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When I met my husband 3 years ago he was obsessed with fitness and his body. Well now he is not at all and he has lost all his definition and has put on 20 pounds. He hates the way he looks and won't even take pictures because he knows he isn't in shape. But he doesn't even try to lose weight. He ordered 2 large pizzas yesterday and said one was for me. Well that was yesterday at 9:30 pm and today at 10pm (25 hours) he ate both pizzas. He gets up atleast twice at night just to eat and normally it is peanut butter on some sort of chip or cracker. So I have been calling him out on it because I want my sexy husband back and he told me to mind my own business. What do I do? I love my husband but I don't want him to be fat. So lost?
If he is getting his medication from his familly doctor. Try and get him to see a psychiatrist for medication. The psychiatrist is really the better doctor for meds an he will get a bit of therapy each time he visits the psychiatrist for a med check.
Given that this is a change to his normal I will say this is one sign that he may be suffering from some form of depression. There are another of other signs such as getting up in the middle of the night to eat.
I am not a doctor or I am I qualified to make a diagnoses. I will go out on a limb here and say the problem is probably deep seated and not related to you or your marriage. Having suffered from depression myself I can tell you two things that you need to understand in order to help your husband if I'm correct in my thinking.
1. There are many triggers to depression, so do not try to figure out what has caused him to be depressed. Just be supportive.
2. Like many problems of this nature he is going to want be helped before you can get him help you cannot force help on him. Try and get him to let his doctor give him a complete physical. Tell him you want to rule out any organic reason for his weight gain and binge eating like say a tapeworm or something. Don't tell him you suspect he may be depressed.
When you arrange the appointment for his physical do tell the doctor you suspect he may be depressed and ask the doctor to screen him for depression. The screening for depression is a series of questions the doctor will ask in order to make a diagnoses. These questions asked during a physical would not seem out of the ordinary.
If your husband is diagnosed with depression and agrees to treatment. Most likely his doctor will suggest medication, possibly by a psychiatrist, I will explain why soon. As well as talk therapy with a psychologist.
Talk therapy is private and confidential. Do not ask your husband to share what is talked about in therapy. If he volunteers anything accept it on its face and do not press for any more information. This is how the therapy works best that he trust his therapist enough to share his deepest and darkest secrets with. Secrets he may not even want to share with his wife.
The reason a psychiatrist treats depression is that most people suffer from clinical depression. Clinical depression is actually a medical problem caused by a lack of certain hormones secreted into the brain. Since this is the are best treated by a psychiatrist the psychiatrist is the best Medical Doctor to treat Clinical Depression. Your family doctor knowledge of clinical depression only extends to that of what may have been learned if a rotation in psychiatry was done in residency.
Chose a Board Certified psychiatrist to prescribe for your husband. As they have done a fellowship in Psychiatry and the best qualified to treat patients suffering from all forms of depression.
(Rating: 5) He is 100% depressed and stressed. He went from living in another state and being a personal trainer that only worked when he wanted to because his grandparents supported him and having no children or a wife. Now he has a wife, two step-kids, owning a home and working as an electrician in a chemical plant. He is very stressed and depressed but part of the depression is his weight. And he has always struggled with depression so he is already on meds but I cannot get him to seek therapy. I am just worried that if he doesn't change soon his weight gain is going to be so far gone that it's going to take a lot you were in order to get back into shape I know this because I weighed 245 pounds 4 years ago and it took a major change in my life to be 120 pounds as I am now. It's always easier to start when the problem begins not when it's at its worst. I just love him to the moon and back and want him to be happy.