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Hum.His Ex-girlfriend?

I don't know what to think. My boyfriend broke up with his Ex-girlfriend a few weeks ago..but they are still friends and they are going to Germany for 3 weeks together in about a few days[They planned the trip ahead of time]. They went out for a year and a half. The other night he dropped me off and went over to her house to hangout with her at like 11pm??And they are basically best friends i guess.I don't know what to think. DO you think he still has feelings for her. And he still wears the rings that they had together.[They symbolized promise to get married one day]??
Help please.

P.S he ended their 1year and a half relationship because he wanted to go out with me so I would think that he'd be over her by now.

Anyone?

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a little more than a week. He has all his trust in me, (about flirting,etc.)but the thing is, I don't have many guy friends. And I'm guessing that's why he's not worried about me. Now on the other hand, he has a bunch of female friends, and he went out with like, more than half of them, and because we don't go to the same school, it kind of makes me a little paranoid. We got into an argument yesterday about the whole trust issue, and he keeps telling me I'm paranoid. I do trust him, I really do, but I'm normally paranoid about these kinds of things anyway. Is there any way that anyone could help me out on this whole thing? Thanks in advance.

Ok, for one thing trust is not something that you can just have for someone. You have to build trust. And I'm pretty sure that it takes more than a week. So don't worry about it. You probably are paranoid and you have reason to be. You've only been going out for a week. Just keep it to yourself and you won't fight as much about the whol trust issue.

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13/f
ok so theres this guy i like named cody. were kind of friends but not really. i talk to him on myspace and aim sometimes. so one day i see hes on aim so i say hey to him. heres how it went..

me-hey
cody-what do you want now
me-umm i dont know
cody-then dont talk to me
--cody signs off--

im not exactly sure what i did to deserve that. my friends are saying maybe he was in a bad mood or hes under alot of pressure right now (he has me and my friend ashley chasing after him you could say. she asked him out and he said no and he also knows that i like him). anyway when i read that i almost cried. what should i do??

Don't worry about it, he was probably in a bad mood. Plus your'e like 13 no need to get all flustered over this. Go read a book or something.

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back in april me and my boyfriend of a year and 3months went on a break for personal issues, we decided to be fully back togehter in teh summer. plans changed and one day he told me he didnt love me and had a girlfriend, who lived in LA (we live in Sanjose). It broke my heart and we parted ways and i pleaded for a second chance. we both left with alot of hatred towards eachother, and just recently, he contacted me. He texted me and asked if i wanted to hang out, i plan on seeing him this thursday night when he drives me home from SAT class. He said he texted me becuase he missed me, and wasnt sure exactly why he suddenly missed me. He says there is ' just something about me'. Now whether that is BS i dont know. I dont want to fall again for false hope. But it is odd that he asks to hang out, considering he refuses to be friends with any of his ex-girlfriends.

I'm not sure what to do. I know i shouldnt expect anything, but his contacting me out of the blue has really confused me. I wonder if hes just calling me up becuase hes lonely and things didnt work out with other girls he liked. I need help. I am not sure if i should never go back to him, or to see where this may go, and just take it a day at a time. I have no idea what to do..please help.

I'm thinkin that things probably didn't go as well as he thought they were gonna go with the other girl.You should still hang out with him..it's worth a shot. But be cautious. It's likely that he's looking for someone to fall back on because he is lonely. I think you should go with ur intuition. If you feel that he is playing you than break it off or ask him what his motives are all of the sudden. Best of luck with it.

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I am 21 and just recently lost my virginity. About ten minutes after we had sex I started my period. Is this normal? I normally start the first of each month and I already had my period for this month, I had sex on the 24th.

Many girls bleed after having sex but having their period after may just be triggered by sex itself. I would suggest going to the doctor.

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At this point in my life, I'm in love with a man living in another country, actually, an other continent. I probably shouldn't call him a man, since we're both just 17, but I hope you'll still take this question seriously.

We met once, and he was completely into me. He took all the initiative, he was the one calling and e-mailing, and sending gifts when we parted. Basically, he seemed far more interested of me than I was of him. But then -- we met once more. And suddenly it all changed. This time, when we parted, he had "no time" at all. E-mails, which were at first coming frequently, now only come once a month. He's stopped calling completely. And now I'm the one chasing him. What changed? Why does this ALWAYS happen to me? I always get admirers who would do ANYTHING (seriously) to get me, but after a while..I become the chaser. I become the bunny-boiler (not really, but you get the picture..I become the one obsessing and trying to make things happen)

I'm seriously sick of always getting to the first stage of a relationship, but never actually getting one. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem.

Answers will be appreciated.
Thank you.

From what I a reading it seems like you play "Hard to get". Eventually your lover is going to get fed up with the game. And when you are finally tired of keeping up the "act", you have all ready lost them.You should return the favor sometime and show them how much you like them also. That way both of you are on the same track!!
Hope I helped.

