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To make a long story short I'm at my 3rd college and I want to transfer colleges again.
The first college I went to for a few months and it was one of those dumb little for profit colleges that have commercials on tv, I went there for a year and then transferred to a private college. I loved that college, but unfortunately started dating somebody there who became physically and mentally abusive and I wound up with a restraining order against him and he was forced to move away. I don't want to return to that college now though because I feel like it will only trigger horrible memories.
My current college started off great...until I joined a sorority, became VP, and then dropped from the sorority all in one year. Sorority life was too much of a lifestyle change for me and I was still dealing with anxiety from my past trauma with my ex. Now that I've dropped I don't want to be seen by any of my past sisters. They all turned against me and now I feel like everybody knows me as a failed sorority girl because there's only 2k students at the college. The worst part is next semester (August) all my roommates(3) are sorority girls. I feel like it's going to be hell.
Other than this reason, I'm in major doubt about my degree and my current college is very expensive (22k a year and that's with my scholarships). I also hate the name of my current college because it ends in "College" instead of "University" and sounds like a rinky-dink public college instead of the private college it is.
I now want to transfer again to a new college that's in the same city and is already known for being a really good university because they're part of the STEM program. They have a degree I'm very interested in and I actually already applied a while ago, but never sent them my official transcripts because I wasn't sure I wanted to transfer.
This college doesn't have any kind of sororities or frats and it's even smaller than my current college. I feel like I can't mess it up this time if I transfer again. I'll just lay low and make small groups of friends and focus on my job and studies.
The new college is also wayyy cheaper.
The issue is if I transfer again then I face having to start all over 2 years into college with a new degree and major.
Should I just tough it out at my current college or consider switching over one more time and then staying put?
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I don't know if you are ready for college. You seem to be more concerned about what girls think of you and ex-boyfriends then learning. If your GPA is destroyed while you busy worrying about other things you may never be able to get it back. My advice is to finish this semester with good grades and then get out of college. Get a full-time job and try to spend at least a year living on your own. managing a budget, paying bills, living the life outside of school. Then go back to school. You will approach it in a whole new light.
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My wife and I have a great marriage. She and I have another male/female couple that we have regualr sex with. I currently make love to my male friend about four times a month. My wife and my male lover's wife would like us guys to have sex more often, they mentioned having sex about 15-20 nights per month. Is is a good idea? (link)
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I think open marriages are great as long as everyone is happy. So first let me say congratulations!
You just want to ask yourself two questions
!) Do I want to?
2) Will harm my marriage
If you want to and your wife is OK with it than go for it.
If you don't want to then say no and be very clear. communication is key.
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We broke up around 3 years ago after being together for 3 years. A year after we broke up I found out that she had moved on, it broke my heart but I accepted it and I was happy for her. 3 years later, we finally spoke on Valentine's Day this year and in that message she sent me a pic of a valentines present I gave her many years ago and she said that she never knew how weird it could be to stop talking and seeing someone who you used to be close to, she said she wondered how things would be if things didn't go the way they did. She asked if I had met anyone I said no then After that she said that she hoped I can find someone that makes me happy because I deserve it.I was shocked but I just said the same back. It felt as tho we were close again, befote ending the conversation she told me to 'stay in touch'.After a few days I sent her a pic of a place where I used to take her and asked if she remembers she jokingly said'more importantly,who are you with?lol'.She remembers everything including my birthday in a few weeks and jokingly said that I should start thinking about 'settling down' bcos I'm getting old. We've only talked on and off since Valentine's Day, however 2 days ago on social media she put up a picture of the place I used to take her to (the place I described earlier) and she put a heart💕 On the caption.What could this all mean? (link)
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Sounds to me like she just wants to be friends.
