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Calling by nicknames? Good idea?
Here's how it is, you're my darling, aren't you, he says. Go to different uni but we're friends. Laughing, joking and talking is always there between us. He normally uses my name to call me but lately he's been calling darling a lot or either dear. He says he's joking, at least that's what he says but I told him he's flirting. We just backfired at other. Now, calling friend a dear and darling and you're my darling meaning something at all??
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Do you want it to mean something? If only interested in him as a friend, then say and do nothing and the friendship will go on as is, especially if he just likes to flirt for flirtings sake. Flirting for many is fun, a way to sharpen our skills in interacting with the opposite sex in fun ways, whether married or not. Flirting can be serious, or not mean anything in particular to the person doing it. I have known plenty of people who flirt but have no romantic interest in the people they flirt with.
Most likely as Dr D said, he is using words of endearment as a way to flirt and leave hints of his interest. So if you are interested in him being more than a friend and you love to tease and joke, then ask him something next time he says, "You are my darling, aren't you?" Because that is a statement and a question at the same time. So he is hoping to get an answer back from you.
When two hetero people are close friends, both will be afraid to confess their true feelings for fear if the other person doesn't like you in the same way, that it could break up the friendship due to the awkwardness of being with someone as a friend when you are in love with them. This is the biggest reason I know of for 'Friends" not confessing their feelings and using only flirting.
I saw nothing of the responses if any that you give him back. So he may still not know how you feel. If all you've said is that he is flirting, that statement only confirmed what you see his behavior as, but does not confirm whether you have feelings for him. I am a big tease and love to talk to people. If I was asked "YOU're my darling arent you?" I would focus on his actual words in an offbeat way. Unless a person is a mind reader or can read a persons heart, there is no way for you to know for sure that he feels you are his darling and then there is the question of how he is interpreting and using the word.
It might sound like fishing for compliments but he's already doing that so I would say: I can't read your mind so I have no idea what you are thinking about me other than you saying I am your Darling. You say that alot as of lately. So its got me wondering how I earned the endearing term of Darling cus the only men I know of consistantly using terms of endearment with their ladies is because they are a couple and love each other. So is this your way of flirting just for fun, or are you seriously thinking of moving on from friendship to trying something more. If so, I'd be open to that or willing to just remain friends."
With that, you've laid it all out there and it will at least make him think about what he is doing. If not serious and flirting for fun only, then he should be willing to clear things up. If he is serious, then he will realize that his flirting has confused you and you need something more from him to know for sure. This is his chance to confirm how he feels about you. You don't have to have feelings of love yet for a guy to try dating. You only need to be willing to give it a try and see what happens and that is the best non threatening opening you can give him. The ball will then be in his court to make the right response. Good luck dear
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Hiya!
Adorable! It doesn't take much to understand whats going on. He is flirting with you. We men can not resist the urge to give a little hint to our crushes that we like them. Because we want them to like them back.
Actually, quick story, to get my crush to notice me I had my friend make a mess of these heavy logs on her lawn when we had a bond fire. So I picked up one of these heavy logs at a time, and carried her on my back to get her to have fun, and to notice me.
I think thats what your friend is doing. He likes you, and is trying to hint at it in a funny way. How do you feel about this man? Do you like him back? because it never hurts to give a hint back.
Good luck deary!
-Dr.D
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