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Hiya,
Long story, sorry. If a boy likes a girl but unfortunately (they both have a girlfriend and boyfriend) at the moment and there's no way of them breaking up but the boy wants to stay in touch with the girl forever as they are in the same class in the uni, does that mean he has a thing for her? Despite of him having a gf already and she has a bf too. Possible to like her in a romantic way??? He can't wait summer to be over because he won't see her. He acts like he likes her in a various kidding way. They've been friends since uni. She likes him too. Does he want to stay in touch because if something happens with gf in the future, he can confess or ask the uni friend out or is it just normal guy thing? They both get on and class is always fun when she sees him. When she don't see him in the uni, she misses him. So guys, is he just being a funny friend or could there be more?? Thank you for the answers
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
there isnt always one way to see a new 'relationship'. Meanwhile this is about a love story. When you feel its important for you to see the other and you dont want to miss a thing about him, this means you have feelings (even small ones).
but if you are having feelings (which is too obvious) why dont you ending your relationship with the other girl/boy?? maybe this relationship makes you feel safe which is cool but not enough.
We have to make the right decisions cause life is too short for everyone.
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You do know that its possible to be in a relationship and still have friends of the opposite sex, right? By the way, your question isn't long, but my answer is.
Heres a quesion you only need to answer to yourself. When you leave university, do you intend to stay in touch only with females, or will there be male classmates that you would like to keep in touch with. Keeping in touch does not mean a daily or weekly thing. More like the once a month or less, just to catch up on what's been going on for each other. Sometimes we get too busy with our jobs and starting a family and first attention must go there. So keeping in touch can also not happen except for once a year, agreeing to meet somewhere for coffee or just planning to attend the same event and bump into each other as part of it. If he has a girlfriend, then he is not likely interested romantically in you right now.
Hanging on to a boyfriend or girlfriend once a person has decided that this is not the person they want for a life long mate just does not make any sense. How else is one to meet the person they are meant to be with long term, the love of their life. So if he has a girlfriend he does not like enough in that way, whats he waiting for? Only you and I can guess. If this is correct he may be very afraid of how she will react and doesnt want to hurt feelings. Feelings will heal over time but marriage to someone you don't really like is torture for the rest of ones life. And unfortunately a very great amount of relationships fall into that catagory. If I were you, I'd focus on what I do have opportunity to change and it involved only you and your feelings. If you are with a bf but fantasizing about other possible relationships, its one thing if the fantasizing is about sexual stuff since our sexual organs are in good working order and we have eyes in our head, everytime we see someone whose image excites us that way, its all fine and normal but acting on it usually isn't if in relationship. So looking at a guy and sexually attracted is normal. What is no so normal and should be an indicator that something is wrong, is if you don't miss current bf when you don't see him a while but missing the other guy, having more fun with a guy other than the boyfriend, then if she isn't yearning for the bf or vice versa, there is a problem and the chosen person may not be the right one.
I do not understand the younger people of today feeling they can not go out on dates with someone without being officially bf and gf.Its as if they believe it is a big tanoo What I do not see today is young people knowing and explaining to others that they are too young to think of finding a marriage partner or life long partner yet and they only want to date for social reasons. The other would be young person saying they are ready and searching for their life long partner, soul mate, love of their life (call it what you will). And therefore, you may end up hanging with, dating any possible guys at the same time. So what girl would go out with a guy who is also seeing two other girls? Yeah,, I know, they are territorial. But why fight for territory that may not be right for you. Sex is one thing, best friends is another, but choosing a person based on only one of those is a disaster in the making. Best to search for a person based on both catagories. It also seems that once done with Uni, people feel even more pressure to find their mate.
Now if your friend says he cant wait for summer to be over so he won't have to see her, if sounds like he doesnt see her as the future mother of his children but more like the pesky next door neighbor you feel stuck with. SHe though is displaying the kinds of feelings one does if truely in love but both need to feel that way. If one person does not feel that way about the other, then one is shunning the love of his life, or she in her inexperience of years on earth, is reading him all wrong and doesnt realise that this is only a one way relationship, not reciprocal. If this is truly the case, the guy could have feelings starting for you. He may actually be trying to do the dating of several without any commitments until a decision has been made at which point the other people are no longer dated and they check to see if the one person feels the same in return about them. If so, they move on as a couple, if not, they part ways and she scraps all of them and starts over with her search. One thing wrong here is that he is trying to do this sort of thing while pretending to be committed to her. He may still be on the search for the woman he wants to end up with for life. And this is generally the time frame in which it happens. So if you have feelings for him as friend, there's no reason why not to stay in touch as just friends. If you think you may like him more than that but you are still crazy about your boyfriend, there is no reason to make any decision other than staying with your boyfriend. If at any point, you have decided that no matter how nice and wonderful a person he is that that chemistry for romance and falling in love is missing, then you have a problem, being with the wrong person and need to go your own ways. So that decision comes first. If you decide he is a keeper for now, then treat him as such. If by time of your 10th HS reunion or reaching 30, somewhere around there, you feel more experienced in knowing what you need and want and what you have to give to a relationship, that is often a time that others begin to break up and start new relationships, the serious ones that are to last a lifetime. And no, 30 is not too late to find the love of your life. If you still feel the same about your bf by then and he feels the same, you continue on for life or how ever long it lasts. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear exactly, but overthinking another persons actions won't lead you to any good conclusions where you have answers. Other than asking point blank what you want to know, you will never know. Asking him when both you and he have significant others, is not proper. Until both of you find yourselves single and still searching, its best not to even go there with your thoughts.
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