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We were dating for about three months when my boyfriend said "i love you" during sex. I ignored it because, frankly, I didnt want to ruin the moment and I wasn't ready for that. I know this happens sometimes just because it's a passionate situation. But, a moment later he asked if I heard him. Again, I ignored it. Again, he asked if I heard him. I say yes and left it at that. A few days later I asked him why he said it. He said he was just expressing how he felt. I let him know that I cared about him, but I didn't feel like we knew each other well enough to go there yet and that isn't something I just throw out there or offer lightly. We haven't spoken about it again. Now it's been six months and I'm wanting to express to him that i love him. Was the last time just a slip in the heat of passion?....even if he asked if I heard him twice? Should I wait until he says it again?...or is he probably waiting for me since I reacted the way that I did? (link)
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The ball is in your corut you have to say it.
dont feel weird about the istuation. It is unreasonable to expect both partners to cross ther love threshold at the same time. relationships just dot work like that. And if one say "i love you" and the other does not then it does not mean they feel differently it may just mean there define that term differently.
Every serious relationship I have ever been in has a time period where one person says it and the other needs time to cross that line. It is normal
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I am 13 Syrian girl. I was born in Syria Islam family. I move to America last year because war. I remember some Christians and Jews and others in Syria, but they forced out or killed. My family, they hate non Muslims. I still wear hijab, my parents make me fast this month. but I read Bible, I learn about Christianity and I dont beleive in Islam anymore. I talk to mom about Christians she says if I became one she would hate me until I come back. I dont care I like Christianity. I make Christians friends in America school, I pretend to go to library on Sunday I go to church in reality. I wish I could celebrate Christian holidays and take off hijab I pray to Jesus in secret. How do I get out of this family? how do I live as Christian? How do I convince family to let me take hijab off? Sorry for English. (link)
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I am very hesitant to advice anyone to hide their religion.
However when people hold strong religion beliefs they can be down right cruel. Even to their own children. It will be at least 5 years if not more before you can easily take care of yourself. Until that time, you need your parents. You should not tell them you are Christian.
You have to choose your battles. This is not a battle you want to get into. Play nice with you parent till you are grown and out of the house.
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I wrote about my problems with my LONG distance relationship and I received advice that really helped... I realised that i was the one worrying about it and everything is fine now... long distance relationship is really work and patience is required... how do I gain or achieve this patience until I see my bf (link)
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The key seems to be having the right amount of hobbies. You should to have a hobby or too that keeps you busy. You do not want to be so busy you don't have time for him at all, nor do you want so few that you think about him all the time.
The key is to strike a balance so that your boyfriend is one of several important things in your life. Don't forget about him but don't obsess over him.
where exactly is the balance? that is hard to know. as a rule of thumb if you feel your thoughts of him turn form happy thoughts to worrying about what he is doing that is a sign you may be obsessing.
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So, I'm in a long distance relationship. Me and my boyfriend love playing games, but it's a little difficult to find games to play. We can play anything, whether it's online or needs to be downloaded. Any suggestions? (link)
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A lot ot this depends on the type of games you like.
mmorpgs (cost very little compared to the amount of time you can spend on them. make a char that you only play with him so those two chars can level together)
-world of warcraft
-starwars
-elderscrolls online
first person shooters
-halo
-call of duty
-destiny
some good coop team games
-guns of icarus (i love this team airship battle game)
-dungeom defenders 2 (coop tower defense meets hack and slash)
-7 days to die (still in alpha testing but you can buy it and create a private game. He can use your ip address to connect. because it is still in alpah there are a few thing about the setup that are not user friendly, but if you can get past that it is a great zombie survival game based on the mine craft engine)
that is a few off the top of my head.
i may do some digging later tonight and update this replay with more options.
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Let's say its 7:45 can't I say its 45 minutes past 7 or when its 7:55 its 55 minutes past 7?? Instead of It's quarter to eight or It's 5 to 8.
People say its wrong when I say that so I was just wondering...
Sorry is this is a dumbass question but I need to clear the air! (link)
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It is common to use lower minute values. so for example if the time is 7:50, it is more common to say "ten till eight", rather than "fifty past seven." I do not think there are any official grammar rules that outlaw "fifty past seven" it is just not common.
i hate the "ten till eight" thing because it causes the listener to do a little math and if they misunderstand then they may think it is 8:10 or 8:50
I personally don't like ether of these I would rather just say "seven fifty". It is shorter and clearer
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Hello, I'm a college student so I wasn't able to have two jobs during the semester, but now it's summer and I recently started at a second job that earns 2000 a month on top of my first job where I make about $700. I have around $600 a month in bills and life expenses so you can see why before I wasn't able to save much.
