hello!(Sorry, it's long please read!)
13/f
Well, the guy I really care for(Joey) dated my friend(Tay), she wasn't right for him at all. At the beginning he dated me than,he started liking my friend and they both backstabbed me and went out. I warned him about my friend she liked other guys when they went out, and she asked someone out WHILE dating Joey. The other day she broke up with him, because she likes someone else and she asked him out. Joey was devastated and was really sorry for not believing me.Now, everything I predicted that would happen, HAPPENED It make me feel awful. Well, Joey asked me to go to the movies with him yesterday. (I don't know as a friend or as a date)I couldn't come because my mom would like to come , and she was working. So, my mom said maybe this weekend and joey agreed to that. He also told me that my family should come over to his house for a cookout sometime, so our family can meet.Well, I really like him. I'm not sure if he's starting to like me or if I'm just a best friend? I really helped him out threw this, he was really hurt.On My space he put me in his top, but Tay was the first person,he told me he still likes her, it' hard not to. This hurts me because I really like him, and care for him and I know I can treat him better. What I need to know is do you people think we could ever be in a relationship again? I know it will take time, but do you think we could..or will I just be a best friend to him?
Please help out!! Thanks for reading!!
Bye!
He might see you as a close friend since you dated and seemed to remain friends while he was dating other girls. On top of that you were there when he had to break up with your friend. But on the other hand he might realize that he likes you and is sorry he dated your friend. I think you should take your time and not rush things. You need to kind of gauge how he feels about you, before you try to jump into a relationship.
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Do guys like it when the girl takes charge sometimes? .. like where to hang out for example.
Usually, because guys often feel like they are pressured to pick things they think you would like. So when you pick which movie to go see or what restaurant to eat at it takes off some of the pressure. My boyfriend loves to make plans, he'd rather pick what we do, mainly because I'm always like "I don't know" or "whatever you want" But I know that he sometimes would like me to decide, at least every once in awhile.
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how do you know if you are in love with someone?
i cant stop thinking about him. and cannot ever stay mad at him even though he is a jerk alot of the time.
and i think that its only one way..im feel more for him than he does for me...ALOT more.
Someone sent this to me a long time ago and I think it helps a lot. You didn't specify how old you are but don't be discouraged by people who say you are too young to be in love.
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.
Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.
Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.
Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.
Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.
Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.
Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.
Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.
Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.
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I'm a guy with a playboy bunny tattoo on my arm. I was stupid and got it on a whim and wish I had never done it now. I'm not a player, and was never into playboy mag. Removal is not an option ($$$).
Anyway, when I meet somebody and we go on our first, 2nd or 3rd date, at some point I need to reveal my tattoo, since she'll see it a somepoint and I'd rather not surprise her.
When I go out wearing a tank or even a short sleeve shirt, I've never had any success meeting girls, as they tend to be repulsed by my bunny because of first impressions.
It's awkward and embarassing, so what would be the best way to tell her on a date, or respond on a bad first impression when my bunny is showing ?
http://i481.photobucket.com/albums/rr176/cmorton57/Playboy%20bunny/img3.jpg
I think making a joke about it would be the best way to respond to any reaction about it. Tell her you lost a bet or something, but I looked at the picture and I don't really think its that bad at all, plus you look like you have pretty nice arms from that picture. I'd don't think a playboy tattoo would scare most girls away unless they are really shallow. Next time you are out just pretend it's not even there unless they ask about it. Just be confident and have a conversation, so their impression is of you as a person not just your tattoo
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i need major help geting over my ex. We have been broken up for like 5 months now and im still having trouble getting over him. I cant get him outa my mind or out of my dreams. We dated for 4 years before he left me. And he left me for some other girl. He wants 2 be just friends and acts like nothing happends. I just wanna knowmhow he can act like this when we had such a serious relationship. When is this going to stop hurting??
It is really really hard, believe me I know. The truth is it will probably hurt for a very long time, but each day it should hurt a little less until finally one day you have come to terms with it. He doesn't get it, he probably thinks that you would still want to be friends, and maybe on some level you do, but you are just not ready to be friends. Tell him that you want to be friends but right now it is too painful. Focus on other things, don't call him, don't text him, don't stalk his myspace or facebook, just ignore him. It is hard to do but I know it can be done. Someday you will look back on your past relationship and value it based on what you learned about love. But until then hang in there and hold your head up high.
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(16/m)
What do girls like to get as a gift?
(only girls answer!!!!!)
