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I apologize in advance, my ordering of events and questions is far cry from perfect. But I try to get necessary information in with the question in proximity. I hope that is an understandable action.
I "met" this girl roughly a year and a half ago, and in the beginning it was a generally good chatting, maybe mild flirting ( I still deny being a flirt, or a good one.) She would send me images of herself(With clothing, always), all the random emoticon, usually pertaining to affection, and similar things. ( Which also occurs now) I had gained feelings for her, but not anything too serious. Then at some point, a lull occurred, and we didn't talk for 5 months.
( This would be a fair time to point out, She is in Romania, and I in America. So this has never been anything physical, solely words and emotion. That sounds cheesy..)
Now, fast forwarding to say the past few weeks, we talk daily most of the time. usually it is me to initiate it, but whenever we start to talk she engages. Now, sometimes she will read what I say, but never reply. This can vary from a serious question to how are you. And after about a day(or less) I will ask what happened and she always gives me a reason, and she is never upset with me saying something again. Is this normal for someone to repeatedly not answer a message for so long?
Now, to focus on the subject a bit more, very recently she had a realization of how much I had grown to care for her. And how she never knew how much I really meant it.(She went through the brief "oh my I didn't know" stage.) In the time since we began speaking again, I had grown a much greater affinity for her, despite the not answering, and the interlacing moments of where she barely replied when she did. Does this seem logical to happen?
Now, the thing that sort of takes the cake, is she made this realization, 5 days after having a new boyfriend.(I was unaware prior.) so, all this time before, she still would show affection, or say some of the ridiculous pet names we'd give another. This raises a question: Does this mean she'd be flirtatious with other guys had we kinda gotten together?(Emotional/status manner, since the distance.) Would this be a girl I should stay interested in? - While in a not so great moment of disagreement, I had asked if she would like me to go, stop talking with her, and she had answered no, that I am special and she doesn't want to lose touch again. I like to believe there is sincerity in that, and to take comfort in it. But not all of her stories have added up. But any of those have mostly been trivial. And I suppose not every single little thing should be answered. I wonder if I am fooling myself to look past those or not.
So, after this extremely long description, I'd like to know your input. Should I keep caring and talking with this girl? Should I let so many things bother me?(Knowing the person you care for has a boyfriend that can and is probably actively putting his hands on her, among other things, is somewhat unsettling. As an example.) Or maybe should I move on?
Simultaneously, I don't want to actively be a bar in her new relationship, as much as that could potentially please me. I don't want to be that type of guy. Things like I see her more active on the social media we talk on, but whenever I say something, it's isn't quickly acknowledged, so I can make the assumption she is talking with him. So I don't want to butt in and become an annoyance while she is talking with him.(Only an assumption)
I feel overall this may be too far, or maybe I am just willing to admit it really does bother me.
Thanks in advance for input! And hopefully not excessive insult with profanity. I am sincere in my questions, and sincerely unsure what to do.
Brian 19/M
Her 17/F (link)
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Don't keep talking to her if you have feelings for her. She has a boyfriend. Unless you can put your feelings aside and be just a friend, then you shouldn't continue.
It's normal to feel bothered that someone you have feelings for is with someone else.
If you want to keep her in your life, you need to move on and put your feelings aside. I don't know if you're just simply looking for a relationship from her, if you are, then just stop talking to her. If you do want a friendship and you're willing to only be a friend then there are things you have to do.
You have to realize there are boundaries. You will be only a friend to her. Being a friend means being ok with her being with someone else. If you're not ready for that, then stop.
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18/f, he's 22. We both work together in a grocery store. He used to be my supervisor but he moved to be supervisor of another department so he isn't technically above me anymore. We went to the same high school so I always thought he was cute. He was the one to train me on register when I first started out and thinking back on it, even that was awkward-he would talk to me and walk me through how to do things but he was still shy then. One day I was on self check and he was restocking the impulse candy in the closed lane right next to me, a customer asked me something that I wasn't sure on the answer of so I went over and asked him and he was still awkward about it then, speaking very quietly to me so he just bypassed me and went straight to the customer and when he started talking to the customer, he was laughing and speaking at a normal level and everything, it's weird to see his personality change with whom he's around.
