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What is his problem?
This guy that I have been friends with for 5 years broke up with his gf a few months back. During that time, he always texted me, always talked to me, etc. He was going through emotional trauma.
Everything was fine up until I started liking him. I didn't tell him though because I knew it wasn't the right time. Conveniently, I started liking him the day him and his gf got back together -_-
He found out that I liked him, and immediately told his gf. This was bad because she's the possessive type. After that, there was a shit load of drama between me and him, me and his gf, and all 3 of us in general.
3 weeks ago, I started ignoring the guy. I did this because my feelings for him grew and I didn't know how to get rid of them, so I avoided him in attempt to avoid it all.
I felt bad a week later, so I texted him because sincerely honest about everything. I told him that my feelings for him grew and that I want to rebuild our friendship to make it stronger (because we were having slight friendship problems.)
He texted back the next day, "Hey look, my gf is getting mad you're saying this all to me." I replied with "I'm sorry?" because I really did not think he'd respond that way.
He then said, "You need to stop saying that you like me because I'm dating another girl and it's sorta inappropriate. I don't like you like that."
I was really triggered. I said he misinterpreted my text, and I told him that I just want to be better friends with him. He said, "Well I'm sorry, but I don't think we can be as good of friends as we were before." I asked, "Why not?" and he never responded.
He's friends with one of my close friends, and he told her he will not be my friend anymore and just avoid me.
It has been 2 weeks. I'm very sad. I miss him, but at the same time, I don't want to resolve things with someone who doesn't want to resolve them with me.
What should I do? :(
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You are lucky. He is being clear about wanting the distance himself from you. It would be so much worse if the boy tried to play both sides, get close you and stay close with is girl. If he tried that it would end in disaster.
He made his choose, your best move is to respect his wishes and forget about him.
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The simple answer to what you should do is: Nothing The problems you are having are the usual ones for young people, specifically any younger than about 25. Some people mature faster and don't do this kind of bickering, or act all possessive, and take things too personally and say hateful things to one another. Although, no matter if you are over 25, there are older adults who never matured either. It's a big problem these days. So if you want to avoid this kind of drama, avoid and don't spend time with the types of people who react this way to you, or treat you this way. In effect, stay away and do nothing. I know it doesn't sound like much help. But as i said, there are some young people who are much more mature than the average. The trick is to finding them. I wish you the best dear.
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Hiya! awww. you poor thing. People can be so rude! How you can talk to him again, off the bat? Thats something I don't know. I'm sorry. But I know how to fix some of your problems. Time heals wounds. Physically, and emotionally. Let time pass and let him ignore you. But everything has its end. Maybe he is doing this only for the sake of his girlfriend, for them to stay together. Maybe right after this relationship, he is going straight back to you. But till then. stay strong, and dont focus on him. Because there are plenty of other men in the world. about 4.5 billion to be more exact. And I bet many men in that 4.5 billion are as lonely as you.
I prescribe you look for someone just like you. The man who wont leave you. He may not be prince charming, but its in the inside that matters. Lower your expectations a few. try different guys, and find who is right for you. dont let one guy get to you.
Hey, if ya need anything else, I'm glad to help. :-)
-Dr.D
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