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Ex Muslim now Christian
I am 13 Syrian girl. I was born in Syria Islam family. I move to America last year because war. I remember some Christians and Jews and others in Syria, but they forced out or killed. My family, they hate non Muslims. I still wear hijab, my parents make me fast this month. but I read Bible, I learn about Christianity and I dont beleive in Islam anymore. I talk to mom about Christians she says if I became one she would hate me until I come back. I dont care I like Christianity. I make Christians friends in America school, I pretend to go to library on Sunday I go to church in reality. I wish I could celebrate Christian holidays and take off hijab I pray to Jesus in secret. How do I get out of this family? how do I live as Christian? How do I convince family to let me take hijab off? Sorry for English.
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I have to agree with MrKaman. Here in United States, a child is not considered an adult until 18. It is your parents responsibility to provide for you until that age. This also means that whatever they feel is the best beliefs and morals etc. to teach you, they have a right to do. At 18, you have the law on your side and you can become independant and choose the way you want to believe and live your life. Of course this goes totally against what your parents believe and I am sure they would be serious that they would cut you off from the family if you announced you were going to be a Christian. I believe every person should have the right to believe in that which they feel is the right path for them. No one else should be able to tell you that any one religion is wrong. All have some right points in common as well as all of them having their own peculiar misunderstanding/misinterpretations and outright false assumptions. So really its a matter of each individual finding their own spiritual path that works for them.
I am sorry to tell you there isn't a way to escape your family yet. If once you graduate high school and turn 18, you will be legally able to leave the parents. So if I were you, I'd start planning for that day now. You could talk to your pastor and let him know that once you are 18, you want to move out from your parents house, find a place to live and find a job. If this is known ahead of time, many churches are too glad to help in any way they can, most likely announcing your situatuion and finding a family from church who would have the room to take you in. Why it won't work now is that the law is still on your parents side and you don't want to draw any angry attention from them. Just do what you can to keep the peace with them, pretending to go along with what they have to say. While I also don't feel it is right to lie and pretend in something serious as this to your parents, I also have learned in life that there are always exceptions to the rules. I have heard it said that as of age 10, children are at a point where they become more conscious of things in the world and begin making their own decisions and having preferances. In your case, even explaining nicely to your family who has openly expressed hate of non muslims, would be asking them to make your life miserable, maybe even to punish you for what you are doing. There was a point in time when I was too close minded as a Christian and didn't want to allow my children to be read any magic stories by teachers in school or even have friends who were non Christian. So if they had an issue or concern that my beliegs at the time would go against, for need of having someone to talk to about their experiences, they would go talk to their Aunt. I became more accepting and open minded by time they became teens. I can say I feel glad that they reached out for help to family when they felt they could not talk to me for fear of me reaction, or punishment. You have the family of God to reach out to. I suggest you let your pastor know of what you told us and let him know that for now you will wait until you turn 18 and can legally go your own way but you will need help as its expensive to live on ones own As for the hijab, I would continue to wear it for now even if you don't believe in the practice anymore. Perhaps you may be able to live with one of the families of your christian friends. I shall pray for your safety as you continue to live with your family and hide your beliefs.
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I am very hesitant to advice anyone to hide their religion.
However when people hold strong religion beliefs they can be down right cruel. Even to their own children. It will be at least 5 years if not more before you can easily take care of yourself. Until that time, you need your parents. You should not tell them you are Christian.
You have to choose your battles. This is not a battle you want to get into. Play nice with you parent till you are grown and out of the house.
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Your language is beautiful. And you speak perfectly.
If you are trying to change from Islam to Christian. Then all you must do is make commitment. Tell your parents that you want to convert to Christianity. But the thing is. In America, parents get to choose your life choices till you are 18 years of age. It is really up to them if you can convert or not. But I say. Tell them the truth. That you are interested. Tell them this. And maybe they will understand. Islam is a great religion. And if you are feeling the need to convert just because there have been some "issues" with Islam in America. Don't convert. Pray to what you believe in. But if you want to become Christian because you truly wish to embrace it. Then tell your family the truth. And maybe they will understand.
الله يتبع لك. بغض النظر عن كيفية الصلاة. حظا طيبا وفقك الله.
-Dr.D
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