Well I can't speak for all girls but I think its important to remember its not about how much money you spend, its really about the thought behind it. Like buying her favorite flowers or favorite color flowers instead of the standard roses. Maybe a picture frame with a great picture in it, Gift cards are a little impersonal, but if it is for a store you know she loves then go for it. Most girls love candy. Maybe as a gift you could do something special that you wouldn't normally do, like eat someplace that is a little more fancy than your usual hangouts, go rock climbing, sailing, or something else adventurous. My boyfriend buys me things that I have mentioned, like a book I wanted to read or a movie I was interested in renting, I enjoy that because I know then that he is really listening to what I say.
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I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more
I'm sorry but he will never change. He clearly doesnt treat you right and doesn't respect you. He is only trying to control you, and he does so by telling you he will change. He isn't going to change so tell him flat out that you are tired of not being treated right. If you tell him in person it might be a good idea to have a friend wait in your car just in case, and once you says its over, just walk away don't listen to him beg and plead because you know he will never change. Good Luck
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14/m/9th grade There is this girl in my grade that always makes me look the other way, because I'm to shy to look at her. I like her and everything she is great but I'm afraid if i ask her out it won't go any where since were both shy. What should i do?
If she is in one of your classes you could always ask her for her screen name in case you have questions about homework. Then you can talk to her online, which isn't as scary as talking face to face. You could also talk to her over myspace too. Then once you've talked online start talking to her more at school. Over time it will become easier to talk to her and then you can ask her out. By that time you should know a lot about each other and maybe your relationship can go somewhere.
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13/f
From your guys's/girl's point of view, how do you tell if its really LOVE you feel or just REALLY REALLY Like?
Like, how do I know the difference coz i'm curious.. and curious when and how to say "i love you" and how do I/you know that i MEAN it?
Someone sent this to me a long time ago and I think it helps a lot. Don't be discouraged by people who say you are too young to be in love.
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.
Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.
Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.
Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.
Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.
Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.
Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.
Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.
Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.
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So im 15. and i have this friend named well lets call him alex. Me and alex are best friends we talk everygiht on the phone for three hours. and we used to date for two months. i still like him kinda. and i am the type of person who is very dependant i need somone. And i cant loose them. When i break up or loose someone it takes me a while to get over them. So back to this friend he treats me like shit. I have to bribe him to talk to me by sending him pictures but i need him. I really want to get away from him because hes just makiing me more sad but i cant. How am i suppos to let go of him and walk away before he hurts me even more? any advice would be great thanks so much.
If he treats you like crap, then he isn't worth your time. I know it is hard to just walk away from someone you care about, but you need to focus on other things right now. Try hanging out with other friends, or getting more involved with school activities to meet some new friends. It will be hard at first but after a while you will go a whole day without even thinking about him!
Kate
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me and my boyfriend landon really like each other. we have those little fights about whos cuter or who loves each other more. and at school, WE ARE SERIOUSLY ALL OVER EACH OTHER! we tell each other that we love each other. hes all i can think about. and he tells his friends, that he loves me and that all he can think about is me. i really miss him alot, and im going to see him tomorrow. so, does it sound like were in love, or...are we just really close in our relationship?
-shelby/13/f
Someone sent this to me a long time ago and I think it helps a lot. Don't be discouraged by people who say you are too young to be in love.
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.
Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.
Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.
Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.
Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.
Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.
Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.
Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.
Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.
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Last night my boyfriend drove me home, before I left we started making out and then he stopped and said he thought we needed to be more open about "this" and so I asked him what he meant and he just said nevermind. I can't help but wonder what he was talking about. Anyone have any ideas?
Well, If you have only made out with him, he probably just wants to know what you are comfortable with. He most likely doesn't want to make you uncomfortable or upset with him. Talk with him about what you are comfortable with doing and what you aren't. He should respect your feelings and if you don't want to move on to the next step then he shouldn't push you too.
Kate
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I'm a freshman and I'm on the swim team for my high school.
This past weekend we went to State swim meet that was about 3 hours away.
Friday night we had so much fun. We played a game for like 3 hours with the whole team.
Well, the whole time this guy named Aaron kept flirting with me.
In the game, people have to kill someone and he kept saying, you can't kill my baby! I'll kill you! .. and joking we were the married couple and all.
Then Saturday he was sick all day, but when we got back to the hotel, he felt fine, and we all had to go into these two rooms for 3 hours before we could go back to the meet.
So we were all playing video games and he was playing around my waist and everything, and being a stupid and joking.
So when we got back on the bus, he asked me to Winter Formal.
Which would be amazing, right?
