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Question Posted Friday May 12 2017, 12:33 pm

Ok, long story short, what's the meaning of this when the boy tells that, i like you, in fact very much when we're out with our uni friends but when he said that we're alone meanwhile when we went to buy drinks and snacks he insisted to pay like he always does. i tried to pay him back the next day but he goes on and says, no it's alright, i'd like to spoil you, buying things for you. he's going away for a few weeks. he says he will miss me very much. we're friends but also i can feel that he likes me a little, least a little? no idea though. we tease each other loads. is he hinting anything at all? i felt like saying stop saying you like me and miss me otherwise you're going to fall in love with me but i just couldn't didn't have a courage to say that. So, what do i expect here?



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MrKaman answered Sunday May 14 2017, 9:47 am:
Most likely, he likes you. If you like him back, you should make a move. If you don't like back, you should make that very very clear. When a guy are interested in a girl they can be blind to light signals so if you are not interested make it obvious.

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DrD answered Friday May 12 2017, 5:47 pm:
Hiya!
Sounds to me like this man has it hot for you. reasons could be that:
1. pays for all your stuff
2. says he will miss you
3. teases you in a playful manner
4. says that he likes you
He may be sending mixed signals. But I can tell you, one of those signals is pretty clear. I suggest try getting closer. Do you like this guy? If so get closer. Who knows, maybe its meant to be. I been single since my girlfriend died a few years ago. And how we got together, was by talking. We talked and talked and learned a lot about each other. Talking turned into conversations on our interests. And that into what we had in common. And that into a friendship. We got so close, and it was so beautiful.
So what ever happens. If you like him. Dont be afraid to nod yourself into his direction. Life is to short for you not to risk the chance of something amazing.
I wish you the best of luck.
-Dr.D

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Dragonflymagic answered Friday May 12 2017, 5:21 pm:
Without asking for clarification which can be a scary thing to do, you can choose to guess one way, that he's falling for you, or that he is just a quirky but good male friend. But guessing on the part of two people, does not help to define what kind of relationship there is between the two of you. Hints can mean something but the same hints can mean nothing in particular.
I do rely often on my women's intuition so if you are sensing something there, then you are probably right.
Males often need some time to realize they are in love. In lust is another thing but they feel that usually right at the start when a lady catches their eye. But to realize love, it takes an approach of several things. He will notice her first by looks and then when observing her, notice a thing or two more he likes so he's drawn to talk to her and befriend her. As friends, if spending lots of time together, the part of learning more about her, personality wise, draws his interest even deeper. He can at this stage really like a gal and miss her when they're not together, but this doesn't help him always realize he's falling for her. So its good if a guy and gal start as best friends and later move on to love. If you like him enough that you'd be interested in him being your boyfriend, then you may as well say something before another woman asks him out and he ends up romantically 'taken'.
I will say tho that since he insists on paying for your drinks or other things, that is a good sign he is interested. Its one thing if he does so once in a while, and I wouldn't say it meant anything. Although, it could also mean his parents raised him with old school ideas of how a man should be a gentleman, and treat women with chivalry, no matter spouse or helping the next door lady fix something as my husband is, chivalrous to all women. He doesn't do things like this to flirt or drops hints he's interested. I know by his behavior that I am the only one he is romantically and sexually interested in. But that doesnt make him selective in doing kind deeds for other females. There is a slight chance your guy might be this type, in which case, relying on this action of his as a hint, won't help at all.
If as you say you both like to teach each other alot, heres something you might try to see if you can get helpful information. Use a teasing tone and let it show in your face but ask him, "Do you like to buy drinks all the time for your male buddies? Or is that something you just do with all females?" If his answer is "only you". To find out more, you'd have to look puzzled and ask something like "Just me? Should I feel like this is an act of more than friendship or do I come across as broke and destitute all the time?" Add a big grin here and you will have just done two things, corner him with a question and a tease that he will fall into one side or the other with his answer. He may not realize he is all that interested in you but even if he didn't have an answer, or no matter what answer he gives, that question will hopefully stick in his mind later and he may begin to wonder if he really is falling for you.
Last thought to leave with you, some people never get brave enough to ask any questions guys included as they get as nervous and scared to say something as the ladies. So just think into the future, would you live the rest of your life wondering if anything could have happened between you two? If so, it may be better to take the leap and ask.
If you haven't been friends long, wait a while to ask anything but if you've been friends even 3 to 6 mos and see each other quite often, then you can use this next line in the future: "We do so well together as friends that I was wondering if we would do just as great if we tried being more than friends. What do you think?" Here you plant the idea in his mind and then ask for his opinion. So its not threatening as you have not professed to love him. This is where the guy says, No, I don't have romantic feelings for you, just friendship. Or if he does feel something more for you, this is his chance to explore that without fear of you refusing him, as you have pretty much said you are open to exploring that. He has nothing to lose and so a guy is more likely to be willing to try being bf/gf for a while. A guy who likes to spoil a gal, gets snapped up quite quickly by a female who can spot in him, this and other wonderful qualities. It would hurt worse to lose him this way just because you were too afraid to say something. If you don't like any of my suggestions, and have other things you might be willing to ask or say, you can always run them past me to see what I think of them. Good luck hon.

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