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Hi, my name is Aaron and I'm from Irvington. I'm a religious person. Can someone tell me how to get a Christian girlfriend and make it last a long time?

Hi Aaron!

Well, you could always try going to like church camp or go to church and just get to know some of the girls there. Once you see a girl you think you're going like, get there number. But, there's no guarantee your relationship will last long, unless that is, you're older. But, don't rush yourself, give it time. Just put yourself out there and be outgoing and get to know some people.

I hope this helps and good luck finding a girl ;)

If you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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Do guys like girls who are like really muscular in the legs to wear skirts? (i play on a school soccer team so my legs are pretty buff) like is that hot or not?

Every guy is different when it comes to that.

Some like it muscular, some don't care.
Some like legs tan, some don't care lol.
Boys are just difficult.

But, most guys rather have them nice (which would be muscular) than all gross or whatever.

&& if the guy doesn't like it, psh forget about them then =)

I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just leave a message in my inbox!

♥ Kourtney

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hey its me misery again
my friend told me today that hes going out with this girl now i dont know what to do
hes treating me like shit doesnt even care about my feelings
i love him i dont know what to do nomore
im here crying because of him
this is just so messed up i hate my life
me and him were supposed to be together not her and him
HELP!!

MISERY

Hey sweetie!!

Aww I'm so sorry!! Boys can be so dumb sometimes. But you can't let that get you down and bring you down so much that you hate your life. I know you hurt a lot.. I've been hurt alot by boys. But, you just gotta forget about him and let him go and if he returns then you two were ment to be. You guys just aren't right now. But, you gotta go out and live your life.. you only live once. Go have a girls night out, go to the mall, or go to a party, or meet new people (BOYS), etc. Just go out and get your mind off of things and HIM. You gotta go and give other boys a chance with you. Good luck and if you still need help or just need to talk about this, just leave a message in my inbox. Feel better hun

xoxo Kourtney

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hey its me misery once again
the thing is that he does not want to talk to me i tried but hes just mad at me for some reason
he told my friend he's just gonna say bye to me on the last day of school whats up with that
i try to get over him beleive me i do but i can't
how am i supposed to get through this and what do i do please help
your advice was really good i tried but nothing works
misery

Hey sweetie! Aww I'm sorry he's doing this to you, you don't deserve that =( Guys can be dumb sometimes!! I guess, when he goes up to you and says bye to you just do the same, don't look sad or anything! It'll kill him that you don't care(well you do, but act like you don't care). And, the way to get over him or atleast try, is to don't think about him, get out more, go and have fun, introduce yourself to people, have your friends introduce you to guys they think you would like and the most important thing is. DONT COMPARE THE GUYS TO HIM. because if you do, you won't ever get over him, trust me on that one. I hope this works and if you still need help or to just talk about this, just leave me a message. Good luck hun!! Tell me how it goes

xoxo Kourtney

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Hi, I am asking you 1-Because your a girl (no offense if that sounds mean at all) 2-Because your only a year older than me so I think you might be able to relate and 3-Because I've seen some of your advice and it's awsome.

Okay here's the deal:

I am a 14/m.I have liked a girl...her name is Jackie...for a very very long time. The problem is the one time I actually came out and said I liked her, things got extremely akward between us. I finally had to resort to lying(Yea, it was that bad) I told her that I was over her and that things were cool between us. However, I still REALLY like her. She is like my dream girl: GOREGOUS, funny, smart, awsome personality, everything a guy could ask for.

I get out of school on the 18th of May. Should I risk telling her before then or hang-on a while so when I do tell her things arent akward? I am in a tight spot here. I really hope you can help, but if you can't just say so please.

Thanks a ton,
Jeff

Hey sweetie. Alright, 1. No I didnt take it as offense lol I dont get mad easily lol. 2. You seem like a sweetheart. 3. I will totally try helping you!!

Alright.. here we go! lol.

You should tell her how you feel again and just tell her something like this...

Either in an email, note, on the phone, AIM/AOL, face - to - face..

"Jackie, You're every guys dream, everything about you I love.. And I know I told you once before that I like you, and then things got awkward between us.. and I hated it. So, I told you I didn't like you, so things could get back to how it was. But, truthfully, I don't want to hold this in anymore, I do like you and I always have, you're just amazing, you're gorgeous, funny, smart, awsome personality, everything a guy could ask for. And, I'm taking a chance here, maybe you do like me and we could start something and maybe you dont like me. If you don't like me, then I'll accept it and we'll move on from there and go back to how we were, but if you do like me, then you've just made me the happiest person..."

