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I'm a sophomore female in high school and I have been so confused about my sexuality. I've never dated a guy because no one has ever asked or had interest in me I guess. But for a long time my own friends thought I was lesbian because I'm a very affectionate person. I like giving hugs and I like holding hands with my friends when we walk down the hallway like idiots. But I only like giving hugs to certain girls, and I always get awkward or nervous around them. These girls were both on my team and have helped me so much and would always look out for me. I can't tell if I like them. Like I want to be with them and I want to talk to them and this will sound super weird but I sometimes daydream about them and make up scenarios about them being there for me and giving me hugs and making me feel better. That last part probably sounds really weird but I'm serious. I think I like guys. But I can't tell if I like them too. I wouldn't be ashamed if I liked them. But what am I? I just want to know who to love.
You're a Sophomore in High School which would put your age in the range of 14 to 15 years old. IF you were a Lesbian you would know this long before puberty started. Doctors and scientists are starting to understand that being Gay is not a life choice it is how a person is born. They are not as certain about bisexuality.
Given you present age being somewhat confused about your sexuality is normal. Given that you have not date or had much or any interaction with boys and that most of you social interaction has been with girl friends. I would say you are over analyzing things.
I can't say why boys haven't taken an interest in you. IF your a late bloomer then it could be your body has not changed enough to attract a boy. This is nothing to worry about for it will and when it does they will come. The flip side of that coin is you could be too pretty and boys think they are not good enough for you. Teenage boys have very fragile egos and don't accept rejection well. It just might be that you will have to go up to them and start conversations and ask them out.
The one thing I am sure of is that you are not a lesbian. Being affectionate does not equate to homosexuality. There are plenty of gays and lesbians that are far from affectionate.
My advice is to relax. There is no need to rush and have sex just to have sex and prove you straight or gay. As you mature your sexuality will make itself known to you. When it does you will be ready to explore your sexuality. Right now your not.
(Rating: 3) Thanks for trying to help. I've felt this way for years that's the problem. It's not just these two people but lately it's been them. I used to do all of this since I was 6. And FYI I'm 16. Sophomores are 15-16 you were thinking of freshmen.