Now, I never really gave it much thought, I was always negative about it thinking that a guy as cute as him would never go for a girl like me. However, he was out at the bar with my brother's girlfriend the other night since they're friends and she texted me and apologized that she was tipsy and she "word vomit" to him that I think he is so cute. To which, she says, he replied "she's definitely cute" so she told him he should probably talk to me then because I'm shy and he said that he's really shy around me too.
But now it's like, we both know what the other thinks and now it's more awkward. Isn't it supposed to be the other way around? When two people know the feelings of the other, shouldn't it be easy to communicate? Nope. Not for us.
Many people know of our situation at work. He is friends with a lot of people at our work and I talk to a lot of them as well. Like, he's the hang out outside of work kind of friends with them but I'm the type of only hang out with them inside of work and I'm friends with the rest of the people that he isn't.
So, it's kind of comical to me to have everyone tell me they're going to get us to talk because nobody really understands just how shy he is around me because he isn't shy around anybody else. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not talking down on him because I'm shy around him too, if I wasn't, there really wouldn't be an issue to discuss here. I have people come up to me all the time, like oh "he was up here earlier and we talked for a good ten minutes before he was called back to do mods" or "he was just up here, he asked if you were working" - because I know he comes up a lot to help elderly customers do carry outs and that kind of thing because I see it, we make eye contact a lot as he's walking up or out the door, we just can't ever say anything. I even have the strangest supervisor (I'm not kidding, she'll just magically disappear for ten or so minutes sometimes and someone will find her in the back of the store, just feeding the goldfish, telling us that she could sense they were hungry) and she said he talks to her a lot and when she tells me that and she sees that I get irritated, she always says "yeah, well at least you know he can't talk to you because he likes you, I think a lot of girls would take him being shy because he liked them instead of just chatting like good friends" and I have to admit, that makes me feel better because a lot of girls that work with us tend to like him and think he's cute and he can talk to all of them normally.
However, lately, ever since he's gone to the bar that night with my brother's girlfriend, I've noticed he's been, I guess trying in his own way. He'll come through my self checkout when he knows I'm working which he never used to do but he still won't say anything. Or he'll come up for his returns sometimes and he'll look at me and smile when he walks by, but you guessed it, still doesn't say anything.
Yesterday, a friend of ours that used to work with us came in to buy some things and when he was finished, he stopped to talk to me and catch up and ask how everything was. When we were nearing the end of our conversation, he asked if any of his friends, that he used to hang out with when he worked with us, were working and at that time, the mute walked up and I pointed to him and they started talking. Our friend included me in the conversation too and I would laugh at both of their jokes and our friend would keep talking to me and him but he would only talk to our friend and not me. So, yes, when I say that he's shy... I mean it 1000% that he can't even talk to me in a group conversation.
So, I guess my question is: is this a lost cause? I know he isn't ever going to talk to me, it's just something I feel in my gut. And I have a feeling that I'll be too nervous for a while to say anything to him too. I've been planning on leaving my number on a sticky note and leaving it on his car one day but his one friend said he won't ever text me until he talks to me so that'd just be useless. I just don't know what to do. And please don't even tell me it's as simple as just saying hi because as I've stated numerous times, it's basically impossible for either of us to speak to each other which is what is leading me to believe how useless wasting my time on him is.
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Yeah, it's not going to work until one of you get the courage to talk. And what if by that time, it's too late?
If you think this guy is worth it, then go talk to him.
Even though that's not the advice you want, it's like the only thing to do. Unless you just want to wait but it doesn't seem like you're happy with it. And you could possibly miss out on something awesome just because neither one of you had the courage.
So maybe just take baby steps. You guys already make eye contact, next time you smile. After that you can wave, after that you can say hi, then eventually start having small talk enough to where you can give him your number?
If he's not going to do something about it, then you should.