Anyways, now that I have another paycheck coming in it's been hard for me to figure out what I should do with it. Especially considering I might have to quit my second job in three months when summer is over because it's not flexible and I don't know that I can manage it while taking a full load of classes too.
I owe money to three sources: a car I'm financing that has $9600 left on it, $1000 to an old debt, and I owe my mom around $800.
With paychecks added, expenses taken out, and bills taken out; at the end of the month I should have around $1300 in excess. I know this number is low, but that's because I spent most of my paychecks this month on paying off two old debts, giving my dad $200 to help with his bills, and buying some things I desperately needed. In future months though I'm hoping to be able to save much more of the paychecks.
Of course the third debt comes first because I need to start paying it ASAP, but plan on paying it in parts.
I really want to also be working on the other two debts, but my dilemma is that I know my car payment doesn't need to be paid off in a hurry (I have years left on the loan) and that I already pay $400 towards it a month. I still really want to pay it off quicker though because I'm sick of that huge chunk coming out of my paychecks every month.
I also want to pay off my mom, but at the same time it's at the back of my mind that she greatly exaggerates the amount I owe her and that my whole life my dad paid 80% of my bills and she never offered to help him when she makes just as much as he does and on top of that received child support from him. She'll also go from telling me not to worry about paying her back to complaining to my family members about me not paying her back and hounding me for the cash. She also constantly relies on me to help her, but doesn't hold my brothers to the same standard. With all these things in mind it makes me hesitant to pay her back. I still love my mom to pieces of course, I'm just very cautious of wasting my money especially if I cease to have it in three months.
My car also really needs some TLC (all cosmetic) that I'd put the cost around 2k for and of course seeing as my car is my method of transportation that's really important to me too.
Of course there are other small expenses that I know will come out that I'm not foreseeing right now, such as makeup, clothes, eating out, etc.
Can you help me sort all this out? What should I start paying first? How should I split these up into monthly payments so I'm taking on too much at one time?
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Keep 1000 in saves for emergencies.
Then pay mom. money issues can drive a wedge between people. Personally I have seen best friends turn on one another when one owes another money.
I imagine the $1000 old debt is not gaining interest. So put all the rest of in into the car payment and cut the interest down.
Do not worry about cosmetics to the car. You do not fully own the car yet.
If you are making $1300 extra each month you should be able to make mom happy and get your car debt down to $7500 and have $1000 tucked away in case something comes-up.
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My boyfriend and I just got back together after a year breakup... at first, everything was smooth until one month down the line... His school is 4hours drive from mine and since I really dnt lyk traveling, We dnt visit until we get home.. lately, all we do is fight and argue..He also told me that if I get lonely at SCH, I shld get a bf here and tell him so we can break up..Now, we argued over a lil thing and I called him.. we were just silent over the phone deep in our diff thoughts..My questions is that how sure am I that he is nt cheating on me, and I feel like I am the only one trying to make things work here as we are 5months into this relationship and 4months have been quarrels and argument galore. I need advise cs am abt losing my mind here (link)
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Good couples argue sometimes but they don't start arguing a lot the first 2 months and they do not argue for 4 out of the first 5 months. It is clear the two of you do not get along. You are better off single.
breakup and look elsewhere.
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My dad was always absent in my life and I was basically raised by a single mom. For the first time, he is showing interest in getting to know me. I'm 25 and he is 60. Do I have a moral obligation to tell him about my life? I would prefer not to. (link)
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obligation, no
you are under no obligation..
If there is a small part of you that might want to know what he has to say. It would be best to talk to your father. Get any questions you may have answered.
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I am a special education teacher. I teach traumatized-behavioral students at a last-stop school. This job is hard.
Here is a history of what you will need to know. This is my first year teaching. I have been in 4 classrooms for this past year. I started in middle school for the first week, but my co-teacher had two new employees with her and we had a new student who was very impulsive. I was switched out with another staff and was placed in elementary. I liked it more because the students were sweeter and I felt like I was making more of an impact.