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My situation is quite confusing. I'll start from the beginning. I'm 17 years old...and will be 18 in 13 days. I developed feelings for a guy at work over this past summer. He is 24. Keep in mind, I am a virgin and plan on staying that way for a long, long time...and he knows this.

He always treats me with kindess and respect...and has the ability to put a smile on my face no matter what. He is the ideal guy for me. Well, I am terrible at keeping things a secret. Apparently, I made my crush a little too obvious.

When he found out that I like him, he completely shut me out. I can't even go near him. It's as if I'm invisible. I thought he was mad at me. I asked someone if he was, and they said that I flustered him. That isn't exactly a good thing. Basically, he's going to stay away until he's comfortable around me...especially because he's afraid to lead me on.

What do I do? What does this mean? How do I fix this? Even if I don't have a chance romantically, I need to know how to fix our friendship. I've known him for over a year and for him to completely shut me out like this...it's killing me.

I'm in desperate need of help. Please, any advice you have means the world to me. Thank you in advance

I would suggest that you steer clear of him as well. Let him have his space or things will get worse.He obviously cares about you enough if he is making an effort to not lead you on. Just give him some time to clear his thoughts. In the mean time you can focus your thoughts on something different...Cakecheckers if you want to talk.

Hope I helped. :D

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So..there was this party that was happening.. my boyfriend invited me but I had to go out of state for a sports related conflict. Anyways, he told me he was going to go without me because it was one of his best friends parties.. so, reguardless, he cheated on me (not only nonstop-make out- but fingered and felt up a girl)- keep in mind he was drunk. it still questions me though- how do you get so drunk you forget about your GIRLFRIEND completely?? Should I stay with him or not? He claims it was because he was so drunk and horny, but he really does love me. TOUCH CALL. Thanks in advance.

Ok here's my brilliant answer.. You shoudn't stay with him.

Don't let him blame it on Alcohol. The fact is that he was fingering some other chick and making out with her. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and he gets drunk almost every weekend, but in his conscious he would never do anything.If he really loved you he wouldn't have gone that far. And another fact is that he didn't get so "drunk" that he completely forgot you.. he chose to forget you.And in the case that it was true that he did get so drunk, he would probably be in the hospital right now.I think that you should definately break it off.If you forgive him it will happen again and again. But if you do chose to stick with him, keep a close eye on him. And try to make sure you are there with him. BTW is this the first time he's done it. Because maybe if he notices how mad you are and disappointed you are from this incident he won't do it again. Then you will know that he truley does love you, because he is making the effort.

I hope I helped

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me and my bf still haven't kissed yet and I don't know why, but for some reason...I want him to do it first. Do you think he'll kiss me anytime soon?

Also, how could you tell if your bf really loves you?

You should kiss him if you really want to. LOL it took me two months to kiss me current boyfriend. So go for it!!!

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hi...ive recently jus started goin out with this guy, and i realli love him.
the problem is .. he isnt the type of guy (looks wise) i wudda gone for .. the only reason im goin out with him is because of his personality and caring side...is this stupid?

You should go out with whoever you want.You should be going out with him for his personality anyways :/..Maybe you are just suprising yourself for not being shallow.

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ok... so im confused... well i've been treated like pure shit when it comes to boyfriends... they all start out amazing but end terribly... i no alot of relationships end badly but this is pretty ridiculous... my last one we were dating for like 5 months... the day he left for vacation he told me he loved me... 9 days later when he got back from mexico he broke up w/ me... he really didnt have a reason... and i havent done anything to make him all of the sudden want to break up.... the only thing he said is he was going into highschool (i already go to the highschool) and it is going to be cross country season (which i thought was a poor excuse becasue i play tennis)... well i know you dont want to read alot.... but seriously i want to talk to some people (ill tell you about myself so maybe you can help me understand y this keeps happening) but basically i really dont understand and im confused becasue i dont know y some guys are like this.. i told myself that they were just stupid and made a mistake... hopfully u can tell me... but before you do i think you need to know about me.... so please respond and ill tell you about me

Hey yeah you sound really confused. I'll help you if I can. Does seem like your ex's are kinda dull in the brain.

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I've been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. I suppose to everyone else he's a dog- thats just what I've been told, but it was never the most important thing to me. He has the best personality and he's hilarious. My problem is, I've started fantasizing a lot, and I know its ok to do sometimes, that its normal and all, but I can't stop. I can't stop wishing he had a hot body like some of our friends. When those friends are around, I find myself flirting shamelessly because I'm just overcome with lust! He's said he's going to start working out and that he wants to get fit, be more attractive physically, but he's not very motivated. I want to stop fantasizing- it makes me feel so guilty! I'm starting to pull away from his affection because I can't help but notice his love handles or spare tire or whatever. My body is less than perfect, but its not that bad because I work out and take care of it. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? How do people deal with these feelings???

