how to fix some of your problems. Time heals wounds. Physically, and emotionally. Let time pass and let him ignore you. But everything has its end. Maybe he is doing this only for the sake of his girlfriend, for them to stay together. Maybe right after this relationship, he is going straight back to you. But till then. stay strong, and dont focus on him. Because there are plenty of other men in the world. about 4.5 billion to be more exact. And I bet many men in that 4.5 billion are as lonely as you.
I prescribe you look for someone just like you. The man who wont leave you. He may not be prince charming, but its in the inside that matters. Lower your expectations a few. try different guys, and find who is right for you. dont let one guy get to you.
Hey, if ya need anything else, I'm glad to help. :-)
-Dr.D
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Well, sorry it's bit long but straight to point, he says he trusts me and I reckon, he's been chatting about me with his friends because when i saw his few friends in town they said, (mentioned his name) he says you're kind and he loves you, we mean, he loves your personality, I looked at them and we all just smiled. However, we hardly text unless we have to but when I text him saying hi or hello, he don't seem to be into it, he does reply though. When we see each other we're like non stop chatterbox and joking with flirty comments. I ain't got a clue with this boy. I absolutely wish to confront him but not sure enough. Anyways, we've known each other for quite a while now. Good friends. Right guys, so him saying he trusts me and his friends saying he loves me, means anything or nothing at all?? Do guys talk to their friends when they are into girls and are the girls has to be trustworthy?? Thankyou. Terribly sorry it's really long.
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Hiya! I'll see if I can help :-D
see in my opinion, we guys really never share are feelings. Its never come up to conversation with me and my friends. But we do like to talk about the girls we like. Not saying like we have a crush or what not no. But we do like to bring them up.
I say, if you like this boy, ask him. ask him out. Dont be shy, and dont be afraid to be shot down. Because if he likes you, he is bound to say yes. And to me, you make it sound like you guys are always flirting and are really close.
Hopefully this helped. I'm not the best with this kind of advice.
-Dr.D
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he comes online on WhatsApp, clearly he sees my messages but takes forever to reply? why???? its making me so annoyed , I get this feeling he is talking to someone else (link)
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Hiya! Doctor D. here! I'd like to help. But can you give a bit more information? Like is this your boyfriend? A crush? Have you known each other for a while?
I'm always ready to help. But I need a bit more information. Go ahead and message me if you do want more or rather better advice from me.
-Dr.D
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We do not go to the same school. We talked twice... through text. I only saw a glimpse of him a long time ago in real life. I have his numbers, I might give him a call or text him. How do I ask without sounding weird or creepy? He knows I like him and yes I really do need those pictures.
Oh and just a heads up, he has a girlfriend.
How do I do this? (link)
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hey!
wow, that is hard. Trying to get a picture without sounding creepy. Well I will tell you what I did when I texted my first crush. I asked her to send me a picture of herself so I can put it as her contact information. And it worked!
Hopefully I helped you. Good Luck! :-)
-Dr.D
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Well I'm a 22 almost 23 yr old female, and well I met this guy on the dating app Tinder at the beginning of February around valentines day.. he's from the same country as me so we share the same cultural interests..
Ok straight to the point from that moment we clicked on straight away our banter has always been jokes and till this day we still speak everyday, and lately but slowly I've started becoming more and more interested in him. We flirt but we don't make it so obvious,so I start to get the impression that he's into me.. don't get me wrong he seems like a great guy, we only just met up for the first time on Friday which was so out of the blue and it was a first for me because I never meet anyone from Tinder, it was a meet up.. but it felt like a date he paid for everything and we ended up kissing towards the end.
He's the type of guy who's not really 'soft' or romantic, so its so hard to know if he's into me or not, I don't wanna ask or say that I'm into him because I will feel that I'm coming off to desperate. He said that he's been soft with me, caught a soft spot, fair enough but its annoying when the guy you're into isn't the sweet type.. he was affectionate towards the end of the meet up which I loved we hugged etc... and there was a lot of eye connection which was very flirty..
my problem also is the fact that he is the type of guy that loves going out a lot, I don't mind but it kinda makes me uneasy.. because he's very attractive, he goes clubbing whenever its a friends birthday which has been often..
Sometimes the way we speak makes me feel like he wants me, then in the back of my head I feel like he's also speaking the same way with another girl..
I feel like we've had a great connection even before meeting up, but I also don't want to waste my time
I don't know how to feel or what to think , I've started to catch feelings for him... (link)
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Hey! You seem tense. Dont worry! sit down, relax, doctors here! seems you got a hard choice with you and this man. He doesn't show much emotion toward you both, but yet he does. Its not easy, but the only thing to do, is ask him. Ask him if he likes you in a relationship way. Its very hard for us to get the nerves to say it. but there is no other way to ask. who knows, if he says yes, then congrats! But if he says no, dont worry. He'll understand you like him. And he'll think about you more often.
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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Hey guys,
Just curious, ny crush is saying a lot that he likes my company and he says we have a good banter. Haven't got a guts to ask him out but I just want to make sure that he's likes me even though we've known for half a year. Thankyou (link)
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Hey! How cute! Human emotions are so strange. Am I right? In situations like this, we are confused with several emotions, like excitement, nervousness, anxiousness, its all enough to give you butterflies! But the only way to know if he likes you, is ask. It sounds stupid I know, but it could turn into a relationship right their. Men are just as nervous as women(and i should know, i'm a guy). I never can get the guts to ask out my crush. She's the part that would complete me! But the only way to know if your crush likes you, is just ask.
I wish you good luck :-)
-Dr.D
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A boy says, I won't give up on you during the chat. He says, if he has to he will help me till his last breath. Thing is he's helping me with my lesson and I'm obviously not picking up fast now is this just friendly thing to say to a girl mate? By the way, he's super nice. (link)
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Hey! And awww, how adorable! People naturally or accidentally will hint to their liking of people. This could be a good sign that he likes you. If you like him back, hint back at it. give a small sign, accidently, or on purpose. it doesnt matter. Only you and him can figure out if you want to pursue in a relationship.
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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just curious, when I get a missed call twice in a day from a boy and while I ring back he replies it was by accident which is kind of weird because I would never call anyone accidently twice. however, when he calls it's always hi and hello, that's all. I don't know if he thinks of me when that accident calls happen or am I dreaming way ahead?? by the way, he's my crush and we go to same college. I reckon he likes me coz he does say you're a good well mannered girl. anyways, thankyou all
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Hey! Aww, so cute! Crushes are ones weakness, but greatest strength! I can't tell you if your crush is doing this on purpose to try to talk to you. But this could be a sign! It is often that humans will actually try(unintentionally) to get their crushes to think about them. Its like a involuntary movement. So you could be looking your future dream boat!
Have a nice day(and good luck)!
-Dr.D
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