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So, Throughout my entire life I have been a pretty quiet boy, sticking to myself and my close friends and that is about it. I enjoy playing video games and sports with a group of close friends, and outside of that my other social expiriences are pretty limited, especially when it pertains to a female. However, at my High School (I'm a junior, 17) there is a Sadie Hawkins dance, ( a sadie hawkins is a less formal dance, where the girl is supposed to ask the guy). Now, if this were like prom, you wouldn't see me near the school and it would not cross my mind once to ask anyone, but since its vice versa now I'm fair game. And what I thought might happeened, a girl asked me. And I can't say no to that, so I said yes. But the problem lies in that I a. have never been to a dance and don't know how to act b. can't dance like at all c. the "group" I'm supposed to go with I know litterally no one. I'm not a social butterfly, and the opportunity to meet new people and go to a dance does not appeal to me in the slightest, in fact I would rather be stuck in a plane to europe with donald and hilary then go to this dance. So the advice I am asking for is what to do, how to get myself ready for this social trek, what to talk about maybe" I am pretty lost on the subject and none of my friends are going bc they didn't get asked. Thank you for any response and fml.

I am going to advise you to relax, suck it up and in and go to the dance. What you write about being a problem for you is the biggest problem facing this country’s youth and most of the Western world’s youth today. Too many of you sit with your X-Box and other video gaming devices and play online all day and night. Doings so you have wasted what high school and your teenage years are meant to give you; which is the opportunity of learning the social graces you will need later in life.

I'm sure you have heard your parents say something to the effect of, "Put down your video game and go outside and play. Well the play is a fall back to when you were much younger but the inference is the same. When you went out to play you were learning to interact at you age level. In high school dances and other activities the school sponsors along with dating is the next level of interactive and communicative learning.

College brings the next level and prepares you to go out into the real world were communication and interacting with others is the key to success. Communication is the key to success in business and in love. If you cannot communicate with your lover everything from dating to sex does not work out for you no matter how much you may love someone.

I'm not only old enough to be your grandfather but you being 17 statistically I am old enough to be your great grandfather. Use the wisdom of my years and the fact that I have already gone through what you have and will be going through. So when I tell you that you need to get out from behind the video games it is in your best interest to listen to me if you wish to be successful as an adult. Go out and learn to communicate and interact with others. Use this dance as a first stem and then continue to move forward.

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