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Ok so my ex bf and I broke up in January. I met him two weeks ago so he could help me with my car. The whole time he kept touching me and we were really acting like couples until be pulled out his phone and showed me a pic of a girl on his phone saying how that's his girl. I was upset on the inside but I still didn't let him know I was was. The whole time we kept acting like a couple. We didn't kiss though or anything. So yesterday we were messaging back and forth. He claimed how he showed me the pic of the girl just so that he could get on my nerves. I spoke to him today, he told me that right now he's too busy with school and work and that he doesn't want a relationship right now. We both go to the same college. I tried to be supportive because I still want to be with him and he also said he'll let me know when he decide if he still wants us to be together again. I asked him if he claimed he was too busy for me because he was dating someone and I also asked about the picture of the girl. He said "the picture is my business don't worry about that". I'm so confuse right now because I feel like just maybe he broke things off with me just to be with her. When we were together everything was fine. I just don't know why the sudden changes toward me that led to the breakup. I really do want to get back with him but not right now after this semester ends in May. Any ideas? Please help (link)
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Ugh I'm really turned off by this guy.
He can say as many excuses as he wants, but he already knows you haven't moved on and you still want to be with him. You guys act all like a couple then he pulls out his phone and shows you a pic of another girl. Sounds like a sweet guy.
And now he'll let you know if he ever decides if he wants to get back together with you. But he's seeing another girl and hey, if things don't work out with her, you'll be waiting.
He showed you a pic of her then says, "the picture is my business, don't worry about that"
Don't wait for him to decide if he wants you or not. Please look for someone who doesn't pull things like this to "get on your nerves".
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Hi, so for a while, I've been noticing this guy (we're in highschool) looking at me, like a lot. like he'll literally stare at me. And whenever I talk to him, he acts different around me and I'm not sure if it's because I piss him off or if it's because he likes me. Anyways, today I told my friends who are good friends with him (because one of them has an older brother who is his bestfriend) that I like him (I have spoken to him before, we've already had conversations) and they told me that he hooks up with people and all which I guess is normal... idk. It sort of hurt when I found out about this because I've never hooked up and I don't want to ever hook up and I really like this guy, so how could I make him only attracted to me? I mean I guess he already likes me face or something since he's always looking at it. How can I be even more conspicuous to him? I want him to only want me, how do I do that? (link)
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I agree with the other adviser.
You can't make him only attracted to you. Obviously, no one will only be attracted to one person. You may only have feelings for one person but you'll always be attracted to more than one person.
So if you actually want a relationship with him, you'll have to get to know him more. You don't know him very well right now so you have to see if both personalities click, if he's even interested in a relationship, or if he's just looking to hook up.
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Age:13 gender:14 I really like this guy and he seems like he likes me , he asked for my number, we gone to places, and even my friends joke around about how we are a couple. but I don't know how to approach him. PLEASE HELP (link)
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He definitely is interested since he asked for your number and you guys hang out.
So I think just talk to him. Just ask him if he feels anything for you. Or even you could say something like, "So I think I've been developing feelings for you and I'm wondering where you're at" or something like that in your own words.
Be brave, it'll turn out fine.
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I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I've recently broken up with my boyfriend, Ryan, of 3 months. I broke up with him face to face because I didn't want to do it over text and have him hating me, then when he got home we messaged and he asked why I'd left him and I told him it was because neither of us were happy anymore and he was getting very controlling and it was making me miserable so I told him that it would be better for both of us to call it a day. He said we could be friends again one day but it would take him a while to get over it, which is understandable. As me and Ryan are in a band with our mutual friend Jake we agreed to carry on with band practice etc. as usual.
2 days later at school I was in the practice rooms with Jake and I told him that as it wasn't an official practice day, Ryan would want me to leave when he got there so I said I'd find a different room. Except when Ryan turned up he didn't even come in the room, instead he sent his cousin in to pass on the message that I should "Piss off into another room and find my own friends" which upset and angered me because was going to leave when he got there anyway so he had some space, I don't see why he had to be so horrible about it?
At the end of that same day, some of my friends came up to me to warn me that Ryan was going round getting people to call me scampi (it's a horrible nickname he gave me) so I asked them if they knew why he was calling me that and they said they were talking to him at lunchtime and he said "Once, she gave me some gone-off scampi and lemon crisps and they tasted like when I licked her out"... I feel mortified...
I've never been able to get physically close to anyone because of bad childhood experiences but he made me feel safe. I was uncomfortable doing anything with him in the first place but he convinced me that I could trust him and that he'd treat me well. He was so nice at first and now I feel like a fool...
