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HOw can i walk away?
So im 15. and i have this friend named well lets call him alex. Me and alex are best friends we talk everygiht on the phone for three hours. and we used to date for two months. i still like him kinda. and i am the type of person who is very dependant i need somone. And i cant loose them. When i break up or loose someone it takes me a while to get over them. So back to this friend he treats me like shit. I have to bribe him to talk to me by sending him pictures but i need him. I really want to get away from him because hes just makiing me more sad but i cant. How am i suppos to let go of him and walk away before he hurts me even more? any advice would be great thanks so much.
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if a guy is going to have you that head over hill and treat you like shit you dont need him. i know you think you might need him but truth is you dont. you have to be a strong young lady. you dont need any body in your life thats going to keep hurting you and making you feel bad. thier are plenty of fish in the sea and im sure if you gave some guys the time you would get over this guy. be strong for yourself i know you dont need him. i though i need a guy but guess what i didn't so i know you would be okay. i think its time to dismiss your feelings for this lame.
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"The only people worth fighting for in life
are the people who are willing to fight for you."
Well, I both applaud your determination to end this relationship & understand your difficulty in doing so. It`s hard -- epecially in a situation like this -- to walk away from a relationship, no matter how bad you know it is for you.
You want to do the right thing for yourself, right? Well, try thinking ahead. Five years ahead. Yes, fast-forward your brain. It`s 2013, & you`re still scared to leave this guy for the reasons you talked about above. He`s still stringing you along, promising pretty much nothing at all. Scary thought, isn`t it?
Since I`m pretty sure you don`t want that to happen, try to leave the relationship & do whatever can take your mind off of it -- hang out with good friends, go shopping, go to the movies, work out at the gym, do volunteer work -- helping others will make you feel better about yourself, trust me.
"You have to know that you`re a good person & a good friend. What`s meant to be will end up good, & what is not, won't. Relationships are worth fighting for, but sometimes you can`t be the only one fighting. At times, people need to fight for you. If they don`t, you just move on & realize that what you gave them was more than they were willing to give you. Hopefully, people realize great things when they come around & don`t lose something real. Always fight until you can`t anymore, & then be fought for."
Good luck! =]
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Get involved with your friends, join some clubs that you are interested in. You need to cultivate friendships that will last beyond boyfriends. DO NOT TOLERATE ANYONE WHO TREATS YOU LIKE CRAP. If you have to bribe someone to pay attention to you, that's only going to last a short while. Tell yourself that you ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!! You just haven't found the right person yet. You are worth so much more than hanging around waiting for this guy. He's not right for you. I know that you think he is; but honey, there are so many fish in the sea...you'll find someone who really appreciates you. Hang in there.
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If he treats you like crap, then he isn't worth your time. I know it is hard to just walk away from someone you care about, but you need to focus on other things right now. Try hanging out with other friends, or getting more involved with school activities to meet some new friends. It will be hard at first but after a while you will go a whole day without even thinking about him!
Kate <3
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