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Complicated friend!
Hi,
Do boys try to find a way to touch a girl or look for an excuse to touch when they fancy her? Like per say, slight poke on shoulder, touching knee, rubbing or patting on shoulder but not in a pervert way however always finding a way to touch I've noticed even though we've been friends for ages therefore it's hard to recognise either he's into me or just an another innocent boy mate?? I fancy him and wondering if he does because we joke a lot so it's painfully hard to tell. When I say to him you're flirting again eh, he replies with a pure smile no, we're just messing around and joking. I'm like. 'really'? He does say he likes me. So what is this? He gives me all sorts of hints that he likes me. Making an eye and laughing hard. Any thoughts guys? Thanks
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When it comes to touching people while in conversation, there are two different types, touching for two very different reasons.
What you are familiar with is flirting touch to let someone know that you like them. You can like a frined or like someone as more than a friend, so its gonna take more than seeing the obvious and knowing they truly do like you.
Lets focus on the touching. What you need to think about or find out by observing him, is whether he uses this type of behavior with other people than just you. Some people don't just talk with their mouth but also with their hands ( that would be me by the way. a friend once reached out and forced
So id hw is like that with everyone to some degree, then its just part of his personality. Not a clue that he likes you as possibly more than a friend.
Lots of people choose to be cautious, or dont have a clue what to say or do other than smile, spend time with and be friendly towards someone they may feel amorous towards. Due to the fact it could just be personality, many feel confused. Your womans intuition is telling you there may be more to this and womens intuition is quite often right on. So heres my favorite way to find out, which I learned from watching dating videos and what worked for me. You simply say "We've been doing so well as friends together, it makes me wonder if we could do well as more than friends. What do you think?" You have to ask his opinion, and this way is not awkward and doesn't feel pressuring, cus it comes across as a thought that just came to your mind, real natural. If he is flirting and wants to get more serious, he will see this as his chance to explore and be sure before he makes any commitment like asking you to be his girlfriend. Problem is that too many females want an instant commitment before the two have had a chance to check out a person well enough to know if they are the kind of person you like for just a friend, an intimate friends with benefits thing only, or does the person seem like the type to spend the rest of ones life with. So if you want to know if you are going to stay friends or try more than friends, you just need to bring up the subject with the basics I mentioned saying.
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Hiya! Dr.D here.
And lucky you! I am a guy! Also, I know what he is up to. ;)
Get ready, as a scientist myself. I'm about to blow you away with some science!
When trying to get someone to like you, it takes time, attention and affections. Now we do these things unintentionally but it hints to when we like someone. And why we like certain people to!Now it is within our ancient code and our animal/wild part of our brain to reproduce, but not just with anyone. The person we are attracted to. So when we bond with people(intimacy), our body will release hormones, different levels cause different reactions. Now when it comes to love, I can easily think of three of the hormones that make us love. Which are Dopamine(liking(sometimes addiction)), norepinephrine(excitement(adrenaline)), and serotonin(makes you feel like your going insane!). All those will go into the blood stream and this makes love
I am so sorry, I just saw the chance of a science question... And I never get those so I couldn't help it! This boy clearly sounds like he likes you. And you like him. Your already showing the signs of norepinephrine..... Sorry, sorry. He likes you. scientifically, and in a relationship.
I wish you good luck with this boy! :-)
-Dr.D
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