People at school keep coming up to me and calling me scampi and when I confronted Ryan about it he just said "Well I was angry" but that's no excuse for making my school life miserable. I just want to run far away and have a fresh start. He's telling me that he still cares about me and when I didn't turn up to school the day after I confronted him, he texted my mum telling me he wished me the best but it's all bullshit.. Surely if you love someone you wouldn't be able to do something like this, right?
I've already got a bad reputation at school from people telling lies about me but he's made it 100 times worse... And even when I found out what he'd been telling people about me, I didn't set out for revenge because I still love him, despite everything, and I know it's the wrong thing to do. I feel so helpless and alone, I even made myself ill so I didn't have to see him at school. I'm ashamed and embarrassed and I don't know what to do... Can anyone help me??? (link)
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You love what you thought he was.
He's angry and it's a good thing you broke up with him. It's a good thing you ended it now before you find this later on even worse. You would not want to date a guy who spreads rumors about his ex girlfriend. It's immature and disgusting.
If he continues this, try talking to a teacher, principal or counselor and let them know what's going on. They could even give you better advice on how to handle the situation.
This was wrong of him and don't feel stupid. You live and learn and just be glad you aren't with him anymore.
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I am 18 years and I am in a relationship with a guy for about two years, we love each other a lot . but he yearns for my virginity . but I want to wait but he can't , should I save it ? or its gonna be really wrong?
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No it's not wrong to save your virginity.
You want to wait and that's fine. Don't go do something that you're not ready to do. When you're ready, you'll know and you'll be 100% confident in your decision. Right now, you're obviously not 100% confident.
If your boyfriend can't wait, then he's not the right guy for you. It doesn't make either of you bad people, but you shouldn't have sex with someone just to keep them around. You won't be happy.
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So all I see in my school these days are relationships, in all grades lower then mine and I still don't have a gf. What would be an average age for kid, or teens, or basically anybody to start a relationship or be in one as a boyfriend or girlfriend? (link)
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A lot of teenagers start dating early just because it's the cool thing to do or like everyone is dating.
Dating early on, like 14/15/16, is kinda young because most aren't exactly mature enough to handle it. Most of the time it's just hanging out at school, holding hands and all that. Plus, most relationships don't last that long anyways when you're young since you're still learning a lot and growing up.
Plus guys are going through puberty and a lot are just going for one thing. Not all, but definitely most.
So I'd say older teen years would be good to start dating. I mean by that time it's not super awkward and you'll learn what you're really looking for in someone rather than just dating because they're cute.
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I'm almost 17 and he's 15. one day he just comes out and says that he likes me and I didn't know how to tell him I didn't like him back so I kinda just went along with it but then he asked me out and I said I wasn't ready to go out or have a boyfriend. All of a sudden I have some feelings for him that I've never had before and he doesn't talk to me much. I don't know what to do??? I kinda like him but don't know if he still likes me or not. (link)
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Definitely talk to him again. Try to be friends again and put effort in.
His feelings were probably hurt because you rejected him and that's normal. So he was probably trying to move on.
So just talk to him again and see if anything is still there between you two. If there is, tell him that you like him.
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Hi guys, am new here and i am also new to been a Christian. My parents are out and i just learnt the story of Joseph from the children's bible. I do not know why Joseph was sold into slavery. Can someone help me with that?
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His brothers hated him and were jealous of him because their father favored him over them so they sold him.
Although I\'m sure you could have just googled it.
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OK I am 13/f and I have this relationship I'm in that is secret.
OK my friend started liking me and flirting with me. I liked him too just was afraid that he might not like me back. So he asked me do me and him want to be together. At first I told him we should be secretive. The reason why I said so because were both in the same classroom and I like kinda been with three of them in there and one was before some of our classes were mixed together. So I didn't want people to call me names and stuff like that. Our relationship is good in secretive but it's hard that we see each other everyday and its hard not to hug or try to be romantic. So my biggest question should i keep it in secret or tell a few people to get the idea. Or just start showing people that we are a thing and soon they will figure out.
Love chatrat 😘😘😘😘😝😝😝 (link)
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That's confusing. I don't understand your reason to keep a relationship secret.
Anyways, hiding a relationship shows that you're ashamed of it. You shouldn't have any reason to be ashamed. The relationship won't last too long if you're trying to hide it.
