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He said "i love you"
We were dating for about three months when my boyfriend said "i love you" during sex. I ignored it because, frankly, I didnt want to ruin the moment and I wasn't ready for that. I know this happens sometimes just because it's a passionate situation. But, a moment later he asked if I heard him. Again, I ignored it. Again, he asked if I heard him. I say yes and left it at that. A few days later I asked him why he said it. He said he was just expressing how he felt. I let him know that I cared about him, but I didn't feel like we knew each other well enough to go there yet and that isn't something I just throw out there or offer lightly. We haven't spoken about it again. Now it's been six months and I'm wanting to express to him that i love him. Was the last time just a slip in the heat of passion?....even if he asked if I heard him twice? Should I wait until he says it again?...or is he probably waiting for me since I reacted the way that I did?
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If he asked if you heard him twice, he was probably eexpecting to hear it back. So, meant it. I would say.
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The ball is in your corut you have to say it.
dont feel weird about the istuation. It is unreasonable to expect both partners to cross ther love threshold at the same time. relationships just dot work like that. And if one say "i love you" and the other does not then it does not mean they feel differently it may just mean there define that term differently.
Every serious relationship I have ever been in has a time period where one person says it and the other needs time to cross that line. It is normal
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Just going to say, he probably just got really caught in the moment. You and him were having sex, his receptor down there(if ya know what i mean) was on. He was just in the moment.
But you love him. And we already know he loves you. Dont be shy. Last time was to early in the relationship. But now is different, you've been together for so long now. He has probably been waiting for the day when you'll say: "I love you too." Don't let one incident hold ya back. Because when you love someone, you can never say I love you enough.
-Good luck and I hoped I help!
-Dr.D
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I definitely think that the rejection you expressed the first time made him more careful about saying it first to you. If it were me, I'd be waiting for you to say it this time instead.
If you love him, let him know! He'll probably be glad to hear it! :)
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I think there's a simple solution to this; tell him how you feel.
He said it to you first, and you rejected him.
If he asked if you heard it, he probably meant it too.
You should be the one to tell him how you feel now that you feel the same, it's only fair.
If he hasn't said it again since it's likely because he is afraid or because he doesn't want to make you feel uncomfortable with it.
If you waited for him to tell you again it might be that he gets frustrated and feels like you don't love him. This could even result in him breaking up with you over it.
I really believe that you need to tell him if you feel the same back.
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