Well, I really love helping people with stuff, it makes me feel good, and I am going to school to be a psychologist and fashion designer(kind of, haven't decided). I'm 18 and my favorite movie right now is The Wedding Date, because the lines are really cute. Oh and I think the hottest guy ever is Spike(James Marsters) from Buffy the Vampire Slayer, he isn't the only hott guy I like but he is on top of the list.
I have a knack for understanding guys and girls I've been told, and thats good because I don't think I would have made it through school if I didn't.
Well hope to hear from you soon, and by the way just because I'm 18 doesn't mean I'm not mature, I may be young but I know about the world. So questions from all ages are welcome.
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G/16.
I am living in a happy family. My father has a very nice personality, he is very loving, caring, calm & cool man. He never gets angry. I like him very very much. He also loves me a lot and take care of mine. I am very much attached with him. During the day many times I kiss & hug him. Since long when I was a child he pats my back and hips in a very gentle and lovely way, when I hug him or come closer. I feel I am addicted to his hand. He never tried to crossed the limit. To be honest I have seen (I know its very bad) him making love with mom and I cant tell you how they enjoy the every moment and how nicely he treats mom in private.
The problem is that I always want to see the same personality attributes in my boy friend, but I never find, break out with the guy. The boys have no such traits. I should realized this fact but I cant. What should I do? I am very upset.
Please advise.
Upset
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Just to make things clear you don't have a crush on your Dad right?
Anyways, just keep looking for the right guy, I want to find a guy like my Dad as well, not exactly the same but similar. If a guy likes you and you like him, go out with him, certain traits in a guy might not come out until you are dating for a while. Hope I helped gotta go.
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okay so ive liked this guy for a loooong time, and well his friends always joke and say "stop flirting with your girlfriend" and "okay we're here to play basketball not flirt with brittany!" and i want to know if they are just teasing or theres some truth beneath all that.. how can i get him to honestly tell me if he likes me without throwing myself out there and seeming all desperate? please help (link)
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I'm pretty sure if his buddies are teasing him, that he likes you. Especially if he blushes when they tease him around you, thats always a sure sign of liking. Hope you got the answer you were looking for.
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Hey everyone, I'm 14/Female in eighth grade...
Anyways, at my middle school we have a Valentines' Day Carnation Sale, and with every carnation you send sort of this "note" type thing with a message on it for the person you want to receive the flower. A really nerdy guy sent me a carnation today! Like, your typical violin-playing, huge glasses-wearing geeky dude. Even worse: on the note he asked me out! I don't know how to say "thanks but no thanks" nicely. I really don't want to break the kids' heart, because with his social status it must have been really hard to work up the courage to do something like that. I admit, it was really, really sweet of him! I just don't like him in that way. For one thing, I barely even know the kid...and I guess I would be kind of embarrassed to be even SEEN with him. Wow, I sure do sound stuck up =[. I just don't know of any nice ways to say "no". Anyone have any ideas? Thank you so much.
**RATES 5's!!** (link)
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Ok, you do sound a little stuck up, I mean I would have understood it, if you wrote you didn't like him, but you wrote that you would be embarassed to even be seen with him. I'm sure you are not stuck up but I don't know. I would just tell him yolu really don't know him, and that you are interested in another guy, and that is gesture was really sweet. Hope I helped. Just a word of advice here, its better to be a mixer in school, hang out with everybody, its just a better experience, no trying to hide friendships because you are scared you will be thrown out of the in crowd. I was a mixer and got the benefits of each group, no one cared they thought it was cool, and they even hung out with me and other kids not in their "group".
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i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now when we first got together he said he does not want a relationship and that and his best mate even said not to do anything with him he will just get what he wants then leave but he did not and it did not bother me before but not i think that it may turn it to a realtionship and that but every time i see him i cant help but think that he is sleeping around with other lasses how can i tell if he realy likes me or not and if he is sleeping with other lasses one min he is close to me the next he acts distant please help i will rate (link)
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I imagine he is confused on what he wants, its totally possible he ws really hurt in the past so he doesn't want a relationship. Now he could be doing three things.
1. He really is kind of falling for you, but is denying it and trying to be with other girls so he won't like you as much.
2. He does really like you and is not sleeping with other girls, but is still trying to fight his feelings for you.
3. He doesn't care and is just sleeping around.
Personally I believe in number 2, but the only way to find out is to just ask him, I mean if you do end up in a relation ship, you wann be able to ask each other stuff, no matter how hard it is, and be honest, its key to a great relationship.
I hope I helped, and good luck with your lad. By the way are you from Ireland, England, Scotland?
