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Hello there! So I've been questioning my sexuality for quite a while now, and I just can't find anything online that fits. The closest is asexual, but I don't know??? I should first mention that I am female. I do in fact experience sexual attraction, although I don't desire it AT ALL. I would however, love a romantic relationship. I'm so confused honestly. I went from thinking I was straight, to poly, to pan, to bi, to aro, to ace. Can you experience sexual attraction and still be asexual? I'm sexually attracted to all genders, hence the reason for thinking I was pansexual. Romantically, I'm attracted to all but females. But I do not want sex. I find it stupid and unappealing. I don't even know what to think anymore?? I've never been in a relationship also. Could you please help me organize my thoughts and figure this out? It's been a mystery for months bleh

According to a previous post your 13 years of age. At this age you are actually quite normal. Being confused about your sexuality goes along with puberty and the new hormones. Not wanting sex is also normal for someone your age.

What I don't understand, and it is not just you. Is this rush young people have to day to hang a label on themselves. This is a wonderful time in your life. You're no longer a child but a young adult. This is truly a time of discovery to find out just who you are and what you will be not just sexually but as an adult. TO my mind hanging a label on yourself now just inhibits your ability to learn about yourself and grow.

My advice: Relax enjoy being a teenager and forget about labels. Your sexuality will let itself be known at the right time when it is the right time for you. Do not let others tell you what your sexuality is either for they will be wrong.

Right now you are exactly what you should be at your point in life. This is the time to enjoy other people and discover yourself while doing so. Be open to new ideas. The one thing you are not is lesbian. aro and Ace are new terms to me and I'm rather certain your neither of these either.

As for Poly an Pan you may find your Pan after you have experienced more of your sexuality and grown more both in age and maturity. It is way too soon to call yourself Pansexual. As for Poly. poly is short for polyamory which is a lifestyle which means married and dating/ You're not married so this term cannot fit you until you are and then only if you and your significant other decide to join this lifestyle.

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(Rating: 4) Thanks for your feedback. I appreciate it. Your advice was good. Although I would like to point out that when I said poly, I was referring to polysexual/romantic which means being attracted to many, but not necessarily all genders. I'm aware that it's commonly mistaken for polyamory. It's simply one of the lesser known sexualities. Anyway, as for my being young and enjoying my childhood, I just find it frustrating in this world, society divides you in two groups. You're either gay, or straight, and there's nothing else, according to them. And I'm certainly neither of those. And unfortunately, until I have a label if my own, I have no "real authority" in the little battle. It's confusing. As if I'm automatically an outcast. I'm already strange enough as it is. Figuring out my sexuality would solve a mystery that I've been trying to work out for over a year. It would explain my previous experiences and unlock a whole new world. It's hard to be questioning for so long. So many other people my age have already figured it out. Anyway, thanks again.
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