Just kind of go from there and you don't have to say exactly what I said.. but I'm giving you ideas and things to say. You seem like you know what you would want to say to her.. so I'm just trying to help you out. If you still need help, just post another comment in my inbox or leave your screen name or something. Because I really want to know where this goes.. I hope everything goes well for you.. you seem so sweet!!

xoxo Kourtney

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sry i alwayz ask u questions lol but i wanted to kno how can u be sexy...while being tall and not lookin like a slut?
plz give me ur best advice!
thanks sooo much!

LOL! No, it's fine! I don't mind if people ask me questions, thats what I'm here for! =D Well, I guess just don't act like one (if you know what I mean). Like, don't walk around acting like you're all that, that you know you're gorgeous and you know guys like you. Just be yourself. I mean don't wear clothes that are revealing. I mean but that's usually the problem. Like, I know this girl who is so sweet and she wears like short skirts and stuff so people automatically think she's a slut, when she really isn't. So, just be yourself and dress how you want is all I can really say. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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i am really shy escaspeailly (i kno i spelled it wrong) around boys i like. i feel like i am gonna say the wrong thing! so i hardly talk!!! Please help me out!!!

Before you go up to the boy you like, just take a deep breathe and be yourself. I mean, don't be someone you're not because you don't want the boy to like someone you're not. Just act as if he's one of your guy friends. Just take like 3 deep breathes before you go up to him. And just hold a conversation with him and he should talk to you too and hold a conversation with you. Just stay confident and you can do it. Give it some time before you're a pro at it! ;) lol. You could always take a friend with you (so you're more comfortable) and go talk to him. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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i cant find any eyeliner that will stay on after 3rd period!! can anyone tell me any brands or how to make what ive got stay on?

NYC works pretty good for me. They're not that expensive either! You should try it =D

xoxo Kourtney

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whenever i get a zit, i get everything out of it, but then the next day its bigger than it was when i popped it! help!

-JeNNi

AHH!! I hate zits! lol. But, after you pop it, maybe try washing your cae and putting some cream on it. It's not always good to pop it, the right time to pop it is when there is a white head on it. Because sometimes it'll leave scars. I hope this helps. If you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Alright im a guy (16)
Homecoming dance is in two weeks, but this year the girls are suposed to ask the guys.. Soooo this girl who i like a lot hadn't asked me yet, so i said yes to a good friend of mine who didnt have a date. Then the next night on the phone the girl who I really liked asked me, and i had to say no because i didnt want to ditch my friend. What can i do???

Well, since you are just going with a friend to homecoming, I'm sure she wouldn't mind that you danced with that girl you like. When you're talking to the girl you like just be like "Well, I promised my friend I would go with her, but we're just friends, we don't like each other like that, but do if you would like we could dance to some of the songs.." and then when you're talking to your friend, just be like "Since we're just going as friends, the girl I liked asked me to homecoming, but I turned her down because I'm going with you, but I just want to make sure if it's okay if I dance with her a couple of times.." Just say something like that, I hope that works out! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i like this guy and him and his girlfriend just broke up today.. if i ask him out, is taht bad? because me and his ex are like friends but not really

Well, you two aren't like "best friends" or anything, so she shouldn't get too mad at you for trying to hook up with her ex boyfriend. But, give him some time to get over the break up and everything. Like a couple of days or a week. And then tell him how you feel about him. I mean be there for him and stuff, be his friend and then tell him how you feel. Just be like "I hope I'm not rushing things or anything, but I want to tell you something, I've began to develop feelings for you, I started to awhile ago, but you and your girlfriend had just broken up, so I was trying to give you some time, but I just wanted to tell you and I want to know if you like me too.." Just say something like that. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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im the biggest nerd in the school and i need help. people make fun of me at school, i have like no friends.I go home and i wanna kill myself.I sit alone at lunch and averyone laughs at me, help.

Aww, sweetie, just try not to be so hard on yourself. And you don't want to die! You have too much to live for. Don't let those immature kids who make fun of you, get to you, they know it gets to you, so that's why they make fun of you even more. They're just very immature and sooner or later they'll by pass that stage. But, you need to act like you don't care when they make fun of you because when they see you don't care, they should stop and soon pick on someone else. That's how they do it, I've seen it happen. And I hate when kids pick on other kids. But, just try to talk to the nicer people, the people you know that won't make fun of you. Just be friendly and outgoing. Just try holding a conversation with some of them. Like at lunch, just go up to them and smile and be like "Hey, is anyone sitting here? Do you mind if I sit here?" Just say something like that. I hope this helps and just try to be positive hun and smile. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I like someone older and n one aproves that I like him should I still like Him?