In my opinion, you care too much about what people think.
If you like this guy, you should be happy to be with him and be fine with people knowing. You don't need to go out and tell everyone you're dating, but you don't need to hide it.
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i like this guy and he likes me. he asked me out but i am not sure if i should go out with him because im not sure f it is a "date date" or a confession or he is using me. i am scared my parents wont approve him
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I agree with Dragonflymagic on the whole parents situation. I have no idea how old you are so it doesn't help. So if you're parents are fine with you dating, let them meet him. If they spend enough time around him, even if he's just a friend during that time, they'll get to know him and see whether or not they can trust him with you.
I'd assume he's asking you on a date so that you guys can get to know each other better. Asking you to be his girlfriend would be a little soon.
I don't know why you'd think he is using you unless he has given you a reason to think that. Like his past on dating and dumping girls once he got what he wanted or something like that. But if you have no reason, don't assume he's using you.
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don't even need to be friends with her in the sense you actually hang out all the time, but for some reason I don't want to never see her again and her to forget about me. I can't explain why. It just this feeling I have (link)
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Yeah it's a feeling that you like her.
The thing is, she doesn't think about you. She's engaged so why would you care if she forgot about you?
I know you don't need to hang out all the time to be friends. But friends talk every once in awhile and you're forcing it. Friends don't have to try to accidentally run into each other or try to act uninterested so they don't think you're flirting.
Let her go, get some help and move on.
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I met a new guy at my college who happens to go to another college in another state. It's not far from me but we met and clicked really well. We did hook up, minus the sex, and got each other's numbers. He even slept in my bed the night we met. Quick, I know, but it happened and I don't regret it. However, before anything happened and we were just laying in my bed, cuddling, I asked him how many girls he hooked up with at my school and he told me it was only one. I ask because the friend he was visiting, his roommate had made me think he hooked up with many more in just the way he was saying things to him and I knew something was going to happen and I didn't just want to be another number for him, so I asked. I guess after he told me it was only one, I seemed skeptical so he told me I think too much and to just trust him. He said "let me explain something to you, I stayed awake til five in the morning with you waiting for your shift for work to be over, I let you paint my nails because you were complaining you were bored, for the first half hour we were together in your bed, we just cuddled and I don't do that and you were the only girl that I actually gave me real number to tonight."
I just don't know how to approach this now, I do like him and he was very sweet and kind and I would love to keep talking to him but he does go to school in another state and when we text, it seems as if I bother him. After he left this morning, he told me to text him, though so that must mean he really did want me to.
I just need to know if I'm being crazy, should I keep talking to him? Or was he being a gentlemen in telling me this because he thought of it as a one night stand? Should I just let it go? (link)
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Well to put your mind at ease, he does sound like he's into you for more than just hooking up because you guys didn't even have sex.
Like Dragonflymagic said, trust takes time. You barely met him, so that's why you don't know whether to completely trust him or not. But if you don't trust him, then you guys have nothing going for you. If you do trust him, then you guys actually have a chance.
So text him, enjoy it and don't think too much into it. Until he gives you a reason not to trust him, then just go for it.
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there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in this community college I went to. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 27 and I am 22 and she is engaged, One thing I noticed about her is that she was very touchy feely. , like patting me on the back or shoulder.
I worked with her for about a year and my class ended in June 2013. In fall of 2013 I attended a university but I saw her around campus ( I already knew she attended there too) when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her. I might see her again on April 11th but I am scared when I talk to her it might across that I am flirting or trying to get with her but I really am not since I respect she is taken
the last time I saw her was on December 13th. I haven't seen her in a while clearly but I may see her again on April 11th.
I am trying to prepare for the conversation I might have with her. One thing I want to do is make sure she doesn't think I am trying to flirt with her or get with her. How do I make sure not to come across that way in any way? One theory I have is to maybe I have my phone out while talking and glance at it occasionally because surely someone who was flirting would be 100% invested. I have a lot of anxiety and nervousness so that is why I feel I must prepare. The fact that a girl talked to me at all is significant since no way I can talk to girls my self, so if I never see her again, I can likely never have any sort of female companion for a long time
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You've asked questions here several times and since we already know a lot of background, our answers aren't going to change.
