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I know you guys aren’t psychiatrists so you can’t diagnose me but I’m just tired of fear controlling my life. I’m 20 years old and I have undiagnosed anxiety. Anyways whenever I go out I’m always on guard, watching my surroundings, if there’s a parked car while I’m walking I get instant fear of getting kidnapped, if I’m on the bus at night and it’s only myself and a guy, if he doesn’t get off the bus before me or if he gets off the same stop as me and walks behind me I start speed walking and usually call someone on the phone quick. I don’t really trust anyone because I feel like people will spread my secrets. I also think people are using me (I’m usually right though people take advantage of my niceness) and I also think people try to one-up me (I’m usually right about that too), sometimes I think people are trying to sabotage me as well so I’m suspicious of peoples intentions, or I think people judge me, I hold grudges a lot for example I was telling my siblings that I hate my voice because these boys in the 6th grade made fun of it and my siblings looked at me like I was crazy. I also don’t feel safe at home I always think someone is going to break in especially at night or when I’m home alone. The reason why I feel like this is because the crime rates in my city have gone up, human trafficking is a big problem in my city as well, when I was in the 6th grade a strange man did try to kidnap me by calling me over to get in his car and when I said no he decided to get out of his car and approach me, while I was playing outside luckily my neighbours mom was outside. Also someone has actually tried to break into my house before. Also my mom always requires me to call her every second to know where I am, I’m not allowed to be out passed 12am. So with all these events happening and my mom putting constant worry in me. I feel like fear is controlling my life any advice?
THe first thing you need to do is to tell your mother that at 20 years of age you are an adult, that she does not have any legal standing as to your wellbeing, the hours you keep, where you go or anything else. In other words she can no longer tell you what you may and may not do.
The next thing is to see your family doctor and be screened for depression and anxiety. Anxiety causes depression and depression cause pain which causes anxiety. I know this as I was once diagnosed with depression and I learned this in therapy.
Your family doctor, will if you are diagnosed with depression, prescribe medication. Take the medication and then find a psychiatrist Board Certified to properly medicate you. Your family doctor doesn't have the training to properly treat depression. Your not crazy most depression, called Clinical Depression, is caused by a lack of hormones secreted in to the brain. A Board Certified Psychiatrist is a medical doctor has done a Fellowship in Psychiatry and past the test required for entry into the College of Psychiatry.
The psychiatrist will treat you with medication and suggest a psychologist for talk therapy to get at the root cause of your depression. It will be hard work but if you work hard there is a light at the end of the tunnel and your depression will lift.
(Rating: 4) Alright thanks for the advice