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When there's any sort of social gathering involving alcohol, my fiance always gets drunk. Not completely drunk, just a little drunk. It used to not bother me at all. But lately, it's blown up into a huge deal.
It stems from the fact that my mother was an alcoholic when I was a child. Also, when my fiance and I were split up for a month, he went through a depression and would drink every day and smoke a pack of cigarettes every day, and almost got kicked out of college.
So now when I see him drinking at all, it angers me to the point I want to explode immediately. Since he has informed me that he will still drink no matter what, we've decided upon a compromise; he can drink on special occasions, but not get drunk, even a little bit. BUT, even that angers me!
When he started smoking, I did everything I could to stop him, but I failed. He is finally quitting now, but I'm afraid that alcohol will one day be the same way, especially if we hit a rough patch in our lives. He makes excuses for drinking, such as saying it's the only way he can be himself in a crowd, and that scares me!! But on the other hand, I don't want to be completely irrational and fight about this all the time.
What should I do? (link)
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You've just got to tell him what you are feeling, it hurts you to see him like that because your Mom's problems. If he can't then I don't know what to tell you, he needs to understand that you feelings are deep rooted in pain. Hope I helped it was kinda rushed, sorry
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I like this boy a lot. I want to tell people, but I don't want everyone to know. When someone knows something in my school they tell everyone and I don't want that to happen. So should I tell no one and keep it to myself or have everyone know? (link)
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If you can trust your friends then yeah tell your friends but if you really don't it to get around and you can't trust your friends then no. Unless you secretly want it to get around that you like him, so you want have to go right up to him and tell him you like him. I think having everyone is better than keeping it to yourself, who want to keep the hotts for some guy inside, plus then he'll be wondering why you stare at him or stuff like that, and this way he will know, and maybe he likes you too, and it getting around will make him want to ask you out. Hope I wasn't too confusing and I helped.
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My boyfriend is 24 and I'm 22 and we've been dating for at least 2 years. We love eachother dearly and are serious about one another. The only issue he and I occasionally discuss is religion. We do have a lot of the same morals however he's Christian and I was born into a sect of Hinduism, which I do believe in. Although we do respect and appreciate eachothers beliefs, I kinda get the feeling he wants me to convert. I really don't want to label myself something I'm not comepletely. Is it possible to have a healthy 'interfatih' relationship that works in the long run?! (link)
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Yes, as long as you both know each others boundaries and respect them. If you love each other it will work it self out. I've been in a relationship with a guy who was hindu, and it was great, we broke up but not because he was hindu, it was other stuff. He should just respect your choice and let it go, and the same goes for you. I sincerely hope I helped.
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I made the stupidest mistake by falling for one of my best guy friends and I really want to ask him out. Everyone (even his sister and his cousin) are telling me to go for it and ask. But I've been waiting so long that I think some other girl is going to ask him before me. I'm clearly losing time to ask because everyday the two seem to be getting closer and closer. Do I just come out and ask him finally and risk losing him as a friend? Or do I watch some other girl take him away? (link)
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If you think he is worth it, and you really like him, then what are you waiting for, go get him. Taking risks is part of life this one could go either way, but would you rather have an awkward friendship, or watch him go out with another girl, a girl that could have been you. I say go for it, love is a risk, but a risk worth taking. Hope I heled you, and good luck.
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Hi everyone!
My name is Todd, and I am a 15-year-old teenager. Well, my question is whether or not I should take the next step. Let me explain.
About close to a year ago, I met this girl, Andrea, in my Freshman year, and she and I didn't date, but we were good friends. We were both the same age, but I was about a month older. Through the months, we knew more and more about each other from our last names to what candy we like.
As strange as it seems, I've never had a relationship, much less my first kiss. I am trying to see if Andrea likes me or not, but more than a friendship. Some relationships can be harsh, so I don't want to try that, but I just want to know if she has the same or at least similar feelings that I do for her.
I am always glad to be around her, and sometimes I hang around her more than some of my other friends. I've also noticed that when I am with her at lunch, she wants these other girls at the table to go away, since they're annoying, but I'm not sure if it's just because she wants to be alone with me or something, since she and I usually sit alone.
As far as hanging out goes, she and I have hung out at my home once, and we've seen each other at school. I've been trying to hang out with her more, but she has a dysfunctional family which makes it tough for us to hang out on weekends. She is also depressed, so I try to help her through it.
I have been trying to show her that I love her by telling her that I care about her, how much I do care about her, and by doing things for her, like buying her gifts or getting things for her. Whoa, lot of "her"s in that one. Well, anyway, she never freaks out, but she always smiles and sometimes nods her head up and down a little bit. She might say things like "that's nice" or "thanks", but I never really can tell if she is nervous or anxious. I remember when I told her that I did really care about her, she smiled but she kind of laughed, and she said "I'm sorry for laughing...".
