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So... I recently found this thing online, a kink called ddlg. If you're not familiar with it, it's short for daddy dom little girl. Of course, this isn't actual incest or pedophilia. If you need any more information, some quick googling will give you a good answer. I think I might be kind of into this. I love when my boyfriend tells me what to do, when he "punishes" me during sex, and when he calls me kitten, doll, baby girl, or other names like that. I like acting child-like with him, and he likes when I dress like a kid, like when I wear cat ears. He takes care of me, in a way, like he reminds me to do my homework and makes sure I'm responsible. I'm sure this isn't the best description. I'm wondering if I should bring this up to him. We're very open about sex and everything else, and I feel weird not talking to him about this. It doesn't seem like a serious thing to me, but I do want to know his opinion of it. I don't want us to actively participate in this kink, I'm very happy with our sexual relationship, but it feels weird not to know where he stands on this. I would really like him to know that it's a turn on for me to somewhat act out the child-like part of this kink, but I'm afraid to tell him. So, basically... do you think I should bring this up to my boyfriend? Would it be easier to maybe send him a link about the ddlg thing, or just to explain my particular interests to begin with and not mention the ddlg kink at all? I'm afraid either way he'll think it's odd that I want to be treated like a kid at times. I don't expect this kink to take over our lives and I don't want it to, so in a way I feel like I'm making too big of a deal of this. Should I tell him and how should I tell him?

I can see that you are 14 years of age. The father in me must say before answering your question that you are way young to be having sex. Since you are then you need to be having safe sex which means that your partner needs to be using condoms to prevent pregnancy and to prevent most of the STDs and the HIV/AIDS virus. Also you need to be on birth control. Because you are 14 by virtue of a law passed by Congress called HIPPA you may ask any doctor for Birth Control medication or device.

The law is called HIPPA. In short it says anyone 14 and older may see any doctor for any problem related to their reproductive system in full confidentiality. This means your parent will never know and the doctor cannot tell them why you visited. In your case you mother may not be in the room anytime a doctor does a pelvic exam. Some mothers drag their daughters to a doctor for a pelvic exam to see if they are sexually active. Under HIPPA you do not have to consent to the exam and mom cannot do anything about it. Any girl over 14 cannot be forced to have an abortion either.

Once you reach the age of 14 you are in total control of your reproduction system and all rights to it. As a by-product of this though it was not there intention you may ask for birth control and the doctor if there is no medical reason not to must supply a prescription or device.

Since you are actively engaged in an adult sexual relationship then you should discuss your likes and dislikes between you. A sexual relationship is no different than any other relationship. It will only flourish and grow if there is open an honest communication between you and both consent to whatever kink or positions one may wish to try. The operative word her is “consent, or consenting.” If both partners are not consenting to something then you don’t do it.

When both partners are in consent then the following applies. “There is nothing wrong or weird about anything sexual that happens in the privacy of one’s bedroom.”

Please see a doctor and get on some form of birth control and make sure your partner wears a condom until you are sure you are in a truly monogamous relationship.

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(Rating: 3) I never said I was fourteen, nor did I ask about HIPPA. I'm fully aware of these laws. In fact, I'm eighteen. Almost all of your advice was totally unasked for, unhelpful, and had nothing to do with my question. *Rating changed by moderator. The advice given was in no way abusive.

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