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This may be a long story and I'm sorry but there really isn't a way to cut this short. I had previously posted a question about a condom breaking during sex with my boyfriend. This incident was December 1st, the condom broke the second time we had sex and it broke before he finished so when it did break, the only possible semen that was in the condom was excess from the first time. I am on birth control but at the time of the condom breaking, I was only on my third official day of ever being on it so I was not protected from that when this happened. However, like I said he didn't finish and he pulled out as soon as he heard it and that was only when he was about half way in. He also went to get Plan B for me to take because I was a bit apprehensive. So, December 1st was when this happened and my period is expected to begin Christmas Eve so I was to ovulate December 7th. Like I said in my previous question that if anything was to get in me and stay in there, if my expected ovulation was correct then I should be safe about pregnancy.
However, I am just a naturally nervous person. It's getting closer to when I should be getting my period and I'm questioning if I'm pregnant or not. I'm nineteen days in on my birth control so I'm pretty protected with that so I'm not really worried about anything that happens now. But, one thing I noticed was that I've been getting a frequent irritation that makes me think I have to pee but when I sit, I don't have to pee and I read somewhere that a lot of other girls experience this after they have sex and I've noticed that when I experience it, it's the entire day after I have sex as well. So, I'm freaking out that this frequent feeling of having to pee is evident of pregnancy or something weird happening after intercourse. I also had some spotting today and my period is supposed to be in six days so I'm also freaking out that this spotting was implantation bleeding that I read about but it could also be a side effect to my birth control "premature bleeding." I'm also factoring in that taking the Plan B may also make my period come late so that is also something to think about.
My boyfriend keeps telling me to not worry. He said that even if there was any in the condom when it broke, it wasn't enough to crawl all the way up and get me pregnant. I guess I'm just looking for advice, anything would help; thanks!
First: Let's clear up some misconceptions you and your boyfriend have. Sorry for the choice of words.
A. Condoms should be used once. If you are going to have sex a second time remove the condom dry his penis and put a fresh condom on him. Most likely the reason the condom broke is the attempt to use it twice.
B. It only takes one sperm to fertilize an egg. It does not matter how much sperm enters you. IF any does it only take that one swimmer to get to an egg which is always possible.
I don't think your pregnant. In fact I would bet on it and I only bet on sure things.
Second: I don't think you are pregnant as you had intercourse well before your fertile time.
A. For most women, about 85%, ovulate during the 7th and 21st day of their cycle. According to the dates you gave you are well within your safe period.
B. Most likely you are experiencing anxiety pains so to speak out of fear of being pregnant. You may also miss your period because of this. Tension and anxiety are bigger causes for a woman missing her period than actual pregnancy.
C. I believe in your original question I suggested a home pregnancy test. This is still the best way to find out if your pregnant. If your concerned about your parents finding the test kit you should not be. You're 19 now and adult. As a parent myself I can tell you that we may not like the idea of an unmarried child, especially a daughter, being sexually active. You are an adult and entitled to a sex life if you wish to have one. You are being responsible in taking birth control and even so you should make your partner use a condom.
Condoms not only add an extra layer of protection against pregnancy making it almost 100% safe. They also protect against many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
My advice is; if you are this nervous about the condom breaking. Take a home pregnancy test to put your mind at rest. With all the tension you are building if you do not relax I can almost assure you that your period will be late or missed and you will still not be pregnant.
(Rating: 5) We used two different condoms, he and I both know 110% to not use a condom more than one time.Thank you, though. If I'm following my birth control schedule, I start my sugar pills tomorrow so I should be getting my period then.