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Pregnant or not?
This may be a long story and I'm sorry but there really isn't a way to cut this short. I had previously posted a question about a condom breaking during sex with my boyfriend. This incident was December 1st, the condom broke the second time we had sex and it broke before he finished so when it did break, the only possible semen that was in the condom was excess from the first time. I am on birth control but at the time of the condom breaking, I was only on my third official day of ever being on it so I was not protected from that when this happened. However, like I said he didn't finish and he pulled out as soon as he heard it and that was only when he was about half way in. He also went to get Plan B for me to take because I was a bit apprehensive. So, December 1st was when this happened and my period is expected to begin Christmas Eve so I was to ovulate December 7th. Like I said in my previous question that if anything was to get in me and stay in there, if my expected ovulation was correct then I should be safe about pregnancy.
However, I am just a naturally nervous person. It's getting closer to when I should be getting my period and I'm questioning if I'm pregnant or not. I'm nineteen days in on my birth control so I'm pretty protected with that so I'm not really worried about anything that happens now. But, one thing I noticed was that I've been getting a frequent irritation that makes me think I have to pee but when I sit, I don't have to pee and I read somewhere that a lot of other girls experience this after they have sex and I've noticed that when I experience it, it's the entire day after I have sex as well. So, I'm freaking out that this frequent feeling of having to pee is evident of pregnancy or something weird happening after intercourse. I also had some spotting today and my period is supposed to be in six days so I'm also freaking out that this spotting was implantation bleeding that I read about but it could also be a side effect to my birth control "premature bleeding." I'm also factoring in that taking the Plan B may also make my period come late so that is also something to think about.
My boyfriend keeps telling me to not worry. He said that even if there was any in the condom when it broke, it wasn't enough to crawl all the way up and get me pregnant. I guess I'm just looking for advice, anything would help; thanks!
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First: Let's clear up some misconceptions you and your boyfriend have. Sorry for the choice of words.
A. Condoms should be used once. If you are going to have sex a second time remove the condom dry his penis and put a fresh condom on him. Most likely the reason the condom broke is the attempt to use it twice.
B. It only takes one sperm to fertilize an egg. It does not matter how much sperm enters you. IF any does it only take that one swimmer to get to an egg which is always possible.
I don't think your pregnant. In fact I would bet on it and I only bet on sure things.
Second: I don't think you are pregnant as you had intercourse well before your fertile time.
A. For most women, about 85%, ovulate during the 7th and 21st day of their cycle. According to the dates you gave you are well within your safe period.
B. Most likely you are experiencing anxiety pains so to speak out of fear of being pregnant. You may also miss your period because of this. Tension and anxiety are bigger causes for a woman missing her period than actual pregnancy.
C. I believe in your original question I suggested a home pregnancy test. This is still the best way to find out if your pregnant. If your concerned about your parents finding the test kit you should not be. You're 19 now and adult. As a parent myself I can tell you that we may not like the idea of an unmarried child, especially a daughter, being sexually active. You are an adult and entitled to a sex life if you wish to have one. You are being responsible in taking birth control and even so you should make your partner use a condom.
Condoms not only add an extra layer of protection against pregnancy making it almost 100% safe. They also protect against many STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
My advice is; if you are this nervous about the condom breaking. Take a home pregnancy test to put your mind at rest. With all the tension you are building if you do not relax I can almost assure you that your period will be late or missed and you will still not be pregnant.
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Yeah again it sounds like your over thinking things.
To add to this, my husband and i have actually used "the cheap condoms" for 14 years and we buy them "down i the ghetto" of where we live and have never had a problem like this. Our first child was planned as well and i wasnt on birth control.
The thing about buying condoms from 99 cent store or places that are in questionable parts of town is that they are usually stocked up on MORE of them and their the same quality their just not all fancy like the "textured" or "ripped" kind. It doesnt make them of lesser quality, their just basic which has worked for us for years SO LONG AS you buy some extra lube (which is also 99 cents usually) and breakage is much less likely to occur.
People have a tendency to think they "dont need lube because they naturally are wet down there" but once you guys start to "get going" theres no way to guarantee youll STAY proportionally lubricated down there. Just do yourself and your man a favor next time and buy lube when your buying condoms, theres no shame in it and if you can buy condoms you can also walk further down the same isle and pick up a tube.
It also sounds like you have a slight urine canal or out right bladder thing going on thats unrelated to being pregnant. You dont get the feeling of constantly needing to pee until your uterus actually starts to expand because your pregnant which wouldnt be this soon. It takes longer then the timeline you speak of here.
If your all irritated down there after sex then lube is the answer, and condoms usually dont just brake if their lubed up enough.
you should be fine...
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If everything you've said is 100% true then it's very unlikely that you're pregnant and I think you might be overthinking everything. With that said, wait a few days and see if you get your period as expected. If you don't then you should see a doctor or go to a Woman's Health Clinic for a pregnancy test. Over the counter pregnancy tests aren't always accurate.
The weird feeling of having to urinate is a big sign of a Urinary Tract Infection so you should also see a doctor if this feeling continues.
You should also not count on your birth control protecting you. Although it lessens the chances of you becoming pregnant it's still possible. You should buy thicker condoms in the future, it sounds like the ones you were using might have been cheap.
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