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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus DumbledoreHi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!
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How can I tell my mother I want to go to the gynecologist by myself without telling her that I'm not a virgin?
I have been to the doctor before when I had some menstrual problems earlier this year, but she didn't perform a full check-up and I lied to her about being a virgin.
The reason I ask this question is because when I went to the doctor before, my mother refused to allow me in alone. She forced me to sign the form that allowed her to accompany me.
If you and your mom are't very close, just tell her you're not comfortable with her in the room. It's a pretty personal checkup and you definitely don't need a ton of people in the room.
Could you get a ride to the doctor with someone else? Maybe a close aunt could take you? If not, call your doctor before the appointment (if possible) and explain that your mom refuses to let you in the room alone, and see if you could fill out a questionnaire without her hearing the answers to any such questions.
Or, just don't sign the form. If you're under 18, you have different privacy rights, but your doctor or the nurse at the office may be able to explain to your mom that it should be a patient's choice to go in the room alone.
Do you otherwise get along with your mom? Could you ask her why she wants to be in the room so badly? She might have guessed already what you're trying to hide from her. Or, tell her "Listen Mom, I really appreciate that you want me to be healthy and see a gynecologist, but I'm not comfortable having anyone else in the room with me. Would you mind sitting in the waiting room?"
By the way, if your doctor is a male, there should be another person in the room with you already, because it's the policy of most (if not all) offices, to prevent potential allegations and whatnot. That might be what your mom's worried about - being alone with the doctor for such an intimate exam. The best thing in this situation is probably talking to your mom about it. Alternately, you could go to a doctor on your own, but you probably wouldn't be under your parents' insurance there.
-LM
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(Rating: 5) Thanks, I never thought of calling my doctor myself actually. :)
I'll be going back soon, so I'll talk to her beforehand about having an examination.