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Valentines Day Carnation Sale
Hey everyone, I'm 14/Female in eighth grade...
Anyways, at my middle school we have a Valentines' Day Carnation Sale, and with every carnation you send sort of this "note" type thing with a message on it for the person you want to receive the flower. A really nerdy guy sent me a carnation today! Like, your typical violin-playing, huge glasses-wearing geeky dude. Even worse: on the note he asked me out! I don't know how to say "thanks but no thanks" nicely. I really don't want to break the kids' heart, because with his social status it must have been really hard to work up the courage to do something like that. I admit, it was really, really sweet of him! I just don't like him in that way. For one thing, I barely even know the kid...and I guess I would be kind of embarrassed to be even SEEN with him. Wow, I sure do sound stuck up =[. I just don't know of any nice ways to say "no". Anyone have any ideas? Thank you so much.
**RATES 5's!!**
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Sounds like this guy is a hopeless romantic :). Seriously, though, sometimes "nerds" can be the sweetest, most caring guys ever, because they're not all that worried about their social status, looking cool in front of their friends, or 'getting' the hottest girls. And they're generally smarter than the average jock who's gotten tackled one too many times. (I don't mean to come down hard on jocks, there's a lot of nice ones too.)
But my advice is, before you say no, go on one date with him. It doesn't have to be anywhere majorly public, you could just get together at yours or his house and just have pizza, talk, play board games, w/e. It sounds so cliche, but you might find out that you really do like him if you just talk to him. And in that case, you shouldn't worry about what your friends at school will think.
On the other hand, if you don't like him after that, just tell him that you don't think things really clicked and you don't really have similar interests. Then you'd have a reason for saying no besides the fact that he's a 'nerd.'
If you don't want to spend any kind of time with him, just talk to him, and say that you think it's really sweet that he gave you the flower and you think he's a nice guy, but you just don't like him the same way. As harsh as it sounds, and I know how hard it is to do, you just have to tell him. It'll hurt more if you just ignore him.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Ok, you do sound a little stuck up, I mean I would have understood it, if you wrote you didn't like him, but you wrote that you would be embarassed to even be seen with him. I'm sure you are not stuck up but I don't know. I would just tell him yolu really don't know him, and that you are interested in another guy, and that is gesture was really sweet. Hope I helped. Just a word of advice here, its better to be a mixer in school, hang out with everybody, its just a better experience, no trying to hide friendships because you are scared you will be thrown out of the in crowd. I was a mixer and got the benefits of each group, no one cared they thought it was cool, and they even hung out with me and other kids not in their "group".
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=] Aww, carnationsss!! I so got some today, I was super happy though. Luckily I didn't get any from nerds or anything. =]
First of all you DON'T sound stuck up, at all!! I think you need to go up to him face-to-face & thank him for the carnation, because it was really sweet of him to do something unexpected like that. Then maybe you could write him a note, without telling him to his face, because he might get embarassed if you openly say "I don't want to have a relationship with you." You know what I mean? Write him a note, just explaining that you're not looking for a boyfriend + you don't really know him well enough to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It's nothing bad, just tell him that it'd be nice to know him better. He'll probably just leave you alone after this note, because he'll feel really weird around you, but I'm not sure he might be completely different. And maybe to make him feel better & so he'll know that things aren't weird say hi to him in the hallways, or just stop and ask him how his day is going. =]
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Hey, Well if I were you I would just tell him that you barely know him and you aren't really looking for a relationship right now.
Maybe mention how you would like to be just friends with him.
Tell him it was very sweet of him to send the carnation and that you really appreciate it.
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