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So since I'm not living on residence for university I decided on going to my schools orientation week. I had to pay 140 dollars for it because of all the activities going on for it, for example going to the amusement park, touring downtown and going to the beach. Some of the activities that interested me the most take place during 8pm and my mom is saying I can't stay on campus past 5pm cause it's not safe to be there because of the rape reputation the school has. The thing that is pissing me off the most is that I didn't even want to go to that school in the first place but my mom kept insisting I go to that school instead of another school I wanted to go to. So now I'm going to the school she wants and she's telling me I can't stay past 5 because of certain types of people that will be there?? She knew what type of school it was so why am I even going there?? I wouldn't be complaining if all the good activities were in the daytime but they aren't and I don't wanna waste ONE HUNDRED AND FOURTY DOLLARS (that I had to pay for myself, she didn't pay for it) just to go to one event and stay home for the rest, don't get me wrong I'm not going to all the events like the orientation parties that end around midnight or the boat cruise (which I really wanna go to but my mom said no) what can I do to make her understand? She called her friend who goes to my uni for her doctorate degree and she basically told my mom whatever she does don't let me go because there's certain rape situations that always happens smh. How else am I going to make friends when I go to a commuter school? Why would I talk in class when I'm paying to be there? I checked all the clubs out for my school none of them look interesting enough, anyways I'm a 17 year old female btw and thank you if you have answered my question
Right now you are truly between the proverbial rock and a hard place. The problem, the hard place, is your 17. The hard place it is your money.
Until you turn 18 your parents have ultimate control over you. No matter how grown up you may be, the fact that you are finished with High School and on to college. It is the fact that you have not attained the age of majority hinders or hobbles you. Until you reach the age of majority which is 18 in all states parents have ultimate control over a child's actions. This includes anything the child may pay for themselves and the school you attend.
When you reach your 18th birthday if you are paying for school or if you wish to saddle yourself with about $60,000 of student loans you can ditch this college for the college of your choice. Your parents may holler, scream and even try and forbid you to go but in reality they are not paying the freight so they have no control.
Parents try and control their children when they reach 18 by what they provide. Legally they need not provide anything, morally is another story. By providing for college, giving you money and paying for medical, dental and clothing is how they control . Why, simple it is what you are use to so you follow their directions unchallenged for the most part. You don't have to. All you should do or need to do is say thank you for your continuing support.
My advice is the only true advice one can give you at this time. Hang in there until your 18th birthday then reassess what you want to do.
The other advice I feel I need to give you is this; do not let mom control you once you turn 18. I have a feeling mom is a controlling type person and you may have to stand up for yourself or she will control you for the rest of your life. You have to follow you own mind and heart. Listen to her advice then decide if she is right or trying control you and do what is best as you feel is best.
(Rating: 3) Lol turning 18 means nothing in my family, my parents are still gonna act the same. Also I live in Canada and I'm not on financial aid, I'm pretty sure our debt doesn't get that high though as it is in the states