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my long distance relationship
I wrote about my problems with my LONG distance relationship and I received advice that really helped... I realised that i was the one worrying about it and everything is fine now... long distance relationship is really work and patience is required... how do I gain or achieve this patience until I see my bf
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It is hard to be apart from someone you care about. So as long as there is nothing else to keep your mind engaged and busy, your thoughts will go to him and you will have those good feelings when you think of him, mixed with longing, impatience. It is not wrong to feel impatient to see someone. But if it disrupts your normal schedule, then it is a problem. You need simply some self discipline to bury yourself in your normal daily schedule. If that is not enough to keep your mind busy, try learning something new that you've been wanting to do, whether its taking a class to learn yoga, Zumba, or self studying on line on natural health. Once your mind is truly engaged, there will be less time to focus on him. It won't work all the time so when he creeps into your thoughts when you need to focus on what you are doing, just tell yourself, I will think about him later, but right now, I want to learn this, do this to have something new to surprise him with when I see him.
Maybe he has a hobby like sailing or scuba diving. Take lessons to surprise him with when you see each other next.
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The key seems to be having the right amount of hobbies. You should to have a hobby or too that keeps you busy. You do not want to be so busy you don't have time for him at all, nor do you want so few that you think about him all the time.
The key is to strike a balance so that your boyfriend is one of several important things in your life. Don't forget about him but don't obsess over him.
where exactly is the balance? that is hard to know. as a rule of thumb if you feel your thoughts of him turn form happy thoughts to worrying about what he is doing that is a sign you may be obsessing.
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
ahh... a quote from Yoda:
"PATIENCE YOU MUST HAVE, my young padawan!"
hahaha. Dont sweat it! Waiting for something big brings us to slowly drive us INSANE!!!!
If you want to learn how to have the patience, just keep talking with your boy by text, phone, and what else you use. If thats not good enough. Distract yourself with one of your hobbies.
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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