So, I would like to ask if I should take the next step and try asking her out. My parents have said I shouldn't because of her family, and some of my friends have said to go for it, just because she's single.
Thanks for reading this.
Todd (link)
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I know that lots of people have answered, but let me take a whack at it.
You are a resally sweet guy, and guess what, that is what she needs. Sometimes girls in dysfunctional families tend to not want to get in relationships for fear of turning out like her own family. Tell her that she can trust you, and that you won't hurt her like everyone else does, becasue you care for her, and want her to be happy. I know this is probly going to sound dumb, but you could be her " Knight In Shining Armor ". Even if she does reject you, it could be just like I said before she is scared, so if she says no, keep caring for her, being there for her, like always, eventually she will get it, and will look at you one day and it will click, that she really likes you, and wants to be with you. Sorry that was long. I hope I really helped, because you deserve a good answer. Good luck!
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I am a student of 10 class, I like a girl of my class she has rejected many proposals even my friend's she says she likes someone else(not to me but to those who have proposed her) shall I propose her after boards? (link)
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Are you british by any chance? None the less, I suggest maybe asking her once more, but if she says no, maybe think about other girls you like, I'm sure there is another girl you like, or a girl that likes you already, look around, you've got some time on your hands. Good luck with the ladies. You sound cute, you'll be fine. Hope I helped.
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my bf and me just broke up and its hard for me to cry and crying is the only way i can be okie. Whats a good sad love movie i can dl. thanks and no not the notebook. i saw it and didnt like it. If someone dies in the movie that helps, or if they dont end up story. (link)
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First, why do you want a sad movie, where someone dies, will that not make you more sad, therefore sinking into depression and such. Not to be all rude, but sheesh, he is a boy, you can be ok without him, you are a strong girl. However, if you are specifically looking for a movie where the guy dies because you are pissed at the moment, that I understand. I would suggest Moulin Rouge, it's awesome. I don't really know any movies where the guy dies, its always the girl, which is stupid. hope I some what helped, and sorry this was a wee bit long.
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this is to the ladies
my boyfriend has been living with his best friend and he was mad on sunday when we were in church and me and his best friend think its on how close we are but he said its not that, but ne ways what shhould i get him for christmas i dont want to get him anything that would upset him i mean he hasn't lived with his family since halloween i dont know what to get him please i got to know something christams is like 5 days away (link)
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If he could be questioning your realtionship, then maybe go with a picture frame with you in it, or (this is cheezy) a heart, symbolizing your heart to him, you know that you are faithful. Or just a watch or something you know he will like, you are his girlfriend, you should know, and if you don't, ask his best friend, he should know. Hope I helped.
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i really like this kid in 11th (im in 9th) and he always wants to hangout with me adn i do to but imscared so i always say i cant sometimes i really cant but sometimes im just making it up and im scared and he hasnt asked me in a couple weeks im scared i messed up and idk if he likes me back im so confused.. (link)
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Have you asked yourself why you were scred in the first place? I don't know, maybe hang around him more at school, if he got tired of askin you, maybe you should ask him to hang out, there is an idea. Good luck, I hope you get your man.
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ok i have a huge crush on a guy whois older than me but he said he felt the same way the only problem is he has a gf of 19 months what do i do i really like him alot and he is always fliring with me!i cant live without him i get sad wen i dont talk to him after 1 day plzz help i dont know wat to do (link)
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Don't be offended by what I am about to say. DOn't ever say you can't live with out a boy, thats nuts, And believe me I like guys,a lot, but I will never say I can't live with out one, because it might end up completely not true, however you can say that you really like him. It's just that I don't think people should rely on one person to bring them happiness, happiness is your own decision, and it shouldn't be up to anyone else. I would suggest you talk to him about it. if he wants to be with you he should break up with his girlfriend. Don't let yourself become the other woman, if you know what I mean, unless of course you want to be the other woman, if so then by all means do what ya want. Warning though, if he cheats with you on his girlfriend, who is to say he won't evercheat on you, just keep that in mind. Sorry i wrote so much, but good luck and I hope I helped.
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i wanna get my girlfriend something nice for the holidays. i want to spend around 15-30 dollars. any ideas? (link)
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A bracelet, necklace, ornament, chocolates, small bouquet of flowers, a stuffed toy. A picture frame with you in it, lots of stuff like that. Good Luck!
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I'm a 17 year old dude. I've got hair growing everywhere on my chest (NOT gross thick like in 40 yr old virgin or anything), just a lot of testosterone.
Anyway, do girls prefer unshaved or shaved chests?