However, when a new student was added, it turns out all of the students my co-teacher and I had were all autistic. None of us have experience teaching autistic children. Because he was leaving the job, the principal moved a high school teacher to teach elementary. I ended up moving into her classroom.
I was miserable. I have learned a lot from her and I loved watching her teach her subjects. But the classroom was not a team. I felt like a lost black sheep in the classroom. I was consistently overwhelemed and I felt like I was failing at everything I was doing. The blame was consistently blamed on me. I was carrying so much--paperwork, teaching, behavior students. I have had two kids wrapped around each leg, and another student baiting another student of mine. I had an aide stand across the room watching me and was on her phone. This was my work environment for 5 months. I asked my principal to be switched to another classroom because I did not want to feel like I was dragging myself out of bed to be at a job I was not happy in and did not feel successful in.
I was switched (and now currently in) high school. It is a lot better. I feel a lot more relaxed and the staff is surprised that I get along with the high school students really well. There is one student who is the most difficult one throughout the classroom--she has depressive-bipolar disorder, and she does cut herself.
Me, being depressed myself, I feel like I can understand her. But I have not said anything because I would like her to open up to me whenever she is ready. We have been getting along and she thinks I am easily amused and overly happy, when I'm not. I have learned to think positively. My previous co-teacher told me that she thinks my student could use more "cuteness" or "positiveness" in her life.
Back to her, she is difficult to handle. Everytime at 3 o'clock, she starts acting up. She curses, she leaves the room, yells at staff, and fails to follow directions. The rest of the staff in the high school classroom does not want to deal with her because she is so "mentally exhausting." She says nobody is able to help her. She blames everything on her disorder instead of taking ownership of her actions. She has been difficult and had been picking on one of the staff members in our classroom. People are saying that she's trying to find things to be mad about.
Because she has been leaving the room, speaking with the principal, teachers, etc. She has been begging to be in her own classroom. The principal decided to give it to her because it's the end of the year and NOBODY wants to deal with her anymore. They literally told me, "Right now, I am in survival mode."
I was told by ANOTHER coworker that I was going to be put one-on-one with this student. I was really confused. I have been in this classroom for two weeks, barely know her, but we get along, I was assigned to be one-on-one with her. My current co-teacher didn't even know. I was agitated because I wish that it was discussed with me instead of being assigned with me.
The reason why I was moved to the current classroom was being my principal knew I was wanting to find a general education job elsewhere, and she thought this classroom was more likely to be the most "normal." All the sudden, I'm being placed one-on-one. She said that we would figure out a way where I won't have to be with the student alone all day, everyday. I asked if the student works her way back to the classroom, she said at this point, they're all trying to survive and she'll just be by herself for the remaining 2-3 weeks.
Since I told the principal I was relocating and I was resigining from the district, I feel like I've been getting the short end of the stick or thrown under the bus, a lot (there were more situations similar to this). I've been trying to stay positive telling myself that everyone is struggling. Maybe they chose me because the student hates me the least in the classroom. Maybe they think I'll change her life in some way.
I am just wondering what should I do? Should I just push through for the remaining 2-3 weeks and leave? Do I talk about it? Is there a way I can be more positive about it? (link)
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This is an easy one. Yes, just push through the next 3 weeks. Do your best to teach the problem child. When you are first starting out in this field you really need good references. If you want a different job you need your current employer to say good things about you. So make sure to do a good job in your bosses eyes.
better to suffer for 3 weeks and get a good reference out of it.
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Sorry, a little long, the other day, he was helping me with the lesson and he's such a decent boy. Known him for a quite a while now and we got to know each other. Meanwhile, he asked me if I was hungry and went for a burger afterwards. Told him I might be moving near my parents but we can stay in contact if you wish, he said I will always stay in contact with you. So you're leaving me, i shall miss you he said, I told him come on you're a decent human being and we're friends, that moment I don't know but while we're still eating, he says you're making me love you, you know, I like you but now you're making me love you. I just smiled saying nothing. So, why would he use love word? I do have a tiny crush on him. What do you think because you guys are smart people? Want to ask him badly but just get scared. Cheers (link)
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Based on this information I would say he has romantic feelings for you. If you are moving away soon I would not recommend starting a new relationship. If it turns out you won't be moving ask him out on a date. Make sure to use the word "date" so he knows it is not a friend thing.