If you loved him you would love him for everything he is...even his love handles or spare tire. If you have been in a relationship with him for 3 years now you really should have gotten past this fantasizing point. But i don't see what harm it can do as long as you don't actual act upon your fantasy's[whatever they may be]..unless they include him. Hope I helped

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hey my bday just broke up with me i dont know what to do he broke up with me about 2 weeks ago and like 3 days after he got a new gf it turns out shes like one of my bestfriends she knew i still loved him and still do to this day but she asked him out and he said yes also he thot i liked sumone else sumone told him that i dont know who it was but i dident like any one else the kid liked me and sumbody told him that i liked him which is a lie and now she has my bestfriend and i still miss my boyfriend i dont know what to do!

Ok first of all the chick that you call a friend is not a friend at all. If she went out with your ex only 3 days after you broke up then she wasn't a friend at all. You should invite your ex out to lunch with you and explain how you feel. Now the downside to this is that he might have gotten over you. But the upside is that he might feel the same way about you and want you back. And as for the guy that likes you..but you don't like him..Tell him straight-forward that youo don't like him..You don't want to lead the guy on ;)
No guarantees but I wish you the best of luck :)

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I really like this boy...and when ever i talk to him i dont know what to talk about it always ends up in an akward silence. i need help on things to talk about cause i really like this guy. thankss a lot.

ask him questions about himself. Everyone loves to talk about themselves.

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My boyrfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years known each other for over 5. He is my best friend. We have to cats and a new puppy and live in our first house together. He says marriage is in the ans but not till later. That drives me crazy. Just recently he stated that he's been thinking about our future more often. And wondering if he's letting time past by. Was that a hint. Is he coming around or going through a man period. I need help. How does this sound to you?

Why don"t you propose to him??

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Ok Im 13/f i havnt had a boyfriend since before school let out ! And this summmer i was hoping to find a summer love . But so far it hasnt happenend = ( . I Like some boys but they dont like me back. Also i want a boyfried sooo bad but not to the point i would just go out with anybody ! Please help me . So my question is ... Is there anyway i could kinda make them like me or anyways to be flirtashish ( i spelled that wrong) ?
Sorry Its Semi Long

You shouldn't go digging for love. Love just happens. You can always try to effect the length of how fast someone may fall in love with you. But you don't want them to fall in love with you under false pretences. Be yourself.Don't try too hard or you will look desperate.plus you are only 13. I didn't even get my first bf til i was 16. Don't worry you don't need a boyfriend to make you feel good about yourself. Stay cool!!

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I have been spending alot of time with this guy. We have both told eachother that we like eachother and we kiss and last night we held eachother. Basicly Its obvious to everyone that we like eachother. Well, yesterday my friend was talking to him and she asked him "If she asked you out what would you say." and he said that he would say yes! So now my problem is, how do I ask? I want it to be sweet and cute but not over done. Just simple and easy but still cute. any suggestions? please help!

Don't ask him out on the phone or through a note..thats childish. Just pop the question in a playing way. That way if he says no you can just say you were kiddin. But if he says yes then it's all good :).... Just play around with him hug him.. tell him a joke and get him laughing and then just go "hey we should go out(sometime)". Hope I helped!!

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How does one become the perfect girlfriend? Internally and externally, how does a girl make her guy feel completely fulfilled?
Thanks

You should just be you.To be the perfect girlfriend all you need is-you-. I mean that's why the guy is going out with you, right?He saw something in you.. and to completely fulfill him just fulfill yourself and take time to realize who you really are-and act upon it-

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I'm a 16-year-old female and I was celebrating fourth of July with some of my friends last night without my boyfriend. Everyone was drinking and having a good time, and apparently I drank a little more than I should have and ended up calling his voicemail and breaking up with him. He didn't sleep all of last night, and I really love my boyfriend, I've told him that countless times, as well as that I'm sorry, so I don't know what else to say. Does anyone have any advice on what I could do to get him to forgive me?

Tell him sorry and mean it. If he really loves you he will forgive you and realize that it was a mistake.Or just let him have time to think-he doesn't want to break up with you-

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okay, im 15/f and ive never had a boyfriend and ive never even made out or done anything with a guy. and its not that im a loser or anything im actually pretty popular in school but all my friends are out like hooking up with guys all the time and ive never done anything. and people laugh at me too for it. its just like all the guys i know see me as a friend but not a girfriend so i never get any guys. help. how do i meet more guys? and how can i get this guy ive been crushing on a for a while to like me?

You are only 15. You shouldn't have to worry about this. I'm 17 and I didn't get a boyfriend until I was 16. I always had more friends that were guys. As only freinds. Turns out I hooked up with one of them. So be on the lookout becuase one of the guys that you think would never like you may jus be in the friend pool until he thinks its right to ask you out.As for getting more guys..try to be different. Level with them and find similarities. But don't be similar that you slip into that friend zone. ;P

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