No, because did I mentoin he's a senior? Hah, he is.
He's only 17, but he's a senior.
And why would a senior ask a freshman to Winter Formal?
But I mean, he's the sweetest guy ever.
I went to sleep on the bus last night with nothing, and I woke up with his pillow and blanket, because he said I looked cold.
I just don't know what to do!
Sorry that this is so long!
It is possible that he really does like you, but then again it is possible for him to just be a total jerk and want to use you. I say you should go with him to the winter formal and give him a chance. Just see how it goes, but if he doesn't respect you don't continue to see him. Not all guys are like that, and he may just like dating younger girls because they are more fun and cause less drama. He sounds really sweet, so I think you should give him a chance.
Kate
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ok so at least 5 months ago, i met a guy named kevin. we met at my friend's church. ((i am 15 and im a female.)) and we had only known each other for a week and then he decided that he wanted to ask me out. at first i thought it was a bad idea, but then i fell in love with him after 1 month. and on halloween i was going to make love to him, (i was 14 then). but then he surprised me a week b4 halloween and broke it off because we never got to see eachother. it got me sooo upset! i cried every time anything reminded me of him! from certain scents, to any song or movie! we had agreed to be friends. and i prayed he would want me back somehow. well, on the night of my 15th birthday, he called me and wanted to talk. but i was on the phone with my best friend. and in the past, when i chose to talk to him over her, it got her angry. and i didnt want that to happen. so i never called him back. well that ticked him off because he started to send me hatemail and crap. now he hates my guts and he ignores me. and i cant have that. and so i think it set off something in my brain, and now i think im going crazy. something weird happened this morning: i got out of the shower and i got dressed and sat on my bed. and then suddenly, i was at my friend's church. and it was the exact moment that kevin was asking me out! it was happening all over again! he asked me "do you wanna go out with me?" and i grabbed him to the side and sed "we need to talk. i no wuts going to happen. you say you like me now, but you will end up hating me. i dunno how, but i somehow figured out a way to get here on november 17th, 2007." and he kind of looks at me like "yeah...right." and i go "no! im serious." i started naming off random facts about him to prove that he had told me these things later in our relationship. he finally believed me. and then we fasted forward to at least 7 months later. and everything was ok between us. we were happier than ever. and then i was sitting on my bed again. back in my room. on my bed. with wet hair from getting out of the shower. on the 15th of november. can you please explain to me wut happened right there? because my uncle has this mental illness where he witnesses the same type things and hes in a psychiatric hospital for it.
Well, I'm not a doctor, but that sounds really strange. I'm not sure what happened to you. It could be a type of sleep disorder, where you can't tell the difference between dreams and reality, but again I don't really know. Tell your parents, even if you are worried you will be shipped off to a mental hospital like your uncle, because they may be able to treat you right away, and prevent you from having to go there. I wish I could help you more, but really you need to see a doctor.
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Ok so my boyfriend birthday is the day before christmas so i want to give him one big present so do you have any ides mot too expensive and not cheap i dont want him to think im a bad girlfriend all ideas will be helpful thanx
I think you should consider giving him two smaller gifts, because he probably have gotten just one gift for both christmas and his birthday all his life. At least that is what always happens to my cousin. It might be more meaningful if he got one gift for his birthday and one for christmas. Maybe some video games, CDs, DVDs, or a cool t-shirt.
If you still want to just get him one really big gift, try to think of something he really likes, for example my boyfriend really likes spiderman, so for Christmas I made him a fleece spiderman blanket and a spiderman pillow. He really liked it and he uses it all the time.
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15/f: i've only had one boyfriend in my life, and that was during the middle/end of 8th grade for 5 months, and since then, i've been single. i don't mind it, but i feel like no guys have even noticed me since i began high school. it doesn't help that my hs is 70% girls. plus, i'm not the most outgoing girl in the world. i'm trying to be less shy this year, but i still feel like i'm doomed to never have another boyfriend; it's been nearly two years! i guess i just miss the feeling of having someone special. i wish i didn't care so much about this but it bothers me everyday. what can i do?
I'm sure you are not doomed to be alone forever. I never had a serious boyfriend until I was in tenth grade, and I'm still with him now. All of my friends always had boyfriends and I was sooo jealous, I wanted someone too! I spent so much time chasing this one guy, that I ruined a friendship. But wouldn't you know it the second I stopped worrying about it and focused on doing things that I liked, I found someone.
