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So today since it's the New Year it's a tradition for my dad to do a New Years prayer so while he was praying he was praying that there shouldn't be any introverts in my family anymore. He was saying that directly at me since I'm an introvert, I got pretty pissed and told him that was rude and uncalled for then left. Is there anything wrong with introverts? I can't change my personality if he doesn't like it oh f**king well. Just because I'm an introvert doesn't mean I don't talk to people. I'm generally a shy person but since I stared university I had to get out of my comfort zone nobody was gonna come up to me and try to be friends I had to do it myself. So I don't understand why my dad said that as if being an introvert is a bad thing?
There is nothing wrong with being an introvert. I have always considered myself an introvert. I was shy around everyone including girls. Would you believe I ended up in the worst career for an introverted person and succeeded beyond anyone who knows me wildest dreams? For my entire working life I worked in sales and marketing. Yikes you have to talk to strangers, worse you have to make them your friend if you are going to sell to them rapidly.
Yes I was way out of my comfort zone when I started and I had to work at being more extroverted and still do even though I'm retired now. It is my belief that a large part of my success was the fact that I had to work at being extroverted and this came across to the people I was selling to as a type of honesty in my presentations.
While I would never purposely lie to a client; I believe that having to work at being more extroverted made me different then most sales people especially the hard line salesperson. You know the type we generally portray them as the used car salesman.
No there is nothing wrong with being an introvert, as long as you are aware and willing to work at being more outgoing when you need to be. I believe your fathers concern is that being introverted will hold you back. This does not have to be. I see in your writing you already know this for you said, "I had to get out of my comfort zone nobody was gonna come up to me and try to be friends I had to do it myself."
My suggestion is you talk to your dad and let him know he has nothing to worry about. Let him know that you know there are times when you will need to expand or even step out of your comfort zone. As a parent of someone your age I believe this will mean a great deal to him.
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