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How to tell if it's love and not just really REALLY like..
13/f
From your guys's/girl's point of view, how do you tell if its really LOVE you feel or just REALLY REALLY Like?
Like, how do I know the difference coz i'm curious.. and curious when and how to say "i love you" and how do I/you know that i MEAN it?
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Someone sent this to me a long time ago and I think it helps a lot. Don't be discouraged by people who say you are too young to be in love.
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.
Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.
Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.
Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.
Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.
Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.
Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.
Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.
Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.
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I am going to try and give you the best advice that I am able to give....
Okay so I dont thing that it is something people tell them selves...meaning wether or not you love someone or not...for example: like say I just said I loved some guy named joe...I dont think it happens like that....I mean of course in reality we do say that but I think its about feeling....our initial gut feeling that we truly love someone, and untill you experience it I dont really think anyone knows what it is...I used to think I loved someone and now that I look back on it I really dont think I did...maybe just the facination on loving but not love itself.....Im going to back up a few steps incase you dont catch my drift....what I am basically say that it is more of a feeling you get...I dont belive that you can choose who you like...unless you just go after the unimportant things such as looks...you will know when you actually love someone...and if the first time does not work out maybe its just a learning experiece and the next person you truly love will be completly different....anyways I dont know if i completly lost you or you followed where I was going with this...but if you would like you can ask me questions my email is blue_eyed_cancer19@yahoo.com.
I am a person and not all of my advice is right, neither is anyone elses, but I do try my best through my own experiences.:D
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from alot of expirience, this is pretty much how you can tell.
love is COMPLETELY SELFLESS. and by that, i mean this person you "love" is a person you love more than yourself. you would put them in front of anything and everything. you dont want whats best for you anymore, you want whats best for them. you look past looks, and see the real them and only care about them.
really liking someone could mean anything really. whether its a huge crush or ALMOST loving someone, its not the same as love.
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you just know.
like i met this guy, never thought id like him. but then i was like alright im down for him. then i started liking me. i was thinkin what he was doing. thats like
then all of a suddne BOOM. he's all i think of. only person i want to talk to. id do whatever i can to make him happy. even stupid things he said made me smile. id do anything i could to see him. wouldnt look at any other guy the same.
thats love right there.
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You're 13, and it may be mean, but sometimes you really can be too young. Take careful consideration in your actions.
I think if you really love someone, that you would do anything for them, be able to argue with them and make up in a understanding way and just about do anything with them. You accept their flaws...heck you think that their "flaws" are perfect! Also make sure that the person cares about you back before saying "ILU", and that s/he will do the same for you.
I think drama is the test whether a relationship is strong. If you guys been through a lot of crap, and you're still going strong, then thats when you know that you know that a relationship will last. If everything has been lovey-dovey, you may want to wait for a bit and see what will happen when some drama comes about, how you two will deal with it. Gl!
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well first of all, your 13...love is a VERY powerful word, its meaning you'd jump in front of a car or a bullet for this person. you think about them all the time and you cant get them out of your head.
you'll know when your REALLY in love...its an amazing feeling, and this feeling only usually is real when the perons you love, loves you back.
the best way to say it is when you 2 are alone somewhere usually quiet and its kinda like in the movies when the 2 of you are lookign into each others eyes and you say it very quietly and in a 'gentle' tone...
but i'm sorry this isnt the exact anwser you wanted but you will really know..when you'll do ANYTHING for this person and you couldnt imagine life with out them...thats love...and you'll know when it happens....probably when your older...
hope i helped
Kt
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