I met my boyfriend during the our school's production of The Sound of Music. I wasn't flirting with every guy there, I was busy learning lines and choreography. But my boyfriend says he noticed me right away, when he saw me on stage one day during practice.
So my advice to you is to try to focus on something you really enjoy doing, writing, drawing, painting, sports, anything! It can be a little hard at first, but it gets easier and easier everyday. Also keep an open mind, don't be too quick to judge guys, after all you wouldn't want them to judge you that way.
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15/f
ive been goig out with this guy for almost 4 months (this is the 2nd time we went out) and hes great, hes alwasy there for me when i need him which i do alot. we've always been great friends before and after we went out and hes great. its just, i dont love him and he doesnt love me.. we just like each other. and i dont find him very sexual.. like i am not wanting to jump ontop of him all the time and stuff. i feel bad becasue i mean, if we keep going out and it gets to a certian point then we'll stil only be making out because i just don't feel that way for him. and i can't say that im not ready because ive already had sex/done alot before and he knows that. i really don't know what to do, i like him and his family, friends, everything that comes with him is amazing too, but i just worry. any help is appericated
It sounds like you see him as more of a friend since you say that you are not physically attracted to him. Which is perfectly fine, I think you should just be friends, not dating. If you are as good friends as you feel that you are, you should be able to maintain the friendship without being in a relationship. By staying in a relationship where you do not feel physically attracted to the other person you are only hurting yourself in the long one, and you may be missing your chances with other guys. I'm just trying to say that if you both feel that there is no physical attraction, then you should probably just be friends.
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okay well hmm ihave this friend who is 16 she has sex with her boyfriend sometimes without a condom she missed her period and well it's now 6 days late she thinks she is pregnant she is scared and worried about it she can't be pregnant and so she was wondering if she overdosed on birth control will it kill the sperm egg that happens to maybe inside her? pleaze give me advice for my friend she is worried and i'm worried for her
No taking large amounts of birth control will only make her sick. The best thing she can do is to take a test. There is no use worrying about it if she isn't, she should take the test and go from there.
If she is pregnant you need to support her in whatever decision she may make. Let her know that you will be there for her. She will need to tell her parents and see a doctor.
If she isn't than she needs to practice safer sex, and consider this scare a lesson learned.
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Okay so I just transfered schools a few days ago, and theres this really hot guy. He like follows me around and is really loud around me, and makes it like really obvious. I really wanted to talk to him, so I was like I'll just tell him I like his chiodos shirt. He was walking really close to me like he always does and then he kind of sped up and I touched his stomach to slow him down and I was like "wait!" and so he stopped and I ran my fingers off his stomach like really slow and in a flirty way and right when I was about to say it he got a fucking boner, and ran to the restroom. I feel so embarassed for him, cause a lot of people saw. Now he get's like really red when he see's me, and I really want to tell him not to be embarassed, it's all good. But I don't really know how to aproach him. haha.. Please help lmfao.
He is probably really embarrassed, especially since he really likes you. He probably thinks that you think he is a pervert. Just next time you are talking to him, say something like, "I just wanted you to know that you don't have to be embarrassed about what happened the other day." If he acts like he doesn't know what you are talking about then just let it go.
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17/f
I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and half when he cheated on me. He didn't just kiss another girl or hang out with her but he had sex with her at a party after we had had a fight. He didn't even tell me and i had to find out from the girl herself. She didn't even know i was hius girlfriend and she asked me to give him his ring back.( the ring was a promise ring we gave to eachother awhile ago) up until this happened i thought i could spend the rest of my life with him. I haven't talked to him since but he is always with my brothers. I just don't know if he went so far that i should throw away everything we had. Where is the line of going to far to be forgiven? Do i just give up and say let's be friends?
I'm sorry that this had to happen to you. You are in a tough situation, if you feel that you can work through it together and have a healthy relationship again, by all means, go for it. If you can't live with knowing that he had sex with another girl, and know for a fact that you can never forgive him, then forget it and be friends.
If you decide to try again, its important to talk about what happend and set rules for what is okay and what is not okay in the relationship. It will take time to rebuild the trust you once had, but it is possible to do so. Also be sure to tell him that if he does it again you will be done, and that is it.
Be prepared for a lot of negative feelings coming from your friends and famliy, they don't mean to, but they often try to sway your opinion on things. They really just hate to see you upset.
But just know that sometimes no matter how hard both of people try, things are just never the same as they once were. If after a period of time you still can't trust him or move on from what happend, then it is time to end the relationship and just be friends.
On the other hand, things may return to how they used to be, or even better.
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