If I shave my chest and stomach, what about my underamrs?
I don't think shaving legs and arms is good idea. I mean, I'm a Texan and shaving my body is hard enough.
What about, down there? That region. Shaved or unshaved. (I'm trying to stay 'young person' friendly with this question). (link)
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Ok bud I am from Texas, girls in Texas like a man's man not a girly man, so no shaving down there, and no shaving of the arms and legs. Now as for the chest, and happy trail as someone called it, those are more what the type of girl you like says, but really its all your choice, just giving you my opinion. Oh and I am young person friendly, 18/f. Goodluck
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Alright. So I've known this guy Dave for a wicked long time and for the past couple weeks have been really confusing. Let me explain. So we talked a lot and it always ended with a "I love you" and the other person would say it back. He wrote me cute little poems and everything and then I started to do it back and at the bottom of my aways it would always be like "I love you" So then he stopped all this in like the turn of one day and when I said "I love you" he didn't say it back but I noticed he always says I love You to everyone so then I started thinking this really wasn't serious. We did kiss and everything but I decided to ask him about it and he said I love you the same way you love me trust me but you don't want to get involved with me I'll hurt you. let me go lie down and think I'll call you later. And he left and then the whole weekend following that we didn't talk cause he was avioding me. So I cried obviously (i think he's the first person I've ever loved) and so he calls me 2 days ago and is like "I love you" and we started hitting it off again. But I don't know if anythings different and I don't wanna bring it up again but I really don't want to get my hopes up and get hurt again. What should I do? Thanks so much in advance and I rate 5s for everything that's not bs!! (link)
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Wow, well I just imagine he was confused about where things were gonna go. Eventually you are going to have to ask him what was up with that whole thing, Imean he can't be all wishy washy with you all the time, thats not a very healthy relationship, and you deserve to have a healthy relationship and be happy. Don't be blunt about asking him, be suttle bring it up in casual conversation, if he gets all weird, tell him that you deserve to know. Good luck
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My best guy friend's name is "Jay". I have liked him more than a friend for a really long time and Im too shy to tell him how i feel. He flirts with me, but it might just be "friendly flirting". I really dont know what to do, is there anyway i could let him know i like him without it being too obvious or anything else?
16/f (link)
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Yes! If he flirts with you, then flirt back, and if you are already flirting back, take it up one notch. Like hug him more, play with his hair thats always good, guys tend to like that a lot. Or maybe just tell him you like him, no need in keeping those feelings all bottled up. Good luck
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Ok..i love when guys play hard to get with me. Its just a turn on and everytime and guy does it..i like him even more. Well i used to like this one guy and he immediatly asked me out after he found out i liked him. That scared me and turned me off and i didnt like him nemore. Has this happened to anyone else. Please comment! (link)
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I like guys that play haard to get when I am already dating them , you know flirting, being kind of coy. If you only like guys becuase they play hard to get, how are you ever going to go on a date? I think you need to take a chance and go out with the dude. I fit doesn't work out, oh well, there are plenty more where he came from right? I just don't want you to be a tease, guys can get bord with that easily after a while. Good luck and I hope things work out for you, and don't be scared if a guy automaticcally wants to date you instead of flirting around forever.
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About 2 years ago in the eighth grade, I really liked this guy named "Kenji". On the very last day of school I decided to tell him how I felt, and I did it the most possible way I knew: I asked my friend who was also good friends with him, to tell him. To my surpise, he also felt the same way. And so, during the summer I was waiting in anticipation to see him again, and when freshmen year rolled around, it seemed as if he had forgotten completely. He never talked to me; I never heard from him. And so I decided to do something, to give him a friendly note. Much to my shock, he hadn't a clue who I was. That just completely shut me down, and it took me an entire year plus another summer to get over him. And just now, to add to the confusion, my friend says that when she had talked to him, he said that he had liked me too and still likes me, when I thought he was just ignoring me that whole time. I knew that I was completely, utterly and offically over him, but after hearing that,some of those feelings came rushing back. I'm so confused, but at the same time irritated because I had only found out now. I don't know if I should still consider being with him, or just move on completely.....
i am 15/f. (link)
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Well I guess its possible he got you confused with someone else at first, but he really does like you. But you gotta talk to him yourself, don't make your friends do it, that always confuses everything. Oh nad please don't let yourself worry so much over guy, a year or more is way too much to spend heartbroken over a guy, yes guys are hot and can be really cute, but not worth that much time of misery, because I guarantee most guys don't mourne over girls the same way, mind I said most guys don't that don't mean that all guys don't care. I say give it a shot see where it goes, if its not what you need or wan then you make your decision. Be happy, and good luck.
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