At one point you wanted to break up her and her fiancee.
I don't think you should try to talk to her. You're obsessing and it's not normal to do this. I don't think anyone should try to go after someone they like when that person is with someone else. Even if it's just for friendship, not a good idea. It's not going to help you like her any less, it's just going to prolong it and cause you pain.
I also don't understand your thinking when you say that if you never see her again, you'll never have any sort of female companion. She might have been some sort of a friend a long time ago but you guys have talked in a very long time, so she isn't your female companion.
I think instead of trying to obsess over this more, you need to go seek help. Because doing all this won't help your anxiety or nervousness. You need to find a girl who is available and stop wasting your time on someone who isn't.
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So my ex and I only dated a few days. He was too clingy and I didn't feel anything, so we ended it almost 2 weeks ago. Well I decided to change my number because he had it and I didn't want him texting me. Well today (Which is Tuesday), I logged in onto my old account to get one of my friend's numbers and I saw that he left me a voicemail that was sent on Thursday. It was just something random but like still, I don't really want to be in contact with him really. And earlier today, he asked me why I haven't talked to him recently and I just said "Well we're done"... And he said something like "I think you're lieing and that you cheated" and then I kinda just walked away. If he talks to me again, should I just tell him to like leave me alone? It might sound rude but honestly he's not getting the message that I don't want to talk to him. Advice please ASAP thank you :) (link)
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You need to be completely straightforward with him. If he comes up again, just straight up tell him that you don't want to keep in contact and you'd like him to leave you alone.
I don't blame you for wanting to be away from a guy who acts like this, you just need to be straightforward and to the point. If he still does this, make sure to tell an adult and get them involved.
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There's a guy that lives in the same dorm that I live in, he'll be Brandon. We talk and hang out a sufficient amount of time but not a lot that we are annoying about it. I've always thought that he was handsome but had never told him or tried anything because he has a girlfriend. The relationship they have is weird, though, due to the fact that they both cheat on each other so often. I think they're only together for security, just to always know they have someone there.
However, Saturday night, my best friend invited us to a party at his house so Brandon and I went. When we first got there, we were standing in the kitchen talking and these scantily clad girls were getting a bottle out of the fridge and he had said something to the effect of, "ooh, look over there" and his roommate gave him a look and left so after he left, Brandon looked at me and told me that he thought the bottle was cool looking and that's what he was telling his roommate to look at, not the girls. Then, I was in the living room with my girls and he came in, grabbed my hand and told me he and I were going to play pong, I told him I'm not very good at pong but my friend that invited us is and he told me he doesn't care, he wants me. So we played and when we finished, I sat on the couch and was going to take a snapchat, he saw and came and sat next to me, put his arm around me, got in my snapchat and then still kept his arm there. Then he told me he has to go to the bathroom but didn't know where it was at so I took him there and as soon as I got off the couch and held his hand to guide him through the masses of people, everyone started hollering (which I later found out from my friend, that invited us, that his friends do that when they think people are going to have sex). After he went to the bathroom, I could tell he had too much to drink so I told him to sit for a while and take a break. I took his cup from him and set it on the table behind me while he sat in the chair, I went to sit on the arm of the chair. He got so irrationally angry that I took his cup so he started punching the floor, his roommate tried to calm him down to tell him he was just taking a little breather and that didn't work so I grabbed his face and told him that everything was okay and it'll all be good in a few minutes and he calmed down almost immediately. He pulled me to sit on his lap after that and asked what I wanted to do while he was taking his break and I told him we can do whatever he wants since he was actually listening and taking a break. He looked at me and said "well, I want to do this" and he pulled me in and we started to make out. After a few minutes, he had my bra unhooked and he kept asking me to go back to the dorm. I told him this shouldn't even be happening because he has a girlfriend. He said "fuck my girlfriend, she's cheated on me so many times and I've cheated on her so many times. Let's forget about my girlfriend." We made out a little more and I thought it was ample time that he waited for another drink so I got off of him and told him to go get one and he said he didn't need it anymore, grabbed my hand and pulled me back on him. We made out for about ten more minutes until my friend started going through an existential issue so I got off of him to be with her and by the time I got back, his roommate said he was outside smoking and then he was gonna head back.