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Ok, long story short, what's the meaning of this when the boy tells that, i like you, in fact very much when we're out with our uni friends but when he said that we're alone meanwhile when we went to buy drinks and snacks he insisted to pay like he always does. i tried to pay him back the next day but he goes on and says, no it's alright, i'd like to spoil you, buying things for you. he's going away for a few weeks. he says he will miss me very much. we're friends but also i can feel that he likes me a little, least a little? no idea though. we tease each other loads. is he hinting anything at all? i felt like saying stop saying you like me and miss me otherwise you're going to fall in love with me but i just couldn't didn't have a courage to say that. So, what do i expect here?
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Most likely, he likes you. If you like him back, you should make a move. If you don't like back, you should make that very very clear. When a guy are interested in a girl they can be blind to light signals so if you are not interested make it obvious.
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I've gotten into a terrible rut with procrastinating all the time on everything and now my sleep schedule is messed up because of it.
I have two jobs, one of them is a work at home and the other I travel to the next city over for usually twice or three times a week.
My issue (although lies in me) stemmed from my first job. It consists of working on projects that are on time as long as they're turned in before my boss gets to work the next day (I send them in online). My boss usually sends over my work around 3pm. I'll start on it around 4 and then usually take a break at around 6. However, I then procrastinate on finishing it until really late at night just because I know that technically I can. Sometimes I don't even start on them until 1 or 2am in the morning and then I'm awake working on them until usually 5 or 6am. Then this turns into me sleeping until 1:30pm in the afternoon or on really bad days like today I slept until 3pm.
This of course ruins my entire schedule and turns into a pattern because now I don't get tired until around 4am.
Another example is that last night I worked for my first job until 5am then went to bed and I knew I needed to work a night shift at my second job today so I made plans with a friend in the same city to meet up with him before I went into work, but that didn't happen because I slept until 3pm. Then I had to get up, take a shower, get ready, get something to eat, check the mail, and get gas. I KNEW I also needed to do laundry, but I need to be at my second job around 6:30pm which means leaving at 5:30pm and I don't have time for laundry now because laundry takes two hours and it's already 4. Now I'm wearing some dirty clothes (mixed with clean) for the second day in a row because I keep procrastinating on doing laundry. That means I'll be wearing dirty clothes tomorrow too because I won't get home until 1am tonight and the laundromat closes at midnight.
This kind of madness gets extremely aggravating on Sundays because by the time i wake up everything is closing within two or three hours so I can never utilize those days to their full potential.
Ideally I want to be going to sleep at 2-3am and waking up at 10 or 10:30am. I keep setting my alarm for these times, but I just hit snooze without even thinking about it every time until it eventually turns off altogether.
Help! How do I fix this!
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The problem is that break you take at 6. her are two idea you may try
1) Don't take a break. Whatever you do during you break time try to remove it. for example if you watch tv during the break unplug the tv before you start working. The idea is to make it inconvenient to watch tv so you are more likely to decide to just keep working. If you can go to an internet cafe or library to do your work so you have less detractions than at home. try to make taking a break as inconvenient as possible.
2) sleep during your break. You can get a reprieve from work and stay well rested. sometime even a shot 30 min nape can be surprisingly refreshing. If you over sleep and wake up at 2am you still have time you get your online work done and you will can stay awake for the rest of the day.
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My ex is 22. We broke up recently and it broke me completely. I moved cities a few years ago and when we broke up i came to stay with family in my old city to be with my best friend. My ex and i got in q very big fight and he started accusing my mother of things. I sent my mom the messages but now she wants to message his father. Im now scared because he knows all my secrets. Ive had sex with him and i had sex with others before i was in a relationship with him, he knows about me getting drunk and smoking. He knows i took the morning after pill he knows all of my secrets. He will tell my mom. What do i do? (link)
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I have to strongly disagree with adviceman49. If you feel victimized your sexual relationship and want to take you ex to court then by all means go ahead and accuse him of statutory rape, but do not use it as blackmail. That is a big moral line you should never cross.