Don't stop liking someone because people don't want you to or they don't approve of it or anything. I mean you can't control who you like, your heart does. You can't really stop it. And the whole age thing, it doesn't really matter, its just a number, you can't help who you like or who you fall in love with, it basically controls you! But, I mean if you're 15 and he/she is 30, then there's kind of a problem lol. But, don't listen to people, if you like him/her, then like him/her! Don't stop because someone wants you to! Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i wear jeans to school and my mom said i cant wear thongs soo u can see my underwear line what should i do?

Try wearing the booty shorts, you can get them pretty much anywhere and they're not that expensive. They don't show your underwear line at all. Just tell your mom "I know you don't want me wearing thongs at all or just not yet, but I wear jeans to school and you know that, but my underwear line shows and thats really embarrassing, so what I thought I could get was the boy briefs (say boy briefs because the booty shorts might sound bad in front of your mom or something lol), do you think I could wear that?" Just say something like that. I hope that helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I transferred to a new school and my friends that i already know ignore me and i try to make new friends but im not good at that stuff. So at lunch everyone is saying ohhh talk and i dont know what to do or say.

Well, I'm sorry about your friends ignoring you, why are they ignoring you in the first place, thats pretty mean. But, just be yourself in front of the people you eat lunch with. Just be friendly and stuff. Just say stuff like "Well my names ____ what are your guys' names?" and just kind of go from there and just be like "I came from ____ and its so different here, like ______ and _____" and just ask them like "So, have all of you guys gone here for awhile or are some of you guys new too?" Just ask them simple questions and ask like "So, what are you guys doing this weekend?" or "What do you guys like to do for fun?" Just ask things like that and just talk. Ask them if they're on any sports and stuff. They should ask you questions too. And once you get to know them, you'll warm up to them and stuff. Just be friendly and outgoing and be positive and not too shy! =D Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i just started my new school and im the only 8th grade new student!!! everyone has already went there and i really wanna be happy! Does anyone have any suggestions? Does anyone go to that school and is in 8th grade?

Just be friendly and outgoing. Smile at everyone so they don't think you're a snob or something (you know how people assume things lol). And when you're in class, talk to the people that sit next to you. Just strike up a conversation by saying "Hi, my name is ____" I'm sure they'll be friendly. And when I was in elementary school and we got a new kid, everyone tried to get to know them and then soon that kid had TONS of friends. I'm sure that will happen to you too. Just be friendly and outgoing and smile at everyone. Hope this helps and have fun in school!! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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when your someone tells somebody you like them does that mean they are flattered?

Some people find it flattering that other people like them. And some really like it if someone tells them that they like that person if that person likes the other person too. It just depends on the person you're telling. Some people are rude about it and laugh about it that, that person likes them. It just really depends on who you have I guess. If you get a rude person, just ignore them, they obviously aren't you're type if they laugh at you, because thats really mean. But, if they like you in return, I'm sure they'll tell you =D If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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if a girl that u like is mad at you what should you do

Tell her you're sorry. You can either talk to her face-to-face, on AIM, or write a letter to her. Just be like "I know you're mad at me, but I don't want you to be, and I'm REALLY sorry for what I did (tell her why you did it or w/e) and you know I like you, but I would hate for you to be mad at me, PLEASE forgive me..." Just say something like that. If you need help with this, just post a message in my inbox telling me what you did or whatever. Good luck.

xoxo Kourtney

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y do i get mean questions in my inbox from people on this site...why are people so mean?

I don't why people do that, they might just be jealous of you or something. I would just ignore it, don't worry about it hun. I've had some rude comments in my feedback, like this one girl said I can't get a guy and stuff when I was trying to help her out. But, yea they're mean to a lot of people, but you just have to ignore it because thats all you really can do. They're just jealous, once they know it doesn't bother you, they'll stop, and I'm sure its from the same person! lol. But, just put a smile on your face and keep helping people out like you are =D

xoxo Kourtney

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heya im going to be a freshmen this year so its my first time in a public school. i was wondering if most people use backpacks or binders or w.e cause i heard that most people dont and i dont want to look outta place.. any comments would be helpfull and i rate well
~thnx~

Hey! Well at my high school, SOME people use backpacks, but most people don't. And a lot of people bring there binders, I just have one, I put all my classes in one binder. And, you'll get a locker, so you can use that to put stuff in (like if you carry more than one binder and your books if you have any). Hope this helps and have fun in High school hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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