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Okay well I guess my topic is self explanatory. I am confused on my sexuality. I am a 19 year old girl and it seems like everyone around me knows their sexuality. It frustrates me that I still haven't figured it out yet. I have liked boys my whole life or at least I thought so until I met this girl who I completely fell for when I was 17. The feelings were more intense for this girl. Nothing I had ever felt for a boy before. Now I am currently in deep like with this other girl. It seems like my feelings for girls seem to intensify and as far as boys it's more of a "oh he's kinda cute" type of deal. I was wondering if you can give me advice on how I can find out who I am? I'm just so confused and I wish I knew so I could try the dating life, but I want to figure myself out first before I do so. Any suggestions? Thanks
At 19 one would think you would know what your sexuality is. One thing you are not is a lesbian. Scientist believe that Lesbians and Gays are born that way and know this long before puberty hits. Since you have at one time been boy crazy then fell in love with a women you may just be bisexual.
From reading what you have written I get the feeling you may be a virgin in all respects both with a female or male partner. If I'm correct the problem you face is one of experiencing both forms of sex and seeing which or if both satisfies you need for sex. If you have experienced sex with one form of partner then you should try sex with the other form of partner to satisfy what at this time may be just a curiosity, I really can't say.
You are an adult now and entitled to a sex life of what ever type of sex life you enjoy. Given your, shall we say, confusion I believe you need to experience sex with both a female and a male to learn if you are bisexual or not.
While you may have a crush on this women she may not have sexual feelings for you so go slowly if you approach her. You also should understand that sex with a women and sex with a man are two different types of sex and it is okay to enjoy both.
You may also find that having sex with a women is not what you thought it would be and that is okay two or sex with a man is okay and something you would like to experience once in awhile but prefer sex with a female partner. This too would be okay.
In short the only real suggestion to find out just what you sexuality is would be to experience sex with both male and a female.
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