There is little you can do at this point. You have your whole life to do whatever you want but for you first 2 decades you are under your moms rule. You may have to deal with the consequences. It sucks, I know, but it is only temporary.
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We do not go to the same school. We talked twice... through text. I only saw a glimpse of him a long time ago in real life. I have his numbers, I might give him a call or text him. How do I ask without sounding weird or creepy? He knows I like him and yes I really do need those pictures.
Oh and just a heads up, he has a girlfriend.
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I agree with Dr. D.
I could not have said it better myself. The add to contacts trick is brilliant. :)
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he comes online on WhatsApp, clearly he sees my messages but takes forever to reply? why???? its making me so annoyed , I get this feeling he is talking to someone else (link)
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I hate it when this happens. You drive yourself crazy thinking
he could be doing any number of things.
maybe his has several apps open and has not noticed.
maybe he has read it and does not have time to write a response at this second.
maybe he is spell checking his response.
maybe he is at school or work can reply now.
maybe someone else has his phone and opened the app.
maybe the app opened in his pocket or when he droped his phone.
maybe he is in the bathroom and is busy.
maybe he read the message but then the microwave beeped and he is trying to get out his food.
pick one, it could be anything.
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Well, sorry it's bit long but straight to point, he says he trusts me and I reckon, he's been chatting about me with his friends because when i saw his few friends in town they said, (mentioned his name) he says you're kind and he loves you, we mean, he loves your personality, I looked at them and we all just smiled. However, we hardly text unless we have to but when I text him saying hi or hello, he don't seem to be into it, he does reply though. When we see each other we're like non stop chatterbox and joking with flirty comments. I ain't got a clue with this boy. I absolutely wish to confront him but not sure enough. Anyways, we've known each other for quite a while now. Good friends. Right guys, so him saying he trusts me and his friends saying he loves me, means anything or nothing at all?? Do guys talk to their friends when they are into girls and are the girls has to be trustworthy?? Thankyou. Terribly sorry it's really long.
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It is unlikely that he told his friends he loves you, but there is good evidence that he likes you.
Your best move is to ask him out. Pick something you would like to do. maybe a movie, bowling putt-putt golf, a fair, or whatever. Ask him if he wants to go with you.
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This guy that I have been friends with for 5 years broke up with his gf a few months back. During that time, he always texted me, always talked to me, etc. He was going through emotional trauma.
Everything was fine up until I started liking him. I didn't tell him though because I knew it wasn't the right time. Conveniently, I started liking him the day him and his gf got back together -_-
He found out that I liked him, and immediately told his gf. This was bad because she's the possessive type. After that, there was a shit load of drama between me and him, me and his gf, and all 3 of us in general.
3 weeks ago, I started ignoring the guy. I did this because my feelings for him grew and I didn't know how to get rid of them, so I avoided him in attempt to avoid it all.
I felt bad a week later, so I texted him because sincerely honest about everything. I told him that my feelings for him grew and that I want to rebuild our friendship to make it stronger (because we were having slight friendship problems.)
He texted back the next day, "Hey look, my gf is getting mad you're saying this all to me." I replied with "I'm sorry?" because I really did not think he'd respond that way.
He then said, "You need to stop saying that you like me because I'm dating another girl and it's sorta inappropriate. I don't like you like that."
I was really triggered. I said he misinterpreted my text, and I told him that I just want to be better friends with him. He said, "Well I'm sorry, but I don't think we can be as good of friends as we were before." I asked, "Why not?" and he never responded.
He's friends with one of my close friends, and he told her he will not be my friend anymore and just avoid me.
It has been 2 weeks. I'm very sad. I miss him, but at the same time, I don't want to resolve things with someone who doesn't want to resolve them with me.
What should I do? :( (link)
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Move on
You are lucky. He is being clear about wanting the distance himself from you. It would be so much worse if the boy tried to play both sides, get close you and stay close with is girl. If he tried that it would end in disaster.
He made his choose, your best move is to respect his wishes and forget about him.
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