The next morning, his roommate was hanging out with my roommate and she asked how he was doing and his roommate said every time they wake up from the morning after a party, he says how much he regrets the previous night's happenings then tells his girlfriend that he cheated. His roommate said when he woke up he told him that he didn't want to tell his girlfriend about me and he'll just keep this one to himself. Which made me think that he regret it and everything but his roommate told my roommate that he never once said that he regret anything that happened between us.
That morning, I had work (I work for housing at my college, so I sit at a desk and help residents in our dorm lobby) so he sat in the lobby with me and we hung out and talked like normal. After my shift was done, Brandon, his roommate, my roommate and I all went to the diner for breakfast and he and I sat together on one side and our roommates sat on the other and he and I sat pretty close the whole time.
Before the party, we would only message each other on facebook. Today, he was out of building and I messaged him and he said "why did I never give you my number before? Here, just text me." I always felt like I was bothering him, messaging him first on facebook all the time but I don't think I was a bother to him now, since he gave me his number to talk to him on.
Finally, I have talked to every girlfriend of mine and told them everything and all of them said that he likes me and that's why he isn't telling his girlfriend about me.
So, my question for you is: why do you think he didn't tell his girlfriend about me even though he told her when he cheat every other time? I don't know his girlfriend so that wouldn't be an issue or anything. We're both fine, it isn't awkward or anything and we've even joked to each other about it happening but neither of us regret it so I think, deep down, even though we were both pretty drunk, that we wanted it to happen. I just don't know why he didn't tell her.
This is, indeed, a more in depth question to a previous one.
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I don't think it'd really matter. I mean I guess it's fun to think that you're special and that's why he won't tell his girlfriend, but he might just not want to have another fight with his girlfriend. That's probably the most likely. You can only guess at this point anyways.
I mean it's not like he broke up with her or something. If that came up, then you'd have more reason to believe he likes you. But he's still with her.
Besides that, why would you want a guy who cheats on his girlfriend? I'm just assuming you like him or else you wouldn't be trying to go so in depth into figuring out if he likes you. I mean if you two got together, he'd probably cheat on you too.
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I'm a junior in highschool and there's this boy in my history class. He sits two seats to my right and there's another kid that sits between us. Is there a way I can start a conversation without it being weird or awkward? I don't really know him, but I would like to.. any ideas?? (link)
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I like both of the advice given.
I think talking to the kid next to you would help. He'll notice you more since you guys talk and maybe join in. But also talking about the class while entering or leaving could help.
It's good to just talk, that's how you make friends. So I think when you're leaving, you should try to make small talk with him. Talking to him while going into class might be weird if you're waiting to get there at the same time as him. So it's easier to just talk when you guys are leaving the classroom.
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There is a boy I really like so I asked him out to the dance and he said no because his family was going to whisler and he wasn't allowed, then I heard from one of my friends that he is going to the dance. My friend later that day told me he woulnd't go out with me because I was to FAT!!!!!
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If all that is true, then he's kinda an idiot and I have no idea why you'd want to go out with him.
Boys your age are very shallow. Let me tell you that you should not be after a guy who is like that. Weight shouldn't be the deciding factor of whether you want to date somebody or not. That's stupid.
So I doubt you're actually fat. If you were overweight, then like adviceman said go see a doctor and they'll help you out and tell you what you need to do. Don't do this for a guy, do it for your health.
Anyways, wait to find a guy who actually cares about you as a person and likes everything about you rather than blowing you off because of appearance.
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15F.. Hii! So I'm crazy inlove with this guy. And he told one of "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ friends he like me to but he has a gf.. Their dating almost about 2-3 weeks! I don't know what to do? (link)
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Where do I start. I really hope you're not planning on getting with a guy who has a girlfriend. If he likes you, he shouldn't be with her, you realize that right?
Anyways, if he really does like you, he wouldn't stay with her. I mean that's really not fair to the girl he's dating. If he stays with her but still talks about being with you, then I'd question him altogether. I mean you don't want to get with a guy who will end up liking someone else 2 or 3 weeks into your relationship.
So be careful. Don't date him until his relationship is over and don't get involved or flirty with him until it really is done.
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