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So I recently started dating again and met someone I'm interested in. We've gone on two dates so far but seem to hit it off well and have plans for another.
That stuff doesn't really matter though..
My mom passed away a month ago. She had a stroke and was in the hospital for a month before she passed. It was heartbreaking. The doctors told us she was going to live. She would open her eyes and smile and was responding and all that. They were looking for homes for her to go for recovery. But she ended up having another stroke.
Anyways I'm rambling..
My friends were shocked when they found out that I'm dating. My dad doesn't seem to see any problems with it.
I think they think I should be grieving more. Well, I am still grieving but I think they expect me to sit in my room and isolate everyone.
Is me dating a month after my mom passes away inappropriate?
I have two thoughts on this. First; everyone grieves in their own way. Second; I do not think your mom would want you sitting around morning for her. Life goes on ,we still must do what we must do on a daily basis after a relative or close friend dies. We go to work, we go out with friends and if the right person comes along we go out on a date.
I'm sure your mother wanted you to be happy when she was alive and there to advise you. Nothing changes just because she has passed away. She still wants the same things for you. After a short period of mourning it is appropriate to try and return to a normal life. Which is also part of mourning for someone.
Don't let your friends discourage you from dating this man. IF you are comfortable dating at this time. Then it is the right thing to do for you while still mourning your loss.
My only advice to you is this. Be careful with giving this man or anyone you heart at this time. For it is very easy to mistake his affection as the love you have lost and looking to replace.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I'll take this slow